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Be Prepared for Chastity
Prepared for Chastity
For any male who thinks that they will be prepared for what happens when they consent to entering into a chastity agreement with their partner, think again. Nothing you will do, have done, will think or imagine can prepare you for what you will experience and what changes will happen to both of you.
The moment she takes ownership of your cock is exciting but nothing like the onset of the deeper feeling of being owned and denied by a girl who will quickly become a goddess. Almost immediately and then reinforced for as long as she is in control, you are bound irresistibly.
You want to do everything in your power to please her and will go to extraordinary lengths to do so. Your heart and cock make you worship the ground she walks on and hank her for every titbit of attention and affection. In fact once locked some kinds need to be reminded that she might need some space. She knows you are locked and needy, but still decides when, where and how you get to show your humble willingness to please.
You are in this cage for a reason. It is the physical proof that signifies that your sexual wants and needs have become inconsequential. And its not your choice any more so get used to it. The needs of the submissive male are outweighed by the greater power of the girl who owns you. She must deserve and demand all the pleasure, fulfillment, orgasms or anything else sexual or non-sexual. Eventually the chaste male will begin to realize that her happiness is your pleasure. His selfless efforts are their own reward.
She inevitably grows more confident. She will surprise with her demeanour and inventiveness as she drives the relationship. She is meant to lead and not follow anyway. The locked male has no other option but to embrace and serve. Chastity will serve as a powerful driving force for him to achieve her goals.
When you fail in any way you must be prepared to go through torture and pain as punishment. In fact you will crave it to prove your worthiness as you will for any touch or caress, whip, cane and paddle strike, rejoicing when you have colouring or marks to display proving your worth. At the very least each punishment will likely fit the crime so you should endure these with a view to making you a better submissive.
In the same way your humiliation and embarrassment will reinforce your inferior status in both of your minds. Anything you suffer gives a strange thrill and willing ness to accept because it is her bidding.
Remember there is no greater calling than to be able to serve an intelligent beautiful woman of your dreams.
Sex And Enforced Chastity
Almost everything blogged about male chastity discusses sex. It makes sense, since there are few interesting things to talk about when locked up with no stimulation. However, if you go by the various blogs and forums, caged males are getting a lot more sex than guys who are not into chastity. That might actually be true.
Be that as it may, the entire point of being caged is the transfer of sexual control to the keyholder. In many cases, the caged male ends up waiting for orgasms longer than he would if he could take things into his own hands. When I began my lockup, one of the things that surprised Mrs. Lion was that I had regularly masturbated throughout our marriage. Her libido has always been lower than mine and I “filled in” between opportunities to orgasm with her. Of course, now that I am caged, I can’t masturbate at all.
That brings me to the first sexual issue that a couple entering in a enforced male chastity experience has to confront. What is the appropriate amount of orgasms the caged male should get? This question is where the rubber meets the road between the male chastity fantasies, and the cold reality of long-term lockup.
Frequency: making him wait is power Most male chastity fantasies imagine few if any orgasms. The male is locked up and must spend the rest of his life sexually satisfying the keyholder while he never ejaculates again. Few males actually live out this fantasy. I certainly don’t and never want to!
Let’s go to the other extreme: daily orgasms. When we first started, Mrs. Lion reasoned that if she owned my penis and controlled my orgasms, then she could make me come every day. So, she tried that. One problem for me was that at my age I really don’t want a daily orgasm. Another was that my lockup was pointless. She was giving me more orgasms than I wanted so if she left me wild (out of my cage) there was absolutely no chance I would want to do anything sexual without her. She exercised her power by giving me more sex than I wanted.
I had to accept her reasoning. I did surrender sexual control to her. It’s her choice to decide what that means. The fact that it didn’t conform to my personal chastity fantasy had nothing to do with her power over me. I did manage to convince her that perhaps making me wait would be more in line with what I had in mind when we started. She agreed.
If you are new to enforced chastity, chances are very good that you are wondering how to use your lockup to best advantage. So the first point is that as keyholder, you want to instill in your caged male that if and when he orgasms is completely up to you. You also want him to understand that if you are not happy with him, he will not orgasm. To send this message, you have to make him want sex so badly that he will do anything to get you to make him come. For some men, particularly young ones, this can take a week (never less!). For older men, the wait may need to be two, three, or even four weeks. Whatever time it takes to make him desperate for release, that is how long he should have to wait. You will be surprised how many positive attitude changes these waits will produce.
Some males insist that after they orgasm, they revert to their former, inconsiderate selves. That is possible, but definitely curable. The obvious cure that he will almost certainly suggest, is to never let him come again. Oh boy! There’s that fantasy again. More practically, if after he comes, his behavior changes for the worse, just add at least a week to his wait. He won’t think it is a big deal if he had come recently. That’s ok. Just smile when he comments. As time goes by, he will begin to realize what a big deal it really is.
Remember, in terms of your power as keyholder, time is on your side. It may take a year to get it through his head, but your male will learn that he really needs sex and anything he does to make you extend his waits is just not worth the bad behavior.
Non-orgasmic activities Many males believe that they will always be horny. If you lock them up and ignore them, they think that their desire to get off will continue to grow. This is true up to a point, but the fact is that if a man or woman is not sexually stimulated, over time the desire for sex will diminish and eventually disappear. That’s why regular, non orgasmic sexual activities are needed to keep him wanting.
It may seem cruel, but a key component of enforced chastity is to keep your caged male in a continuous state of heat. Every day without an orgasm should feel like it is lasting forever and he should grow more and more desperate for release. That, after all, is the real core of all those chastity fantasies. The way to do this is through regular non-orgasmic teasing.
Most keyholders become expert cock teases. They learn how to bring their males within millimeters of an orgasm and then stopping. This is a technique every new keyholder must develop. The most common, and easiest way, is by masturbating him. The setup for this is up to you. Some keyholders restrain the male’s hands during this activity. Most don’t. Males have to exercise self control.
Ok, you have him naked and on his back. Remove his cage. While its off, check for chafing or irritation. If you find any, consider leaving him unlocked until it heals. Once uncaged, masturbate him. Watch him carefully. If you want, tell him to let you know when he is close. You can tell him that if he has an “accident” he will stay locked with no teasing for a month. Get him to help you, but don’t necessarily believe him in the beginning.
Tease him any way you want. The objective is to get him close to orgasm without letting him get release. Getting him very aroused is just as good as bringing him right to the edge. While he may think it is for his fun, your real objective is to keep those hormones flowing and reminding his body of what it is missing. You can do this over and over as many times as you want. If you keep it up long enough, he will actually lose the ability to come for a while. Just remember, no orgasms until his release date!
When you are done, lock him up again, pat his butt and send him on his way. Or, if you like, lock him up and have him lick or finger you to as many orgasms as you like. Just be sure to lock him up first. He could be humping the bed to orgasm while he licks you.
Ruined Orgasms A ruined orgasm is when you stimulate your male just over the edge and stop. You will see him react strongly but appear not to orgasm. However, within ten seconds you will see semen dripping out of his penis. You have triggered his orgasmic physical reaction but haven’t given his body enough stimulation to complete all of the steps needed for a full male orgasm. The semen dripping out is caused by the fact that ejaculation was signaled, but you stopped before the stimulation needed to get his PC muscle to squirt it out was triggered.
A lot of males will insist this is not really an orgasm and they are as horny after having one as they were before it happened. Mentally this may be true, but physically it isn’t. One of the key contributors to feeling horny for males is the need to ejaculate. Physically and psychologically, ejaculation is the objective of orgasm. Mrs. Lion has given me quite a few ruined orgasms. They do not feel very good. I don’t like the sensation at all. But I can also feel that they do “reset” some of the urgency I was feeling before I ejaculated. This is true of all males. Some may insist it isn’t true, but physiologically it is.
There is a place for ruined orgasms. If you want to assert your power very graphically, instead of a full orgasm on his next release date, give him a ruined one, then lock him up again for his waiting period. This is massively frustrating for the male. He will hate it. But it will remind him that he is completely dependent on you for sex of any kind; even ruined orgasms.
I’ve been asked how to give a male a ruined orgasm. It’s not difficult. Start by masturbating him until he gets very excited and appears that he is close to coming. Stop. Wait a full ten seconds. If no semen appears, masturbate him again until he seems ready to come. Wait ten seconds. Repeat and add a few strokes. The ten second wait assures that if he does start to orgasm, you won’t accidentally give him a full orgasm. Even if he wasn’t ready to come, starting again only ten seconds later will drive him closer and closer. If at any point he seems to be coming. Stop stimulation immediately and wait. If semen drips out, you are done. It’s that simple.
Based on my experience, I suggest you reserve ruined orgasms as substitutes for full ones. Don’t use them in place of teasing. No semen should be produced until you decide he has waited long enough. Here is a video that demonstrates how to give a ruined orgasm.
Sex for the keyholder As keyholder, all this male sex and teasing may make you horny. One of the best benefits of having a caged male is his interest in providing you with lots of orgasms. His wish to do this is driven by two powerful forces: One is his desire to convince you to get him off. In his mind, giving you an orgasm might put you in the mood to give him one. The other reason is more subtle; giving you orgasms is sex and even though he doesn’t get to come, he can still experience the pleasure of giving you orgasms.
Regardless of his state of waiting, feel free to have him provide you with sexual attention whenever you want. But, don’t let him push you into getting more attention than you desire. A lot of males will try to deal with their frustration by convincing their keyholders to orgasm frequently. Take sex from him when you want, not when he wants.
One tricky subject is intercourse. Up to now the only male stimulation we have talked about is using your hand to masturbate him. There is a good reason for this: Any other form of stimulation is very difficult to control and will likely result in an unplanned “accident” for him. So in the beginning, any non-orgasmic sex for him should probably be restricted to your hand.
Some keyholders train their males to hold back orgasms. They do this by having their males penetrate them and provide only the keyholder with an orgasm. This is tough for males to do. All of us have been conditioned to come when we are ready. If you want to train him not to come, you will have to add punishment to your chastity activities. He has to know that an “accident” will result in punishment. Many keyholders spank males immediately after they have an accident. This is no play spanking. A hairbrush or paddle is used to provide a very painful lesson each time he comes without permission. Since his accident removed his interest in sex for a while, the spanking will be pure punishment with no sexual overtones.
If you are inclined to do this training, you can help your male learn with some teaching aids. One good one is the use of condoms. A couple of condoms will reduce his sensitivity and make it easier for him to control himself. Another good one is desensitizing cream. These creams like Oragel contain Novocaine or other anesthetics that actually numb the penis and eliminate any pleasurable sensation from intercourse. If you do use a numbing product on him, wait at least ten minutes after applying it before you let him inside you. It takes at least that long for the anesthetic to take full effect Also, put a condom on him or the cream left on his penis will put your vagina to sleep. There is nothing wrong with training aids to help him learn to use his penis for your pleasure, not his. By the way, if you numb him too much he will lose his erection and be unable to get one again until the anesthetic wears off.
