This introduction is subject to change without warning. Last updated Mar. 11, 2026. Participate at your own risk. Block me freely.
Welcome! Let's be mutually destructive.
About Me
You may call me V, Vesper or sir. My pronouns are he/they/it, but I'm not picky. I am aromantic, pansexual, and some form of genderqueer (possibly agender, but this blog is not the place for me to figure that out). I was amab. I am not a man. Often, I even think of myself as something that isn’t human, something “other.” I am strictly dominant. I'm somewhat of a service/pleasure dom, but not strictly. I can be sadistic, but I don’t like being excessively mean/cruel. I like control. I like overwhelming subs with pleasure.
Disclaimer
This is my blog for everything that usually stays comfortably hidden in my mind. That means kink, including hard and dark themes. You will find all manner of depravity here, including original writings and filthy reblogs. Although I will tag my own posts, I often won't tag reblogs. Therefore, hard and dark kinks may not always be tagged.
The only things I guarantee you will not find are listed below under “limits.” I interact with a wider variety of content than I write about. See the “Ethics” section for more details. You deserve to know that I do interact with some misgendering/orientation play content, but I neither reblog it nor project it onto those who are not interested in it.
Interacting With Me
DMs and asks are open for requests, inspiration (although no guarantees!), confessions, etc. I am a busy person, so I might be slow in responding, but I'll make an effort to answer everything eventually. If you include “don’t post” (or otherwise express similar intent) in your ask, I will respect those wishes. I will not own you or do tpe, and I am not interested in a relationship.
Note: temper your expectations. This blog is fantasy, and I’m playing a character, to an extent. I‘m quite a bit less intense in DMs.
Also note: I use the stoplight system for safewords. Green means “yes please, keep going.” Yellow means “stop and talk about it. May or may not resume afterwards, depending.” Red means “Stop immediately. Transition to aftercare (whatever that looks like, be it care and reassurance or appropriate distance).” Black means “Absolute emergency.” The difference between red and black is “untie me” vs “cut me out of the ropes.” Generally, black is usually only applicable IRL.
Tell me your terms so I know how to talk about you!
More below. Please read before engaging with me or my content.
What I Like
Terms
For myself, I use masc terms like cock and dick as well as neutral terms like chest and ass. I do not use fem terms.
Attraction
I would describe myself as pan, but I lean towards androgyny more than extremely fem or extremely masc people. I have a particular affinity for gender fuckery (gender nonconformists, transmascs, transfems, enbies, etc. you are always hot to me). My only real life experiences are with trans men, though. This blog also isn't really the place for me to worry about my sexuality; the point is to be able to indulge my carnal side without thinking too hard about what that means for me as a person.
I can't guarantee you high quality, but I can guarantee you high effort. I don't make posts quickly; they usually take time and revision, even the short ones. My short posts are short by intention, not by accident.
Tags
Current tag system is as follows:
Longer, high-effort writings that get thorough editing and revision will get #tox-emb writes
Shorter text posts that I write in the moment will get #tox-emb txt
Posts with especially dark or disturbing themes (blood, gore, snuff, etc.) will get #tox-emb darkness
Media posts will get #tox-emb media
Answers will get #tox-emb answers
Non-horny posts will get #tox-emb speaks
All posts will get #mdni. In case you didn't see the giant heading at the beginning of this post.
Most posts will also get #nsft, as appropriate
I tend not to tag reblogs
Queued reblogs will get #tox-emb queue
My writing
This blog will have a mixture of run-of-the-mill horniness and proper smut. I am open to requests and inspiration, but I make no guarantee about fulfilling them. I am an inexperienced, amateur writer; it is a hobby for me. Do not copy my work. If you create derivative work, credit me clearly and upfront. I do not use genAI at any point in my writing process. Do not input any portion of my writing into genAI.
Really, just use common sense & respect. I’m under no illusion that I’m some great smut author; I’m just some rando with a problematic sex drive.
What you can expect
I haven’t written very much yet, so it‘s hard to say what you will find. I expect it to have a good deal of variety anyway; refer to the heading for each piece in order to understand what it‘s about and what to expect.
A typical heading from me will contain:
General story stats (perspective, length, etc.)
