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“I won’t tell you what to do because no one likes that. I will, however, give you some life hacks I wish I knew when I was starting out my dreams of a career, and navigating life, love, pressure, choices, shame, hope and friendship.”

loveisbraveandwild

omg happy 6th birthday to this photo i love her

ok it is SO weird seeing people i followed ages ago back on here like hello!!!!!! long time no see!!!! i feel like im back in high school again 😭

slfcare

as the colder months approach: i wish you all a healthy, calm end of the year. i wish you tasty cups of tea, comfortable clothes, warm beds, nutritious meals in safe homes, good music, new friends and unwavering health. you deserve good things now.

i feel like someone who abandoned a house after living there for years and years who came back years later to see whats been going on there lmfao

mintywhisker-deactivated2021053

logging on to tumblr dot com like

toofrancy

im back again, bitches

anxietyproblem

bugboy111

mintywhisker-deactivated2021053

logging on to tumblr dot com like

wantinwasenough

everyone be quiet i'm praying

blackwoolncrown

White people: if you want to help long term: get used to being told your opinion is wrong, irrelevant, or unwanted. Tell your friends to get used to it. Work on getting used to it and do this work with other white people. Because white supremacy has all of y’all very used to being right and being an inherently valued voice and if we’re going to fight white supremacy you’re going to have to be comfortable surrendering that expectation and also white people will need to learn how to handle being rejected or disagreed with. It’s an extension of racism and racial trauma for black people to try and educate or speak up about our issues only to expose ourselves to your white fragility which makes you defensive– this defensiveness can look like shutting down, silencing us, painting all corrections or disagreements as ‘fighs’ (extending the idea that black people are aggressive) etc.

White resilience is the opposite of white fragility and black people are VERY good at resilience, unfortunately. Listen to us we know how to combat this.

blackwoolncrown

I have been on this site firmly yelling about social justice for years and haven’t received quite so many upset asks for at least 3 or so until I made this post. Multiple white people have messaged me or replied saying that it’s invalid, ‘racist’ or simply unfair to suggest that white people by virtue of being white may share a common problem. Y'all really do not want to understand that racism is systemic (sidenote, this is why NOTHING I say about you as a group qualifies as racism) and that you are ALL part of the system. It is not possible to fight racism but not address how you perpetuate white supremacy. White people: ask yourself why you are so upset by the idea that your whiteness is under critique. Ask yourself why you feel so comfortable telling the victims of racism how they should (and should not) fight racism. Funny that it makes you uncomfortable to think that perhaps your skin color may, in some cases, render your viewpoint…less than relevant.

Ask yourself why you are flinching and knee jerking at the idea that you may have to give up the privilege of having your voice ALWAYS being accepted and centered. Ask yourself why you think it’s unfair and upsetting that white people’s voices are going to need to be lessened if there is to be real equality. If you think this suggestion to learn to be open to and to accept being wrong, being told you need to listen and not speak, in order to balance the supremacy of white voices and white opinions; if you think this is too ‘rude’ or ‘racist’ or whatever, I want you to understand that that’s white supremacy talking. This is white fragility talking– the slightest suggestion that you may need to examine and surrender social privileges unevenly heaped in your favor has you automatically shutting down and silencing me. So this is me, telling you again: you are wrong more often than you know. And it’s time to accept that if you want to learn and grow. White people: learn to accept being wrong. Learn to accept being questioned and doubted– and learn to question and doubt yourself; ask if you’re thinking critically or just repeating racist shit you’ve heard all your goddamn lives.

humorlibrium

And that’s ALL white people. Not just white Americans y’all. I’ve heard so many White Latinos say “I’m not white” … but you are, and you get to live with white privilege. Let’s try and be a part of the solution instead of continuing the problem.

michaun

We are all put on this earth to be a service to others and I am grateful that for some, my Cheerios ponytail and sassy sashays may have given a little light to someone somewhere, who may have needed it. To everyone whose heartfelt stories I have heard, or read I thank you for truly enriching my life.

horreurscopes

i have never felt as mature as when i finally understood (through therapy) and internalized (through emotional work) that you cannot connect and communicate with some people no matter how kind, compassionate, understanding, articulate, eloquent, or smart you are, and that sometimes a person not listening to you does not reflect on your communication skills or ability to connect or straight up intelligence. in a way, it’s letting go of the belief that you have the power to make people understand you. communication is a two-way street, and needs two willing participants. some people are just walls, and it has been unbelievably helpful for my mental and emotional health to let it slide and know that it does not affect me or my self worth.

voguewoozi

some of you really, genuinely, unironically think that "cancel culture" is the most toxic thing about the internet and that it actually ends careers.... not a single "victim" of cancel culture has ever faced serious consequences beyond being forced to issue a notes app apology by their pr team. the real problem is stan culture bc it has you same people acting like celebrities are gods that walk among us and can therefore do no wrong. stan culture is the whole reason why cancel culture exists in the first place. if you didn't put these people on pedestals then you wouldn't react so wildly to something bad they've done

banditsheath-deactivated2020121

John Boyega legitimately deserves the world. He’s had to deal with so much bullshit from the day people learned he would be in Star Wars, had his character disrespected throughout the movies, and then treated like shit by weirdos who were obsessed about a shitty fake relationship, and now he’s out there with protestors while many of the people who disrespected him treat white celebrities like heroes for posting a black square on instagram.