Summary The main point of enforced chastity is to transfer control of the caged male’s sexual pleasure from him to his keyholder. It is a power exchange. As keyholder you need to maintain his sexual desire throughout his waiting time. He has to be desperate for release in order for him to truly feel sexually controlled. To keep him that way, you will need to stimulate him on a regular basis without providing him the opportunity to orgasm or ejaculate.
An ultimate expression of your power is to replace his scheduled orgasm with a ruined one. This is very frustrating to the male and will imprint strongly that you, in fact, own his pleasure. Since ruined orgasms do reset his physical need for orgasm, if not his mental one, they should not be intentionally given before his scheduled release date.
Sex for you is independent of his pleasure. You should use him to give you orgasms whenever you desire them. If you want intercourse without him ejaculating, you will have to train him to hold back. This can be done through punishment for accidents and with training aids: multiple condoms and/or numbing cream.
Your male has asked you to control his ability to get sexual pleasure. It’s up to you to assert that control and have fun in the process!
From: https://malechastityjournal.com/caging-your-man/sex-and-enforced-chastity/
The beginning
When we first started this cage business I thought he was crazy.
Why would you want to lock your cock in a cage and not cum?
I’m already a nyphomaniac so not having a sexual release drives me crazy. So the only thing I was thinking is wtf are you trying to do to me.
But I support every decision made and decided to give it a try. It’s something new. And different so why not.
Turns out I like it more than we would of ever thought.
Things get done around the house finally. I finally feel like he listens. Not only that but our “sex” life is amazing. We are connected in new ways.
We have always had a million sex toys. We usually use them a few times then they sit in a bag at the end of the bed and collect dust for a while. But almost every night the toys are used now and are all over the place.
Watching him squirm and his cock throb in his tiny cage is a huge turn on. Knowing I can release him and decide when he gets to cum again is amazing.
Punishing him is an entirely new world to me. We have always been rough and have done rough things but this is an entirely new ballpark.
We are still learning new things daily and I enjoy it.
His last release was on feb 8th.
Why didn’t we think of this sooner?
Do “Denied Males“ still have a sex life?
My hubby wrote this on another profile of ours…. So I thought I would share here as well :) We get this question often so I thought I would write about my own experience being a sexually denied male. I have not had an orgasm for over a month, and we have discussed 2017 as a potential year of denial. There seems to be a lot of people, both other men interested in being denied and dominant women considering this kind of play for their submissive lovers, who want to hear how this actually functions in a real relationship. When we are not doing denial play, we have a very normal sex life. My Goddess loves the feel of my dick. I’m just a bit above average size, but I hit perfectly for her, and she can orgasm from penetration almost every time we fuck. When we aren’t doing denial, I do get to cum inside of her. When we are not doing denial, we have a very active sex life with lots of play time together and we do continue doing bdsm play. Denial play does not have to be 24x7 all the time, non stop in a relationship. You can set goals and take breaks. What good is denying someone if they can’t occasionally be reminded of what it is they are missing out on? When we do denial play, as we are now, our sex life actually increases. The number of times we have sex goes up. The number of times she gets off goes up. The only thing that goes down is how often I get to ejaculate. She lets me feel her pussy and push myself to the edge sometimes, but not every time. I’m trained not to get off from years of doing denial play and she can trust me not to get off without permission, something that takes a lot of practice and patience to learn. We both continue to initiate sex with each other, even though I know she will be the only one having an orgasm. I still touch her, kiss her, walk up and put my arms around her from behind and hand on her breast with the other one sliding down into her pants to rub her pussy as a way to really get her going. This morning we had a wonderful sexual encounter. She woke me up early today (Saturday). She was fully nude and had been horny all night, finally giving in to what she wanted. We kissed, made out, and I massaged her breasts and pinched her nipples just how she likes while occasionally rubbing her clit. She told me she wanted to be fucked, and I knew that was my cue to get her off. I slid two fingers into her absolutely drenched pussy while we continued to kiss. She’s reached the point where she loves to be penetrated that way and will all but ride my fingers as I rub her off. I used a thumb on her clit and three fingers in her pussy and she came very quickly. I got to feel her wet pussy on my hand, got to stroke and touch her clit, got to suck on her breasts and make out with her. I got to watch her cum, to feel her breathing intensify and speed up and hold her as her entire body shook. I was extremely horny but very satisfied, I had pleasured my wife completely. She laid next to me in the spoon position, my hard cock pressed against her ass. She wasn’t worked up any longer, but knows that drives me crazy. She wanted to cuddle, to be held in her post orgasm glow, and of course I obliged. I love this part of our relationship, our closeness after she gets off and how much she likes me to express how badly I still want her. This morning I was worse than normal when it comes to arousal, so I kept pushing my cock against her, kissing the back of her neck and of course rubbing her breasts. Today, I just happened to get her worked up again. She rolled over to face me and we made out for a long time, me touching her clit every so often to continue to encourage her to get built back up. She never grabbed or stroked my cock. She kept her hands away and space between us so I couldn’t rub against her. It was all about the kissing, the touching of her body. Finally she was fully ready again, and this time she asked me to penetrate her. She said she wanted to feel how desperate I really was. So I did. I moved over on top of her and slid my cock all the way in. I thrust a few times to get fully in, to get as deep as I could. We kissed, looked deep into each others eyes, my penis as far inside of her as it gets, and her fully enjoying how it felt. At that moment, when many times she would whisper for me to fuck her harder, or tell me how bad she wanted my cum, or how much she liked my dick inside of her… she whispered ‘you’ve had enough, now eat my pussy’. So I did. I immediately moved down, pulling out and putting fingers in her pussy as she very obviously needed penetration today. I sucked her clit and finger fucked her as she moaned louder and faster, until she finally came again for me. She reached down and squeezed my cock, and made a comment on how hard I was.. and that was it. She was done and ready to get up for the day, fully satisfied from two large orgasms. I was lucky that she let me penetrate her today - normally that’s not the case - but to me, what we did was absolutely sex. She got off. She came hard multiple times. I tasted her pussy, I felt her pussy with my fingers. I kissed her deeply and passionately, I felt and rubbed her breasts. I got to penetrate if only for a few seconds today, but even if I had not, I would have been satisfied. I made love to my wife, my beautiful Goddess, and pleasured her fully. What more can a man hope for than to sexually please a woman? Denial play takes time. It’s difficult at first and it is a challenge to really behave. It’s hard the first few times to not get off, to not cum, to not orgasm. But it becomes easier the more you do it. You learn you can go longer, you can handle more teasing. With enough training you can even learn to penetrate and have enough restraint to not get off. Eventually you reach the stage I have - I no longer care how long the denial is for, I can take as long as she wants me to, and I no longer feel that I HAVE to ejaculate/orgasm (including a ruined). I’ve reached the point that I moan along with her as she gets off, that her orgasm turns me on so much that it’s become my peak as well. I know other submissive denied men who have been doing it long term, and all of us agree on one thing - when you finally reach the point where you desire HER orgasm more than yours, when you feel satisfied sexually knowing she came, when you can go to sleep locked in chastity and stay soft the entire night after getting HER off, then you know you are truly trained :)
Meet your new best friend. You two are going to get very cozy in the coming months and years. Once I slide her on it’s inevitable. In time you’ll experience pleasure and frustration you’ve never even dreamed possible. You may not believe it now, but eventually you’ll become so addicted to her that you’ll never want her off.
source: https://www.reddit.com/user/gynephilos
Femdom experiences, ideas, and suggestions
I’d like to share some experience, ideas, and tips I’ve put together after about 4 years of dominating my BF. This is all my personal experience, so it won’t apply to everyone.
Firstly, I need to share that we aren’t in a 24/7 Domme-sub relationship. That doesn’t interest me or my BF. My BF came to me about 4 ½ years ago and confessed some of his desires for femdom sex, and I decided to entertain it with him. It’s been a lot of fun, but I’m not making it a “lifestyle”, although we do have some “extended” sessions, which I’ll detail later in this post. Its something we do for fun in the bedroom (well, not always in the bedroom). We still have frequent “vanilla” sex, he’s actually quite good at it. :) That being said, I’m not here to pass judgement on anyone else, or pretend to be an expert on the subject of BDSM. My current BF is the only person I’ve played with like this, but we’ve learned a lot about femdom by experimenting, reading, and talking to each other. A good portion of these ideas and suggestions were his idea, and many are mine. Some may think that this is topping from the bottom, but I don’t take it too seriously. This is all just in good fun for us.
Also, even though I talk about some of the stuff below being “forced”, that’s not to imply he hasn’t consented. We always have a safeword, and we discuss generalities before we decide on trying something new (although I do definitely surprise him with new activities to push his limits). Also, keep safety in mind with any activity. Not all of this is safe for every couple or every person. So, with all that out of the way, lets get to it!
I approach femdom by classifying activities into 4 categories, then I put them together for an experience. The categories I use are: Degradation/Humiliation, Pain and Control, Frustration/Teasing, and Service. I’ll go over activities in each then describe how I put them together.
DEGRADATION/HUMILIATION
This is a very fun category and can include a lot of different things. Here’s a list of activities that I enjoy inflicting on him.
Forced feminization - I frequently make him wear women’s clothing during our sessions. This can include lots of different outfits. Feel free to mix and match to your taste. Amazon is great for getting lingerie on a budget. I like to go with really girly colors and patterns for my guy. My favorites are:
High heels. These are an absolute necessity. You don’t need to spend a lot of money on these, but you might want more than one pair if you insist his outfits match.
Lingerie. This can include teddies, stockings, babydoll, fishnet dresses, etc.
Just a pair of panties. This makes him feel very exposed. I like ones that ride up his little butt (cheekies, thongs), but still cover his entire penis. Don’t let him wear anything else.
Pasties. This is very, very fun. Pasties are cheap, and not something you ever see a man wearing. A pair of high heels, pink thong, and some pasties is great outfit for him to wear while he cleans the bathroom for you.
Schoolgirl outfit. This is a classic, and can lead to some incredible role-playing situations. The skirt should be short enough you can see his little white panties peeking out without even bending over.
French Maid. Another classic, useful for the Service category I’ll go into later.
Makeup. This is a favorite activity. I love giving him a makeover. Super slutty makeup is the best and can be combined with any outfit.
Tight jeans, yoga pants, leggings. Pair these with a skin tight top and you’ve got a great outfit for lounging around the house.
