Becoming Trans poly disabled parents

A couple of disabled mentally ill poly non-binary and trans people who want to raise the very best baby...ever.

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Introducing myself

Hello everyone, my name is Harry and I am one of the three part parenting team you will see posted here, managing the blog is me and X but not L. 

Well we have our donor lined up, my ovulation sticks all neat in the pack and one used daily, the pots ready and syringes sorted and thermometer stuck irritatingly into my mouth every day (I am the oven, yey worship the womb! Haha!) and are ready to go, all we need is my body to put out an egg and my donor to get his ass over here at the right time and I am in for a good chance of getting pregnant! I have gone beyond excited to more a state of driving myself insane waiting, I do not do well at waiting. 

I am so ready for this child to be in me already. I so hope I take. We are getting two goes with the donor through AI over two days, hopefully this should provide the best odds. I am shitting myself over the what ifs, what if I don’t take quickly, what if my body attacks the fetus, what if I fall and kill it, what if what if what if. I can see that it must be frustrating to be around me being so neurotic at the moment but X is tolerating and being supportive like a champ. So happy to be planning this baby together, bought some 0-3 month clothes today for the first time, first time I have allowed myself to get this close to hoping for this to actually happen, its incredible to be going through with it with my amazing partners at my sides armed with nappies and love. I am so blessed to have two of my three partners taking on this challenge with me, to be fighting at my side for this. I feel so lucky to have this chance to make us into an even stronger family. We are all so blessed to have each other.

So back to distracting myself with cute baby stuff and trying to make myself relax (Not likely!) and trying to just focus on keeping my body healthy and myself as chilled out as possible, this is gonna be the second longest two weeks of my life, next to what I assume will be the longest week, the first pregnancy test. Not looking forward to that.

[theythemthemself]

What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg answers the popular question, “Where do babies come from?” using gender neutral and non-cissexist language. 

[transpolyparents-blog]

This blog is for me and my partner H. We are in a poly relationship but I (X) only have H as a partner at the moment. H also has N and L.

We are trying to start a family. H identifies as non-binary and is planning to carry the child while L and I are planning on having parental roles while N who is younger will be focussing on his Uni life.

Currently our focus is on getting H pregnant. We are relying on a donor and lots of fertility monitoring to try and get this done as no one in the relationship is capable of doing the deed.

I’m looking for more parenting information that doesn’t automatically assume the gender of the person carrying the baby, or the number of parents involved.