Obey Me, I R Dom

Stories of all of the terrible Dominants out there that give Dom/mes everywhere a bad name. Feel free to submit your worst. Please keep in mind that this blog is NSFW by nature. It includes graphic images not intended for a young audience or a professional environment. Furthermore, this blog discusses some pretty heavy topics, including, but not limited to, rape, sexual assault, violence, and abuse. Posts signed with -WJS are written by WrongJohnSilver, a middle-aged male Dominant. Posts signed -SD are written by SubmissiveDreamer, a young female submissive. Posts signed -LMS are written by LoveMySub, a male Dominant.

[submissivedreamer-deactivated20]

Goodbye!

With tumblr soon setting all adult blogs to private, I think now is as good a time as any to say goodbye to everyone. I haven’t been active on this blog for at least a couple years, so this shouldn’t be much of a surprise.

I’ve made many friends on this website and learned a lot about myself. I’m grateful for those who supported me as I learned more about myself and explored my sexuality.

Those who I have talked to for a long time know how to find me. If there are any missed connections who want to remain in touch, message me at @empatheticdevil and we can talk about it.

Thank you for the support here and on TDFY. I will always be grateful for that.

Farewell. ❤️

[toodomforyou]

-SD

[flamingdumpsterkittn]

Honestly, though. This is why my messages are closed. I gave someone a chance…and this is what I get…ugh.

“Like yall watch too much porn. I’m not over here being DJ Clit because you’re jerking your dick”

-@daddys-kitt3n27

[itsallprimal]

@daddy-venom 

https://daddy-venom.tumblr.com/

My god boy…. if you are going to say you are masturbating to a woman at least have the couth to have reblogged some of her material or posts…. not just only 2.

And I say boy because you use the word “Dom” in your name .. even worse you try to smear it with the coolness of the Venom characteristics obviously NOT even a clue about that dynamic.. Venom is not a “dominant” to others.but i digress (more proof of an idiot) 

And then we finalize you hitting up @flamingdumpsterkittn for “cyber playtime” and I bet if we contacted all the other nice girls that you reblog on your page we would see the same pathetic attempt at “communication” …. shall we tag them as well .. no lets share this post that you re-blogged.. 

https://daddy-venom.tumblr.com/post/178832704413/toodomforyou-sensualslave1993

I hate still seeing the lack of ability in “men” these days on the ability to develop rapport and dialogue without being some creepy slug.. worse is you actually post a “what not to do when messaging” and .. then…. 

and yes I chose that gif because you are just as dumb and goofy… 

Anyhow just gonna @toodomforyou tag you for this… and in closing..when I post these rebuttals it is not because any of these women need a man to defended them, it is because men like me despise seeing young men be stupid. 

~Primal

[toodomforyou]

Well, @itsallprimal did all the work for us on this one. I can’t really add anything to this smackdown except that I hope @daddy-venom takes the whipping the the lesson and doesn’t try this shit again.

Don’t be this guy, folks.

-LMS

[queerandcoffee]

Approach me like this again, I dare you.

@toodomforyou @yes-this-is-not-ok @indian-men-on-the-internet

[toodomforyou]

Nothing screams “dominant” like desperate pleas for a stranger to message you on Kik 😆 Little pro tip for all you doms out there.

-LMS

[toodomforyou]

At least he got the faggot part right 🙄 (I’m a married queer person)

“You are one of hundreds of messages I send a day”…. You think…you think that just maybe that might be a problem there, buddy? -LMS

[toodomforyou]

Incidentally, if anyone ever wonders why "yes, all women" is a thing? This guy right here. He's literally trying to spam all women. One little guy, tons of misogyny for everyone.

-WJS

[toodomforyou]

At least he got the faggot part right 🙄 (I’m a married queer person)

“You are one of hundreds of messages I send a day”…. You think…you think that just maybe that might be a problem there, buddy? -LMS

[tinderfinds]

he responded by saying he loved me and then unmatching immediately

[tomthefanboy]

Okay, but since @aprillikesthings posted this I now need a picture of Amethyst with a hand on the end of her whip and red hand prints on Peridot.

[aprillikesthings]

LOLOL YESSSSS

[phoenixsol]

@toodomforyou

[toodomforyou]

Ok, this is great and all, but now I’m just dying for someone to bust out one of those sticky red hand things during a scene 😂😂😂

-LMS

[toodomforyou]

😂😂😂😂

*YAWN*

Kiddo, if it were as easy as telling a stranger what you’d allegedly do to them, everyone would be doing it. Besides, we all know it would really look like 2.3 seconds of weak dry-humping and a sad little premature orgasm followed by you sobbing and swearing it had never happened before.

