Why feedism is so fascinating to me - and the reason to really respect each other
The complexity, layeredness, and dynamics of feelings involved in feedism, both on the giving and the receiving end are fascinating. Feeding each other has this existential evolutionary quality of caring for others, and fattening has been a survival strategy. And yet it's frowned upon in the dominant culture, it's considered morally wrong and weak.
And in between, feeding spans everything from loving service to reckless domination, and necessarily requires trust, deference, and devotion of the feedee as well as concern, provision, and protection by the feeder, and responsiveness, understanding, and consent between both to really work out in the long term. And there is more of this interplay of opposites in fatness - both massive bulk and tender vulnerabilty, huge heaviness and supple softness , weighty brunt and needy helplessness. And so in feeding, lowering defenses, giving in, letting go, embracing the pleasure of indulgence is both an act of trust and of shamelessness, of faith and desire, of offering and craving.
In cultivated form, feedism trains our senses and sensuality, and teaches us to engage with the ambivalences and open questions of life... Yet in uncultivated form, feedism can also cause so much harm and pain. Let us learn to be mindful, and treat each other with the care we deserve - in the full range of care that we crave, not just today, but also tomorrow!