Short shorts. These can be cut off jean type shorts, yoga style shorts, or anything you like. The shorter the better.
Corset. Use this to give him a girlish figure!
Women’s bodystocking. These are hilarious. They come in all kinds of patterns and colors, and are really cheap.
Halloween costumes. Great for any time of year! Amazon has cheap playboy bunny outfits, tinkerbell costumes, sexy nurse, etc. There are so many to choose from!
Pegging/dildo play - This falls into the pain category as well depending on your mood. I really feel that in order to make this act as degrading as possible, its important to get a dildo that looks and feels like a real penis. It should have balls and be a realistic skin tone. It should also be at least slightly bigger than his own penis (within reason). A big aspect that makes pegging so humiliating is the mental side to it. Obviously, there’s some physical to it as well, but just being forced to “deal” with a dick is mortifying to most straight men. Some activities involving your strapon or dildo:
Deepthroat training. Let’s eliminate that gag reflex ladies! Seriously one of the most degrading things you can do to your man is fucking his face. I like to recreate positions from porn in this activity. Relax on the couch or chair while wearing your strapon. Put him on his knees and make him get to work. If he’s not going deep enough grab his hair and force his face down on that dick! Trust me, he can take it. Don’t be gentle. Make sure he maintains eye contact like a good little porn star! I also like to have him lay on his back on the bed or couch, with his head hanging over the side and cram my dick down his throat. Do this until he gags, over and over, he’ll be drooling all over himself soon enough. Have him lie down on his back, then straddle his upper chest/neck area so the only thing you can see is his face. Put your dildo in his mouth and jackhammer that thing down his throat. Don’t be scared of hurting him, even if your dildo is on the large side of realistic. he’ll eventually be able to take it balls deep. He might complain that it doesn’t fit. Well, its your job to MAKE it fit. Yes he’s going to cough and gag, a lot, yes he’s going to have a lot of drool and mucus coming out of his mouth. That’s OK. Don’t be deterred by any sounds, drool, or complaints. Also give him instructions and compliments when appropriate (“yeah, show me your tongue” “hands behind your back and open wide bitch” “give me that throat” “that’s a good little cocksucker”)
EDIT: I’ve received several questions about this point. I’ll clarify exactly what were doing here and why. When I make him suck my dildo, I’m not getting any physical pleasure out of it and neither is he. This is not meant to be physically pleasurable to us, it’s meant to make him feel like my bitch. When you do this, make it an ordeal he needs to suffer through. When he’s on his knees in front of you, fuck his mouth hard and fast. Really make an effort to get your entire dildo down his throat as you thrust in and out. Make him suffer here for quite some time, 5, 10, 15 minutes even. Don’t let him get away with pulling his head away or anything either. Make him keep your dick in his mouth, see how long you can keep it buried balls deep in his mouth, lock your legs around his head if necessary. His jaw and throat should be very sore after this ordeal, and his face should be a mess of slobber and spit. Once he can take your whole dildo down his throat without gagging, its time to upgrade to something longer and/or thicker. Your goal should be to have him performing at THIS LEVEL and he won’t get there without proper training.
Butt fucking. Work up to this using your fingers, plugs (he should wear a large sized one for a while before a pegging session), and other toys, but eventually your goal should be forceful pounding. Make him feel what its like to really get fucked. While pegging him, yank his hair, push his face down into the bed or floor, slap his ass. Be creative with positions and locations. One of my favorites is the tile kitchen floor, he doesn’t have to be comfortable while getting fucked. Use lots and lots of lube here, it makes getting your dick in a lot easier on both of you.
Dildo masturbation. Make him suck and fuck himself with a dildo or other toys for your amusement. This one can be done with very minimal effort on your part. Just give him a toy, order him to the corner, and tell him to get it up his ass.
Using other objects to fuck him with. This can be a lot of fun, but be careful. Some items I’ve fucked him with: Beer bottle, drumsticks, vodka bottle,
Forced Nudity - This one is simple, but you can spice it up with toys if you like. Simply order him to be naked while you remain clothed. If you like, make him wear a butt plug that you can smack and wiggle around while he gets you a drink. Put a collar on him if you want, or combine this with forced feminization from above (for example make him wear only high heels, lipstick, and a chastity cage for the evening). Sometimes its fun to combine this with pegging. I’ll strap my dick on over my jeans, while he’s completely naked. Its a very humbling experience for him. I also frequently have him sleep naked.
Forced Performances. This is very entertaining and again a low-effort humiliation. Sometimes I like to put on some music and have him dance for me. I’ll make him perform a little strip tease, twerk, etc. Sometimes I will have him masturbate for me. I’ll give directions. (these are great times for video recording)
Spitting. We’re getting a little more extreme here. Don’t be afraid to spit on your male. This can be especially degrading during pegging, even more so during deepthroat training. While he’s making eye contact, just launch a huge wad of spit right in his face. He’ll love you for it! It can also be degrading while you’re criticizing his performance to spit in his face.
Golden showers. We haven’t worked our way up to here yet, and to be honest, I don’t know if I want to. Something we have tried in this area though, making him lick me clean after I take a piss.
Verbal humiliation (Disclaimer: Talk to your partner about this first if you’re worried about crossing a line with him, because this can be emotionally charged.) I really like this, and to me, there are two components. 1. You degrading him with words. 2. Making him degrade himself with words.
You degrading him.
Name calling. Call him degrading names. This can include the following: Bitch, sissy, cunt, slut, whore, piece of shit, stupid, worthless.
Penis humiliation/emasculation. This is common on femdom porn sites. Make fun of the size of his dick, his sexual ability, the things he lets you do to him, etc. Terms like shrimp-dick, bitch boy, butt boy, fuck-hole, cum eater, cum dumpster, cocksucker, limp dick. etc.
Combine insults. Example: “You’re a little limp dick cocksucker.” “You’re a little cum eating bitch, aren’t you?”
Being forceful and insulting with your directions. Example: Instead of saying “get on your knees and suck my dick”, say “Get on your fucking knees and get this dick down your throat you little bitch.” Instead of using his name and telling him to bend over the kitchen table for his pegging, say something like, “Hey shrimp-dick! Get in here, bend over the table and get fucked.” Instead of saying come here and lick my pussy say “get over here and make me cum you little piece of shit”.
Tell him what you’re going to do to him later. Send him a text letting him know you’re going to make him eat your pussy and send him away hard and frustrated.
Order him to do things for you. *MOST IMPORTANTLY: Don’t be afraid to raise your voice, or even yell. Its encouraged in this situation that you will be very forceful with your voice. Yell in his face if he isn’t licking your pussy correctly. Yell in his face after you cum and tell him to get the fuck off the bed and do the dishes.
Making him degrade himself. This can be really fun.
Make him beg. Use this for anything, make him beg to fuck you, beg you to peg him, beg you to let him masturbate, beg you to let him eat his cum, beg you to spank him, etc. It doesn’t even have to be something he wants. The key to this though, is to make sure his begging meets your standards. If you don’t believe he really wants it, punish him and make him try again, and again until you really believe him.
Make him apologize. Maybe the orgasm he gave you was mediocre. Maybe he didn’t take your dildo up his ass with enough enthusiasm. Maybe when you told him to deepthroat your strapon, he couldn’t get his nose to touch your stomach like you insisted. He should be punished for such infractions, but he should also tell you how sorry he is first. (maybe after his punishment too.) Make sure he apologizes sincerely for any shortcomings. Shit, sometimes I make him apologize for having a small dick (even though he doesn’t).
Make him thank you. Did you let him have an orgasm? Did you fuck his little butthole really well? Did you let him lick your asshole? He needs to thank you for the privlege.
Make him confess. Make him tell you his fantasies. This works especially well if you have him on the edge of orgasm. Make him confess a deep, dark fantasy that he’s never told anyone before. (He’ll probably run out of ideas at some point, you can punish him for that)
Public Play. There are some really fun ways you can take this play out of the house for some really great humiliation that doesn’t involve violating other people boundaries.
Clothes shopping. I enjoy taking him to stores, wal-mart, target, etc. and picking out some really girly panties and outfits for him to wear. If there isn’t anyone around, I’ll occasionally make him go try them on in the dressing room.
Wearing plugs or other toys in public.
And finally, for one of the most humiliating things a man can ever do……
Swallowing cum and/or getting a facial. He fucking hates this, which is why I love it. Any time he has an orgasm during any femdom activity, he’s eating it or its going on his face. I don’t care where it lands, how he came, if it was an accident, or if he really doesn’t want to. That cum is going in his mouth and down his throat. There are a lot of ways to accomplish this, but I really enjoy planning ahead for it. Its also a huge turn on for him, knowing that he’s going to be forced to eat it, even though immediately after he cums he’s absolutely repulsed by it. Some of my favorite ways to do this are:
Make him cum into a condom, then empty it into his mouth.
Make him have a ruined orgasm (I’ll explain later) onto the tile or hardwood floor. Then make him lick it up. If he resists, shove his face in it. If you have carpet, that isn’t a problem. Make him suck the cum out of it until its all gone.
If you let him cum inside you or on you, make him suck the cum out of you or lick it off of you.
While he’s wearing a pair of panties, rub his dick until he cums in them. Then peel them off and make him lick it out, or smear them all over his face.
Flip his legs over his head into the piledriver position (good for pegging also) and make him shoot his load all over his own face. This is a favorite of mine, simply because of the role reversal mind fuck going on in his head. I also like making him leave the jizz on his face for the rest of the day.
Make him cum into a glass and then pour it into his mouth, or pour it all over his face and/or hair.
However he gets the cum into his mouth, occasionally I’ll have him “play” with it. Gargle it, show it to me on his tongue, drool it out and then suck it back up like a porn star.
EDIT: Ladies, he’s going to be much more compliant with eating his semen if he has had a ruined orgasm instead of a pleasurable one. I mention this below but I’ll go into some more detail here. When your man has an orgasm his sexual desire drops off a cliff. He won’t want to eat his cum and will resist. But if you give him a ruined orgasm, he doesn’t get much pleasure at all, and his sexual desire remains high, but he still can expel a good amount of sperm. The goal here is to make his semen come out of his dick without pleasure, but for most men, the pleasure and orgasm actually begins several seconds before he ejaculates. So I like to have fun with this. With him on his knees and his hands restrained I’ll stroke his dick until he gets very close to orgasm, and then when I think hes right on the edge, I’ll let go and watch. I’ll wait about 20 seconds and if no semen comes out, start again. If you’ve done this perfectly, his semen will leak out about 10-15 seconds AFTER you stopped stroking it. He’ll be left sexually frustrated, but you actually DID give him an orgasm, its not your fault he didn’t feel it! He’ll be much more compliant in regards to consuming semen in this way. I like to combine this with chastity sometimes too. I’ll have him locked in the cage for a few days, give him a ruined orgasm and then put him back in. Its wonderful!
