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Candle Painting 🎨 . . Painting can be so much fun for kiddos when there's a magic in it. Not magic, tho, science can tell it, actually 😄. You just need to sketch your drawing on a white paper using a candle. Then apply the food coloring paste with napkins/brushes. Enjoy the joy! 😎 . . #funpainting #kinder #candlepainting

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DIY Matching Board . Untuk G/5 thn, matching-in gambar dan tulisan (sekalian belajar baca). Untuk F/2 thn, matching-in gambar hewan dengan makanannya. . . #diymatchingboard #littleG #littleF #literasi #belajarbaca #hewandanmakanannya

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Karya abu ghifar 😇 buat anak3 lanangnya 😍 handmade toys of the week!

Life Hacks | Folding Clothes . Ternyata, melipat baju bisa jadi aktivitas yang menyenangkan ya, buat bocah 😄 #practicallifeskills

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When you requested crispy fried chicken and I requested a help 😎

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We live in an iWorld. Surrounded by iPhones, iPads, MYspace, YOUtube, the focus is clear: Me, my, I. One need not look far to see this obsession with the self. In order to sell, advertisers must appeal to the ego. For example, many ads appeal to the part of us that loves power and being in charge. DirectTV tells you: “Don’t watch TV, direct TV!” Yogurtland says: “You rule! Welcome to the land of endless yogurt possibilities, where you rule the portions, the choices and the scene.” But advertisers aren’t the only ones who appeal to our ego. There is a global phenomenon that provides a breeding ground and platform for that ego. And it’s called Facebook. Now, I’ll be the first to assert that Facebook can be a powerful tool for good. It is, like many other things, what you make of it. A knife can be used to cut food which feeds the hungry, or it can be used to kill someone. Facebook can be used for great good—after all it was Facebook that helped facilitate the toppling of a dictator. Facebook can be used as a powerful tool to organize, call, remind, and unite. Facebook can also be used to strengthen our connection to God and to each other… Or Facebook can be used to strengthen the hold of our nafs (lower self or ego). The Facebook phenomenon is an interesting one. In each and every one of us is an ego. It is the part of ourselves that must be suppressed (if we are to avoid Anakin’s fate of turning to the dark side, that is). The danger of feeding the ego is that, as the ego is fed, it becomes strong. When it becomes strong, it begins to rule us. Soon we are no longer slaves to God; we become slaves to ourselves. The ego is the part of us that loves power. It is the part that loves to be seen, recognized, praised, and adored. Facebook provides a powerful platform for this. It provides a platform by which every word, picture, or thought I have can be seen, praised, ‘liked’. As a result, I begin to seek this. But then it doesn’t just stay in the cyber world. I begin even to live my life with this visibility in mind. Suddenly, I live every experience, every photo, every thought, as if it’s being watched, because in the back of my mind I’m thinking, “I’ll put it on Facebook.” This creates a very interesting state of being, almost a constant sense that I am living my life on display. I become ever conscious of being watched, because everything can be put up on Facebook for others to see and comment on. More importantly, it creates a false sense of self-importance, where every insignificant move I make is of international importance. Soon I become the focus, the one on display. The message is: I am so important. My life is so important. Every move I make is so important. The result becomes an even stronger me-focused world, where I am at the center. As it turns out, this result is diametrically opposed to the Reality of existence. The goal of this life is to realize the Truth of God’s greatness and my own insignificance and need before Him. The goal is to take myself out of the center and put Him there instead. But Facebook perpetuates the illusion of the exact opposite. It strengthens my belief that because of my own importance, every inconsequential move or thought should be on display. Suddenly what I ate for breakfast or bought at the grocery store is news important enough to publish. When I put up a picture, I wait for compliments; I wait for acknowledgement and recognition. With the number of likes or comments, physical beauty becomes something that can now be quantified. When I put up a post, I wait for it to be ‘liked’. And I am ever conscience of—and even compete in—the number of “friends” I have. (Friends, here, is in quotation marks because no one knows 80% of their “friends” on Facebook.) This preoccupation and rivalry to acquire more, is mentioned in the Quran. God says: “The mutual rivalry for piling up (of worldly things) has preoccupied you.”(102:1) Whether that rivalry is in piling up wealth, or friends and ‘likes’ on Facebook, the result is the same: We have become preoccupied by it. Facebook also strengthens another dangerous focus: the focus on other people, what they’re doing, what they like. What they think of me. Facebook feeds the preoccupation with others’ assessment of me. Soon, I enter the orbit of the creation. Inside that orbit, my definitions, my pain, my happiness, my self-worth, my success and my failure is determined by the creation. When I live in that orbit, I rise and fall with the creation. When the people are happy with me, I’m up. When they’re not, I fall. Where I stand is defined by people. I’m like a prisoner because I have given up the keys to my happiness, sadness, fulfillment, and disappointment to the people to hold. Once I enter and live in the orbit of the creation—rather than the orbit of God—I begin to use that currency. See, the currency of God’s orbit is: His pleasure or His displeasure, His reward or His punishment. But, the currency of the orbit of creation is: the praise and criticism of people. So, as I enter deeper and deeper into that orbit, I covet more and more of its currency, and I fear more and more of its loss. While I’m playing Monopoly, for example, I covet more and more of its currency. And it feels great to be ‘rich’ for a moment. But when the game is over, what can I buy in the Real world with Monopoly money? The human currency of praise is Monopoly money. It feels great for a moment to collect, but when the game is over, it’s worthless. In the Reality of this life and the next, it’s worthless. And yet, I even covet this false currency in my worship. In this way, I fall victim to the hidden shirk: Riyaa (showing off in worship). Riyaa is a consequence of living in the orbit of the creation. The deeper and deeper I enter into that orbit, the more I become consumed with gaining human praise, approval and recognition. The more I enter that orbit, the more I fear loss—loss of face, loss of status, loss of praise, loss of approval. But the more I fear the people, the more I become enslaved. True freedom only comes when I let go of the fear of anything and anyone other than God. In a profound hadith (Prophetic teaching), a man came to the Prophet ﷺ and said: “O Messenger of God, direct me to an act, which if I do, God will love me and people will love me.” He ﷺ said: “Detach yourself from the world, and God will love you. Detach yourself from what is with the people, and the people will love you.” [Ibn Majah] Ironically, the less we chase after the approval and love of the people, the more we gain it. The less needy we are of others, the more people are drawn to us and seek our company. This hadith teaches us a profound Truth. Only by breaking out of the orbit of the creation, can we succeed with both God and people. So while Facebook is indeed a powerful tool, let it be a tool of your freedom—not a tool of your servitude to yourself and the assessment of others.

