kindness is an act of rebellion

late 20s • acearo genderfluid enby • any/all • pfp @susiedraws • fuck terfs

[valwiththeroundglasses]

trans and queer unity forever

exclusionists will be blocked

terfs/tirfs/transmeds/truscums will be sprayed with the super soaker full of cat piss (and blocked)

tma/tme discourse seems deliberately designed to encourage trans infighting and sabotage advocacy. I want to hear about your experiences as an individual but this specific label is full of radfem rhetoric

please avoid defining yourself by pain. it will make you cling to pain. community should be built around comfort and joy

if you're cool with that then stick around 👍

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Val, late 20s, they/any pronouns

US American, unfortunately

acearo genderfluid enby disaster

my gender is a comedy improv game and I'm the one who's taking it the least seriously which means I'm winning

topics: queer shit, trauma/cptsd, queer adjacent communities (neurodivergence, kink, sex ed, etc). includes mature topics.

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in case I write something bigoted, mean, or otherwise shitty, please assume it is ignorant and unintentional and send me an anon. you don't have to educate me yourself but a few keywords for me to google would help.

(it is possible I will disagree with you even after hearing you out, but if I think you're the one being shitty I'll just block you. and then you won't have to hear from me, so you win!)

I don't reblog callout posts unless there's serious receipts attached and the person is still doing damage (e.g. an active con artist). not interested in the kind of drama where someone dug up a tweet from five years ago.

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free click to support Palestine

proceeds from this queer music album on Bandcamp go to The Freedom Theatre, based in Jenin Refugee Camp.

("In the dark times, will there also be singing? / Yes, there will be singing. About the dark times.")

[twisted0lli3]

This is a really good example of how TERFs disguise their attacks against trans men, and why it’s so harmful to consider TERF attitudes towards trans mascs as infantilizing.

The post is made to appear sympathetic to the man they are mocking. “Look at this poor ‘girl’ and how he’s mutilated himself” sounds sympathetic, especially to trans people who are subjected to aggressive, direct attacks on their identities and humanity.

But this performative sympathy is just a front so that TERFs can enjoy being cruel without appearing as the aggressor. This allows the audience to still enjoy the pleasure of engaging in cruelty while dressing it up as pity.

This plays into the broader tactic TERFs deploy with trans mascs.

Rarely ever do they confront us directly the way they do with trans women.

In fact, because they see us as women, their primary objective is to make sure we are never ever heard at all, so that they can maintain the narrative that none of us would ever transition of our own free will.

Instead, they poison the well. They talk to our “handlers”. Our parents, our doctors and psychiatrists, our husbands, boyfriends, our pastors.

The veneer of sympathy is not to appeal to trans men. It is to appeal to those they see as having ownership over us. When trans men fight back against this, the malice comes out in full force.

Trans men do not get attacked less. The attacks are simply not recognized as such, because even in protesting oppression, we place it on a hierarchy.

[hazard-symbols-that-fuck-hard]

saw this warning sticker on my way to my t-shot

[hazard-symbols-that-fuck-hard]

the psychological impact that the curious george clown college episode had on me cannot be underestimated

[hazard-symbols-that-fuck-hard]

every. single. time i find myself in a stairwell. please tell me im not alone here.

[hazard-symbols-that-fuck-hard]

okay so for context. curious george (the 2006 pbs kids show) is fairly grounded. if you look beyond the premise of a monkey who is also a human child who lives with his inexplicably wealthy eccentric gay adoptive dad in nyc.

but the clown college just does fucking whatever. none of the students act like students. none of the professors act like professors. they solely do clown shit, to the point where the elevators are unusable

so while the eccentric gay man tries to find a parking spot (which is difficult because so much of the weirdly large parking lot is dedicated to elephants), george decides to take the stairs by himself

and so we’re taken away from the wonder and whimsy of the clown college, and the majority of the episode takes place in this completely ordinary, slightly dingy stairwell. occasionally interrupted by a clown. and george just goes up and down and up and down, struggling to get to the floors he needs to get to because he’s like four years old and barely knows how to count

[rainestormy-nights]

WAIT WAS THE MAN WITH THE YELLOW HAT CONFIRMED GAY? THAT SHOW WAS MY CHILDHOOD AUTISTIC SP/IN HHOW DID I NOT KNOW HE’S GAY

[hazard-symbols-that-fuck-hard]

it wasn’t ever made official but it’s extraordinary obvious that he’s either exclusively gay or completely asexual

in the christmas special he wakes up in a cold sweat after having a nightmare about being with a woman

[extraeye]

How two trans women ran a legendary underground surgical clinic in a rural barn

The neighbours had no idea. The medical equipment came from eBay. But in a dark time for transgender people, these anarchist medics treated

extremely cool article you should read if you haven’t already

[brownbearbutch]

[s4pph0m3t]

[prokopetz]

Elaborate fantasy and sci-fi worldbuilding as necessary context and structure for porn is great, but what's really fantastic is when the worldbuilding is a product of the porn. It clearly didn't need to be there, but at some point the author took a closer look at the porn and started asking "okay, so what does this imply?"

