What are tell-tale signs you are an INFJ?
19 Signs That Youâre an INFJ
1. From a young age, you felt different from the people around you
When you were young, you had plenty of friends but you never felt like you truly fit in. Sometimes you faked being more like them so they would accept you, but deep inside you felt that itâs not right.
2. You want to know whatâs really going on in peopleâs lives
Not just trivial stuff like what they did this weekend or what they bought on their latest shopping trip. You want to dig deep and get at the things that no one else sees. What does the person in front of you really think? How does this person really feel? The fake facade they put up for other people doesnât fool you.
You feel more comfortable having a loose plan for things than you do completely winging it.
4. Youâre social, but you are not really social
You can be both incredibly shy, quiet, and withdrawn, as well as charming, fun, and hilarious. Itâs all about the situation, your mood, and energy levels, and most important, the people youâre with.
5. How you handle problems
When someone comes to you with a problem, you usually donât give them advice or your opinion unless they ask. Instead, you ask them questions to help them better understand the situation and their own feelings about it. Sometimes you tell a story of a time when something similar happened to you, in the hope that theyâll draw their own lesson. You feel like you can usually see the path they should take, but you donât want them to do it just because you told them to. You want it to be their decision.
6. There are limits to your introversion
You are an introvert and you like alone time, but you canât be alone for too long. Eventually you need to reunite with your people. âYour peopleâ are a handful of good friends who truly get you. It can be just one person as well. Deep conversations with these people are priceless, and hanging out with them can actually boost your energy.
Youâve been known to suddenly cut people out of your life when theyâve hurt you one too many times. Itâs not that you enjoy cutting people out, rather, you do this simply to protect yourself. Even though you may look like you have it together on the outside, youâre extremely sensitive inwardly, and youâre especially sensitive to other peopleâs words and actions.
8. You can be a people-pleaser
Sometimes you try so hard to make other people happy that you forget to make yourself happy.
You often feel like you see precisely what someone else is feeling, and you believe you know what they need deep down. Youâre not always right, but you tend to be more perceptive than most.
You feel like youâre destined for so much more than just dragging yourself to your 9-5 job to pay the bills. You want to help people and change the world & not just get a paycheck. The problem is you either donât know what your âglorious purposeâ is, or you have an inkling, but you donât know how to achieve it.
You almost always have this sinking feeling like you could be doing better with your life. This results in you constantly have secret self-improvement projects going on, like learning how to cook healthy meals, setting better boundaries, or getting better at articulating yourself. Sometimes you push yourself too hard as you attempt to achieve your âperfectâ life.
12. Your defence mechanism
Sometimes you turn to people-pleasing to protect yourself. Youâre sensitive, so you can get really bothered when someone criticizes you or is disappointed in you. They canât criticize you if you make them happy.
You often immediately sense the mood of a room when you walk into it. Likewise, you often absorb the feelings of the people around you. If theyâre excited, you get excited. If theyâre anxious, you get anxious, too. You tend to gravitate toward calm, centered people so you donât have to deal with as much emotional garbage.
Youâre drawn to high-quality things, like good food, nice clothes, and anything else that has good craftsmanship. As much as you hate to admit it, the way things look is important to you. You like being surrounded by beauty, and you tend to have sophisticated, refined tastes. But youâre a minimalist at heart. Youâd rather have one or two really nice shirts than ten mediocre ones.
You care deeply about the people in your life, but theyâll probably never know just how much you care, because you keep your feelings mostly to yourself. You can have trouble articulating your emotions, even though you feel them intensely.
Youâre usually thoughtful, conscientious, and considerate. Other people who are not as conscientious can seem callous and even cruel.
You love learning, especially when it comes to psychology, self-improvement, spirituality, and certain sciences.
18. Your head is way beyond the clouds
When everyone else is gossiping, discussing celebs, or talking about other trivial things, you often find yourself thinking about outer space, time travel, human nature, the meaning of life, and other more epic topics like entrepreneurship. You rarely try to steer the conversation in that direction, though, because you donât think other people will be interested.
19. You didnât ask to be like this
Other people see you as wise, insightful, and almost spiritual. They often come to you for advice and emotional support. You relish your role as the âwise one,â and you like being needed. But sometimes it becomes too much. Youâre an introvert, for crying out loud, and sometimes you just wish everyone would solve their own problems and leave you alone for a while.