ADDED HUMILIATION BONUS!
For added humiliation, I frequently take pictures and video of my pet during these humiliating sessions. I keep these and then use them later for addiitonal humiliaiton. Seriously, having a video of him, with his face covered in his own semen, apologizing for not deepthroating my strapon well enough, all while dressed in daisy dukes and a bikini top….well that’s just good entertainment. Sometimes I make him watch some of the videos with me and laugh at him. It always results in a giant erection in his pants, haha.
PAIN AND CONTROL
DISCLAIMER: It seems online, many people are nervous about this category, and with good reason. Its sometimes hard to tell what your partner is comfortable with, and they may not even be sure of it themselves. So take all of this slowly at first until you and your partner can figure out what works for you. That being said, I seek to push right up against my boyfriend’s limits here. This is where the “forced” part of the humiliation listed above becomes more real.
There are several ways to inflict some pain on your male, here are some of my favorites.
Face slapping. I really enjoy this. Nothing gets his attention so quickly as a pop to the side of his cheek. Several (5-6) in quick succession create a look of fear in his face that I love. He can take a lot of punishment here too, just watch out for his eyes and ears. This is an especially good thing to practice while you’re fucking his face or he’s licking your pussy and/or ass. Use your slaps to get his attention, give direction, and have fun. “I slap told slap you slap to slapfocus slap on slap my slap clit!! slap”
Hair Pulling. Grab his hair and yank his head around. Do this while pegging (in any position), while he’s giving you oral (or sucking your dildo), to lead him where you want him, to hold his head in place while you slap him, to force his face into a puddle of semen, etc.
Spanking/whipping. The most common. I like to use a belt, flogger, occasionally a cane.
Cock and Ball Torture. Another common theme on femdom websites. Here’s a list of techniques I use.
Squeezing/Pinching. Grab his balls and squeeze. Pinch the head of his dick.
Slapping. Simple. To make it hurt worse, you can grab his balls into one hand and hold them tight and steady while you slap.
Punching. Same as above but creates a lot more pain. :)
Kicking. Kicking him right in the balls after you just fucked his ass can be quite the experience for both of you. Take this one more slowly haha.
Nipple Play. Most people know about this already. Use clamps, clothespins, pinches, flicks, twists, and scrapes to inflict some pain here. He can take more than you think.
Chemical Play. Ok, we’re getting to some more extreme areas here again. This is not to be taken lightly, as many people’s bodies react differently. Here’s a list of things we’ve tried.
Ice cubes. Rub on his penis, balls, asshole, and nipples. This can sometimes eliminate a pesky erection in a pinch. I’ve inserted cubes into his anus as well, he doesn’t like that lol.
Ben-gay/Icy Hot. Rub this on the penis balls, taint, and anus. This creates a very unpleasant burning sensation. My pet feels very intense pain for about 10-20 minutes. It then subsides to a mild cooling sensation.
Tabasco/hot sauce. Same as above, rub on genitals and asshole. Your man’s experience will vary here depending on the type of sauce you use, the duration you leave it on, and the amount you use. I reserve this for serious punishment. I once poured some hot sauce on the dildo I fucked him with. Let’s just say he didn’t have a great night.
Electricity. You need to be even more careful here. My only experience is a dog shock collar. I attach the collar around his penis and testicles. It has a vibrate function (for when he’s been a good boy) and 8 levels of shocks. We’ve gotten up to level 6. He really hopes I don’t have to use 7 or 8 on him. You can experiment with the position of the collar on his genitals. If the contacts are touching his balls, he’ll feel it throughout his sack and his perineum. If you flip it over and the contacts touch the base of his penis, shocking sensations will affect his entire penis, all the way to the head. We’ve experimented with different levels here, and it seems his penis is much more sensitive to electricity than his balls are. Your man’s experience may vary. This collar also has a sound/beeping function that I use as a pager when I need him. If his balls beep, he has 10 seconds to be on his knees in front of me, regardless of his prior activity, or else he’ll face punishment.
Bondage and Restraints. I keep this simple as I don’t enjoy taking the time to set up intricate bondage situations. I’m sure my BF would like it, but its just too much effort when I can use simpler items to accomplish the same things. I own a few types of gags, a collar and leash, handcuffs, bed restraint system and, my favorite, a spreader bar (bar with cuffs for hands and feet).
Control. A lot of the more severe pain and control items above are essentially just a method to get my guy to do what he’s told. This is where the “forced” aspect really comes into play. For example, he absolutely hates eating sperm. But if I want him to eat sperm, he’s going to fucking eat it. So I use pain to get him to do it. One way I do this is with the electric dog collar and handcuffs. After he cums, and there’s a load of sperm sitting there on the floor, I give him a choice. Either put your face on it and suck up all that lovely sperm, or, get shocked in increasing intervals and strength. Eventually he’ll do it. This is an area where we’ve both agreed that he doesn’t get a choice any longer. He submits to being forced to lick his jizz off the floor.
Another example is dildo play. If i instruct him to deepthroat my strapon, and get the entire 7 inches down his throat while maintaining eye contact, that’s his job to do. If he doesn’t, I inflict pain. For example, I might start by slapping his face as a warning if he’s disobeying, increasing the strength and quantity of the slaps as I try to work the dildo down his throat. If that doesn’t work, I move on to other means. I may whip him with the belt, or punch his balls a few times then give him another chance. I increase the pain until he obeys. Its really fun to give him tasks that are hard to acheive. I also use pain as punsihment for failure. If he can’t make me orgasm in a certain time period, or its less pleasurable than what I expected, I may attach the spreader bar to his ankles and wrists, gag him, slather his cock and balls with ben-gay, and then go have a glass of wine while he contemplates how he can improve his performance next time.
This doesn’t mean I need a reason to hurt my toy. When we’re playing, I may slap him for fun or for no reason at all. If he’s getting pegged, he should expect to get popped in the face a few times just because I fucking feel like it. Maybe I’ll kick his little blue balls afterwards while he’s still on all fours on the kitchen floor, just because I want to be a bitch.
FRUSTRATION/TEASING
This is really quite simple. When we’re playing, I cum when I want, he cums when he’s allowed to. I enjoy making him suffer in this way, its honestly the most fun part of all this. There are a lot of ways I enjoy teasing and frustrating him and I’ll go over some of them now. There is one hard and fast rule in this game for us. He must always ask permission to ejaculate, no exceptions. He’ll be punished severely for an unauthorized orgasm or ejaculation.
Chastity. This is a must for us. While we don’t play 24/7, I enjoy making him wear a chastity device frequently when we’re apart. I work nights, so if I’m at work, chances are he’s locked into “The Vice”. This is a locking chastity cage, similar to others, only this one has an anti-pullout mechanism that makes it very difficult to remove without the key. Basically “The Vice” (available at www.lockedinlust.com ) is a plastic sheath for his dick that attaches to a ring around the base of his balls. It prevents erections and masturbation very well for the price. I don’t want my man’s dick mangled by a piercing for this game we play, and some of the other devices out there require that to be secure. The Vice keeps it secure and out of his (or anyone else’s) hands. Its so empowering to be able to restrict access to his own dick. I have the power to grant him erections and orgasms, he can’t have them without me or my approval. The length of time he wears the device really changes, but is up to me. I usually don’t keep him in it for more than a couple days, but we’ve had times that I left him in there for over 3 weeks. He really wasn’t happy about the time I had to leave town for 4 days and took the key with me, AFTER he’d been locked up for a week already.
There are a log of fun chastity games you can find online. Some fun chastity games we play:
Try to cum. I enjoy leaving the device on him, and tell him to try to have an orgasm with it on (no vibrator allowed!). Its fucking entertaining to see him hump his hand, finger his asshole, shake the cage around, pinch his own nipples, etc. I like to offer some cheering words of encouragement here for him. Usually I have him do this on the floor in the middle of the living room while I sit on the couch and watch. He hasn’t been able to cum yet, but maybe one day he’ll get there. (Another great video opportunity)
Coin flip. If he’s been locked up for several days, I’ll strap him to the bed or handcuff him to remove the device. Then I’ll start stroking his dick until he’s very close to orgasm, right on the edge. Then I flip a coin, heads I finish him off. Tails, I immediately stop, put an ice pack on his dick and lock him back up once he’s soft again. Better luck next time honey.
Roll of the dice. If he rolls a six, he gets to cum. If not, that’s the number of days he stays locked up until he gets another chance. This went on for over 3 weeks for us at one point. He was really on edge lol.
Chastity can also play into the control aspect as well. Sometimes when we play I don’t take the cage off. For example, he doesn’t need an erection to get fucked in his ass or to use my dildo and vibrator on my pussy, so why take it off? If he starts giving me a bad attitude, I’ll simply add another day or two to his lockup time. I use this as punishment for disobedience when playing, so it gives me more control.
One of the big things you’ll notice if you start incorporating chastity into your sex life, is that he will become more and more agreeable and obedient as time goes on, if you restrict his orgasms. If we’re playing with chastity more seriously, I like to make him wait 1 to 2 weeks between orgasms. He has a high sex drive, so when I do this, he gets so horny he’ll do anything to get out of his chastity cage. Its really entertaining to see what I can get him to do. Once, after 13 days locked into the Vice, I insisted he detail my car if he wanted out of the device. He whined and complained, so I told him that he just earned himself another 3 days in the device, and I still expected the car detailed.
The MOST IMPORTANT thing when incorporating chastity into your sex life is this. SAY NO. Don’t be swayed by his begging, whining, or complaining. Firstly lets get this out of the way, no one NEEDS to have an orgasm. He wants to cum, he doesn’t need to. So lets get that little idea out of the way immediately. We have a rule, when he’s locked up, he gets to politely ask for an orgasm once per day. If I feel like it, I’ll have him earnestly beg me. This is great for extracting promises from him. But if I say no, he needs to shut the fuck up about it immediately. Occasionally I’ll say yes, but most of the time I’ll say no as I’ve already decided on how long he’s going to be locked up. Do not feel bad about this. In fact, relish your power here.
I get off on having him go down on me right after I tell him “No, you’re staying locked up.” While we both agreed to incorporate chastity devices into our sex life, the lockup duration is my decision alone. Use the device to modify his behavior to your liking. If you want something from him, sexual or not, give him the order. If he doesn’t comply, add time in the device. The power is intoxicating.
Teasing. Sometimes he wears The Vice around the house, sometimes not. But regardless I like to wear skimpy clothing, rub up against him, feel and squeeze his balls, ass cheeks, and body just to see him get a boner (or try to, hehe). I’ll take this a lot further sometimes, stroking his dick until he starts leaking precum, getting him close to orgasm, only to stop and tell him to calm down. Sometimes I even let him fuck me until I have an orgasm or two, then tell him to stop. This is delightfully frustrating for him. Other times I’ll leave him in the chastity cage and masturbate right in front of him. One of my favorite teases is to use his mouth to make me cum and send him away completely denied. Sometimes I tell him I’m going to make him cum, only to stop at the last second and tell him I changed my mind.
Ruined Orgasm. By far the funniest aspect to this whole femdom thing. Its really an artform. The basic idea is that you get your man very, very close to the point of orgasm and then stop all stimulation. If you do it right, he’ll just tip over the edge, and his semen will dribble out of his dick with barely any force, and next to no pleasure. This works best with his hands restrained so he can’t try to finish the job himself. I like to pair this sometimes with the shock collar to make it completely miserable.
SERVICE
So now we get to the fun part. A lot of the above is playing into my man’s fetish, and that’s ok. I do love him, and I don’t have a problem doing stuff for his enjoyment. But you can be sure I’m going to be getting something out of all this! A big part of femdom is serving the woman in the relationship. And I’ll detail how that all works for us now.
Sexual Service. This encompasses everything. If I want my ass eaten out for 2 hours while I watch TV, he does it. If I want a full body massage from a muscled, naked man, that’s what I get. If I want to fuck and get off two or three times, I get that. If I want my nipples sucked while I use my vibrator on myself, that’s what I get. Nothing is off limits to me sexually. I speak, he obeys. That’s just how it goes. I typically don’t orgasm from oral sex alone or penetrative sex alone, and sometimes it can take quite a while for me to get there. The point is, I get what I want. Not that I want him eating my ass for 2 hours necessarily, but I’ll make him do something like that sometimes just because I can. (Then sometimes make fun of him for it.)
Facesitting. I love sitting on his face. Its a great experience to cum all over his face. Sometimes I use just his tongue, while other times I’ll shove a dildo in his mouth and ride it while using my vibrator. I also have a gag that has a dildo sticking out of it. Whatever I’m using, its important that I’m only concerned with my own pleasure during this experience. Don’t worry about whether or not he’s able to breathe, if his tongue is tired, if his neck hurts, etc. In fact, its quite enjoyable to put him in intentionally uncomfortable positions for this. We have a hard wooden chair that I like to use for this. He’ll be required to sit on the floor and lean his head back onto the seat of the chair. This hurts his neck and head when I really start riding and bouncing on it, but who gives a fuck? He needs to focus on my orgasm, not his temporary discomfort.
As part of the sexual service aspect of femdom in our sex life, we’ve decided that he no longer decides when and where he gets to orgasm, when and where I get to orgasm, and he doesn’t decide on when or where any other sexual activity takes place. That’s up to me now. This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t initiate sex any longer, far from it. But it does mean he doesn’t get to complain, and he doesn’t get to turn me down when I want it either.
The goal of sexual service is two-fold. One, for you to get all the pleasure you want. Two, for him to feel completely objectified. When you are using him sexually, think of him as just another sex toy, a dildo that you can use up and throw away when you are finished.
But this isn’t limited to sexual service only.
Domestic Service. Basics. When we’re in femdom mode, he does the chores. All of them. We get to spice up mundane things like cleaning the bathroom and vacuuming in easy ways. For example, if the dishes need washed, and the kitchen mopped, I tell my bitch to get his maid outfit and shock collar on and bring me the large butt plug. While he gets dressed I may watch TV, text friends, do some shopping online, or anything else I want. When he’s ready, he lubes up the plug and I put it up his tight little ass. He then goes off to do whatever I’ve told him to do while I relax. After he’s done I may or may not inspect his work, if he did a good job then he may get a reward. His reward may be the privilege of kissing my asshole for example. If its not up to par he may get punished. This can be implemented immediately, or added to a play session later. If you are going to go this route though, I would suggest using punishments he really wants to avoid (extended chastity time, severe spankings, etc.) or else you may find him purposefully messing up in order to get some “punishment” he wants.
This applies to any chore we need completed. My laundry, dishes, car washes, lawn mowing (its funny seeing him on a riding mower when I know there’s a plug up his ass), cooking, etc.
Personal Service. These are generally intimate things that I want done for me. They can really play up the tease element as well. Some examples:
Shave me. In the shower or bath, I like to have him shave my legs and pussy.
Toenails/pedicure. I pick the color, then he massages, moisturizes my feet. Then polishes my nails for me. He’s also responsible for removing any old polish from my nails.
Massage. Sometimes just a shoulder rub, other times I’ll be nude and he is required to give me a full body massage with oil. I like for him to be nude for this as well. It’s really torture for him to give me a few orgasms afterwards and stay denied.
Body worship. It can be really relaxing to have him kiss and nuzzle my thighs, feet nipples, and pussy. I especially enjoy having my asshole worshiped though. Just light kisses, licks and nuzzles. Basically he’s making out with my asshole. It’s a serious power trip to have him do this while I watch TV or play games on my phone, ignoring him except to give instructions if I want something done differently.
PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER
I’ve outlined several ideas and topics here, and now I’ll give an example on how I’ve put all of it together. Remember when reading this, its all in fun, and it doesn’t necessarily have to make a lot of sense. Remember, if your guy is into femdom, he likes a lot of this kind of stuff already.
I like to choose something from each category when we play, just to round out the session. Not always, but frequently.
For one session I decided we were going to do some pegging, so before I got home I told him to get himself cleaned up, naked, and get a plug in. I got home about an hour later, so he’d been stretched out for a little while. I got home, grabbed him by the hair and dragged him into the garage. I told him to get on all fours in the middle of the floor and wait. He waited there for 20 minutes. I know he was scared, he’d never been fucked on the garage floor before. It wasn’t clean, and he was completely naked except for the plug in his ass.
I came in turned all the lights on and started taking pictures. I was already wearing the strapon. I made him smile for the camera, and pose for me. It looked like a really trashy photoshoot. I took several pictures in varioius positions and then I told him it was time to get busy.
I lubed up my cock, slowly pulled out the plug and got to work. I fucked him on the floor of the garage for about 5 minutes, eventually really pounding him. I pulled him up by his hair, bent him over the hood of my car and pounded some more. I insisted he fake an orgasm like a girl. It was reallly funny listening him attempt to moan and scream like a woman orgasming.
Once he was done, I pulled him around by the hair and spit directly into his face. I told him that was the worst fuck I’d ever had and told him to “go clean my fucking bathroom”. He stared at me dumbfounded, so I slapped him hard in his face and repeated it louder. He quickly scurried off to the master bath. About 5 minutes later I came in and threw the strapon and butt plug on the floor and told him to clean up my toys as well. When he came and reported that he was done, I went to inspect his work. It was spotless.
So I told him to get himself cleaned up and ready for bed. As a reward I let him go down on me for a while and then use my vibrator to give me an orgasm. He didn’t get to cum that night. (but we did cuddle and watch a movie)
There are many more ways you can mix and match categories, and many of them run together. For example, you can facefuck your man with your strapon, while you rub his dick. Once you’re satisfied he’s learned how to deepthroat, pull him off and make him beg for the privilege of masturbating in your presence. You can record this on video if you like, then, make him eat his own cum on video. The possibilities are endless! Again, I know a lot of this isn’t “authentic” if you’re doing it for your submissive partner, but that doesn’t really matter to me. What matters is that we’re having fun, and I get what I need out of it too.
Amazing add from one or the subscribers! Thanks for that!
So let’s be clear, if we do this, we do this my way and this are the rules.
You give me the full control of your orgasms and in exchange I promise to:
- Tease you visually or sexually at least once a day
- Let you have a full orgasm at least once a month
- Never let you cum more than once a week
- Never let you be not horny
- I promise that everytime I will let you have a full orgasm it will be very visual like cumming in my face, tits or pussy.
- I promise to give you more ruined orgasms than full orgasms and I will do everything in my power to make them as frustrating as possible.
On your side… you promise to :
- Never cum without my permission
- Always say when you are about to cum
- To never beg once I said it’s over for today. You will say Yes… always.
- To do everything in your power to give me as many orgasms as I might want
And in 3 months we will review all the conditions and probably try to aim for longer denials…
Do you agree with all those conditions? Good, let’s begin. Take off your clothes and edge for me while I dance for you.
Cage Your Man...
By Lion,
If the idea of locking your partner’s penis into a little cage seems strange to you, you aren’t alone…
Most of the time, the man discovers male chastity and something about it is very attractive and exciting to him. It may seem odd that forcibly preventing erection and orgasm would be arousing, but to many of us it is. Getting started with this can be difficult. Like a lot on the Internet, there is far more misinformation than fact.
In the case of forced male chastity the simple fact is that the vast majority of men who write about and practice it are actually single and have no partner to lock them up. As a result, most of what you will find on the Web are fantasies written by these lone males. Many women are turned off after reading these complicated and often bizarre scenarios where they are required to spend endless hours “supervising” their partner’s chastity. This is unfortunate. In reality, many couples find that this kink enhances and enriches them both. The practice couldn’t be easier.
Getting Started Chances are good that your partner spent considerable time reading and dreaming about you caging his penis. This means that he has developed expectations about how it will be when you lock him up. He may have asked you to read this page because of his interest in male chastity play. In any case, the one thing that virtually all male fantasies about this have in common is surrendering some control to his partner or keyholder. Keyholder may be a new term to you. It simply refers to the person who has the key that will unlock the caged penis.
All too often the male will have spent so much time thinking about chastity and surrender that he has confused a big set of fantasies under the chastity umbrella. Most of these fantasies center around what happens after you lock him up. Let’s consider some of the popular scenarios about what happens next:
By the simple act of locking him up he will become submissive and spend all his waking moments as an obedient, willing puppy who lives for pleasing his keyholder. In the fantasies, something magical happens the moment you cage his penis. Maybe it does for some, but let’s face it, padlocking a penis is not likely to generate an instant personality change. Be that as it may, underlying this fantasy is a desire to surrender enough control to the keyholder so that by pleasing her he can earn her attention and maybe temporary release for some sex. More simply, at the least, this is an expression of a desire for you to take the sexual initiative. Being locked up allows him to atone for some sin(s). Whether it was outright cheating or simply some secret masturbation or other domestic infraction, the fantasy has the male caged as atonement for his sin. By surrendering his penis, he is showing his devotion and wish to be forgiven. With his keyholder in control, he can “prove” his devotion. In turn, she can be sure his boy part won’t be going where it shouldn’t. In practice, this can actually work quite well. The key is that you have had to forgive him his transgression before you lock him up. Chastity shouldn’t be revenge, at least in this scenario. He gets locked up for being “bad”. In this case, the cage is punishment. He has to wear it continuously to serve out his time. In most of the fantasies around this, the amount of time served can be extended for even the slightest misbehavior. A lot of people actually play this way. A boy who isn’t very careful could end up waiting a very long time to be unlocked. His penis is Her toy. The keyholder declares ownership by locking him up. If and when it is unlocked or he gets to ejaculate are up to the whim of his keyholder. There are other possibilities, but one or more of these probably represents how he was thinking about chastity. Does agreeing to lock him up also mean you are agreeing to play out his fantasies? That is the big question and also the primary reason many women don’t take the step to become keyholders. It’s just too much.
Making it real Now that you have some idea of the kind of fantasies that may have driven your partner to approach you about male chastity, we can explore the reality. First of all, every chastity scenario involves surrendering sexual control at the least. That means he wants you to call the shots. Your first step should be thechastity conversation. This is where you discuss his wishes and agree on how it will or won’t work at the beginning. Some people go so far to create a chastity contract. This is a written agreement spelling out what chastity means to the relationship; how long between his releases, other things he has to do for you, your obligations as keyholder, etc.
While you may not want to create a document, it is very important that you and he understand each others expectations. It’s critical for your mental health that chastity not take over your relationship. You both have to agree on just how it fits in. Here are a few suggestions:
Start off gradually. Let him know that you (and he) need time to fit chastity into your lives. A good start might be: Shop with him for a chastity device if he doesn’t already have one.This will give you both a chance to select a cage that you both like. Part of this should include measuring him for a good fit. You can learn more about how to measure for a good fit here. When you find the one you both like, you place the order. The device is yours. Establish boundaries. This is the most critical agreement you will have. Discuss how long he will be locked before he gets a release. Many men will just say that they don’t want a release. Your man can’t possibly know that in the very beginning. Agree to some initial no-sex period. Discuss what else he must do to earn his orgasm. This is where you can let him know that the more he pleases you (not just in the bedroom) the more inclined you will be to let his little penis out for some exercise. Establish a “safeword”. This is a word or phrase that he can use to indicate he is in real distress – his cage may be hurting him badly, he has an emotional issue, anything urgent. If he uses his safeword, you agree to immediately release him, stop any activities and discuss the problem. Set limits on “chastity chat”. In the beginning it is very easy for you both to get a bit obsessive about this new activity. For both of your sanity, agree on how much he can discuss his cage. Set fixed times for discussions. Draw out his expectations. They will almost certainly be more than you will want, at least at first. This is the time to very explicitly agree on what will happen in the near future. Repeat this frequently as you both get more experience. Take care of your toy. His penis is under your control. You have the key. He can’t access it without your agreement. Pretty much every chastity cage will cause some physical issues, particularly in the beginning. It’s a good idea to remove the cage every few days and inspect him. Look for sores and redness. If you see any, consider leaving him unlocked to give him a chance to heal. You may need to order a different device or send the one you have back for adjustment. This is a normal part of the process. Once things fit right, you will need to inspect less often and he won’t need to be uncaged unless you want him to be. Being unlocked does not mean he gets an orgasm. You may want to tease him and lock him up without release. Make sure he understands this. Take ownership of his penis. Once you lock it up, his penis is yours. One way to think about it is that it is your toy. He doesn’t own it. It’s just parked on his body. It exists for your pleasure and amusement. You can take it out and use it, then put it back safely in its cage whenever you want. If you think of it this way, you will find it much easier to incorporate chastity in your life. You aren’t locking something of his up. You are keeping your toy safe. You’ll be surprised how powerful this concept is. Don’t let him push you further than you want to go. If you are not used to being the “boss” that won’t change just because you cage him. The worst thing is to allow him to “top from the bottom”. This means that while you appear to be in control, he is actually manipulating you into doing what he wants. Learn to say “no”. You can do it in the nicest possible way, but you need to stand your ground. Male chastity is his desire to surrender control to you. You don’t have to turn into a dominatrix, but you do need to enforce the boundaries you set. Over time, if he is lucky, your self confidence will grow and you will take more control if you want to. Don’t quit too soon. Male chastity may not be easy for you, especially in the beginning. If he becomes difficult or cranky, or if he annoys you with endless chastity talk, the temptation is to just end it. Try not to let pushing your buttons end this prematurely. Remember, even though he wanted it, he has a lot of adjusting to do too. Agree to a minimum trial period. Don’t make it a year or a week, pick something in between. During that time if there are any issues, discuss them as equals. Talk, Talk, Talk Men are famous for not wanting to discuss their feelings. Males will try to turn any “feeling” conversation into something more “objective”. Use your authority as keyholder to force him to get to what is really going on. Help him learn to be a better boy. He may love the idea of being punished. That’s a very common fantasy. However, at least in the beginning, you don’t spank or punish him for topping from the bottom or otherwise breaking your agreement. You discuss it and let him know that you will unlock him and disregard chastity if it becomes something you dislike. The real punishment is ending chastity. As for the other kind of punishment, if you are so inclined by all means use it to enforce the behavior you want. Just be very aware of the difference between an infraction inside your chastity world and a real problem that affects you as a woman. Establishing a male chastity relationship isn’t mysterious or difficult. It does require a firm hold on the realities of the situation and the willingness to manage the keyholder role in a way that is comfortable for you and that at least, begins to satisfy the fantasies that drove him to starting this with you. Most importantly, have fun…
Thanks to Lion and Female Supremacy
Femdom Punishment Ideas...
By Mistress Kylie,
This post contains all of the ideas I have been able to come up with or find on the internet for female-dominant, male-submissive scenes…
You’ll probably notice that a lot of the ideas are designed for use over many days and are associated with orgasm control. This theme emerged over time because orgasm control is so effective at heightening male desire. We use this list in a very simple framework when setting up scenes. First she picks one or more of the ideas below (either by hand or randomly) and makes rules and tasks out of them. Then, after a few days of suffering through them and pushing me to peak sensitivity, the frequency of rules and tasks increases (over a weekend, for example) and she adapts punishments from the list (or comes up with them on her own) to achieve a good, intense session.
So anyway, I hope you enjoy them and they inspire ideas of your own! Please note, though, that we haven’t tried all of them. Some of them may not be practical.
1) Hold Pennies Against the Wall
This task is very hard: have him hold pennies against the wall using only his fingertips — one penny per finger. Depending on how you position his arms, this can be easy or extremely difficult. Arms spread wide apart forces him to get his face very close to the wall and will tire his arms quickly. Same with his hands being very high up.
For every penny that drops, punish him. Keep the punishments severe enough that he really fears dropping a penny.
You can also make him hold a penny against the wall using his erect cock. This will force him to keep himself hard.
2) Controlled Orgasms
Rules that control his orgasms are the most effective and psychologically impactful rules you can impose. These rules also become good excuses for torment and punishment. The mix of wanting to orgasm and facing big punishments feels very exciting.
Ideas for Normal Situations
He has to earn orgasms –> After you have had five orgasms, he gets one. –> He chooses to undergo a punishment or humiliation in order to flip a coin. Heads grants him an orgasm. Tails gets him another punishment or humiliation –> He earns points toward his next orgasm by acting the role of the “perfect slave.” These can only be earned by doing things for you without being asked, and acting the part perfectly. 20 points per orgasm.
He must ask permission prior to orgasm.
He is allowed to orgasm, but doing so carries an automatic set of punishments or humiliations.
Every time he orgasms, he owes you a favor.
You pretend to believe that he will take any opportunity to have an orgasm, and go to great lengths to prevent it (chastity belt, lots of restraints, careful supervision).
After every orgasm, he must collect his semen and do something embarrassing with it.
Come up with a “training regimen” to teach him to resist orgasm. He wears a chastity belt until he can resist your best efforts to get him to come while you reach two or three orgasms.
He is forbidden to clean up his own semen if it lands on him.
He gets a very short window every day to bring himself to orgasm while you watch. The chastity belt goes back on at the end whether he succeeds or not.
He gets a set limit of orgasms per week, which he can trade like currency. (His limit could be one. Or one every two weeks. Just because he can trade doesn’t mean he needs a lot of them.)
When a Slave’s Been Bad
Instead of a promised orgasm, he has to edge instead and thank you at the end as if he had an orgasm.
Lengthen the time he has to wear the chastity belt.
Treat pre-cum as orgasms for punishment purposes.
Warn him about a severe punishment if he orgasms, then tie him down and ride him until he does.
During the time when he is permitted to orgasm, position his body so that he can’t prevent himself from coming on himself.–>Make him put his knees on the wall behind him so that his cock points toward his face
If you are on top and he comes, keep going. The sensory overload is really overpowering. Even though it feels great, it’s a good “mean” thing to do to him.
Punishment Ideas
Remember that if your slave just had an orgasm without permission, he’s less in the mood than he was before. So instead of a regular punishment, pick one that is more severe, and execute it after he’s back in the mood (possibly the next day).
Make him write out a coupon for a certain number of days spent in a chastity belt. Spend it whenever you like. If he picks a number that is lower than what you picked, make him choose again and double his next result. (You can choose to have him give you a number of orgasms instead of a number of days.)
If he comes inside of you, sit on his chest while his semen drains out of you. Tie him up until it dries.
Chain a heavy weight to his chastity belt for a while, giving him something he either has to drag by his balls or deal with as he does other tasks for you.
3) Edging
Edging is the practice of bringing someone very close to the point of orgasm and then baking off. It’s usually done repeatedly, which both increases sexual need and results in the closest thing to multiple orgasms for a man. You can force your Slave to edge himself a few times to increase his sexual need. Or, you can do it to him and punish him if he orgasms. This will force him to resist orgasm.
4) Must Volunteer Information
This is similar to the “Must Not Lie” rule, but forces him to give you extra details whenever he’s answering a question. It can be very useful, because he has to actively think about what other secrets he can divulge. Use it to force him to keep you aware of the things he’s thinking about.
Ideas for Normal Situations
He must tell you when he’s horny
He must go into detail about what he wants sexually and why
Whenever he’s asked a question, he has to answer it, and then say “Also…” and add more details.
He must try to help you come up with more effective punishments, more humiliating tasks, and tell you how he might try to get out of obeying you
When a Slave’s Been Bad
Since you can’t read his mind, there’s no way to know if he’s holding something back. Rely on punishments if you find out that he didn’t tell you something.
Punishment Ideas
This is a rule that focuses on helplessness and humiliation. It’s also oral, since he has to tell you things. If you catch him leaving something out, punish him accordingly.