How the characters are described, including pronouns, anatomy, and terms.
Themes/kinks/tropes/dynamics. This is your only content warning.
Sometimes, an author‘s note
Feedback
Feedback is very welcome, pleas tell me what you think! If criticism is not constructive and in good faith, I will ignore it. Please report typos & grammatical errors via asks or DMs.
Ethics
This is the part where I write a bit of a kink manifesto. I'd like to think most of it is common sense, but I know there are varying interpretations. This is just my personal rationalization of how kink fits into my moral framework. if you disagree, that's fine. I don't care to hear about it though. This section is skippable if you're just here for the horny vibes. Without further ado:
Kink (especially hard and dark kink) can be a morally difficult space. Ultimately, real life play should always be reasonably safe, reasonably sane, and above all else, utterly consensual. Practice RACK in real life, always.
However, to me, fantasy is free of these rules. Fantasy can be less than safe, quite a bit insane, and dubiously consensual. Physical harm is not brought about by entertaining—sometimes very thoroughly—these ideas. Physical harm arises when the line between fantasy and reality is unduly blurred. If you find yourself blurring this line, please distance yourself from kink and seek professional counseling until it comes into sharp focus.
What does this mean for CNC?
CNC is consensual nonconsent. In real life, this means that all parties involved must consent, yet may act as if they do not. Essential to ethical CNC is the genuine (that means clear, continuous, and freely given) consent of those involved.
The advantage of fantasy with regard to CNC is that the consent that matters is that of the reader or person with whom you are fantasizing, not the characters or roles played.
I categorize fantasy as cnc, dubcon, noncon, etc. depending on the experience of the characters, not the real human on the other side of the screen. That person, the real human, must always consent for these fantasies to be ethical.
Note the nuance in second-person stories: I draw a distinction between the “you” I address and “you,” the reader. The former is a character in my story, the latter is you as a reader.
When it comes to writing, it can be difficult to verify the consent of a reader. My attempt is as follows:
Clear: By providing accurate content warnings and communicating the themes of a story, and through this introduction, I attempt to make it clear what a reader is getting themselves into.
Continuous: A reader continually affirms their consent to encounter the themes of the work by simply continuing to read. You may stop at any time—I won’t judge you, and neither will anyone else.
Freely given: This is the one that’s damn near impossible to assure as a writer. I can’t really do anything if someone is somehow forcing you to read my writing. I can attempt to block bad actors, but that’s about it. I cannot verify whether you are in an appropriate mental state to read my writing. I implore you: if you are ever not engaging with me/this blog/kink in general as a positive force in your life, stop immediately. Distance yourself, and seek professional counseling so that you may be able to healthily enjoy all kink has to offer in the future.
I make no guarantees about my characters consenting. Consent will sometimes be implicit or implied, which is not acceptable in real life. Often, characters will find their experiences pleasurable, but pleasure is not consent. You have been warned.
What does this mean for bigotry-adjacent kinks?
I am staunchly opposed to real life bigotry in all its forms. I would abhor to misgender, objectify, etc. a partner except insofar as they clearly communicate a desire for it. My interest in such kinks is not in the kink itself, but in the sub's desire for it. That is, what I find arousing about it is the very fact that the sub likes it.
Race, gender, gender expression, sexuality, romanticism, disability, etc. are no grounds for discrimination. That is an immutable truth. Genuine transphobes, homophobes, racists, ableists, bioessentialists, bigots, etc. are not welcome here. If you are one of these people: DO. NOT. INTERACT. Instead, consider getting a grip on reality.
That said, I do engage with content relating to misgendering, forcefem/forcemasc, and orientation denial from time to time. You deserve to know that I engage with such content.
However, those themes will not be present on my blog itself.
Been absolutely addicted to sending anon asks recently, which, while very fun, also means I’ve been neglecting this blog (and my own asks…). I’ll try to get back to it soon. I see and appreciate all your asks!
can’t decide which end of the baseball bat i’m more afraid of. the wider end that stretches my cunt beyond reason, hard and unyielding as i clench and come around it. or the handle end, which is smaller, but has that brutal lip that is fucked deep into me until i come hard enough and enough times that my entrance has to stretch open again to let it out.
