Cas • 27 • He/They/It
Objectum sideblog for a transmasc artist-type. Enjoyer of roller coasters, telescopes, vehicles, interesting architecture, and more. I wax poetic on here about POSIC, objectumsexuality in general, my OS boyfriend and I, being OS with a non-OS husband, and my object partners.
🔞 NSFW often. Absolutely no minors.
Cas • 28 • He/They/It • Transmasc Poly Pan OS & Taken
Greetings & salutations, curious eyes and fellow object enjoyers alike! This is my slice of the net where I talk all things objectumsexuality. On this blog you will find frank discussions of my experiences exploring my sexuality, what it's like to be in an OS4OS relationship, navigating being OS with a non-OS spouse, my perception of POSIC, my object partners, and the occasional piece of home-grown objectum smut — drawn, written, or filmed, all appropriately tagged with external links, of course.
This blog follows from @gnomercy.
While I've been identifying as objectum for some four or five years, I've only recently began to explore my feelings for the objects around me more intimately rather than keeping my curiosity explicitly in art and writing. I will talk about them often here.
✦Favorite Objects: Roller coasters, old arcade cabinets, cars, airplanes, steamships, telescopes, CRT TVs, vintage tech in general ( phones / computers / radios / etc. ), radio towers, plush, inflatables / pool toys, subwoofers, cathedrals, novelty architecture.
When interacting with me please keep in mind I have two very real human partners. Be respectful of me and them, thank you!
Boundaries & BYF ↓
• This blog adheres to the following definition of objectumsexuality: the sexual or romantic attraction to objects. I do not consider platonic relationships to be inherently OS, just as I would not consider the majority of humans to be platonically pansexual. I believe that terms should have concrete meanings and that the term POSIC should be platformed more often in OS discussions. I still believe that people outside of this definition have a space in the OS community because object relationships of any kind are nonstandard, I just have concerns regarding sanitization and othering in communal spaces originally meant for those who adhere to the original definition.
• I am uncomfortable with certain paraphiles following me. Please do not engage with me if you sexualize minors, animals, or incestual relationships. I am not comfortable seeing it and I do not like that modern OS spaces are becoming increasingly infiltrated by untagged very usually triggering content because we're "all paraphiles."
• I am nonsharing. I do not feel comfortable with people are into the IASW clock following me as he is an important object in my life. I also have a coaster I am nonsharing with that I am relatively private about — I will block people who share it with me. This isn't a pass of judgment on you or your relationship, I just prefer to avoid "doubles."
• I do not like community infighting. This applies to the above. I have no interest in label politics or policing. I care more about the real people behind a label than the semantics of it. If the label resonates with you, I am not going to tell you it isn't valid. I do not like hierarchical attitudes: classifying what "qualifies" as objectum and fighting over who is "truly" the lover of certain objects falls under this. I do not choose sides in nonsharing arguments and think community spaces should remain for the community, not for who is the "true" lover of an object. I say this as someone who is nonsharing with a public object. I encourage good faith engagement, self moderation in communal spaces, timeline curation to avoid people that upset you, and productive discourse. Remember that we all experience objectumsexuality differently. Your experience should not exclude others from spaces meant for a larger community.
• This blog talks about object sex often and is run by a kinkster. I will be speaking very explicitly on this blog about having sex with my objects, kink headspaces, and will often post attached imagery, artwork, literature, or video. Please do not follow if this will make you uncomfortable. Absolutely no minors.
• I am neurodivergent. I am diagnosed with ADHD and suspect further diagnoses I have not pursued. I often leave messages unread or unreplied to because of decision paralysis. I am prone to overexplaining and regularly type in paragraphs. Please keep this in mind when interacting with me. It is not a reflection of disinterest or intensity, respectively.
• I am a substance user. I drink socially as well as take psychoactive drugs ( mushrooms, cannabis ) regularly. It plays a huge part in my experience of being objectum. I talk about it here often, though I try tagging it to the best of my ability.