Make him write out several punishments and rank them according to desirability. Pick one or more for him to go through.
Make him tell you the most humiliating punishment he can think of. If he disobeys again, he has to go through with it.
Take away his right to speak for a while. Use a ball gag or tape if necessary.
Tell him to apologize. Don’t accept his apology until he recommends a good physical punishment or humiliation for you to employ.
5) Must Keep Legs Spread
Here is a very simple rule that is designed to keep things awkward for him and emphasize that his cock and balls belong to you. Usually the rule is that his legs can’t touch his cock or balls while you are in the room. Tell him that you want to see his balls hanging down.
Ideas for Normal Situations
He must keep his legs spread whenever you are within reach of his genitals
He must spread his legs on command
When a Slave’s Been Bad
He must keep his legs spread at all times, just in case.
Tie his legs up by the knees and spread them out. Then tease him by doing things to him that would make him want to close his legs
Punishment Ideas
Breaking this rule is all about not giving you access to his cock and balls, or about him not putting them on display for you. Punish him accordingly.
Tie his ankles to his wrists. Then tie his elbows to his knees. Last, pull his cock and balls behind his legs and tie his legs together so that they are trapped down by his butt. Now he gets to keep his legs closed, but you have full access to the genitals. Torture them for a while until he becomes more compliant.
Since he won’t put his genitals on display on his own, take away all his clothes and tie him up in a full-body rope harness. That way he can stay on display for you until you get tired of him.
6) Must Obey
Make it unconditional that he has to obey you, or anyone you specify, and punish him if he doesn’t do it promptly or well. This is one of those rules that you’ll talk about a lot, bringing it up to him to remind him that he doesn’t have a choice (or that you’ll punish him severely) if he doesn’t obey.
Ideas for Normal Situations
Have him acknowledge every command with “yes ma’am,” “yes, mistress,” or similar.
Give him a time limit to obey. For example, he might get punished for not jumping to do what you say within three seconds.
If he’s being forced to obey someone else, have him ask that person to give you an evaluation of how well he did.
Test him by giving him a list of things to do while you are away. Demand proof that he did them.
Come up with a word you can use to tell him that you are giving him an order while he’s in public so that others aren’t aware that you’re giving him a command to obey.
When a Slave’s Been Bad
Dramatically increase the number of things he has to do so that he’s kept very busy
Use toys, locks, and complicated tasks to make obeying very hard, such as –> Blindfolding him, then telling him to get a specific item that can only be identified by sight –> Chaining up his hands and then giving him something to type (with his tongue?) –> Give him an enema, and tell him he can’t release it until a task is done.
Give him tedious tasks, like writing out a sentence fifty times.
Punishment Ideas
Failure to obey you should carry the harshest punishments. The point of this game is to use punishments to force him to obey you. Therefore, the punishments have to be intense enough that doing humiliating and painful tasks is less miserable than going through with the punishments. Generally, you want to pick very painful or very humiliating punishments for this kind of error. Try to get him to call out in pain several times. He’s got a safe-word if you go too far.
Chain him up so he is completely immobile, then leave him like that for a while, maybe periodically torturing him.
Take away a sense or a privilege for a long time, such as use of his hands for 24 hours.
Add a couple extra rules to his list of rules
Make him pick a few punishments he would rather not be forced to undergo and then draw one randomly
Add a few days of slavery to his sentence
7) Must Become Hard
With this rule, the slave must force himself to become hard. This usually carries a time-limit, or is just a way for you to keep his hands on his cock, constantly fumbling with it. This has more to do with him having to make himself hard with you watching than it does with him getting hard. He is putting himself on display. Keep that in mind and see if you can think of ways to change things up.
Consider making him exaggerate the process so that it’s extra disruptive. Some ideas are to have him stretch out his cock, or use both hands, or kneel until it’s done.
This rule can be fun if he can’t use his hands to make himself hard. He’ll be left humping you or the furniture to comply.
Ideas for Normal Situations
When Mistress enters the room, slave has a certain amount of time to make himself hard.
On a schedule, such as once every three hours, slave has to make himself hard and present his cock for your inspection. If it’s not hard enough, or if it offends you in any way, he can be punished.
When seeing something arbitrary, such as a high heel, he has to become hard –> You might say, “You like skirts so much? Well, you’re going to show it!” And have him make himself hard every time he sees one on TV.
Upon hearing an arbitrary word, such as “songbird,” he has to make himself hard.
When a Slave’s Been Bad
Instead of just making himself hard once, he has to become hard, become soft, and become hard again –> Add a time-limit to complete this task to make it harder.
Make it more uncomfortable for him by keeping him from freeing his cock from his clothes or adjusting it while it’s getting hard.
Forbid him to use his hands to make himself hard or simply tie his hands out of reach of his cock. This will make it much tougher, but still possible.
Make him stay hard for five minutes before he can let go of his cock or stop stimulating it.
Punishment Ideas
If he fails to become hard for you in time (or if he forgets), change the rule so that he isn’t allowed to become hard for a day. See if you can catch him breaking that rule and slap a chastity belt on him.
The next time he has to be hard on command, put him in a lot of pain by slapping at his balls with a ruler or squeezing them (or similar) while he is trying to get hard.
Make him get hard without physical contact on his cock of any kind. (This might be very difficult.) Tie him up to be sure that he can’t move, of course.
8) Must Use Specific Names
This is a rule in every slave contract: that he must refer to you by a name of your choice. You can extend this to involve other women or other people. Common examples are:
Ma’am
Mistress
My Lady
Goddess
Madam
Ideas for Normal Situations
He isn’t allowed to use your name.
He has to answer “yes, <special name>” whenever you give a command
Must call other men and women “sir” or “ma’am,” even if he knows their names.
Must be sure to state your special name before asking any question
When a Slave’s Been Bad
Once again, this rule is so common that it’s almost always in a contract. I can’t think of tougher ways to implement it.
Punishment Ideas
This rule is a vocal one, so punishments can involve the mouth or speech. But don’t let that stop you from popping him in the testicles for forgetting to say your name before a question. Just be sure to catch him every time.
Make him wear a ball gag for thirty minutes every time he forgets
Tape his mouth shut when he forgets
Make him eat or drink something (like alcohol?) every time he messes up.
Place a clothes pin on his tongue for a while
Make him hold something with his mouth
9) Must Kiss
Slave must kiss some part of Mistress under some conditions. Type of kiss, duration, and number of kisses are up to you. You could, for example, make him practice kissing until he gets it exactly right.
Body Parts to Kiss
Vagina
Ass
Feet
Hand
Mouth
Ideas for Normal Situations
You can assign different body parts to kiss under different situations. If he forgets or gets one wrong, he gets punished. For example –> He must kiss a chosen body part when you enter the room –> He must kiss your clitoris after you orgasm –> When Waking –> Before Bed –> While showering, he must constantly kiss your vagina –> When seeing something arbitrary, such as a high heel –> Upon hearing an arbitrary word, such as “songbird.”
When a Slave’s Been Bad
He must practice kissing the chosen body part. The more disobedient he has been, the longer he has to practice.
Instead of a simple kiss, you can make a complicated series of kisses that he has to get right every time.
You can put a blindfold on him before he kisses. If he misses the spot, he gets punished.
Punishment Ideas
Kissing is an oral act, so you might want punishments to involve the mouth. Here are some ideas.
Leave him in a ball gag for a period of time for every mistake he makes with this rule.
Force him to wear bright red lipstick and gloss (make his lips kissable) to remind him what his duty is.
Take away the use of his hands (using ropes or chains) and let him use his mouth as hands for a while. When he has had enough, give him a test to see if he has learned his lesson.
10) Must Wear Collar and/or Cuffs
You require your slave to wear a collar, wrist cuffs, or ankle cuffs, or any combination both as a symbol that you own him and so that you can quickly restrain him at any time.
Since the collar and cuffs can’t be ignored, it will force him to remember the situation he’s in. You might want to avoid making him wear a collar while he sleeps, but that is the only one you need to be careful about. Cuffs while sleeping are just fine.
Ideas for Normal Situations
When he gets up or gets home from work, he must lock a collar and cuffs on himself. Only you can unlock them.
He has to lock chains that hang freely from his collar and/or cuffs.
He has to sleep with wrist and/or leg cuffs on.
He has to lock himself to the bed when he goes to sleep.
He has to lock something embarrassing to his collar.
When a Slave’s Been Bad
Not only does he have to lock cuffs on himself when he gets home, he has to lock his wrists together and his ankles together. You unlock him when you get home or by telling him where the key is by phone.
He must lock something very heavy to his ankle cuff. Like a locked bag of bricks, or a suitcase full of heavy items.
Make him lock himself to the toilet or to some other immovable object by running a chain behind it.
Punishment Ideas
Usually, the punishment comes from him unlocking the cuffs ahead of schedule. Sometimes this is necessary for safety or for other reasons (like a friend comes by), but you can still punish him for it. Simple restraint is perfect for that.
Run a rope or chain over a beam in the roof and raise his wrists as high as possible, maybe even making him stand on his toes. Tie it off so that he has to stand like that. Torture as desired. He won’t be able to stop you.
Before he goes to bed, make him wear short chains that either link his wrists, his ankles, or link a wrist to an ankle. You can also lock his wrists to a bondage belt.
Tie him in the frogtie and the chicken-wing tie at the same time. Torture him, make him walk on his knees and elbows, or just leave him stuck on the ground for a while.
Tie him spread-eagled on the bed. Use your imagination after that.
11) Flexibility, Strength, and Weight
I’ve combined three rules into one here. You can force him to reach (or maintain) a specific weight, achieve a certain degree of flexibility, or force him to gain strength. All of these require a test after a long period of time to see if he meets the goal. Failure needs to have a significant-enough punishment that it will push him to exercise and stretch for so many days to try to reach the goal.
It also gives you a convenient way to punish him in a way that will hurt for a long time. You can force him to do 100 situps, for example, and his ab muscles will ache for days. However, this can interfere with other games where you are pushing his body to its limits.
Ideas for Normal Situations
He has to lose a certain number of pounds by a certain date.
He has to become flexible enough to perform yoga moves of your choosing
He must become strong enough to hold something heavy for a period of time
When a Slave’s Been Bad
Force him to exercise in a tedious and very challenging way, such as crawling to every room in the house fifty times.
Force him to exercise until he is too exhausted to stop you from overpowering him
Punishment Ideas
These rules require him to exercise so often and for so long that you need to have punishments that will motivate him to work through the pain and boringness of exercise over a period of weeks. Pick punishments that make him pale, or that are worse than the exercise itself.
Add a period of slavery for every pound he fails to lose by the deadline, maybe a week per pound.
