Kitten play 101: Collars & Collaring
Goodmorning pretty kitties! By now I hope that you read my little intro to kitten play and youβve decided that you want to explore your kitteny side!Β
Today Iβm going to be talking about collars and collaring. If youβre new to kitten play than the idea of collar will either sound fun & cute or intimidating to you. But not to worry! Iβm going to break it down so by the end of this post you should have your feelings towards the topic all figured out.Β
So what is a collar for? Well basically I would say there are 2 reasons for having a collar. One being that you love to express thatΒ kitteny side of yourself & it makes you feel confident and comfortable. The second is that maybe you are owned and you and your master would like an outward expression of that. Also obviouslyΒ a lot of times it can be used in BDSM, I wonβt go into how lol. Trying to keep it fairly PG hereβ¦
If Iβm a stray can I still wear a collar? Absolutely you can! You are still a kitten and if itβs what you like than you should wear one!Β
What kind of collars are there for kittens? Lots and lots. I would say there are 3 main types of collars that people tend to go forβ¦day collars, tie collars and lockable collars. There are just so many Iβm gonna narrow it down to a simple 3 for you. Day collars are typically something very subtle that to the public eye might just look like a necklace or something. Thatβs for you to feel like youβre wearing a collar without showing it off. A tie collar is a collar usually made with ribbons, webbing (the kind an actual collar would be made of), bells, and a ribbon tie in the back. These are for if you are more comfortable with wearing something that looks like a collar in public. Especially since some have bells. A lockable collar can be one of two things, either made entirely of metal with some kind of locking device or a tie collar but instead of tying it with a ribbon, you would secure with some kind of locking device. TypicallyΒ a lot of shops sell these cute little heart padlocks that have rhinestones around them.Β
When should you wear a collar? That is for you to use your best judgement with. Personally, I wear my collar when Iβm going out or Iβm in kitten space. I have a difficult time remembering to put it on sometimes and master doesnβt reallyΒ mind when I donβt wear it. You can wear it all day or just during your kitten time or just here and thereβ¦itβs really up to you. I would advise you not to sleep in them as they can rub your neck sometimesβ¦but to eachΒ their own.Β
What if I donβt enjoy wearing a collar, does that mean I cannot be a kitten? NO! If you are uncomfortable at all with wearing a collar, DONβT DO IT! The beauty of kitten play is that you are free to do whatever you like. If youβre uncomfortable with somethingβ¦simply donβt engage in it. A collar does not make you any more or less of a kitten.Β
What does being collared mean? What is it like?Β Being collared is when a dominant puts a collar on you and at that point you are consideredΒ βownedβ. So you are someones kitten. As for what it is like to be collared, it varies. Everyone is different and everyones relationship is different. For me it really wasnβt that big of stretch from our natural relationship but we have been married for 2 and a half years now. Weβve just always had a naturally guided dom/sub relationship. I did things that would make him happy (cooking, cleaning, nice littleΒ surprises, taking care of things) and he would reward me withΒ surprise dates or treats I liked. He takes care of me. So itβs hard for me to explain it but I hope that gave you some kind of insight.Β
Do I have to buy a special collar or can I get one from the pet store? I have actually gotten this question in the past and my advice was that if you want or like a collar from the pet store, there is nothing wrong with that. Personally the two collars that I have are both from Kitten Sightings and I like them. Their sturdy, their unique, and they donβt irritate my skin.Β There are a variety of stores for collars and other types of kitten gear such asΒ kittens playpen, wayward kitten, delicate kitten boutiqueβ¦the list could go on forever. But sometimes you just have to work with what you can afford or what is easiest to obtain and if thats your local pet store, than by all means go for it!
If I wear a collar do I need a leash to go along with it? Some people will get aΒ leash to go along with their collar that way they can be walked. I personally donβt have a leash or have ever tried one. Not sure why, it just never came up between me and my master lol. SometimesΒ a lot of companies will make matching leashes to goΒ along with a custom collarβ¦so keep an eye out for that kind of thing if youβre interested in a leash. But the answer is no, if you donβt want to have a leashβ¦you donβt have to.Β
I think that about covers everything I can think of off the top of my head about collars! I hope this helped some kittens who maybe were a little timid about getting a collar feel more comfortable and make a decision. Tomorrow there will be another post aboutΒ kitten play so make sure you keep watching for that! Much love you to you beautiful kitty cats! mewwww xoxoxox ~ Kitty Chaos.Β