TurboDorkDaddy

Dominant | Kink Enthusiast | Silly Goose

[paganscissors]

you don’t stand a chance.

[turbodorkdaddy]

Got a new kitchen appliance today ❤️ Really happy with it so far

[cutiepiesub]

*whining*

dom: “use your words”

*whining intensifies*

[choked-up]

lol what if you slapped me across the face just to see the dumb lil horny look in my eyes ☺️

[turbodorkdaddy]

@paganscissors 😏

[bratschool]

Littles worry about this a lot. Please remind your little every once in a while that you love them completely, littleness included, and not in spite of their littleness. 💕

[turbodorkdaddy]

@paganscissors

I try to remind my babygirl of this whenever I can, until she realizes that I am so in love with her littleness ❤️❤️

[turbodorkdaddy]

For anyone that needs a reminder today about their emotional well-being;

✨You deserve and should expect the same level of understanding, safety, and support that you extend to others / those under your care.

✨All of your emotions, feelings and opinions are valid and deserve to be expressed.

✨Expressing these emotions are not a sign of weakness. It is healthy, and a sign of strength and courage.

✨You are not burdening others by expressing what you truly feel inside, even if these things may seen inconvenient to others.

✨If the people you choose to confide in are invalidating your emotions or reacting to your vulnerability with something other than support, understanding, and acceptance, please take a step back and evaluate the situation and the people you surround yourself with.

[turbodorkdaddy]

Naked

We all have things we wish we could change about ourselves. Whether it's to be a better person who empathizes more with others, or just to curb that shopping addiction a little bit. It's human nature to strive for an ideal; that self portrait of perfection, molded by personal and societal expectations, that we hang in our mind's eye. As helpful as that picture can be to better ourselves, often it manifests itself in a negative way. We can become insecure about things that are very difficult to change about ourselves, or things we cannot change at all.

As Dominant and caregiver to My submissive and little, I am responsible for maintaining a sense of safety and steadiness in our relationship; making sure she is heard, cared for, and disciplined. But that is not all we are. We are also partners in a committed, loving relationship. Like most, I need to be able to confide in my partner about stresses, anxieties, and insecurities. Sometimes I just need to be told everything will be alright. Despite these needs, I often wish I could be an unwavering pillar of strength and security, standing stoically through all of life's trials and tribulations for My girl to grab onto. But that's not who I am.

Navigating this emotional terrain has always been precarious for Me. As a boy, I was taught that showing certain emotions was a sign of weakness. It made you a pussy or a wimp. As a man, I've been called a drama queen, or that I need to grow a pair, toughen-up, or chill out. This penchant our society has for assigning gender and strength-specific derogatories to emotional expression has absolutely affected Me and is responsible for the lion's share of My desire to shut that part of Me off like a light switch. Everything would be so much easier, I think to Myself, if My feelings never got hurt, or if I didn't need that reassurance, or if I could just "get over it". Because I've been conditioned to interpret these thoughts and emotions as a burden to others. Flaws to be hidden until you stop feeling them.

As a Dominant, that can be a hard pill to swallow. When I open up to My girl and share these feelings, I'm showing her that I'm not always in control or confident, that I don't always have everything figured out, and that I struggle and falter with things in my life. I wonder how she will still respect Me and My leadership the same afterwards. Will she be just a little more unsteady kneeling at My feet?

On their foundations, these are insecurities I've grappled with for a long time. Through lots of reflection and meditation, I've been able to work through the worst of it. Occasionally, they can still rear their ugly heads. It's times like those that I ask myself what we would have if we stripped away the ropes and gags, the spankings and the smeared mascara. I need to remind myself that My girl doesn't kneel for Me because I'm some kinky omniscient demigod. It's not because I have an impressive job or wear nice clothes, or drive an expensive car. She trusts and kneels for Me because she knows I need to take care of her. To guide her in her life whenever I can. Because I have found in her a person for whom I am standing with My arms open, daring her to give Me all she's fucking got. Because I want all of My girl. Every nook and cranny. She's not going to scare Me away. The best way to show her that is to lead by example. I cannot ask for all of her while at the same time locking a part of Me away that I don't enjoy shining a light on. So I tell Myself it's okay to need help sometimes. To need that reassurance. To cry and be weak. For her to help guide Me.

But man is it still fucking hard. And that's okay.

So to those of you out there who need to hear this, especially all you Dominants and caregivers;

You deserve and should expect the same level of understanding, safety, and support that you extend to others / those under your care.

All of your emotions, feelings and opinions are valid and deserve to be expressed.

Expressing these emotions are not a sign of weakness. It is healthy, and a sign of strength and courage.

You are not burdening others by expressing what you truly feel inside, even if these things may seen inconvenient to others.

If the people you choose to confide in are invalidating your emotions or reacting to your vulnerability with something other than support, understanding, and acceptance, please take a step back and evaluate the situation and the people you surround yourself with.

Much love to you all.

[turbodorkdaddy]

Little girl’s Prayer

   My Daddy, which art still in bed,    Adored be thy Name;    Your praises come;    If Your will be done    always, not just at home:    Give me today my daily kisses;    And forgive me my grabby hands,    as I forgive You for not allowing me cookies;    And lead me not into tempter tantrums,    But deliver me from scary movies:    For Yours is the pillowfort,    the snuggles, and the safe place,    For ever and ever and ever.

   Ah man.

For My little girl.

@paganscissors

[turbodorkdaddy]

Terms of Service.

I’ve been thinking lately about rules. Why we have them. How we implement them. How they can be used in different ways to achieve growth as individuals and as couples inside a dynamic.

Sometimes it can be hard to establish a baseline for day-to-day obedience when you’re beginning a power exchange; as a Dominant, how much control do you take? As a submissive, how much do you relinquish, and in what aspects of life? It takes time and work to reach an equilibrium that works for everyone involved. Honesty and communication are key here, but more on that later.

I thought I’d share some rules and guidelines that I have set in place for @paganscissors, along with some background and justification for their implementation;

1. My girl always addresses Me as “Sir”. Especially when answering a direct, close-ended question, asking permission, acknowledging a command or order, thanking Me, or apologizing.

This serves as a simple, but constant reminder of her submission, and as a sign of humility and respect.

2. She has a morning routine that she follows each day. This includes a wake up time, a stretching and exercise regimen, and submissive meditation. I also pick out a pair of panties for her to wear each morning.

My little girl loooves to sleep. These rules ensure that she makes the most of her mornings. Her meditation includes a short time to kneel in silence to reflect on her obedience to Me over the coming day, and be mindful of any duties or special assignments I may have given her. This extra time combined with her obedience to the rest of her morning routine allows her to feel productive and present in her role in our dynamic from the moment she wakes up, laying the groundwork for her to be My good girl until she falls asleep at night.

3. She has dietary restrictions. My girl has a list of “free” foods that she may have without being given permission. For anything outside this list, she must seek permission before eating or drinking them. She also has a daily water requirement.

I enjoy having a healthy, alert, and happy girl. Keeping My finger on the pulse of what she is eating throughout the day is an important part of maintaining that. As both a medical professional and a person who went through drastic lifestyle changes to take control of My own health and life, I understand the importance of a healthy diet and proper hydration. This also allows her to work toward special treats, like cookies, and her favorite, hot cocoa.

4. She has a bedtime that she also follows each day.

Like her morning routine, this allows Me to make sure she is getting enough sleep throughout the week. This rule faced many changes and amendments for us on nights when she requests to stay up late with friends or family. I have custom tailored it to fit our needs, while still maintaining control over her sleeping habits.

5. She has a journal that she is required to write in twice a week.

I’m a big fan of enforced journaling. This is a safe place that she may feel free to express any thoughts or emotions she may be feeling. It’s a great place to express curiosity in new kinks or fetishes, let Me know if something doesn’t feel quite right, or just to share how happy she is (which she does frequently. Is there honestly anything better?) Long term, her journal also serves as a barometer to her own growth as a submissive, and to an extent, our dynamic.

6. She has an inventory of kneeling poses that she is required to memorize and submit to on command.

I enjoy implementing a strict kneeling protocol in My dynamic, and My girl is required to learn all of them, perfectly. There are positions for waiting, serving, being displayed, and receiving punishment. Occasionally, I will conduct retraining drills to make sure she stays focused and proper in her posture.

Our rules, like our relationship, bends and flexes to our needs and changes with the tides. This, I feel, is more important than any single rule; the ability to communicate, adapt, and make her obedience and My guidance and domination work to our own machinations.

[turbodorkdaddy]

Foundations.

Let’s face it.

D/s is hard work sometimes.

I like to tell My little girl that everyday, she and I each lay a brick. We each try our best to lay it flat and true and strong; for her this means being obedient to her rules and restrictions, mindful of her submission to Me, and dutiful to her daily tasks and relationships. For Me, this means caring for our dynamic, guiding My girl through her day, and providing her with what she needs to thrive in her submission and in herself.

We lay our bricks and build our walls, but it doesn’t always happen the same way. Some days are easy. Other days are not. Some are days for praise and spoils, and some are days for discipline and correction. Some days are for lazy couch snuggles. Some days are for humble apologies, and promises to do better for one another. But what I have taught My girl is that everyday we add a brick, and everyday, that brick will be the straightest we can make it.

Today I stood back to admire the fruits of our labors. More than bricks. More than walls.

Something yet small and unfinished. But strong, and ours.

Together we have built a place in which to take refuge when the wind picks up and the rain pours down. A place to feel safe and trust in one another. A place that will only grow stronger.

@paganscissors