Skully

musings of a friend who just cant leave

[toxic-friendship]

I’m tired

Why does my heart clench when I think about going against you? Why do all of our fights start because we think the other is trying to hurt us?

[her-minds-a-mess]

“Toxic people hate seeing you do better without them, that’s when they’ll try to re-enter your life”

[hades-pa]

I saw this on facebook and nearly cried, this is so important to know and understand

[riffatmatinpoetry]

“In 2018 no more going back to the people that have hurt me over and over again. Enough is enough. I am walking away and wishing you the best.”

— Affirmation of the day.

[sweaterpawlarry]

“Some toxic friendships jump back and forth between great and awful—that inconsistency can be a red flag. “The unpredictability takes a toll on you,” says Levine. “It can make you anxious, nervous, or depressed when you don’t know what to expect from a friend whom you’re supposed to rely on.”

— 7 Signs You’re in a Toxic Friendship

[euphoric-demonss]

… still you’re the one who walked away .

[riffatmatinpoetry]

“If all a person does is put me down they have no place in my life.”

— Affirmation of the day.

[binah-lance]

can we please stop acting like abuse only happens in romantic or familial relationships? platonic relationships can be incredibly toxic and unhealthy, and just because you’re strictly friends with someone doesn’t mean they can’t abuse you.

if your friend hits you, for whatever reason, they are abusive.

if your friend makes you do whatever they want and makes you feel guilty for trying to give your opinion, they are abusive.

if your friend makes you feel bad for trying to talk to them about your feelings, they are abusive.

if your friend tells you that you’re stupid, ugly, worthless, ect., they are abusive.

if your friend gets mad at you for hanging out with people they don’t like, they are abusive.

if your friend tries to make you feel guilty for cancelling plans when you had a legitimate reason (like health issues, homework, family drama, ect.), they are abusive.

if your friend pressures you to do things that you aren’t comfortable with, they are abusive.

if your friend purposely makes you feel bad about yourself or makes you feel guilty for the things you like and do, they are abusive.

if your friend touches you in a sexual or sensual way without your consent, they are abusive. even if they do it “jokingly.” even if you’re both straight members of the same gender. and especially if they keep doing it after you make it clear that you’re uncomfortable. (this is a big one)

keep an eye out for red flags in your platonic relationships just like you would in a romantic relationship. if you have a friend who does any of the things on this list, please talk to them about it. let them know that their behavior is hurting you and is not okay. and if they don’t get better, cut them out of your life. letting go of toxic people is an act of self care, and you are not selfish or cruel for cutting ties with someone who hurts you. 

[phantomkissing]

“Please don’t fool yourself into thinking that if you “fix yourself” you can make a toxic relationship better. It isn’t about you. You’re not the one making it toxic, so you becoming a better person isn’t going to change the toxicity.”

—

[theambitiouswoman]

You never realize how emotionally draining and toxic people are until they’re out of your life.

[realsuggestions]

Don’t punish yourself because they hurt you.

[dnosc]

Remember this: a true friend will apologize and try to make things better. A toxic friend will roll her eyes and tell you you’re being ridiculous - then continue to do the same thing.

If that happens, leave. You don’t need those kinds of people in your life.

[luniapoetry]

“They turned her into a weapon and then complained when she learned to defend herself.”

—unintended consequences

[realsuggestions]

Don’t trust people who continue to tease you about something after you’ve made it clear that it hurts you and you’re self conscious about it.

[platonic-suggestions]

Friendships can be just as toxic as any other type of relationship. It’s okay to cut toxic friends out of your life. You don’t have to suffer through it just because they’re your “friend.” I know it’s hard, but better people will come.

[gayscifinerd]

You deserve someone who actually gives a shit about you. Someone who doesn’t just see you as an extension of themself. Someone who would actually be afraid to lose you. Don’t let anyone else make you believe otherwise.

[heartlessqueen]

lately my journal feels too small for my thoughts