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I hope everyone loses the world cup and then the universe explodes

my gen reaction to what my friends put up with from their men

Dylan O’Brien playing despicable characters >

I relate so much to this and like op says it’s not even like I’m craving grand gestures of love and affection from anyone but the only time any family member calls me is because they want or need something and even with potential friends I’ve TRIED being the initiator who calls / texts first and I enjoy it but no one ever texts first or comes over or asks to go out and it makes me feel so bad and I don’t mind being alone I’ve been alone most of my life but sometimes it really does get to me that it feels like I could literally disappear off the face of the earth and no one except maybe 2 people (mom, bestie) would know.

#leah rambles

clleanlliness

damn im such wasted potential, if i were only right in the head

#well yes

littleglitterdust

The guilt of being the daughter who loves her family but breathes easier when she’s far away

scorpionlafemme

Useless

#and then cheat + blame you #lmfao

thescienceofjohnlock

Some great advice from Facebook user Paul O’Connor who might make you think how to handle a potentially dangerous situation differently than a straight on confrontation or silently ignoring it. Good advice on what to do when you find yourself near a racist mouthy twat who is spouting out their crap at some unfortunate person. …

twodefenestrate

Good advice on what to do when you find yourself near a racist mouthy twat who is spouting out their crap at some unfortunate person.

NEVER engage the perpetrator. He (and it is usually he) is looking for confrontation. Instead speak to the person he is abusing. Say hello. Introduce yourself. Shake his or her hand. And just stand with them. Keep talking. About anything. Weather. Bus schedules. Football. This kind of bullying never works against a group of people having a conversation. Usually a single person travelling or a mom with a kid or maximum, two women are targeted.

Form a group of people with and around them if you can. Don’t tell them they are not alone. Just don’t let them be alone. I speak from experience. Once, I encountered a young girl wearing a hijab being abused as a terrorist by a drunk man on a train. I just went and sat beside her and started a conversation with her. After a while, the dude lost interest. I had a lovely chat with a young student from Qatar. She wanted to study literature while her dad was only prepared to pay for engineering or commerce as he wanted her to join the family business. It helped her feel safe and it expanded my horizons.

This is known in behavioral psychology as “non-complimentary behavior”; by not fueling the aggression of another person and you can flip the whole script of all their expectations, and without any footholds for their aggression (like direct provocation and confrontation/conflict) to launch into further tirades against, the aggressor can’t continue their angry scene-building. The more people who participate in script-flipping, the more successful it gets, as in this post you see with the advice to form a protective group between the bigot and their target for that very purpose.

There’s an NPR podcast called Invisibilia which goes into detail about how it works and what sort of people rely on it everyday professionally and for survival alike, in their Flipping the Script episode.

catharticscream

Remember in 2010 when Taio Cruz said "I throw my hands up in the air sometimes"? I appreciated his restraint. You can't just throw your hands up in the air whenever. There's a time and a place, and that time was 2010, and the place was the club.

#no it was gym class bc I was 11