“Reclaim Your Heart” by Yasmin Mogahed (via islamicrays)

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“When you’re with your spouse it’s natural to get lost in the ‘routine’ of life. We become so distracted by the hustle and bustle of everything and all the things we need to do and take care of, that the days and nights become blurred and before we know it, years have passed. But we mustn’t forget to actually stop from time to time and really value the time we have in each other’s company. A good exercise that I recommend for all married couples is to find an opportunity to stop whatever you’re doing and take a long hard look at your spouse while they’re in the middle of something. Let’s say, for example, your spouse is engaged in an activity without you, like washing dishes, cooking dinner, folding laundry, checking email, on the phone, flipping through a book/magazine, channel surfing, putting dishes away, wiping off their make-up or shaving, ironing their clothes, reading a book to the kids, cleaning out the fridge, wiping down the counters, playing on the floor with the kids, sipping their tea, praying, reading Qur’an, dusting, etc. While they’re engaged in any of the above activities and not really taking notice of you, watch them intently, focus on their actions, focus on their facial features, watch their body but look beyond the physical form that you see. Instead think about their beating heart and the blood that’s running through the course of their veins, think of the breaths they’re taking, think of the tension in their body and the warmth of their touch. Now think of the worries that burden them. What are they? Who are they? Think of the constant pressures that these stresses place on their heart, on their lungs, on their digestive track, on their muscles, on every part of their physical body. Do they worry about their health or your health? Do they worry about their aging parents? Do they mourn for a parent, sibling, or child that they’ve lost? Do they worry about their job security? Do they worry about finances and being able to provide for the family? Do they worry about your young children and their health or well-being? Do they worry about your teens and their spiritual, mental and physical health? Do they worry about your safety in this toxic age of increased racism and Islamophobia? Do they worry about their own spiritual heart and standing with God? Do they worry about all of the above and so much more? Now feel the weight of all of these things. Watch them and imagine how they carry all this weight on their body everywhere they go, every minute of every day. Even in that moment while they are distracting themselves with some task or activity the chances are their mind is consumed with one major worry or multiple worries all at once. Think of the toll such a constant barrage of stress must be placing on their actual body. And yet where are they? They’re there with you. They’re committed to you. Even when they fail and make mistakes, they’re still there. Now let gratitude fill your heart as you watch them with these intentions… Watch them and be grateful for their living, warm presence next to you in this life. Watch them and remember all the good they’ve done for you. Watch them and remember the laughter you’ve shared. Watch them and remember the intimate moments you’ve shared. Watch them and remember the tender moments when you were broken and they held you together. Watch them and remember the times they defended you even when you couldn’t defend yourself. Watch them and remember when they walked by your side into a gathering and you beamed with pride. Watch them and remember how they honor your loved ones. Watch them and remember the amazing places you’ve visited together. Watch them and remember the day your children were born. Watch them and remember the days you were sick and they comforted you. Our spouses may not always do or say what’s right. They may often frustrate us, defy us, annoy us, and even bring us to tears, BUT, we must do our part to remember their good. None of us are perfect. We can’t be. But we must reward loyalty nonetheless and what defines loyalty better than spouses who remain committed to each other despite all the pressures and stresses of life? When we remember their good often, our gratitude for their very presence will naturally increase. We will begin to appreciate their actual existence and not allow one day to pass where we take them for granted. Not a day will pass when we aren’t grateful to feel their warmth next to us as we sleep and to find them there when we wake. Every single day couples are torn apart one way or another. Whether their marriages dissolve or they are separated by death, there is always a great deal of remorse and regret over all the time wasted and lost on ingratitude, resentment, pettiness, etc. The remedy for these things is to purposely, intentionally, and regularly force yourself to look, to take a deep, long look at your spouse and be grateful for them. And obviously, for them to do the same. May God protect all of our marriages from these diseases. And may we all, husbands and wives, increase our gratitude and take these moments of deep reflection and consideration of our spouses seriously. Amīn.”

Hosai Mojaddidi (via islamicrays)

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One of the best gifts you can ever give your marriage is the gift of self-awareness. Gained through the practice of tazkiyyah or other personal development efforts you are able to become more aware of who you are, why you do what you do and can then take greater responsibility for yourself and your actions. The marital blame game is often the result of two people not being honest with themselves about what’s really going on. Recognize what’s really happening within your thoughts and minds and the conversation instantly shifts. The more you are aware of your own faults the more quickly you can apologize when they surface. The more you are aware of your own needs the better you are at communicating your true desires so they can be met. The more you understand yourself the more you will understand your spouse. Insight is a gift that allows you to see into yourself, into the one you love, and beyond.

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We live in a world where we want things immediately. But, all around us, Allah teaches us a profound lesson, again and again: everything is a process and takes time. Allah could have made a baby in a moment, but He designed it to take 9 months. A seed could have become a massive Oak in a day, but He designed it to take hundreds of years. The Prophet’s mission could have been completed in a year or two. But, God designed it to take twenty three. You will not always see the fruits of your labor right away. Maybe not even in your lifetime. Don’t get discouraged. All things take time. And to all things is a process you cannot speed up. Therefore, success is dependent upon patience (see 3:200).

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20 Peralatan Tempur Homebirth . . Salah satu keuntungan melahirkan di rumah (homebirth) itu gak perlu repot packing hospital bag. Gak perlu nenteng2 segala keperluan ibu, bayi, anak2, dan siapa pun yang menjaga selama proses persalinan di rumkit/klinik. Tapi tetep segala keperluan persalinan rumah harus dipersiapkan jauh2 hari. Nah berikut daftar check list homebirth survival kit ala saya juga rekomendasi para homebirth mommies yg lain 😊 Waterproof Sheet alias perlak untuk alas kasur. Pilih warna gelap, ya, biar penampakan bloody show (darah + lendir) dan lainnya gak bikin horror 😲 dan gak nempel di kasur. Biasanya banyak dijual di pasar. Jangan lupa di atas perlaknya dialas lagi dengan kain ya! Mixing Bowl alias baskom/waskom untuk menampung placenta bayi (ari2). Handuk Bekas untuk membersihkan darah, pecahan air ketuban, dan lainnya. Sediakan handuk bekas beberapa buah, warna gelap lebih baik ya. Handuk tangan untuk menyeka keringat 😆 seriously! Apalagi kalau pembukaan sudah masuk fase aktif, keringet bercucuran kayak air curug 😄. Oya, ngomongin keringat, biasanya rambut bakal basah kuyup, pastikan rambutmu diikat dengan benar ya! Di fase ini kita bakal gagal tampil cantik dan rapi. Makanya biar rambut tetap terkontrol dan gak awut2an yang bikin kita tambah gerrrah, perlu banget stok iket rambutya, taruh di tempat yang terjangkau. Maternity Pads dalam berbagai ukuran sesuai kebutuhan. Biasanya untuk beberapa hari pasca persalinan, pads nya didobel dengan pembalut kain. Untuk selanjutnya bisa pakai pembalut biasa sekali pakai. Saya pakai pembalut kain (washable pads) saja, karena selain lebih aman, rentang nifas saya bisa sampai satu bulan, gak nyaman kan tiap hari pake pospak 😂. . Belly Wrap alias korset untuk menopang perut pasca lahiran. Air Panas/hangat untuk mandi. Penting buat berendam ibu saat menunggu pembukaan lengkap. Saat masuk fase laten (pembukaan 1-3), biasanya kita masih bisa beraktivitas seperti biasa, seperti beberes rumah, masak, termasuk mandi. Penting banget mandi dan berendam dengan air hangat. Di antara manfaatnya adalah 👇

