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@tobereadindiapers-again
Hello! I loved reaching your "The Nurse" short story so much. I was wondering if you would be willing to make a part 2 for the following caption:
https://www.tumblr.com/tobereadindiapers-again/717304205256376320
hey thank you! Here ya go!
One Year
Masculinity in Diapers
I lift at my home gym, I have a beard, and a traditionally masculine job. I try to present as masculine. I also wear and use diapers 24/7. My girlfriend says I'm "cute"
Can you still see a man as masculine once you've seen him change his own diaper?
Yes
No
Masculinity is a construct of your frail male ego
Girls are so nice after they hear that I’m incontinent. It always starts off with being flirty and then when I bring up that I have a medical condition, they switch from sexy mode to a caring one. Finally, they say something along the lines of some global probably find you attractive and accept you before they slowly start ghosting me.
Has that happened to you? What’s it like to be in the dating scene when you’re incontinent or dealing with women?
No sugar coating it, it's hard man. I've had more luck with repeat dates by playing it off as not really a big deal, which I guess is arguable. But more often than not I have the same results you're describing. Most women are kind, empathetic, but ultimately no longer interested.
All I can really say is you have to stick with it. The reality is it's a lot for them to come into suddenly. Incontinence is a disability, but a largely invisible one. People who get involved with a wheelchair user or an amputee or something similar can presumably envision what that relationship will be like, and weigh the pros and cons. Not a lot of people realize what incontinence really entails. You just have to be persistent until you find someone who can stick it out. Be honest, be upfront, be nonchalant, be confident and I wish you the best of luck.
100 little humiliations
A lot of folks like to focus on, or think about, the obvious and initial humiliations of dating in diapers. The first disclosure, and of course the first time you're intimate. I've not seen many people mention the other 100 little humiliations that follow during the "break in period" of a new relationship with an incontinent partner. Your able bodied partner has to learns in a hurry what it took you years to come to terms with. It's one thing to say "I don't care that you need to wear diapers." It's a totally different thing to see it.
Watching your partner mess himself for the first time.
Watching your partner leak into his pants for the first time.
Noticing for the first time that he stuffs his diaper with a liner before he goes to bed, or wants to drink. Noticing his diaper is EVEN larger than it already was.
The reality of learning yes, he gets diaper rash, and, yes, it makes him fussy.
Learning he keeps an over sized diaper bin in his closet.
Learning he has to "air out", and seeing it.
Watching him snap on his onesie, and having him explain to you it's adaptive clothing and not fetish wear.
Learning to sleep on crinkling plastic sheets
Having to buy him baby powder and butt paste when you're grocery shopping.
Learning all of his drawers are reserved for his diapers.
Discovering what stale morning piss smells like, and realizing that's every morning from here on out.
Learning diapers are both a hassle AND embarrassing to travel with.
Learning your boyfriend has the same vibrator as you, in a different color. And having to hear him explain it's because he doesn't like to get pee on his hand every-time he masturbates .
Learning and seeing he shaves himself bare below the waist to make his diaper changes faster and cleaner.
Watching him put down a "puppy pad" before long car trips or on his home office chair.
Accepting that his room smells like a nursery, and there's nothing you can do about it.
Being peed on for the first time.
And a hundred other little humiliations. Every day.
All this is to say I have a VERY patient and accepting girlfriend, and I'm very thankful.
Comment on any you're curious about and I'm happy to expound on the experience this weekend.
Any updates on the work incident with your office finding out? Also how’s dating life been for you with to be in diapers. Do u have setbacks with it? Do you have any stories of recent dating encounters?
Hey, thanks for the ask. Nice to know people are thinking of me, even during my posting drought. Life since work exposure hasn't changed? Hah I never brought it up with the folks that work for me, and they haven't brought it up either. So we all just... don't talk about it, which works for me!
I won't sugar coat it. Dating as a young man with incontinence can be hard. I've never had a one night stand since my accident, and don't intend to. And no, girls don't necessarily run screaming, but I have my fair share of dates, and even short term relationships that deteriorate fairly quickly after disclosure, of if my diapers weren't the stated cause.
All that said, it IS still possible to date, and I do currently have a girlfriend. We've been going strong for a few months and I'm optimistic! She's very lovely.
Howd you find out it was an open secret?
Yeah, so without getting too in the weeds, I work in a small regional office. It's just me, my two employees and two six month seasonal interns. I overheard the two interns chatting one morning in the parking lot as I rolled into work. She said something along the lines of "No, I think he actually might wear them all the time." And they both sorta hushed up when I closed my truck door and they saw me. Since they're not there very long I sorta thought that was kinda weird they'd know, so I sorta spiraled with a bit of paranoia. A week later I called my boss at the main office (a state away) and sorta probed for info "Have you heard anything about any heath issues I may have?" And she's kind of a wild one, and basically hinted she knew. I asked her where that info came from, and she mentioned rumors in her office. Which sorta indicated to me the jig was up if HER office knew. So yeah, I came clean, she was SUPER cool about it and we started talking about accommodations and such. So no, I don't KNOW who all knows, but it seems likely that at least my office knows if hers does a state away.
No Swimming Today
Incon Couple 4
A great caption written by and staring the lovely @dillydallydiapergal and featuring yours truly. Credit to her as she talked me into giving more colorful diapers a try, if only briefly...
Try Something New
Send me a caption, and I'll caption myself or another photo
a re you still offering commissions
Not at the moment, but always feel free to DM me pics and/or ideas, and I might do them for free!
In Other News
It was brought to my attention this week my incontinence was an open secret at work. So after two years of trying to hide it at work I chatted with my boss. She more or less confirmed my suspicions, and helped me put in for special accommodation. A lidded trash can and an additional 15 minute break each day. It's not much, but I want to highlight small silver linings. Additionally, it's a mixed blessing, but knowing that my workmates have known for some time and nothing really changed but a few small perks is a small relief. I DO however feel very weird going to work knowing everyone (presumably) knows now. Like I FEEL them knowing every time I talk with someone. More self conscious than ever somehow. I don't know. Mixed feelings this week.
Anyway, I'm semi around again. Say hey. Or send an ask or whatever!
Suck it Up
