And you don’t get roofied. Harsh truths may not go down well, but they may save your body and your life.
Right, but I also think it’s important to note, even if you have NO REASON to refuse the drink other than you JUST DON’T WANT IT, you STILL get to say no. You don’t have to justify it with a safety concern - you are ALLOWED to say no, even if saying yes feels harmless and saying no makes you feel like a jerk.
I don’t know if the context of the original quote involves the potential of the drink being drugged, but either way it’s an example of someone putting pressure on you via a seemingly innocuous behavior - it could be bringing you food, or a coat because you ‘looked cold’. AND YOU STILL GET TO SAY NO.
[Image ID: black text on a white background that says "Imagine you're at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says 'Come on, one drink!' You say 'no thanks.' Later, he brings you a soda. 'I know you said you didn't want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.' For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He's just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you're teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your 'no.' If you say, 'Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks' and put the drink down and walk away from it, you're the one who looks rude in the moment. But the fact is, you didn't ask for the drink and you don't want the drink and you don't have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated." --The Art of "No" (Jennifer P.) End ID]














