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ris • he/she butch lesbian • 26 years old • 2nd gen (1st gen depending on how you count it) filipino-american

💉⚧️: 01.03.2026

original posts that i remember to tag: #ris’ pieces

selfies: #creature_id:cupid

self rbs: #look at my posts boy

art: #scribble scribble

reasons why i’d be a great househusband (mostly pics of things i’ve cooked/baked): #husbutch application materials

characters i talk about a lot: #akechi #miiiikuu

blog will occasionally be nsfw but it’s usually in a funny way

#about

stillhereunfortunately

is this blog stupid? yes. but which one of us is following it?

lilyblisslys

me with the. When she. When her. When the she her me

mollyjames

girlballs

awesome. we have a beetle problem

lakemojave

I got rid of em for ya

chirasul

missed one. rookie mistake honestly

enbaluka-tokyo-drift

minttttttttttttttttttttttttttt

sorry but this video is like a parasitic species to me

frawgs

apparently vic’s vapor rub goes exitinct ? i’ve been using the same vapor rub for years and apparenlty it went bad in the 2010s ..

frawgs

expired .

morganicapples

fforsythiaaa

Once when I was in undergrad, someone described something as “problematic” in class and our professor was like, “That’s cool, but ‘problematic’ doesn’t really mean anything. It means that the thing you’re describing has a problem, and in and of itself that’s not bad. Art, especially, should always have problems, or else it’s not interesting and not art, either. It sounds like you’re trying to say that this is bad, but you don’t want to say ‘bad.’ Is that right?”

So from then on whenever one of us called something problematic, he would make us talk it out until we could name the “bad” thing we were hinting at. In this particular class, 7/10 it was some type of oppression, and the remainder was like, “I’m uncomfortable because this is very new/confusing/pushing boundaries that made me feel safe.”

Once we stopped calling things “problematic” and stopping at that, class got way more interesting and... we all had to say, like, “that’s racist” or “that’s misogynistic” or “ew capitalism gross” out loud, which a lot of us had never done in a classroom before. Or we had to be like, “Uhhh... I’m not sure what’s so bad?” and confront our own beliefs and that was maybe even more useful.

Anyway. Whenever I see the word problematic, I can’t help but think of this professor being like, “Good starting point, now let’s get specific.” I think when we have to commit to saying “that’s ___” it requires a lot more careful thought about the truth and impact and complexities of whatever we’re claiming. Sometimes there really is some bullshit afoot, and also sometimes it’s art, and it should be full of problems, because that’s what art is.