For all transmascs/trans men/anyone who feels supported by these posts. This admin stands for trans unity and of course supports all kinds of trans people. He/him. Genderqueer femme transmasc. Responds slowly. This is a sideblog.
recently saw a dark souls post that was making fun of trans men and because a few trans men were being tone deaf on it the comments were full of "death to all tmes" (holy misogyny and intersexism batman) and "trans men deserve to be killed" comments.
so just to anyone who was bashing us on that post, transphobia is still transphobia even if the person you're aiming it at pissed you off. you're not exempt from being a dickhead just because you're also trans.
and to the trans man reading this, you deserve to be loved and safe and the people who are worth it will stick with you no matter what. make sure to take social media breaks for your own health, I love you and things will get better.
one of my friends is a trans woman and she defends me with her life. other people have argued with her and even accused her of not being a "real" trans woman because she doesn't hate trans men. she really hates it when people make fun of trans men and will always be the first one to speak up. unfortunately nobody listens to her or they will go "well you should know that trans men have so much privilege and they never experience transphobia why are you defending them". so called "allies" will shame and attack trans men and at the same time accuse trans women of not actually being trans women when they defend us. how about cis people stop talking over trans people.
your friend is amazing and i'm so glad you have her! yes, we need solidarity between all kinds of trans people!! we need to stick together, fight for each other cause at the end of the day, we're all in this together.
regarding the transphobia, i'm so sorry you have to go through that. and yes, those "allies" are shit.
can i get a positivity post for trans guys/mascs who haven't changed their names and don't plan to? my given name is very traditionally feminine but i want to rock it in a guy way, think like the song "boy named sue". it's always awkward to introduce myself and see the other person recalculating their previously masculine perception of my gender when they hear my name. at lgbtq events i've been mistaken for transfem more times than i can count. i'm tall and i'm happy about that, but it just adds to the false perception of me. i like my name and i don't want to get rid of it just to conform to people's expectations. i just want to be seen as me, a guy, with my name.
i think that's really cool of you and i respect that a lot. being trans is hard enough, but not meeting expectations of what a trans person should be, being gender non-conforming or just having these little things that could potentially make other people question you even more can be especially challenging. i like that you decided to stay true to yourself and not conform, even though that makes it harder for you.
surely there are other trans guys and trans mascs that didn't change their name for whatever reasons. whether that reason is of your own choice because you like that name, or because you feel like you can't go by a male name, it's okay. your name doesn't define your gender. being trans and not conforming to gender stereotypes on top of that can be really tricky. so be extra nice to yourself. you're cool.
I keep seeing people make positivity posts about phaloplasty n saying to ignore the people who say it's gross, but like, I've never seen anyone say that it is or be mean about it
Then I realized it's cause I just don't see posts about transmasc people at all ever :") so I'm really glad I found this blog ā”ā”
this message is several months old, i'm sorry!
anyway, thank you so much for sharing this with me and i'm really glad this blog is helpful to you.:) much love!
Stay alive for every other trans person fighting, stay alive for every trans person who is no longer here, and most importantly stay alive for yourself.
They donāt get to erase us! They donāt get to take away our rights, and treat us as less than human. Donāt let them erase us, and donāt let them make you a statistic. Donāt let them win.
Stay alive
If you wonāt do it for yourself, then do it for others. Do it out of spite.
Often I feel like shit bc I feel like Iāve developed a sense of shame regarding my transness after being bullied and suicide baited over itā I genuinely feel uncomfortable telling people Iām trans, or talking about it, or even just being perceived as transgender. I didnāt used to feel this way. I hate it, I just wish I was born a man.
tw: mention of suicidal thougts
hi anon, i'm so sorry for replying several months later. i hope this still somehow finds its way to you or at least helps others. once again, i'm sorry.
that is a horrifying and traumatic experience and i'm really sorry that happened to you. i'm glad you didn't give up living and are still here. i hope you give yourself credit for that and thank yourself. you did great.:)
being ashamed of being trans is completely understandable in regards to your experience and the state of the world right now, so make sure not to add to the shame by telling yourself you shouldn't feel ashamed and should be proud. it's natural to feel like that after being bullied and told to kill yourself. i wonder how your mental health is in general. i hope you're getting the help you need and being nice to yourself. that kind of stuff is really hard to go through.
if you want any advice on how to be more confident with being trans and overcoming the fear of other people knowing, i think the first step would be accepting those feeling of shame. name the feeling, feel it in your body and sit with it. it should get at least a little better.
the second thing i'd do is to work on self-compassion and loving yourself, giving yourself the validation and care you need. you can find many resources online. i think it would be good to promise yourself that you'll prioritize your own happiness and authenticity now matter what others say and that you'll protect yourself if someone attacks you. that you'll always be by your side.
i wonder if you personally know any other trans people? depending on where you live, meeting other trans people can be easy or very difficult, but i think a great step would be to try to find at least one trans friend (preferably in person, but online is okay too) and listen to their story. maybe their resilience and pride would make you respect them and then you could extend the same respect and admiration to yourself.
remember, there is nothing wrong with you and you have nothing to be ashamed for. we've been here for thousands of years, we've been silenced and dehumanized and killed and opressed but we're still here!! we go out and try to be our most authentic self, we fill the world with love and acceptance and openness and freedom despite all the hardships. isn't that beautiful and admirable? you're strong and brave for finding yourself and choosing to follow your heart. that's something to be proud of. a lot of people can't do that. you went agaist a stream of hate and you survived. you didn't give up. i'm proud of you. and you were born a man. a man who happens to be trans, but is a man nonetheless.
