This is the face of abuse.
This is the face of a covert narcissistic sociopath.
This is someone who doesn’t feel love, empathy, or any meaningful emotion. He just wants to use you, control you, and when you’ve wised up to it, spit you up and chew you out. He wants to make you feel crazy, he wants you to think you have mental health problems, he wants to convince you you’re abusive or manipulative and isolate you from the people you love most. He is crafty and will use all sorts of tools to accomplish it. He’s been doing it for over a decade to dozens of women including myself.
And this is also the face of a girl who fell for it. Hook, line, and sinker. His emotional, financial, mental abuse. Unlike some of his other exes, I at least didn’t deal with his physical abuse and his violent outbursts, but my dog did. The love bombing tactics that he used on me made me fall, and fall hard. I moved in with him very quickly into our apartment in DC. We were together for a little more than 6 months. We went on trips together, met his family, he met mine in Dallas, and we were about to be engaged. To many people on the outside, it seemed picturesque. This was far from the truth.
He is not the perfect man he is trying to con you into thinking he is. Do any of these sound familiar to you?
Here are his common lies in the beginning.
-He’ll tell you he’s been abused by past relationships or how they all abused him. He’s never been in an abusive relationship. Almost all the exes know of each other and have banded together and there’s not one person who has ever hurt him in an abusive way.
-He does not work as an agent for the government. He does not put away bad guys, he is not going overseas for work, he does not need to leave your date or your home in the middle of it because he has a mission he was just assigned. He creates grandiose stories about himself and his work that aren’t real. This is all not true. At the time of my writing this, he’s working for a company called Blue Vector which is a company owned by Comcast. Some of these examples didn’t happen to me but happened to the women before and after me.
-He is a felon, his conviction was never taken off his record as he might try to tell you and that gun that he’s showing you, is one he illegally owns. It was not given to him by any branch in the government (he told me Homeland).
-He will tell you stories to pity him. One about another ex named Grace (my name is also Grace) that died when she was 18 because she got into a car accident. They had had a fight and she left angry. Turns out the fight was about the fact that she had found out about him cheating on her which is something he has done in every relationship he’s ever had and continues to do so. He may also tell you about a drone strike that he “made a call on” where he blew up a building that was a child care center in Iraq. This is totally fabricated. He may tell you about how he’s briefed Obama, and Hillary Clinton and top officials for Trump. This is all false...
-He’ll relate to you about all your dreams and wishes and hobbies etc. Then you’ll slowly see the change. It’s subtle but it gets more obvious with time.
-He’ll convince you to have sex without a condom. I can’t tell you how many women he’s done this to. He’ll tell you he was just tested or how he has been single for 3-6 months and he’d know by then. This is all false... He was sleeping with women days and weeks before me and all throughout our relationship and then when he moved on to the next couple girls, it was all within days of myself and each other. No protection with any of them and that’s on his wanting to have that power in the situation. Even if you don’t believe anything that I’m saying, please believe this for your safety. Wear a condom, you are not the only one he is sleeping with.
If you find out about his record, he’s going to tell you that it’s none of your business. He’s going to try to make you feel ashamed for even asking. He’s going to tell you that you’re bringing him back to a bad place mentally by bringing it up. He’s going to tell you that all the articles you read were wrong and that he has a group of people that are coming after him for the heroic deed he did. It wasn’t heroic. He did what he did for clout. If that’s hard to believe you can check his old Twitter where he live-tweeted the whole event.
He’s left so many women afraid of him and they have every right to be. He has done some monstrous things. I’m not afraid of him anymore though. One thing he gets away with is that the last post made by one of his exes was from 10 years ago and some women don’t believe it. You should, just as I hope you believe me. I have no reason to lie to you and if anything I wish that I didn’t have to type this up or have gone through the experiences I did.
If you bring me up, he will tell you he has videos of my “abusing him”. Ask to watch them because they’re not. They’re videos he took of me when I was blacked out, the second time I tried to escape him. Specifically they are three videos that are less than 15 seconds each. I had broken up with him, packed my things and went out to drink, something I wasn’t allowed to do in our relationship because he wouldn’t let me, and blacked out a little after I got home. I was leaving the next morning when my dad was going to fly from Dallas to save me from the hell my life was with him in DC. I don’t remember much when I got home besides him berating me and harassing me, then my mind went blank. The videos he has is of him trying to goad me into saying things to him while I’m laying on the bed trying to sleep and I didn’t say what he wanted me to say and you’ll see that, if he allows you to see them. He may try to tell you that I used him and that I was an alcoholic or a liar or who knows what. Well, he said all those same exact things about his exes previous to me when I was with him. He told me that they used him for his money, emotionally and physically abused him, that they were nasty women, alcoholics, cheaters etc. The simple thing is I have all the proof and he will have none of it. I have screenshots and conversations with him and other women that he cheated on me with or cheated on other women with or that he dated as seriously as he’s dating you.
If any of you ever find this, please feel free to come to me. I’ll give you the proof, I’ll help you out just as so many of the other women helped me. We will all tell you. You’re not safe, get out. Get out now and get out fast. Get as far away from him as possible and DO NOT give him any of your passwords. Myself and many women before me dealt with his hacking into our accounts for weeks or months. In my case, he stole my old phone before I left (as well as knew some of my passwords), one that I never wiped and got into all my accounts. I have the screenshots to prove it and have given them to the police to help my case for a protection order against him. And don’t leave your dog alone with him. I don’t know all of what he did to my dog while I was on work trips but he at least physically hit him a couple of times (something he admitted to) and I had to stop him a couple of times when I caught him doing it when I was home. Some of the other women have stories of things he did to their dogs as well.
There are women here who want nothing but the best for you and if you have questions or need to talk then please feel free to reach out to me on any social media platform. They’re all the same username. I will connect you to others too because I know how convincing he is and how he will pin his word against mine and when you love someone, hearing one side isn’t enough and I completely understand it. So let me connect you to others that will tell you worse stories than mine.
And I never ask anything from my followers but please please PLEASE reblog this. There is nothing more I want to do then help future women in return for all the help I received.
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