I’m waiting for paint to dry so I thought I’d type up this little rp rant whilst I wait.
There is one thing I notice a lot on my dash in this fandom that I absolutely hate when it comes to rping, and that’s characters compensating for another mun being away from a blog that is is paired this theirs. I don’t think people in this fandom understand how incredibly guilting that is to the muns of their paired blog for not being around on that character. Don’t use the excuse that mun=/=muse here. If that was the case, you’d accept your partner not being on the blog paired with your own and work around it without having to address it as ‘such a character ran off suddenly’ ic.
When it comes to other fandoms I have rped in on the tumblr community(T&B, Portal and LoZ), they’ve all addressed this issue in a better and much nicer way. They just have had their muse not acknowledge the other not being there. And you know what? It actually works so much better that way. Your character won’t be around the character they’re paired with 24/7. They will have time to themselves, they will have time with other characters. And if you get messages asking where the character your muse is paired with is? Ignore them. You don’t have to answer all of your asks.
I just don’t think a lot of people here understand that roleplaying is not obligation, it’s a hobby. You have not signed a soul binding contract when you decided to start roleplaying, and you will need breaks from it to concentrate on real life. On your job, or your school/college work, or maybe even family issues and other things you need to attend to that’s away from the computer. If you have a partner that has had to take a break from their muse which is paired with your own, perhaps you should be considerate and decide not to make your muse whine about how their muse disappeared out of nowhere. Your partner will want to come back to have fun, right? To pick up from where they left off and not have to come up with annoying excuses for why they suddenly vanished.
Now I can understand if it’s arranged for your characters to do this, but if it’s not, can we please stop? You are taking an OOC issue out IC by doing this. You’re guilting your friends for not doing something they consider a hobby because they have other things that are more important that need to be done away from the computer. It’s probably not gonna be pleasant for them to come back to, and heck, you might even put them off roleplaying with you. It’s possible to do other things but whine when your partner is away. Why not decide it’s your muse who wanted to head out for a little while? Have them interact with other muses? I don’t see how it is so difficult not to consider the mun and their feelings, especially if you’ve already leaped ahead to consider your muses feelings and thoughts about the disappearance of another muse.
Yeah. I have to agree with this, honestly. It bothers me a lot.
BUT - I will stress this yet again (as I always do), communication is key here. There have been cases where someone just…stops playing a muse for some unknown reason and doesn’t tell their partner that they’re doing it? They just kind of abandoned it and that’s not really fair, either.
Said person has no obligation to tell their partner WHY they left, but telling them their going on a hiatus or something is nice. And if said person decides to delete the blog for whatever reason, telling their partner that their doing this is good so their partner isn’t left hanging.
POINT IS: there has to be consideration given by ANYONE INVOLVED. It is so not fair to leave someone hanging and it’s so not fair to guilt somone into RPing. It’s just not.
COMMUNICATION.
YES.
I was speaking from a point where someone is aware of why their partner has taken a break from their muse of put their blog on hiatus really. It just really ticks me off when I see this.
But if they don’t then yeah, they should be considerate too and you know, tell their partner they’re going on a break. BASICALLY COMMUNICATION.
I hesitated in reblogging this here, but I've started to see there's a serious need for it.
I'm on hiatus, guys. I'm not on hiatus for fun, either. I'm on hiatus because of serious OOC issues. Things that have been stressing me out and making it upsetting to go on here.
And you're only accentuating these issues by making this an almost constant plot on perpetuallyserious.
I felt like a jerk for mentally agreeing with this, but it's gotten out of hand. And it's not the first time I've had this dumped on me, either. In the other cases, it was more understandable; I was leisurely taking time off of the blogs, because I simply didn't have the muse for them or I wanted to focus on others. But for this one, I'm in a low tolerance mode for it. Why? Because I'm taking a break for my mental health. This isn't something I'm doing just because I don't feel like it.
I guess it's my fault for not officially announcing it? But even then, I already discussed this privately with people and it's still becoming an issue. You can get mad at me for the previous times, fine. But for this one, this is the one time in which I legitimately do not deserve this.
This was actually a big stressor for me when I came back to another blog of mine I was inactive on for a while. Other RPers bombarded me for my character being gone and looking for IC excuses which I simply didn't have, and though I took it in stride that time because it was simple laziness I wasn't on that blog, I don't think I can with this one. I have to come up with cop-outs and that's not fun for me at all.
I thought it would be possible to say that my character might've just been flashing here and there, and Shadow could've seen him every once in a while? Or that Shadow saw him on his vacation. The latter I even suggested as much, but apparently that wasn't taken into account...
I'm willing to work this out but I wish it was all discussed with me and it was understood that I am taking a hiatus not for fun and not to ditch my partner but because of things I simply cannot and will not talk about publicly or privately, things that legitimately take down my enjoyment and make it hard for me to be here.