hi, sorry to everyone who have sent an ask and haven't gotten their reply yet. i go on tumblr rarely, but i promise you will get that reply (if it's about trans stuff)
hhhh can I have some positivity for boys on their period? I dont feel like a real man right now :(
(ik this has probably been asked a million times but yeah)
hi, sorry for the late reply, i haven't been online for a long time.
you are absolutely a real man, a real boy even if and when you menstruate. what others think or say doesn't matter. you're valid and you're a real man just as much as any cis man.
the binarity of gender and biological sex are reductive man-made concepts anyway. you don't have to subscribe to them. what constitues a "real" or "fake" man/woman are all made up concepts that served a certain purpose in the structure of a society (and some of these purposes are very unethical). they're not some truths in stone. so if you feel like a man and want to be a man, you are. go and live that truth. you're a wonderful man who happens to have a period. you're a real man.
i know this is a blog for transmascs and trans men but let me take a moment to say: trans women and transfemme people, you are amazing. please keep being you and keep living. this world is better with you in it. i love you.
I saw your post about trans guys underwear and I feel strongly about it haha
I personally have to wear "women's" underwear bc I'm living with my transphobic family and I can't afford to buy my own clothes but I'd like to wear boxers instead, I can't believe people would think it's funny or wrong or whatever even if you choose to, like there's so many reasons why someone would, trans or not, wear panties or boxers, like who cares yk.
If it's not your underwear why does it matter to you lmao (I would tell this to my parents but I can't because it won't matter and it'll just cause an argument and I'll probably be shamed for wanting boxers)
I'm not a baby trans or whatever, I'm just financially dependent on my transphobic family to survive!
that is a very valid reason (not that there are any invalid reasons to wear the kind of underwear you want). i'm sorry your family is transphobic and that you have to keep living with them. i wish you the best!!! sending love!!!
if you DO want mens underwear thatre more like panties, i can't recommend mens bikini briefs enough, especially if youre packing. theyre pretty much the same shape as panties and can easily hold your packer in place even without a harness, while also being aesthetically more masculine. i got lucky because my dad exclusively wears them so i never felt weird about wearing them myself. never owned a pair of boxers and i never plan to because i do pack and hate wearing a harness, although i also like boxer briefs. boxers are not the peak of masculine underwear! there are so many other options
A lot of this positivity just feels like a progressive way to detrans trans men if I'm honest
"It's okay to wear makeup and to wear women's clothes and to wear panties and to be girly and to not transition and to have big female boobs and to embrace your natural girly vagina and also normalize not transitioning and also having dysphoria is actually just internalized transphobia and you should just accept your natural body!!!"
Like, just say you want me to be a woman at this point
No.
First of all, you're putting words in my mouth and you're greatly exaggerating. I never said anything about "big female boobs", i never said "girly vagina", i never said you should accept your "natural" body. I never posted about nondysphoric trans people, as far as I can remember.
I'm a gay nonbinary trans man and I'm not traditionally masculine. I write a lot of posts about embracing traditionally feminine things because I'm that way and I know how difficult that is while being trans. I want people to know that it's okay to not follow gender roles when you're trans. Being super masculine is just not the reality for many transmascs. For example, I'd love to have a dick. But phalloplasty with results that i'd be satisfied with is not only not available to me, I'm concerned about getting my reproductive organs removed in case there is a shortage of T and I end up not having access to sex hormones, which can be dangerous for your health. The world is nuanced.
If you want to be completely masculine, that's fine. Masculinity is okay. Masculinity is beautiful. So write your own post or politely request a post from me. But don't expect that from other transmascs. Don't make your dysphoria our problem. This is what we're trying to change ā the notion that vulvas and boobs are inherently female and feminine, because they aren't. We're doing this partly to ease our dysphoria.
Transphobes hate trans people no matter if we "look our gender" or not. There will always be someone hating if we're open about being trans. So stop taking it out on your people and start loving other trans people. We're stronger together with all of our differences.
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i saw a post where someone mentioned "a trans guy still wearing panties instead of boxers" and it made me feel like wearing "women's" underwear as a trans man is something kind of embarrassing that only "baby trans guys" do. so here's to all the trans men and trans masculine people who wear underwear from the women's section: it really doesn't matter. it's not embarrassing, it's not unmanly, it's not shameful and it doesn't mean that you're doing transmasculinity wrong. i've never worn underwear from the men's section but i assume the textile would be loose in the front to accommodate something i don't have, right? i feel like that could be potentially uncomfortable for me. feel free to add your thoughts and experiences, i'm interested in hearing them. but at the end of the day, it really doesn't matter what you wear. you should feel comfortable and good about yourself, and that's all that matters. don't let anyone make you feel ashamed for this.
1. Low income people exist. Underwear costs money. Good underwear costs good money. If you're not willing to donate some money so a random person could have boxers keep your mouth closed
2. It's a personal thing to decide what type of underwear someone wears. Being so invested in random people's decisions about it is creepy
exactly. gender is a social construct. we're all just a bunch of animals that made up a lot of rules and a lot of these rules made sense to someone at some point in time, but if they don't serve you or the wellbeing of others, throw them away. underwear is just a piece of clothing that's supposed to keep you warm and protect you. and sometimes, to make you feel sexy. be free!
