Transmasc Voices Matter

The owner of this blog goes by wolf/wolfself pronouns and is transmasculine. Respect my pronouns. I am not associated nor do I condone transmascvoicesproject

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This blog is intended to be a safe place where transmasculine people and trans men can talk about their negative experiences. This blog was made as an alternative to @transmascvoicesproject to encapsulate a broader range of experiences that exclusively trans masculine individuals have. All asks in bad faith will be reported.

What kinds of asks will be allowed?

Any and all people submitting asks about their experiences should identify as a trans man, transmasc, or anything adjacent to that. You don't have to say you're one, though. Any asks not about experiences can be submitted by anybody.

Asks that are intending to bring discourse will be posted upon my discretion, as I want to allow us a space to speak about negative experiences whilst also not generalizing or putting others down.

I prefer that askers refrain from using ASAB terms because bodily parts are a far better descriptor than some arbitrary label a doctor gave you.

Asks in bad faith will always be reported and may or may not be posted. These include asks trying to intentionally put entire demographics down or trying to mock others.

Who are you?

My name is Ash and I go exclusively by wolf/wolfself pronouns. Do not use they/them on me unless you don't know my pronouns. I am transmasculine.

Make sure to drink water and have a good rest of your day.

[tmasc-voices]

Hey so you claim to be a "better version of transmascvoicesproject" and yet I see you in his comments agreeing with him. Do you support what he's doing?

No. This does not mean I can share opinions with her, however. Things aren't that black and white and I explicitly stated that I do not support him.

[tmasc-voices]

anon with the transfem woman friend who kept looking at my chest here 👋

thank you everyone! i’m working on cutting her off now, and my friends have been super supportive. turns out she was also harassing a different trans woman in our friend group and trying to convince her to detransition, so us two are both being lovingly protected by our friends now.

thanks again, seriously. i just got out of a really long abusive relationship that kept me closeted a few months ago, so i was worried i might been projecting and was too scared of asking people irl in case i was.

Hi again 👋 I'm so glad you're getting such negativity out of your life, and I'm especially glad I was able to help even a little bit. When it comes to making decisions its always good to get another opinion, especially if you're doubting yourself, so it's good you chose to do so

[tmasc-voices]

my roommate whos a transgirl keeps calling me a theyfab and I told her it makes me dysphoric because it reminds me of my parts but she said she doesn't care and that she won't stop if I don't stop buying merch from harry potter. i know the writer said bad things about trans people but it was the last thing I shared with my mom before she died and having squishallows of the characters just makes it feel like she's still here. my trans roommate said all the harry potter posters and decorations in the apartment make her uncomfortable so if I won't take them down she'll keep making me uncomfortable too. my other afab roommate yelled at her and called her a man for calling me a theyfab and she's not been leaving her room. I don't know what to do

Your environment overall seems toxic in general. While yes, it is harmful to buy merch due to JKR directly funding anti-trans bills, it's also harmful to respond to being uncomfortable with misgendering and using harmful language. Fighting harm with harm doesn't help anybody. Getting rid of already bought HP merch won't do anything against JKR besides get rid of a tiny sliver of visibility that she already has a ton of. So, in the future, I'd recommend you buy any HP merch either secondhand or, better yet, buy some artist-made ones from trans-friendly artists in the community.

Your other roommate is just as transphobic as your trans girl one is. When it comes to arguments and such, if somebody misgenders somebody else intentionally, it shows that your identity is conditional to them, which can create a toxic dynamic. What I'd suggest is to try to talk it out with your trans girl roommate, and tell her you won't buy anymore merch from HP/JKR itself and that you won't tolerate her misgendering you, and to also talk to your other roommate about how harmful it is to misgender people when you're mad.

Also, a note: I'd suggest avoiding the term "transgirl" with no space, as its a common transphobe dogwhistle. Just fyi

[tmasc-voices]

Should I post asks whenever I see them, or should I queue them whenever I see them?

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Post asks once you see them

Queue them once you see them

Voting ended on15h

[tmasc-voices]

I will queue every other post since it was 48-51

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transmascs don't need a fucking safe space, they need to be wiped off the face of the earth lol

You are proving my point

[tmasc-voices]

why do you think the alternative to trans women speaking about abuse they have faced from all groups, is a place for transmascs to speak out about abuse from transfems? you may disagree that this is what ur doing, but you have *only* posted stories from transmascs alleging abuse from transfems. genuinely curious what you think this can achieve except stirring up more hatred for transfems for something they are already being harrassed for

The only anons I do not post are hate anons. I have posted every single story I have received.