-LMS

[thetriskeliondiaries]

Can I offer a piece of advice? It’s important.

Tumblrdoms: shut this shit down.

To enter another person’s PM box with disregard is one thing. To demand to be called Sir by a submissive that is not yours, call her “sweetie,” and then to tell her she “needs a good hard canning”?

This is INAPPROPRIATE. This is RUDE. This is VIOLATING.

This is not how you win points and influence people. This is how you show the world that you are a child, a fuckwit, and an asshole.

Also? This pervert’s blog is a hot mess of nasty. Be careful, y’all.

@toodomforyou you see this mess today?

[toodomforyou]

@thetriskeliondiaries , there is nothing, and I mean *nothing* that screams “inexperienced baby dom who doesn’t understand the lifestyle” to me quite so loudly as someone proclaiming to be a dom who demands honorifics from strangers. It’s one of those things that happens to often it’s almost a running joke. Glad you set this dude straight.

And @wolfpack45herm , my dude, all you’re doing is making yourself look foolish when you do this shit. Nobody in the lifestyle will buy it. Educate and train yourself before you try approaching people. Show a little respect. You’d be amazed where that will get you.

-LMS

[subgirlygirl]

He’ll tell me what to look for… lol! 😆

@toodomforyou

[toodomforyou]

“ME BEING DOMINATE”. That’s always the very best sign, when the dominant doesn’t know how to spell “dominant”. It’s also always super encouraging when they are so lacking in experience that they assume mentioning the word “dominant” is going to be enough to make your heart go all aflutter.

But yeah, the makeup thing is really the kicker here. Unless he’s a professional makeup artist, I can not fathom a dude who feels like the brand of makeup someone uses is a deal-breaker. But hey, maybe that’s just me. Maybe I’m not dominate enough 😂

-LMS

[gracielaw99]

🚨Douche Alert!🚨 I don’t even have words for this one….😑

[daughterofaphrodite828]

What an asshat….@instructor144 @toodomforyou here’s an another youngster with no manners😡😡😡

Sorry you had to deal with this @gracielaw99 such inappropriate behavior is inexcusable… blocked 🤬🤬🤬

[toodomforyou]

@jaywillwreckya , I’m LMS, and in my spare time, I teach “talking to people on the internet 101”. Welcome to class.

Today’s lesson: absolutely nobody on planet earth takes a dude seriously when they say they have a “hung monster cock”. Even if it’s true (which, statistically speaking, it probably isn’t), nobody takes you seriously and nobody cares. And if the best you can do by the way of introduction is sending unsolicited sexual messages to a complete stranger, you’re showing yourself to be no different than the other 1,515,412 sad, thirsty dudes filling up a woman’s inbox. You ain’t special, buddy. “I have a penis and enjoy using it” isn’t a personality trait, and it sure as shit doesn’t give anyone a reason to spend more than about .0002 seconds thinking about you.

Please raise your hand if you have any questions.

-LMS

[toodomforyou]

Telling a stranger who has already made it clear they don’t want any of your lazy bs to call you daddy isn’t a good look for anyone imo

Demanding strangers address you with an honorific and calling their submission into question: a winning combination for the overachieving dumbinant.

-LMS

[toodomforyou]

Do you have any advice for a hooman pup.... I'm with someone who is uncomfortable with my kink, so I don't get to explore my pup space. I've asked other hooman pups and they've said I should break up with him... Not sure what to do honestly.

Some questions to think about:How important is this kink to me?Will I be satisfied without exploring this kink? Are we willing to consider an open relationship so that I can pursue this kink with someone more comfortable with it?Will I be happier dating someone else who allows me to fully express my kinks? Why are other people telling me to break up with my partner? What’s leading them to say that? Think about these questions and what those answers are like for you. Hopefully that gives you some clarity. -SD

[toodomforyou]

I’ve had my fair share of abuse following a rejection/callout etc however I wanted to show people that sometimes it does get the message across. Of course I’d rather not have to do it in the first place… (Also don’t get me started on his opening copy/paste spiel)

Aww, it’s always adorable when “doms” take themselves this seriously. “Just underneath my surface lies depraved sadistic torment. My soul is so dark!!! Most people can’t handle my black heart and supreme intelligence.”

Like, dude, just chill out, stop trying to present yourself like the Edgiest Edgelord who ever Edgelorded, and get to know someone. I guarantee there isn’t a human being above age 12 who doesn’t see right through that shit. You’re like an angsty middle school kid here, my man. And then she says “hey I’m not looking for anything” and you respond with some bizarre dog-fucking fantasy…Jesus Christ. Some of y’all just don’t understand how cringe-inducing the things you say are. I’m embarrassed for you.

