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[untitledsystemblog]

it disgusts me how people are so apathetic to people with BIID who injure themselves. it's treated like an inevitability, the only cure. discussion around BIID is centered around being "transabled" and never around just being a person who has BIID and is managing it.

why are people with BIID not allowed to be happy unless we hurt ourselves? how am i meant to feel proud of all the times i've had a severe episode and almost or did attempt to self-amputate but made it out the otherside alright in the end, if it's accompanied by people who don't even know what it's like insisting i'll be in this cycle forever until i finally end up doing it?

it's unbelievably isolating, as if people are allowed to avoid helping me because they think it won't mean anything.

[untitledsystemblog]

white people seem to always view themselves as the victims of bigotry that does not affect them at all so long as the actual victims aren't white. i couldn't tell you the amount of times i've seen white americans talk about islamic misogyny in a way that explicitly frames SWANA women who are often victims of physical or sexual assault as stupid bitches who are only being abused because they're just too ditzy to know that civilized societies don't have any abuse, apparently. the idea of a SWANA woman who participates in subjugating other women is thrown around not with genuine concern of how the morality police brutalise innocent women, but out of some sort of sexualised fantasy of the aggressive woman of colour who it is perfectly justified to assault yourself. western feminism uses these women as nameless examples, and doesn't want them to be liberated because it would make their "cause" less extravagant.

[this-is-exorsexism]

there's a poll going around that's like "it/its users, what are you (in relation to your pronouns)?" with a bunch of .. you know, cryptids and objects and such and no option for just .. person. and i've never seen a poll like this for he/him or she/her

this is exorsexism.

yeah, i think some people just heard "some people use it/its because it's associated with nonhumanity" and ran with it, applying this to every it/its user. sometimes it's not that deep. sometimes pronouns just feel right based on vibes.

[untitledsystemblog]

maybe it's just that i don't have an innerworld, but i genuinely do not understand what it is about being a system that makes people act like incongruencies between one's sense of self and their body are more "real" if that person is a member of a system than if they aren't. there is no real difference between a headmate who is a woman with a penis and a singlet who wants to be a woman with a penis that would make one allowed to call themselves transfem and the other one not. i can't be the only one who thinks that's just really pretentious.

being a system is not a free pass to claim whatever label you want with no regard to what it actually means because it "feels right", if i have to explain to a white person why they can't have a non-white headmate one more time i might give myself a concussion from slamming my head into my desk too many times.

[thecircularsystem]

I’ve been thinking about this post all day, and I’d really appreciate if you can clarify.

How does the desire for different genitalia indicate someone’s gender? I’m confused about the correlation of “has a penis” to “transfem.”

[untitledsystemblog]

i'm saying that it doesn't. i'm not sure where you got the idea that i think having a penis makes you transfem

[thecircularsystem]

Sorry — my reading comprehension must be fucking shot.

When I read your post, I thought it was essentially saying this:

There is no difference between an alter who is a woman with a penis, and a singlet who is a woman with a penis. Therefore, there is no reason why an alter (who is a woman with a penis) would be allowed to call themselves a transfem when the singlet could not. Ergo, an alter who is a woman with a penis cannot be transfem. Saying an alter is transfem when the body “doesn’t match” that is similar to systems who say their alters are non-white when they are bodily white.

I’m confused at the correlation; what does being a woman with a penis have to do with trans femininity? Am I correct that you’re saying that an alter who is a woman with a penis should not be allowed to identify as a trans woman?

Thank you for clarifying 🧡

[untitledsystemblog]

a system member who is internally [x] does not get to claim that identity externally, because being internally [x] is not an experience unique to systems. claiming that being internally [x] means you are also externally [x] or otherwise able to claim you are [x] because you are a system is just using an unrelated aspect of your identity to deflect criticism. hopefully that explains my point better

[untitledsystemblog]

maybe it's just that i don't have an innerworld, but i genuinely do not understand what it is about being a system that makes people act like incongruencies between one's sense of self and their body are more "real" if that person is a member of a system than if they aren't. there is no real difference between a headmate who is a woman with a penis and a singlet who wants to be a woman with a penis that would make one allowed to call themselves transfem and the other one not. i can't be the only one who thinks that's just really pretentious.

being a system is not a free pass to claim whatever label you want with no regard to what it actually means because it "feels right", if i have to explain to a white person why they can't have a non-white headmate one more time i might give myself a concussion from slamming my head into my desk too many times.

[the-fox-collective]

Genuine question, is this a real concern about the transmisogny behind someone calling themself transfem because they want to be a "woman with a penis," or is this a strawman argument against honeybee transfems?

[untitledsystemblog]

i have literally only ever heard a "transfem alter" described as an alter that is a woman and has a penis. that's not what a strawman argument is

[the-fox-collective]

Your post seems to say that a singlet who's a woman with a penis and an alter who's a woman with a penis, there's no reason a singlet who is a woman with a penis can call herself transfem so an alter in the same situation cannot either. Is this not a correct reading?

Based on that reading though, it sounds like you are saying that someone who wants a penis cannot be transfem. The reason I said strawman would be the fact that that's an inaccurate definition of a honeybee transfem, so doesn't actually make a concrete argument.

