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WHAT

ITS BEEN 3000 YEARS

ITS BEEN 2,306 DAYS

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

grungekitty-77

Fun fact, that was literally what inspired me to make this post!

falseknees

vireosy

taillow and razz berries

// full illustration for @pokepocketzine, a tiny pokémon fanzine

tylostoma

they removed capybara walking (1887) from letterboxd so i'm letting it live on my blog forever

thefloralmenace

I had an interview with a local paper this week about this rock snake I started on the longest street of a nearby city (where I work) because it's bringing people so much joy:

I said something during the interview that the interviewer seemed really shocked by, so in case it's important for anyone else to hear: When asked about the rock snake and some scavenger hunts that I've hosted for adults, I said -

"We don't stop enjoying the things we liked as kids; they just stop being offered to us. And when you're a kid, fun things like art projects and scavenger hunts are always brought to you, so you're not taught to make a habit of seeking them out as and adult."

She said "Wow yeah... life is so stressful... and you don't think to... wow."

So if anyone else needs direct permission to be a whimsical adult child today, I hereby grant it to everyone. ❤️

thefloralmenace

It's so soon to reblog this, but I was on the phone with my Mom, and she mentioned making me an Easter basket. I laughed and said "Thank you for excitedly making me an Easter basket at the ripe age of [insert an age over 18]," and she goes "You don't stop liking what you did as a kid, people stop presenting it to you." 😂❤️🥺

mon311

I’ve finally finished this. I started this about 2 years ago but put the animation on hold for a long time because I couldn’t figure out how to continue it for some time. A lot of the animation I did last year and finished up this year. Anyway, I like Braxien a lot and felt it would be decent practice to try to animate something interesting involving it so here it is.