-LMS

[toodomforyou]

That’s right all. My worth and power as a dominant comes from my ability to spell and the quantity of my submissives! *sarcasm*

So much for my decade of experience to his year or so?

Clearly this guy doesn’t know about the classic Domliness Equation. Dom Level equals Number of subs divided by number of spelling mistakes on one’s blog times 78% of cock circumference added to the number of impact toys owned. Everyone knows that. It’s basic BDSM math.

-LMS

[toodomforyou]

Do you believe that two subs, or two doms can be in a healthy BDSM relationship with each other? I know power balance is a big thing in BDSM, where the sub is handing over their power to the dom. But how would that work with two subs, or two doms? Do you believe that the subs would be unsatisfied with the relationship, since they don't have anyone to give them orders, or punishment. (1/2)

Or do you believe that it's possible for them to create their own set of rules for each other, and for both of them hold each other accountable? What about with two doms? Would they get on each other nerves two much, with each of them trying to boss the other around? I have my own opinions on this issue, but I'm not that familiar with BDSM, so I'd love to hear what someone with more experience give their two cents on this. (2/2)It’s certainly possible. I’d hesitate to say that anything categorically will never work. That being said, will it be fulfilling? That’s trickier. I suppose if you are willing and able to step into another role for your partner without it completely turning you off, it could work. In terms of just relationship dynamics as a whole, it certainly manifests itself in many relationships, without using the terminology of Dom and sub all the time. There are plenty of bossy, opinionated people in relationships with one another who “bicker it out” and make it work. There are plenty of deferential, placating people in relationships with one another who have a co-dependence but make it work. It’s possible. It happens. Whether or not it’ll fulfill you is another question entirely. And that could be moderated by your level of awareness of your sexual orientation through a BDSM lens, as well as the importance you place upon it. I need someone who is at least a little bit dominant in the bedroom to make things work. I absolutely couldn’t be with someone who is submissive. All the other iterations beyond that? It could potentially work. This is a fluff answer that doesn’t say much, now that I’m looking over it. It’s hard to speak in absolutes and generalizations. These are just my two cents overall. Hope that answers your question. -SD (still on a break, just here for this one question)

[toodomforyou]

YOU GUYS FUCKING SUCK

THANKS BRO WE WORK REALLY HARD AT IT-LMS

[toodomforyou]

DO YOU GUYS EVEN ANSWER ADVICE ?? How tf do you call yourself a blog but don't answer advice to make this a better place ? Smh

You want some advice, anon? I’ll give you some advice.

Here’s some advice: it’s important to remember that bloggers do this shit in our spare time and aren’t paid or otherwise compensated. The second you guys start paying our bills, you can start dictating when and how the three of us write. Until then, you’d do well to keep in mind that we all have lives, careers, relationships, families, and friends, and literally all of those things come before blogging on the priority list. All three of us are busy and time for tumblr is limited.

Here’s some advice: if you want an answer to your question, read the damn blog because chances are we’ve answered it before. That’s the thing about being an advice blog- both here and over on my personal blog, I tend to see the same dozen or so questions over and over and over again asked in only slightly different ways every time. “I don’t fit the typical bdsm _____ stereotype. Am I valid?”(yes, stop asking) “Hey, I’m in an LDR with someone I’ve never met or spoken to or seen a picture of and now I think something sketchy might be happening” (holy shit you’re just now thinking that??) “My dom _____________, (insert horribly abusive thing here), is this abuse?” (It obviously is, call the cops and get out). Anyway, I could go on but bottom line is it’s mostly the same dozen or so questions over and over and over with every person who asks thinking that their specific detail will somehow change the answer (Spoiler: it won’t). So read the damn blog because chances are your question, or one very much like it, has already been addressed.

Here’s some advice, just for you: fully functional and developed human beings don’t send shitty, petulant anons like this. If you have an issue, you talk to one of us privately and respectfully like an adult. Not because we’re so great that we deserve you to treat us differently than you do anyone else, but because that is how you should treat *everyone* all the time.

Here’s a last piece of advice: telling us how we should run our blog never ends well. Unfollow us and fuck right off, greyface.

Thanks! -LMS

[toodomforyou]

On that note, I’m announcing an official break from this blog. Life is busy and chaotic, and I just don’t have the time for tumblr right now.

Plus, as LMS said... we answer the same questions over and over. It is harder to make time when I know I’m regurgitating an answer I’ve said dozens of times before. Read through the blog - we have almost definitely answered your question before.

I can never stay away for too long, so I’m sure I’ll be back eventually, but tumblr isn’t a priority right now. And if announcing a break means less Anons will yell at us for not being present, then I’m going with that.

-SD