Also, I know many people with transfem alters, and not a single one is just a woman with a penis. Many have either transitioned in innerworld or are part of an intersex collective, or are sourced from a transfem character.

[untitledsystemblog]

transitioning in the innerworld or being sourced from a transfem character is just the exact same thing as "being an alter who is a woman with a penis", don't be pedantic. it still attaches transfemininity to some sort of "internal maleness", or othering transfemininity from any other kind of femininity. all minority labels are inherently influenced by systemic social roles, innerworld experiences don't really matter.

[untitledsystemblog]

maybe it's just that i don't have an innerworld, but i genuinely do not understand what it is about being a system that makes people act like incongruencies between one's sense of self and their body are more "real" if that person is a member of a system than if they aren't. there is no real difference between a headmate who is a woman with a penis and a singlet who wants to be a woman with a penis that would make one allowed to call themselves transfem and the other one not. i can't be the only one who thinks that's just really pretentious.

being a system is not a free pass to claim whatever label you want with no regard to what it actually means because it "feels right", if i have to explain to a white person why they can't have a non-white headmate one more time i might give myself a concussion from slamming my head into my desk too many times.

[the-fox-collective]

Genuine question, is this a real concern about the transmisogny behind someone calling themself transfem because they want to be a "woman with a penis," or is this a strawman argument against honeybee transfems?

[untitledsystemblog]

i have literally only ever heard a "transfem alter" described as an alter that is a woman and has a penis. that's not what a strawman argument is

[untitledsystemblog]

maybe it's just that i don't have an innerworld, but i genuinely do not understand what it is about being a system that makes people act like incongruencies between one's sense of self and their body are more "real" if that person is a member of a system than if they aren't. there is no real difference between a headmate who is a woman with a penis and a singlet who wants to be a woman with a penis that would make one allowed to call themselves transfem and the other one not. i can't be the only one who thinks that's just really pretentious.

being a system is not a free pass to claim whatever label you want with no regard to what it actually means because it "feels right", if i have to explain to a white person why they can't have a non-white headmate one more time i might give myself a concussion from slamming my head into my desk too many times.

[thecircularsystem]

I’ve been thinking about this post all day, and I’d really appreciate if you can clarify.

How does the desire for different genitalia indicate someone’s gender? I’m confused about the correlation of “has a penis” to “transfem.”

[untitledsystemblog]

i'm saying that it doesn't. i'm not sure where you got the idea that i think having a penis makes you transfem

[untitledsystemblog]

maybe it's just that i don't have an innerworld, but i genuinely do not understand what it is about being a system that makes people act like incongruencies between one's sense of self and their body are more "real" if that person is a member of a system than if they aren't. there is no real difference between a headmate who is a woman with a penis and a singlet who wants to be a woman with a penis that would make one allowed to call themselves transfem and the other one not. i can't be the only one who thinks that's just really pretentious.

being a system is not a free pass to claim whatever label you want with no regard to what it actually means because it "feels right", if i have to explain to a white person why they can't have a non-white headmate one more time i might give myself a concussion from slamming my head into my desk too many times.

[untitledsystemblog]

can someone who is more chronically online and invested in shipcourse or whatever than me explain what "if you censor pedophilic fiction they'll censor gay fiction" even means. it's just provably objectively false am i missing something.

[untitledsystemblog]

i'm kind of confused how people ended up at the conclusion that TME and TMA are bad because it's a binary and not because they're often used as prescriptive labels. something being a binary doesn't inherently make it bad, the reason the gender and sex binaries are bad is because they can only be enforced through systemic violence. nobody is systemically imposing the word TME on you.

[untitledsystemblog]

every time i see the word "transabled" i audibly groan. i wish that word didn't exist so talking about BIID wasn't such a headache

[untitledsystemblog]

whenever white leftists try to be antiracist it's always in a way that doesn't actually try to abolish race altogether, but tries to put white people at the bottom of the racial hierarchy and other races at the top. not in a "you should listen to black people about antiblackness because it's their life experience and not yours" way, but in a "black people should kill all white people because we're soooo stupid and terrible!" way.

it encourages white people not to be loud about being dismantling white supremacy, to instead treat antiracism as a competition of who can be the nicest, most caring and most submissive white person in the room (which are traits that are associated with white people anyway. how subversive). instead of listening to marginalised people and forming actual opinions based on what you learn from them, these white people just repeating what people of colour say with no regard to what it actually means, and it makes them unable to criticise their own whiteness in any level of detail beyond "i'm a stupid white person! i'm sorry for being white".

they treat their negative behaviours not as a learned pattern that can be unlearned, but an inevitability of being a stupid cracker, because under white supremacy people of colour's negative behaviours are often blamed on them being a stupid [applicable racist slur]. it directly replicates white supremacy, but with the roles reversed to excuse white people from racism. it's not just really really fucking annoying (it still is), it also makes you a shitty ally.