Put together a list of extreme hard labor that he must do if he fails to make his goal. Make him do the work naked, in chains, or while wearing uncomfortable toys like a large butt-plug.
12) May Not Flinch
Slave is punished for flinching. Pulling away counts as resistance, just like saying “no.” You have free reign over the slave’s body. You can even make him act like he is happy when you touch him. But he can never show you the disrespect of moving away when you want to touch him.
Ideas for Normal Situations
Once he realizes what you’re reaching for, he must try hard to put that body part in your easy reach, either by moving closer, removing clothes, or assuming an agreed-upon position (like putting his hands behind his head).
When a Slave’s Been Bad
Add a line in your notes or itinerary to try to get him to flinch a certain number of times each day. Once he passes the test, this rule can be dropped. But be convincing!
Tie his hands behind his back, and tie those ropes around his balls. Then try to get him to flinch. If he moves, he will yank on his balls. Train him to hold very still by trying to get him to flinch.
Add extra physical punishments or humiliation if you catch him flinching. (Two punishments instead of one, etc.)
Punishment Ideas
Tie his hands and legs very securely so that he can’t flinch. Then give him several reasons to flinch while he’s unable to. That way, he can tell the difference between when it is appropriate to flinch and when it isn’t.
Tie or wrap his hands (which are primarily used to protect body parts) in very awkward orientations so that they are not only useless, but uncomfortable or awkward. For example, tape his thumbs together and secure them to the back of his collar with a short rope.
13) May not Say a certain word
This is both a teasing rule and a very serious one. Consider these two situations:
He is not allowed to say “no” to anyone.
He is not allowed to say the word “is.”
In the first example, you make it clear that he’s expected to do whatever anyone asks. This is a straight-forward and common rule.
In the second example, you pick a common word and wait for him to forget the rule, giving you frequent opportunities to punish him.
Ideas for Normal Situations
He may not use the word “no.”
He may not use personal pronouns (me, my, our) and instead has to substitute “the slave” for them.
He may not speak unless addressed by someone (asked a question, etc.)
You force him to use an embarrassing word for his cock.
When a Slave’s Been Bad
He has a limit of words (or sentences) that he can say, after which he must be absolutely silent. (If you have a hard time keeping track, just count the number of times he starts talking.
He may only speak while wearing a gag or with something held in his mouth.
Punishment Ideas
This is simple: if he speaks out of turn, focus on oral punishments. Bad tastes, gags, extremely hot foods, and so on.
Gag him for a while, possibly sacrificing a meal.
Make him hold something in his mouth. (Your freshly-worn panties, a jalapeno, or a piece of soap.
Make him conduct a complicated task with his mouth (such as sorting the sex toys, sorting your panties by color, and so on.
Thanks to Mistress Kylie, Her slave & femaledomination
Male Chastity is Special...
WHAT’S SPECIAL ABOUT IT?
Chastity between a loving couple is unique, alluring and arousing. It is a special intimacy between you both, which you can keep secret from the world…
HOW DOES CHASTITY ENHANCE YOUR SEXUAL PLEASURE?
When a man is locked in his chastity device he learns through servitude and chivalrous behaviour that sexual gratification is not limited to the pleasure and moment of his orgasm…
He learns and wants to place your pleasure above his!
In our culture how often is sex considered finished after he cums? Are you sexually satisfied at this very moment too? Does it feel like you’ve been watching a good film together and he’s switched off the television half way through the movie?
Chastity teaches him to consider you, and your orgasms. Whilst holding his key can could gently deny him permission to cum on many an occasion, and yet expected him serve his keyholder with his tongue and lips, or perhaps you favourite dildo, with skill, devotion and love. He will become a sensual, playful, confident lover considering only the needs of his Lady…
DOES IT MEAN I’LL HAVE LESS SEX?
Quite the contrary!
Male Chastity is about you sharing his sexual fantasy and him fulfilling your sexual needs. His chastity fetish is all about pleasing you. (Although honestly it shouldn’t take the wearing of a chastity device to get him to do the washing up!)
Wearing a Chastity Device does not mean your man is sexually inadequate. He can be masculine, sexually able, enjoy wearing a chastity device and be virile. If you want he can still make the first move in bed…
Being a keyholder to your locked up man offers a fulfilling sex life, arousal, pleasure and fun, but in a different way. A way where his attention is focused on you rather than his own penis, this means that sexual delights have much less to do with traditional “penis-in-vagina” intercourse, and more to do with the delights of extended foreplay, exploration, sensuality, and arousal. You could even combine it with Tantric sexuality…
Holding the key to his chastity device means you can orgasm as often as you like, he can be the soul provider of these orgasms, whilst he is denied the pleasure of his own…
When you’d like to experience full intercourse, release him, then lock him up again. You might like to experiment with his self control, with cum-control, in this case release him ask him to pleasure you but instruct him not to cum. Afterwards lock him up again!
Should he be allowed to cum?
Yes! But how often this happens is up to you. He will probably suggest when it should be, but really it is your decision. The special allure of chastity is the promise of an overwhelming orgasm with you. It’s the build up of sexual anticipation that makes chastity work, so he must be allowed to cum – occasionally!
Once his penis is locked in a Chastity Device he lives in a state of high erotic anticipation which can be joyous, sensually provocative and yet very frustrating, but without the promise of an overwhelming orgasm shared with you, chastity may not work. Very few men dream of being locked up and their penis totally ignored…
WHY DOES HE WANT ME TO HOLD HIS KEY?
What excites him is that his penis becomes yours. You control its freedom. You hold the key. You are his Keyholder…
Chastity relies on the excitement of the mind before arousal of his body. This teaches us that the role of the keyholder is pivotal to the chastity lovestyle. You arouse his thoughts by holding his key which prevents him from touching his penis and so that masturbation is almost impossible – without your permission.
When he first hands over his key, part of his fantasy is fulfilled, and if you choose you could wear the key around your neck or ankle…
As you and your lover experiment with male chastity it’s possible that you may become closer and the bond between you enriches as fantasies are shared and enacted. You may discover that trust, communication, support and the love shared between you flourishes…
As a keyholder you may discover when your man is safely locked in his chastity device and looking forward to a “Cum-Day” that he will strive just a little more than usual towards better servitude both around the home and in the bedroom. The promise of release is a most compelling stimulant…
Thanks to Tickleberry
Chastity Links
—- work in progress —-
—- last update 07/07/16 —-
if there’s a page or site you think should be on this list please drop me a message
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Updated Library For Kinksters
I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…
Aftercare
Aftercare 101
Aftercare For Dominants
Coping With Emotional Subdrop
Dom Drop
How To Make A Sub Drop Kit
Online Aftercare
sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare
Subdrop and Aftercare
Subspace and Aftercare
Consent
Consent & BDSM
Guide to Consent
Doms, Daddies & Masters
7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom
12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive
25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles
30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman
45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For
50 Rules for Daddies
100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess
101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)
Alternative Names For “Daddy”
Alternative Domme Titles
Aspects Of Control
Asserting Ownership - Rules
Daddy Up!
Defining A Daddy Dom
Dominants Need Training Also
Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles
Help For New Doms
How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive
How To Be A Good Dominant
How to Find a Submissive
Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man
New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom
Observations On Doms By A Submissive
So you want to be a Dom?
So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her
Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know
The Dom Commandments
Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind
What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective
What does the title Daddy mean?
What is a Daddy Dom?
What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?
What It Means To Be A Dominant
What Makes A Good Dominant
Littles, Subs & Slaves
6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant
7 Common Types of Submissives
10 Tips For Living With A Sadist
10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive
11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant
26 Baby Girl Jobs
50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy
A Bottom’s Responsibility
A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive
A Man Who Knows You…
A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom
Acid Test For Subs
Ask A Million And One Questions
Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective
Baby girl or little? A brief introduction
Care and feeding of Daddies
Characteristics Of A Good Daddy
Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner
Feminist Submissive
Finding Your Dominant
Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By
Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls
How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.
“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.
How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?
How To Find A Dom
How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom
I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy
Novice Submissives
Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK
Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’
Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.
Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts
Submissive Pride
Submissive Traits - Intelligence
Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me
What is a Little?
When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.
Why I call him Daddy
Your Rights As A Submissive
Long Distance Relationships
10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship
Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship
How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work
Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope
Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans
The Long Distance D/s Relationship
Mental Health
BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers
Body image & BDSM
How to Get Over Feeling Sad
Is BDSM normal?
Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!
Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship
Meditation And Mindfulness
On Cutting
Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories
Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction
Tips for Recovering from Codependency
What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)
Why Do I Feel Unloveable?
Relationships
10 Habits of Happy Couples
10 Top Communication Mistakes
10 Types of Emotional Manipulators
12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget
50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”
BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End
BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways
Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective
Communication Is Key
Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships
Daddy Doms and their little girls
Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More
Date Night In A Jar
DD/lg In Public
D/s and Domestication
Factors That Make A Relationship
Finding Love When You Least Expect It
Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests
How To Be Present In Your Relationships
How To Build A Healthy Relationship
How To Get What You Want In A Relationship
How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”
How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level
Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship
Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship
Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait
Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore
Searching for a D/s partner?
Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships
Stop Arguments Before They Start
The Rewards of a Submissive
Types Of Relationship Insecurity
Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship
What Is Real Love?
When He Doesn’t Call
Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better
Safety
Another life ruined because of the morality police
Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!
Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t
Limits in BDSM
What is Emotional Abuse?
Self Improvement
10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life
10 Steps To Self Care
10 Ways To Be Happy
10 Truths To Live By
Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive
How to be Yourself
How To Deal With Your Enemies
How To Ignore Haters
How to Recognize a Toxic Friend
How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
Slut Shaming Explained
Tips for Healing a Broken Heart
What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?
Sex
50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women
Basics of Breath Play
D/s or Kinky Sex?
Fetishes Explained
How To Make A Girl Squirt
How To Tell Your Son About Sex
Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality
Sensual Biting
Sex: Myths & Stereotypes
Sex: Practical Details
Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control
So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women
Squirting Educational Video
Squirting Notes
Toys
Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs
BDSM on a budget
Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)
Training
10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs
30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten
40 Very Important DD/lg Facts
Age Play: A Short Guide
BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play
DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)
Etiquette in BDSM Part 1
Etiquette in BDSM Part 2
Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings
Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind
Glossary of BDSM Terms
Guide To Blood Play
Guide To Bruising
Guide To Talking Dirty
Guide To Wax Play
How Do I Get Started In BDSM?
How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest
How To Make A Comfort Box
Introduction To BDSM
Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting
Punishments in BDSM Relationships
Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships
Some Thoughts On Rules
The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility
The Need For Rules and Discipline
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