Twin Therapists

We have Ph.D.’s in Counselor Education and Supervision. We are both Assistant Professors of Counseling and in private practice. We do clinical work, teach at the graduate level, supervise graduate level clinicians, conduct research on the therapeutic relationship, and have edited, contributed to, and co-authored several counseling books (some you use in your classes!). We have created this blog for the purposes of self-care. The only way to cope with studying the human condition for us is humor. Here are reflections of our thoughts post therapy sessions, classes, faculty meetings, supervision, conferences, etc. Check out our archives for our experience as graduate and doctoral students. Disclaimer: Our answers are 100% our opinions and shouldn’t be taken as fact for every mental health clinician. We tend to answer more questions when they are not asked anonymously because we do not want to post every single answer to our page. If you would like us to answer a question privately please mention it in the ask. Also, we avoid giving advice, but we may provide resources that may or may not help.

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Remembering when we had enough free time to post about our experiences

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Writing books, teaching, serving, counseling, supervising, tumblring, and changing diapers like:

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Key Note speaking at the national counseling conference like:

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When an old co-worker from a job I hated asks how my new job is going, I’m just like: 

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When a random client interaction pops into my head at dinner, i’m just like:

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When I see the same student i failed this semester in next semesters class, I’ll be like:

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(On job interview): “Have you ever taught research, career, and ethics before”?

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When a poorly matched couple decides to healthily end their relationship, I’m just like:  

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When couples schedule 8:00 am sessions, I’m just like:

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Client: “I haven’t been completely honest with you...” (***last 5 minutes of session***)

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Finally getting a black male client, is just like

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Receiving my clients case notes from their previous clinician, just like

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Are you guys no longer active? I came back on tumblr after what feels like years and remembered how much I loved your posts! I remember y'all were still in school and I had just started college back then aspiring to get my Psy.D. Crazy to see how far and settled in you are into your careers! Care to give a quick rundown of what I missed in your professional lives? Whatever y'all are comfortable sharing ofc

Hey Anon,

Thanks for this question, it’s actually perfect timing. We have been meaning to catch everyone up on how we’ve been and what kept us away from posting as much as we have in the past. To make a long story short, we’ve been working our asses off.

If we were still doc students the last time you checked up on us, you have missed a lot. Since doctor school we’ve both done all these things:

-gotten married

-published research

-started jobs as clinicians and counselor educators, hated those positions and took others before our souls crumbled.

-published more research

-published a book

-we’ve both became dads

-we settled in at a different university and clinic, respectively, that fits our personal and professional lives perfectly. 

-one of us became a dad again

-we’ve started private practices

-we published 2 more books

-we’ve written a proposal for another book - which recently got accepted 

-we’ve recently accepted a request to publish an article in an international journal on Gestalt Group Therapy

-we’ve both been doing a ridiculous amount of Zoom guest lectures in an array of counseling courses all over the country.

We are sure we are missing some bits here and there... but that about covers it.

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Getting home after doing 9 straight hours of therapy like

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“Hello Dr. ______

We are contacting you to invite you to sit on the leadership board of the Association for ________________.”

Me: I am humbled and honored that you would even choose me based on the work I’ve done in the field and the achievements in the realm of academia...

“...your passion and interest in working on issues of oppression is inspiring and we really want to bring in more diverse folks to the organization and I think your presence can help with that”

Me: ^^^^^^^^^

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Zoom meetings with white faculty/staff trying to figure out “our next steps to be more inclusive in today’s environment”, is just like:

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When my client is another therapist, sessions look just like: