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hi | he/him | 18+ only blog focused on full bellies and the care of said bellies

[untamed-appetites]

About me and this blog!

I use he/him pronouns, and I'm in my late 20s.

This blog is dedicated to stuffing/feeding kink, so if that's not your vibe that's on you to not be here.

THIS BLOG IS 18+

This is non-negotiable. While I'm not a very sexual person by nature and will likely keep this blog fairly tame in that regard, this is ultimately a kink blog and for that reason alone this space is not suitable for minors. If you're a minor and you try to follow or send an ask to this blog, I will block you.

THINGS I WILL POST ABOUT

stuffing/overeating

feeding

minor weight gain if it's a result from repeated overeating (but it's literally never going to be a focus)

aftercare (including but not limited to belly rubs)

maybe my OCs

THINGS I WILL NOT POST ABOUT

vore

unrealistic bodies (this can be kind of subjective, but my rule of thumb is if I've never seen it either irl or in a photo/video of a real life person, I'm not interested)

pregnancy

force-feeding

THINGS I DO NOT TOLERATE

homophobia and transphobia

xenophobia

racism

Zionism

This is a blog for fun, kinky stuff, and I'm not going to tolerate any kind of ideology that dehumanizes vast groups of people.

CAN YOU SEND ME ASKS?

Absolutely! Just keep in mind that if it's something I listed under "won't post about" I might not respond to it.

I'll update this post as I need to, but I hope this will be enough!

[trashytummiez]

This was another audio mix vid I did of @fangusfungs gifs~this one of Dabi's tummy bursting his pants button clean off and featurin a gassy trope we're both hella fond of x3

[scottbaiowulf-deactivated201805]

Male writers writing female characters:

“Cassandra woke up to the rays of the sun streaming through the slats on her blinds, cascading over her naked chest. She stretched, her breasts lifting with her arms as she greeted the sun. She rolled out of bed and put on a shirt, her nipples prominently showing through the thin fabric. She breasted boobily to the stairs, and titted downwards.”

[m1ssc0mmun1cat10n]

‘ She breasted boobily to the stairs, and titted downwards’ is the greatest fucking sentence I have ever read.

[silly-activites]

THE ORIGINAL??

[dduane]

(smh) Never thought I’d see it in the wild. Yet here it is. :)

[untamed-appetites]

learning how to flirt in another language is both terrifying and so much fun

[ur-favorite-pocket-gremlin]

♡ Today’s lil challenge ♡

✧･ﾟ: ✧･ﾟ: 𝓢𝓹𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓭 𝓢𝓸𝓶𝓮 𝓛𝓸𝓿𝓮 :･ﾟ✧:･ﾟ✧

Go to your fav feedee, feeder, or FA blogger and drop a sweet message in the ask!

Not about their gain, not the spicy stuff — just something soft and kind.

We’re all spicy, but also human, and a little kindness goes a long way.

Tell them:

— something you admire

— or just that you’re happy they exist

｡･::･ﾟ★,｡･::･ﾟ☆

Let’s make someone smile today!

｡･::･ﾟ★,｡･::･ﾟ☆

[housecow]

y’all will beg feedees to do massive fast food stuffings, drink heavy cream daily, disregard basic knowledge on how to not feel like shit bc of diet, and then act surprised when they stop interacting with the community or develop health problems??

[untamed-appetites]

being a 'good feeder' isn't about pushing someone's limits or making sure they're always gaining.

it's about making sure the feeding is safe and fun. it's about knowing how to structure things around a healthy diet (contrary to fantasy-brain fiction, you do need to eat healthy if you're trying to gain weight). it's about making sure your feedee is safe, happy, and comfortable, and changing course when they aren't.

it's about listening to the feedee.

Feeders aren't just there to stuff a feedee silly; feeders are there to take care of their feedee.

[printerkink]

i hate it when people say feedism has all these problems that literally every other kink also has they’re just singling out feedism bc they think it’s the yucky fat people kink

[iwritebigbellies-blog]

I got long opinions about how the shame and stigma attached to feedism is preventing its practitioners from learning the 101 basics of safe kink. -.- There are a lot of fantasies around here and a lot fewer guidelines for safe practice.

I wanna hear more about boundaries and safewords and RACK tactics, people. I don't care if it isn't turning you on. If your feedism is a lot of unhinged tumblr brain with no idea how it fits in a healthy relationship, then I know you are just fucking around. Take your tourism elsewhere.

[untamed-appetites]

I move in a lot of BDSM spaces irl and genuinely thinking of feedism as being on a continuum with those kinks actually did help me a lot. It's not that feedism needs a dom or a sub or any of that; it's that these are kinks and fetishes that can involve a lot of discomfort and plain in pursuit of pleasure, and that kind of play NECESSITATES clear communication, open and honest conversations, boundaries, safe words, the whole deal. and oh my fffffff god, if I encounter one more feeder who doesn't understand how important aftercare is i'll scream

[untamed-appetites]

I nearly screamed when this showed up on my twitter timeline and it took me a solid 15 seconds before i realize 'oh this isn't feedism-related'

like ok op I get you were making a joke but i will never for a second forget how bloated someone looked and i mean that as a nicest compliment i could ever give

[ffaforever]

Keeping him so packed full of food/in a food coma so I can use him as my play toy all weekend.🧸💖

[miielmieel-deactivated20250515]

[catmask]

build a bear? yeah i give my boyfriend his t shots i know how to build a bear

[catmask]

[eatforcherry]

About a month ago, my partner intimated that she is willing to eat for me. I've never been more excited. She's always enjoyed my cooking and sweet treats. We've been together over a decade. In that time we have talked about feedism vis. our relationship and have come to some really good conversations and growth (pun intended.)

It sounds so weird to say, and even absurd to complain about, but... I'm nervous? Maybe we are still trying our boundaries and building trust and stuff, but I've felt like I'm oscillating between dropping the ball (like not making her breakfast when she asked me to) and being too pushy. I feel like I finally got what I want, and now I don't know what to do with myself!

How do I strike a ballance without being all "put as much fattening food in front of her before she comes to her senses" (that temptation / corruption arc is strong with us.)

It’s great that you’re able to have those conversations and I’m glad they’re going well. :) I would say that being nervous is completely understandable. Just go slowly, keep the communication between you both open and enjoy how it progresses from there.

Can anyone in a feedism relationship give any advice on this? I feel like you’ll be more qualified to answer lol.

[untamed-appetites]

I used to be in a relationship like this!

Even in relationships where both parties share the same kinks, you always need to talk about specifics, because feedism is a REALLY broad spectrum of kinks. Some good questions to start out with are:

How much weight do they want to gain? Can you set a reasonable goal (like 5 or 10 pounds) and check back in with each other once you reach that goal?

What kinds of food do they like and how can you still maintain a balanced diet? That's something that is easy to forget about in spaces like this, but even if you're trying to gain weight you still have to get in a variety of nutrients.

How much do they want to eat in one sitting? That one's a big one, because stuffing is a very uncomfortable sensation to someone unfamiliar with it and some people get nauseous from fullness more easily than others. Setting an expectation and a boundary here will help in the long run.

Other than that, just make sure you choose a safeword so that either of you can signal in no uncertain terms that you need to stop things for the moment. Keep checking in but setting up clear expectations for the both of you and having a clear and tangible goalpost to shoot for and then check back in with each other at is always a good idea.

And don't take it personally if they need to take it slow! Feedism intersects with a lot of body image insecurities and other mental/emotional hangups, so just be patient, lean into the fun, and always make sure both of you can feel comfortable raising a concern.

[tweetingukpolitics]

[ravioliraz]

[untamed-appetites]

The tough thing about having a stuffing/feeding kink in a friend group of very sexually open people that sometimes borders on being a polycule is that even though there are a bunch of people who always want to try new kinks, stuffing always feels like a step too far for me.

Like, maybe that's my one hangups, but there's such a vulnerability to it that I don't feel with other kinks I have and practice with these friends. Actually doing a feeding session means they have to trust me when they're in a very compromising position (and one that doesn't end when the scene does because, hello, being too full doesn't just go away when you say a safeword) and I also get most of my kicks from the feedee being aroused by what's happening. If they're not having fun, I'm not having fun.

Which means I just idle in this weird in-between where there are people who might be down to try it out, but I'm too nervous to take that first step with someone whose interest in this kink I'm still really unsure/unaware of.

[untamed-appetites]

PSA: you are not entitled to another person

I just saw a really nasty interaction between someone (person A) who was only interested in bloating and stuffing themselves and a second person (person B) who was very incensed by A's disinterest in gaining weight and it put a really bad taste in my mouth. I get it, for a lot of us these are not kinks we can express in our day-to-day lives and internet kink spaces can feel like a place where all of this can finally come out, but I really feel upset seeing someone berate and ridicule another person for not having the exact same kinks as them and setting a boundary about how they do and don't want to be spoken to. Especially in kink spaces that have to do with bodies and body image the way stuffing, bloating, feeding, and weight gain kinks do, do not EVER make someone feel bad for setting a hard boundary for THEIR OWN BODY.

[untamed-appetites]

Everyone else: Wow he’s so hot ☺️ would love to fuck him crazy

Me for some reason:

I need him to eat an ungodly amount of food in front of me

[yuri-alexseygaybitch]

I have a magical solution to all kink discourse it's called "not giving a fuck what consenting adults do to each other no matter how much it personally grosses you out"

[yuri-alexseygaybitch]

Yeah it's great to think about kink critically, to be aware of power dynamics and the social production of taboos and how those create erotic scripts, to be able to unpack those without turning into a reactionary who thinks all kinks except the ones you like personally are bad, but if all of that is too much work you can simply fall back on the old faithful of "actually none of my business"