The appeal of having a big dick isn’t some kind of weird masculinity thing (For myself, I personally prefer “minimal gender expression” androgyny over “maximal gender expression” androgyny) The appeal of having a big dick—or even a knot—is just so I can ruin and impale subs’ holes. I want it to be a struggle. I don’t want you to be able to take me comfortably. I want it to hurt, and I want it to be my fault. I want you to whine and cry and try to push me off when I bury myself so deep my hips meet your thighs. When my tip rearranges your cervix [if applicable] and I grind against your insides.
This is partially why using dildos and toys and such is so great, but it is also so much hotter to do it myself.
The hottest thing someone can say is when you ask “your hair smells so good, what scent is your shampoo?” and they go “I haven’t washed my hair in a week.”
Omg I was in the middle of writing an ask last night but it didn’t save so here we go I may have gotten distracted my my new toy and letting strangers control it
Sooooo basically the other night I went to a guys house and got SUUUUPER wasted. Just drink after drink after cone after drink kinda wasted. So we’re smoking in the bathroom and his friends leave to have a cig outside (idk man) I remember having a cone and laying on the floor, we started making out, well it was more him kissing me while I was off in my own world
He was fiddling with my skort but couldn’t be bothered with the zipper so he just pulled the shorts and my panties to the side and ate me out. I couldn’t keep my eyes open but was able to move little bits at a time so I just opened my legs more and tried to caress him but my arms were so heavy it was more of a weak wave before crashing back down.
It’s all so fuzzy but I remember us kinda 69ing like he was eating me out and grinding on my face while I nuzzled into his bulge. Every so often he’d lift my back off the ground to kiss me and gently lower me back down to keep fingering me. Ik at one point I was bent over the bathtub and I don’t even remember how I got there or how I held myself up but it felt so good.
While I was laying down I just kept moving my head around because every movement felt like I was on a roller coaster.
I still can’t believe how safe and taken care of I felt. At one point I thought to myself “shit, could I even say no if I wanted to?” And even in that state I knew even if I just mumbled stop I’d be taken care of and it felt so nice to give up control like that again.
I’m very excited for us to hang out 1 on 1. 🥰
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This is such an interesting ask to me because I’ve been straight edge my whole life. The idea that people actually do this and it isn’t just movies is completely foreign to me but also hot as hell. Your description is so vivid and dreamy or trace-like, and I want that so bad.
Touching someone through or under their clothes, giving mindless oral while they move around sleepily and push their face between my legs. Just basking in the mindless pleasure of it all and relishing the muted sensations of our bodies. Focused on nothing except exploring them inside and out.
I struggle a lot with hyperawareness (which is part of why I’m sober, in conjunction with addiction in my family), and it sounds so wonderful to just let go and revert to animalistic hedonism.
And you felt safe throughout it all? Simply incredible.
I may have just got a video reaction of me seeing u posted but there’s a whole ass titty in there for a sec 😭 do you wanna see? If so lmk if I should crop it
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Sure lmao. Crop it or blur it to your comfort level, I’m fine with anything.
(Also, I did see your other ask, I just don’t have time for a more detailed response atm.)
Let me run soft touches down your arms while we cuddle, let me brush you all over with a feather, just so I can feel you squirm and giggle in my arms and against my chest.
Double points if your instinctual reaction is to burrow into me harder, like I’m the place you go to find safety.
I cannot be trusted with a robotthing fucktoy because I will 100% scramble its brains trying to install Gentoo.
By the time I‘m done with it it‘ll be purged of corpo spyware but also kinda disabled. Can‘t do somno because I broke the sleep function (I have to do a full shut down instead). The driver settings for the gag reflex sensor will be stuck on “extreme” sensitivity. The erogenous zone simulation software I’m running is an open-sourced version that is poorly calibrated and causes random hypersensitivity. The servo controllers will be locked into low power mode, so it’s much weaker than usual and has joint pain.
And the shitty stock perception network will be replaced with a bleeding edge beta version of human consciousness upload. It’s super inefficient, though, so it’s actually like a really dumb version of whoever gets scanned in.
Where did I get a consciousness? Oh, I don’t have one yet, I’m working on it. Now hold still and ignore the electrodes I’m sticking on your head.