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i was groomed by a trans woman who used her transness to make me feel safer with her. she was a friend of a friend and i thought i could trust her. she constantly would disregard the fact that i had bottom dysphoria and no interest in being touched there, as well as constantly pressured me into meeting her alone to have the opportunity to make out. i did want to make out, but she would talk about having penetrative sex and penetrating me with her fingers or putting her mouth on me even though i told her it made me uncomfortable. eventually we got into a fight and i stopped talking to her. the friend mentioned above told me that my groomer was planning on raping me if we were ever alone.

i live in constant fear of her even though it’s been over a year. the thought that she’ll ever speak me name again or even think of me makes me physically ill and want to throw up. i’m terrified of her blackmailing me with pictures i sent her. i hate most of all how she used transness to get close to me. i was 15, she was 18.

That is absolutely grooming, and I'm so sorry that happened to you. If she tries blackmailing you, make sure to get as much evidence as possible, especially screenshots of any sexual messages. If you live in the States and your state is a one party consent state for recording, I'd also suggest audio recording with your phone if you see her again, in case the demands are made in person. And also of course do not comply with any demands made, and block her everywhere. I'd also suggest going to https://report.cybertip.org/ and filling out the form there. From personal experience, I felt at least a little safer once I reported my abuser, and even more so once I learned he couldn't and likely wouldn't hurt me anymore

[tmasc-voices]

Should I post asks whenever I see them, or should I queue them whenever I see them?

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Post asks once you see them

Queue them once you see them

Voting ended on15h

[tmasc-voices]

*sees a blog being transmisogynistic* "we need a safe space for transmascs because of this"

The safe space was a good idea in the first place, but it's of even more importance now because of the main "transmasc safe space" being transmisogynistic and shit.

[tmasc-voices]

Points for being way more reasonable about this than the other blog. I still think it's a bit of a mine field but maybe you can pull some good out of this. Good luck

No problem. The other blog seems to have intentionally stepped on the metaphorical mines

[tmasc-voices]

mousidy makes fun of the concept of transandrophobia pretty regularly you know.

I know. But for this blog I'm trying to set aside differences so all transmascs and trans men can have a space. This blog belongs more so in the hands of the askers because this is their space that they're using, I feel

[tmasc-voices]

You are still copying transfemvoicesproject!! there’s no way of separating this from transmascvoicesproject!! You are still doing a shitty fucking thing by continuing what transmascvoicesproject started, there is no way of fixing it because the entire concept was copied from the start!! Why can’t you just make an original thing that is entirely seperate!!

I feel as if anything I do with this concept would be considered "copying", when honestly there is a difference between copying and inspiration. What transmascvoicesproject is doing is copying, he just changed a few words. This blog is more so inspired by TVP, instead of simply being a copy. It doesn't really harm people to make spaces for specific groups of people, especially minorities, as long as said spaces aren't targeting another specific group. I really appreciate what mousidy is doing with the TVP and she even said she appreciates what I'm doing with this, so I don't see too much of an issue with what I'm doing here

[tmasc-voices]

thank you for making this 🫶 im glad something good is coming out of this whole tmvp debacle

No problem. I care about my trans siblings and I think we deserve a space better than what tmvp had going on

[tmasc-voices]

im sorry that ur getting bad faith asks :(

you are loved

I know, don't worry. And I won't forget it. But thanks for reminding me and being concerned.

[tmasc-voices]

i’m tmasc and i just need to get this out there. i don’t know if im overreacting or not because idk ive never had normal relationships before. im friends with a transfem woman and she often sends me yuri, saying its “us”. she knows im a trans man, she knows im dysphoric, but shes always talking about my chest and and asking me to wear revealing tank tops when we’re out together. whenever i tell her i dont like her talking about my chest, she says its just because she wants a chest like mine, that shes just imagining what it would be like on her. so i mean, i still show off my chest for her bc she just wants to know how they look. she refers to me as boy and he/him pronouns normally.

i don’t know if im just reading into it too much because ive been hurt by people in the past.

I can't lie, I don't think your friend sees you as transmasc. Especially considering the fact she completely disregards you not wanting to talk about your chest and makes it about herself. I'd suggest bringing up to her how this makes you incredibly dysphoric and I also suggest trying to set hard boundaries such as "do not talk about my chest" and "stop comparing us to lesbian couples" because both of those are intentionally misgendering you, regardless of if she usually calls you by her/him. Actions speak way louder than words.

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[tmasc-voices]

Now I know for a fact you do not read the stories you post. You simply see the words "raped by a trans woman" and jump the gun