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Here is a list of Duas my Mother just forwarded to me. Insha'Allah it will be of benefit to you guys.

1. Ya Allah grant me Ultimate Success - safety from the Fire and entry into Jannatul Firdous.

2. Ya Allah make me and my family of those companions of the Right. Who receive the book of deeds in our right hands.

3. Ya Allah, Grant me a blessed death. Let me utter the shahada before I die. Grant me the intercession of Prophet Mohammed (pbuh).

4. Ya Allah grant me the companionship of Prophet Mohammed (pbuh), his family and the Sahaba’s in Jannatul Firdous.

5. Ya Allah save my non-Muslim friends from the Fire. Guide them to Islam.

6. Ya Allah, reunite me in Jannathul Firdous with those whom I love for Your sake alone.

7. Ya Rabb, perfect my Deen and my Worship.

8. Ya Allah accept my good deeds and increase me in reward and Your Mercy. Wipe away my sins and pardon me completely. Shower your Mercy upon me and save me from disgrace on the Day of Reckoning.

9. Ya Allah, when I die, let my soul and my record of Deeds be with the Illiyeen.

10. Ya Allah grant me, my parents, family and children guidance, steadfastness and increased Imaan.

11. Ya Allah, make me of the few You love, You Pardon and You shade on a Day when there is no shade but from Your Majestic Arsh (Throne).

12. Oh my Lord, increase me in Yakeen and Tawakkul in you. Let there be no doubt in my belief in Your Oneness, Your Majesty and Power.

13. Ya Allah increase me in my love for You and Your Prophet Mohammed (pbuh).

14. Ya Allah forgive me and increase me in Your Blessings and Provisions.

15. Ya Allah lead me to more opportunities to do good and seeking Your Pleasure.

16. Ya Rabb, Purify my intentions for Your Sake alone and let me not show off or take false pride. Save me from arrogance, pride, showing off and reminding of favors.

17. Oh my Creator and Sustainer, do not leave me alone. Bless me with a righteous spouse and children who will be the coolness of my eyes.

18. Oh my Lord, make me of those who are patient and obedient to You and my parents.

19. Save me from the Fitnah of Dajjal.

20. Save me from the punishment of the grave and the punishment of the Hell Fire.

21. Ya Allah, increase me in Sadakatul Jariya work.

22. Ya Allah, bless me with good health, so I can make sajdah with ease till my dying day.

23. Ya Allah, protect me and the Muslim Ummah against wicked oppressors. Save us from Fitnah and give us ease in our times of trial.

24. My Lord, bless me with the best in this world, the best in the Hereafter and save me from the fire. I am indeed in need of the good You have in store for me.

25. Ya Allah increase me in gratitude towards You alone.

26. Oh my Rabb, save me from hypocrisy.

27. Ya Allah, let me and my spouse be among the pilgrims to perform Hajj in the near future.

28. Ya Allah protect me against Evil Jinns and Spirits. Safeguard me from their evil incitements and plots.

29. Ya Allah forgive and have Mercy upon my parents, as they looked after me when I was young.

30. Ya Allah, I pray and beg of you for the guidance of the Muslim Youth and Ummah. Save us all from Kufr, Despair, Misdeeds and Shirk.

