ms. silverhand

Val ♡ 32 ♡ She/Them ♡ Big nerd! ♡ Current special interest is Cyberpunk. ♡

[valsilverhand]

Valorie, 32, non-binary. From the US. Timezone is MTN. I am AUDHD. This account will feature Cyberpunk 2077, other various fandom things, and memes! This is also a place where I will be posting my virtual photography as well! Also my account is more of an adult space. I prefer interacting with adults and curating towards them. It's more comfortable for me that way! So sometimes if I don't follow back ASAP, it's usually because I didn't see your age on your blog. OH! And do NOT use my OCs for roleplay purposes. Do not repost my work! You can also find me on bluesky!

I have several OCs! You might end up seeing:

Mona Stein | Nomad | Aldecado | Shipped with Saul.

Vanna Richards | Nomad | Netrunner | Shipped with Kurt Hansen.

Malakai | Corpo | Bodygaurd | Backstory Unknown | Ship N/A

Luma Knight | Corpo | Rocker | Shipped with Kurt Hansen (possibly with Johnny in an AU)

But that's just a few! Also please do not use or repost my OCs/works on other sites. The only person who has permission to use them is me.

[valsilverhand]

Got a secret, can you keep it?

[valsilverhand]

Hi everyone! I am currently seeking some help via GFM so I can hopefully get back to the east coast by June or July. Anything helps if you're able to spare anything! Everything I earn will be put into my savings and not be touched until I can get things together.

Help Amber travel home!, organized by Amber Champion

Hello, my name is Amber, and I am currently stuck in Utah. I am originally from the East Coast … Amber Champion needs your support for Help

[valsilverhand]

Sorry to keep bumping this but the situation I'm in currently isn't favorable and wrecking my mental health. I really could use the help to get home

[valsilverhand]

Got a secret, can you keep it?

[cahootings]

shoutout to the gay couple who essentially queued up behind me to also take a pic

[themermaidriot]

guess whose back kinda a bit//i updated and took some pics <3

[valsilverhand]

Unnamed girl I'm working on while I'm burnt out again from my weird work schedule

[feelingsoftheday]

Remember that the right person will never get tired of you even in the worst times

[ryanthedemiguy]

No, they will! But they'll work through it, or walk away for a bit (i'm talking minutes to hours) and then come back.

People can love you and still need to get away from you for a bit. And there is nothing toxic about that — it's good, in fact. It helps remind everyone involved that everyone has boundaries, and everyone needs time to themselves.

It's okay. Calm down before you talk about something that made you angry while your loved one is sick. Be sure of what made you mad so you can discuss it together.

Love isn't a one-way street, and it's something that takes work. Part of that work is knowing when you need to step away.

[medtech-mara]

[geekdawson]

one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have. 

no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation. 

no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying. 

no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.

no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.  

a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age. 

Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse. 

I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships. 

The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery. 

[sociallyanxiousdragon]

This post has helped me so much I’m glad I’ve come across it again

It has honestly saved some of my relationships and it could have saved others if I had taken it to heart earlier

It’s how I approach all new relationships, and I’ll state this outright to be clear

I can’t stop myself from overanalyzing initially, but I have regularly stopped myself from obsessing over or acting on my overanalyzing

Thank you so much for making this post

[gaynfl-moved]

what a way to announce your skills issue anyway how long is y'all's longest internet friendship, mine is 14 years

[valsilverhand]

Trying to make a new gal to pass the time! Unsure if I'll keep her but damn is she MILF-y

[valsilverhand]

So... tumblr shit a brick and now I don't have access to this account via PC browser. Photo sets will be put on hold until I can hopefully change my email over to a new one! If not... well. I guess I'm making my way back to my old account. It's not shadowed anymore from the looks of it

[cyberholic77-deactivated2024080]

I have been given a power I shouldn't have touched.

[grandestrology-deactivated20150]

I don’t wanna get involved in the drama I just wanna know 103% of the information on what happened

[valsilverhand]

Hi everyone! I am currently seeking some help via GFM so I can hopefully get back to the east coast by June or July. Anything helps if you're able to spare anything! Everything I earn will be put into my savings and not be touched until I can get things together.

Help Amber travel home!, organized by Amber Champion

Hello, my name is Amber, and I am currently stuck in Utah. I am originally from the East Coast … Amber Champion needs your support for Help

[teathattast]