[artisticdysfunction]

the sysblr community being ableist and saneist as hell honestly doesn't surprise me at all.

barely anyone can be anything resembling courteous about the topic of psychotic people and those on the schizospectrum. plenty of systems believe that, somehow, the most appropriate thing to do when meeting a delusional stranger is to repeatedly try and reality check them regardless of consequences.

and people throw them under the bus all the time, as well as consider them to be fine to disregard if it means getting a win or something over someone else.

this callousness towards fellow disabled people often isn't solely located to the psychotic and those on the schizospectrum. so it's not really a surprise to me.

[untitledsystemblog]

i know i already said this before but i feel the need to reiterate: jesus christ hypervisibility and invisibility are not opposites nor are they mutually exclusive. why am i seeing people argue that saying trans women are both hypervisible and invisible is "having your cake and eating it too". the entire point of the words hypervisible and invisible is that they're a paradox, they contradict each other on the surface but go hand-in-hand in practice.

trans women are both hypervisible and invisible because even though most people know trans women exist, it's in the context of the "man in a dress" or "man invading women's spaces", or in hypersexualised depictions that emphasise the absurdity of a woman with a penis. in these stereotyped caricatures, the actual experiences of trans women and their humanity are completely ignored. if trans women do not get a say in how they are talked about, that is making them invisible.

hypervisibility also isn't exclusive to being on the news, it's often talked about as in being hypervisible in interpersonal contexts, sticking out like a sore thumb in a community where you are an outlier, or having the fact you are marginalised be hyperfocused on to the point of erasing your individuality. this is something that trans women also experience, but trans men are not exempt from being hypervisible in this way either, you do not need to be so protective over the concept of being The Hypervisible Trans or The Invisible Trans, that's just not what those words mean.

[untitledsystemblog]

precocious puberty is like oppositional defiant disorder in which all of the information about it ever is ringing the alarm bells that it's a blatantly ableist, racist and sexist diagnosis and people will still insist that it's an actual problem that needs to be fixed

[vinebean]

would you be open to talking more about it? i don't really know much about the subject personally.

[untitledsystemblog]

precocious puberty has no real negative symptoms. the only symptom of precocious puberty is being a few centimetres shorter depending on how much earlier the puberty starts. despite this, precocious puberty is still seen as needing to be treated. this is because it's associated with marginalised people. it's not transparent, precocious puberty comes with a lot of double standards.

for one, earlier puberties are associated with non-white children, particularly black girls*. part of this is because black girls are often assumed to be more sexual or mature and capable than their white peers, both common misogynoiristic stereotypes. black people's sex characteristics are often put under harsh scrutiny and treated as inherently androgynous or hypermasculine, it's not really a coincidence that something associated with black people is also something that's viewed as a serious fault that needs to be cured in favour of a white supremacist standard of biology.

furthermore is the general misogyny of it, particularly in statements like "girls who have undergone precocious puberty are more likely to be sexually abused", which while statistically true, places the blame of sexual abuse on the girl's body for being sexually enticing and not the rape culture enabling abuse. precocious puberty is also in general viewed as a "worse problem" when it happens to girls than to boys*, unless the boy develops breasts or something crazy and terrible like that.

that leads into the intersexism of it. precocious puberty is associated with an excess of androgens, and this means that some of the main (known) causes of precocious puberty are intersex variations like CAH, PCOS and hypergonadism. part of the reason precocious puberty is viewed as worse in girls is not just classic medical misogyny, but because girls who go through precocious puberty are more likely to exhibit obvious signs of being hormonally intersex.

could this all be a coincidence? sure i guess. but i also don't have enough patience for the medical establishment to think that it is. i think precocious puberty can be an actual problem if it's like a 3-5 year old who is menstruating or something, but those cases are pretty much never what is being referred to in discussions about precocious puberty.

[untitledsystemblog]

intersex people are only visible when we are emotionless objects, talked about and sexualised when we're not allowed to be in the room, to the point that intersex people who express any emotion at all are immediately assumed to be hysterical and causing their own problems.

you don't see yourself as male or female because perisex people alienate you and see you as a freak no matter how much you let people abuse you to make you "normal"? wooow you must hate yourself for being intersex! you're not a broken man or broken woman just because you're intersex! just accept that you're either male or female, it'll make you happier!

you were pressured or actively forced into "medical treatments" that range from irreversible mutilation to blatant rape? wooow you're so ungrateful! not everyone can get life-saving treatment like you can! you probably consented to those treatments anyway because you were older than 5 and didn't explicitly say no after a doctor gaslit you into thinking you had a serious medical condition!

you spent so much of your life being told your disorder was so rare and unique that you felt completely and utterly alone and without community? wooow i guess intersex people don't want to be in the queer community! if you wanted me to include you you could've just said so! it's your fault that i don't care about you!

i'm sick of the condescending victim-blaming of it all, particularly the facade of genuine care. if you stop being a hysterical bitch i'll help you! it's insidious that people will only recognise that an intersex person isn't cared for when it's to get them to agree with their viewpoint.

[untitledsystemblog]

precocious puberty is like oppositional defiant disorder in which all of the information about it ever is ringing the alarm bells that it's a blatantly ableist, racist and sexist diagnosis and people will still insist that it's an actual problem that needs to be fixed