31. Ya Allah grant me the strength to battle laziness and sleep, so I may wake up for #Tahajjud and #Fajr everyday.

Ameen ya Rabb

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Even though men are 3.5 times more likely to commit suicide than women, depression is often seen as a woman’s disorder. A recent study published in the British Journal of Nursing found that men are at greater risk of committing suicide because depression and masculinity are seen as mutually exclusive. In other words, many men … More

12 Keuntungan Homebirth Pertama kali dengar ada tetangga jauh yang melahirkan anak pertamanya di rumah, saya langsung bengong setengah ngebatin, "Melahirkan di rumah? Iiiiiiih, enggak takut resiko ini itu apa?!" Saya ngomong begitu padahal saya baru saja mengalami persalinan pertama yang lumayan traumatis di Rumah Sakit Bersalin 😲 Maklum, waktu itu masih minim pengetahuan serta termakan konsep modernisasi persalinan 😃 Setelah melewati pemikiran yang panjaaang, banyak baca segala hal tentang persalinan normal minim trauma, baca2 jurnal klinis tentang childbirth, juga sharing dengan homebirth mama, persepsi saya tentang persalinan rumah berbalik 180 derajat. Maka untuk persalinan kedua dan ketiga (dan in syaa Allaah seterusnya), saya mantap bersalin di rumah, dengan dibantu tenaga kesehatan yang sudah sangat berpengalaman membantu persalinan rumahan, alhamdulillah... prosesnya lancar dan memorable, maa syaa Allaah la hawla wa laa quwwata illaa billaah 😊 In syaa Allaah di antara keuntungan yang bisa saya rasakan adalah sbb: . . . Melahirkan di rumah itu lebih nyaman. Suasana rumah sendiri pastinya berbeda dibanding suasana rumah sakit, meski di ruangan VIP sekalipun 😊 Yang paling penting kita lebih nyaman bergerak khususnya saat menunggu proses pembukaan. Kita bisa jalan2 kecil di ruang tamu, pindah ke dapur, pekarangan belakang, teras dan lain sebagainya. Mau jejengkingan atau meringis-ringis juga gak perlu khawatir malu dilihat orang lain 😃. Mau melahirkan dengan posisi dan tempat yang kita inginkan pun bisa. Suasana yang homey ini, akan membuat kita lebih rileks dan membuat hormon oksitosin terus diproduksi sehingga proses pembukaan bisa lebih cepat. 😇 . . . Melahirkan di rumah itu lebih leluasa. Kita bebas mau makan dan minum sebanyak dan kapan pun kita mau. Tak perlu khawatir dengan pilihan menu yang mungkin tidak cocok untuk kita. Pokoknya bebas dengan pilihan makanan sehat di dapur sendiri 😊. Kita juga bebas mau pakai sarung atau daster pendek sekalipun, gak perlu khawatir aurat dilihat yang bukan mahrom. Juga gak perlu ribet pake khimar dan kaus kaki 😄. . . More story on my blog 😃

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Are you a Thinker or a Feeler?

Thinkers

1. When faced with a decision or choice, the thinker automatically focuses on facts, and applies logic to the situation.

2. He or she subconsciously notices tasks and work that needs to be done.

3. Thinkers find it easy to provide an objective analysis of any situation. They’re guided by rational reasoning.

4. They view conflict as a natural and normal part of relationships. It doesn’t always mean that something is wrong, or relationships are going to fall apart.

Feelers

1. When faced with a decision or choice, feelers are guided by their gut reactions, and listen to their feelings and immediate response. They’re especially concerned about hurting other people, or making life more difficult or painful for them.

2. They intuitively pick up on people’s feelings and reactions – and they notice body language and non-verbal cues.

3. In reaching decisions, they want to hear others’ opinions, and they seek a consensus, or a fair compromise.

4. They are distressed by conflict, and dislike when people argue. Their ultimate goal is peace and harmony.

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Feeler 😃

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Abu UNProductive is suffering from an internet addiction disorder. He spends more time in the virtual world than with his own family. His marriage is on shaky grounds and he’s feeling even more lonely and depressed now. Is there a way to stop his internet addiction…and YOURS?

Here are ‘5 Tips to Stop Social Media From Taking Over Your Life’: http://proms.ly/1MMGJvI

May Allaah make us all disciplined & productive Muslims. Aameen!

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