• I talk about my faith here. I am a Cuban-American brujo. My faith is a mix of superstitions from my family and my personal beliefs of energy transfer and intention. I primarily work with lunar energies, intention, kitchen witchery, and objects. I believe strongly that objects absorb the energy of their surroundings and the people who care of them. I will talk about more metaphysical things here when it comes to how I perceive POSIC.
grappling with a lot of complicated feelings irt objectum outreach, please be gentle
The reality of doing OS outreach is that as more and more people become aware of the term and as public perception shifts, naturally people will want to do their own forms of community connection. This is good. This is the desired end result. But it means that it’s becoming increasingly difficult for me to continue to do this sustainably.
Three years ago I could book events easily. But this year both cons I’ve attended had OS panels hosted by other people and I’ve only had one acceptance come through for my own.
Please do not misunderstand me: I don’t have a monopoly on OS spaces or even furry convention OS panels. I want to make that crystal clear. I’m not vain enough to believe that every OS panel must be inspired by my own — and even if it was, I’m glad my work resonates enough that people are inspired to try reaching their local communities.
But I guess part of me is anxious following recent confirmation that my words hold enough weight that people will parrot a lot of what I say without thinking for themselves, and I really really hope I’m just being a fallible, defensive human being and that people aren’t trying to lift concepts from me wholesale. I talk on this blog to share my feelings and struggles as an OS person as I struggle to find community — I do not see myself as any kind of “community head” and it makes me uncomfortable to be perceived as such.
If you are inspired by me, I encourage you to find your own ways to do outreach. The OS community already has one Casper. We don’t need another. What does outreach look like to you? A local coffee social? Meetup? Assuming we did not come separately to the conclusion of a panel, what are you bringing differently to the concept of an OS panel at a furry convention? Because I am going to be a little concerned when the concept of “OS history as it pertains to furry” is being done at my local cons, something I’ve been speaking on and collecting resources for through personal research for three years already. Again. I don’t own a monopoly on this concept. I just hope it’s something that people will come to the natural conclusion of wanting to do themselves, not something that’s being parroted from me.
I’m also admittedly upset that I now have to contend with the fact that, with more people submitting OS panels in my local areas, it’s now harder for me to create the kind of spaces I want to see. The reality is that, if convention organizers get two separate panel submissions for the same topic, they will likely go with the SFW one, not the NSFW one, for a myriad of reasons. I refuse to sanitize my retelling of history and I want people to be able to speak about things like sex, identity, grief, and other very heavy topics openly with other adults.
I’m sure it’s clear that the weight of outreach and the responsibility it brings has began to take its toll on me, even on my comparatively microscopic scale. I understand deeply now why we no longer have “public facing” figures like Erika or Eija. I love what I do but I’m kind of ready to step back and focus on local community and personal projects like my archive for awhile. I know I should be happy that there’s so many of us that I’m now seeing rejections, but I’m still human. If it’s not obvious by the way I talk so defensively, I know these are feelings that are ultimately mine to unpack and work through, but I want to be very honest with people if outreach is truly something they want to pursue: it can elicit a lot of complicated emotions and you need to be prepared for that. No one is wrong here. I’m just struggling with it all.
Watching him drive Chip and realizing there’s something a little cosmic about him wearing a bracelet he bought ten years ago with the same design on it as the bandana Arlo wears that I got at my first furry convention.
Got into a conversation last night with Carson about OS microlabels and why we feel so negatively about the recent influx of hyper specific terms to describe attraction and I think it comes down to a few things which I’ll organize in a list — I’m not trying to dissuade people, I just genuinely think labels should be useful for both the people using them AND the people who are observing them.
Labels are ultimately meant to serve and identify ourselves, yes, but they also identify us to OTHERS. If a term is so specific that others cannot parse what it is, is it truly useful as a label?
Another aspect of labels is the ability to find community in others. This is why smaller umbrella labels like vehium, plushum, and techum are useful: they have established communities and group similar attractions ( ie; vehium can refer to any vehicle ) together for people to compare and contrast their experiences and find resources
How much of this is driven by the desire to be the first person to coin something, essentially making them the “founder” of the label? Why is this important to you? Are there other meaningful ways you can contribute to your community? The desire to give back is admirable, but can it be channeled elsewhere in a more productive manner? You are not obligated to do anything, I’d just love to see more people engaging with OS outside of label coining.
What does a label offer that a preference does not? I am objectum, I ID as such to immediately communicate what I’m about. If I want to further explain my preferences I will tell you them. ie; “I am attracted to everyday vehicles and have a soft spot for beat up sedans.” But I would not call myself vehifamiliarislemonsexual. If objects are like individuals to us, wouldn’t it make sense that we would have preferences just like how some of us prefer tall or short people?
Again: identify how you want! I am not Mr. Objectum. I just will never platform these terms when I do outreach and education because I do not think they are helpful in serving one of the primary purposes of a label: to identify yourself to others. If you just want to label yourself and make flags that’s your prerogative, but I worry that people will become frustrated that they likely will struggle to find others that subscribe to their hyper specific experiences if that is why they are using the label.
Confirmation of moving means I will in fact be in a place to begin archiving the written media I have soon! I haven’t forgotten, I promise. The Ursula Fawn book I purchased will be first up but I’m also sitting on a lost OS play that was given to me by a theater bootlegger. I will also be putting out some form of micro video essay once I relaunch my channel with hopes to get more eyes on the Mechaphilia case 🤞
Objectum panel for Megaplex was declined, sorry guys :( I’ll still be trying to host a meetup of some kind but I can’t promise anything as I’m actively moving and will no longer be operating out of the south.
I finally got to the animistic portions of Humanish. From what I’ve read thus far I’m not super happy with how the author ( uncharitably ) views anthropomorphism towards objects while lauding it towards animals. I do eventually want to reach out to him as he’s one of the only other people speaking about this stuff publicly, as I’m genuinely interested as to why he holds this position when he admits anthropomorphism can help us take care of others better.
As excited as I am to move it is admittedly hitting me that I don’t think I’ll ever be able to be on Tuxedo’s hood as I watch my coaster partner cycle ever again. Bittersweet. I’ll miss her deeply even if we’re likely seeing her next month 😔
I received great news today and we’re looking to aggressively move within a month. So excited if nervous — but looking forwards to sinking money back into my business when everything settles.
Currently working on a button or charm design of some sort for my plushum friends. I worry about bringing my plush partner out to meets sometimes and I’d like a way to quickly identify him as a plush I’m intimate with tastefully so people can make the decision whether or not to interact with him. Is this sort of thing useful for other people?
Cannot believe I’ve never shown my toysona. He’s a “Lovebug,” a Rushton-style novelty sex doll made as a gag gift for lonely housewives as “the perfect gentleman” that later saw a cult following with the gay community.
He went to a plushophile following an estate sale. I like to think he’s a Ted-like in a world full of Toy Story toys. Which, naturally, means he likes to smoke weed and flirt with humans way out of his league. Big fan of Build a Bear clothes and gets along best with gas station Lafufus and carnival prizes.
Arlo is making the flight with me to Cali to move Carson over — and see an exhibit on orca whales before we do. He’s really starting to look so loved, I’ve been really enjoying crafting small things for him. Low pressure creative exercises are good for my brain.
I know my immediate reaction to someone not knowing OS history should be a desire to provide resources instead of icing them out but there is nothing more infuriating than stepping into the tag and seeing someone using said extremely wrong information to smugly imply that any one of us is somehow wrong for choosing objectum as a self identifier as opposed to more controversial terms like paraphile. ( I don't use it for a myriad of reasons, chief among them that my objectumsexuality is more than a philia. It's literally not an apt descriptor for me and plenty of other people. It is a sexuality and I prefer to refer to it as such. )
Like, do you like this community? Do you care about other OS people? Or do you just want to be right? Because you're not. Tell me how old you think objectumsexual as a term is. Can you show me where it was first published online? Do you legitimately think people in the 70s were quibbling over "they're going to think I'm a paraphile :(" when their attraction was already so extremely othered as a baseline?
I guess a part of me should be thankful that things truly are so good for OS people that we need to make up things to be mad about, or imagine that SOMEHOW people are willing to swallow the pill more eagerly if we fluff up the term. But it's exhausting to give communal spaces on this site a try again every few weeks only to see 10 new self styled r4dqueers mass tagging the coldest incendiary takes, especially when I can tell they don't interact with our community past IDing with the label. ( Which is fine, but don't speak on community issues then!!! )