[prokopetz]

Level 1: The worldbuilding needs to be there for the porn to make sense.

Level 2: The porn needs to be there for the worldbuilding to make sense.

[busket]

both trans men and trans women are punished for our proximity to both feminity and masculinity. people decide when we are men or women based on what is the WORST option at the moment. we both get treated like women only when someone needs to infantalize us or call us bossy, bitchy, stupid, vapid. we both get treated like men when someone wants to demonize and paint us as violent, predatory, abusive, perverted. NONE of us are benefiting from any gendered privilege, because we are always treated like the worst of either gender depending on the scenario. this is something all trans people experience, regardless of agab, both trans men and trans women. so why do we assume that the other side has the opposite experience as us?? why do you think that because your life as a trans man or a trans woman is painful, that a trans person of a different gender must have the opposite experience?? like i just dont get the preschool level understanding of gender like "well boys and girls are opposites so of course our experiences are opposites too" we are living the same transphobia and if you cant see it you need to listen to other people more

[deadgenerations]

90k hahahaha get fucked cunts

[deadgenerations]

i was lazy and didn't post the full context but people are interested in this one. tl;dr under new Australian laws customers can be held liable for workplace harassment, not just employers, and can be taken to court for essentially the same behaviour you'd expect a manager to face court for

also: homophobic harassment is considered sexual harassment in Australian courts, which apparently is not really the case in the US I guess?

The sexual harassment case that left a customer with a hefty damages bill

This court decision has major implications for employees in public-facing workplaces, including retail, hospitality and health.

this is a big win and gives workers another avenue of protecting themselves, as they no longer need to rely on their employer deciding to give a shit.

[ladybeek-deactivated20141024]

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i think about these kinda things a lot

[ladybeek-deactivated20141024]

you guys are ridiculous……..

[itsjustbeek]

I drew these images back in 2014 when I was going through some gender and sexuality issues.

Over the years, it’s been incredible how much these images have resonated with people and the stories i’ve heard of people’s own trans journeys.

But here we are in 2022 and things are looking much better these days.

[i-suggest-transing-your-gender]

I feel like birth order continues to affect you even after you trans your gender but I can't identify how exactly beyond the fact that every transmasc I've met who grew up as the oldest sister has a lot of issues that only seem to show up together when you're an oldest sister

[were--ralph]

they slayed

[andwhatexcellentboiledpotatoes]

Have kids. But don't have them too young or you won't be able to provide for them. But don't leave it too late or your eggs will all be shrivelled up and gone. And don't be a single mom, cause those are obviously just a drain on public rescources. So have kids with a man. But make sure you pick a good man, cause if he leaves you or doesn't help you out or you complain about him in any way, that's on you for not picking a better man. But don't have too high standards, or you'll never find anyone. Make sure your man has money so you never need to ask for financial aid. But don't be a gold digger. Make sure you're there for your kids every second of the day, being a mom is the most important job. But don't make motherhood your whole personality. And don't give up on your career, cause we need women in the work force. But your kids should always come first. But put your man first too, or he'll leave you. And don't you dare ever ask for any kind of help, those kids are yours, you're the one who chose to have them, they're not our problem.

Wait, why are so many women choosing not to have kids, it just doesn't make any sense...

[coffee-khaleesi-deactivated2020]

When I was training to be a battered women’s advocate, my supervisor said something that really blew my mind:

“You can always assume one thing about your clients; and that is that they are doing their best. Always assume everyone is doing their best. And if they’re having a day where their best just isn’t that great, or their best doesn’t look like your best, you have to be okay with that.”

Any now whenever anyone in my life, either a friend or a client, frustrates me, disappoints me, or pisses me off, I just tell myself They are doing their best. Their best isn’t that great today, but I have days where my best isn’t that great either. 

[bogfox]

Op I’d like to thank you for sharing this. Ever since the first time I’ve read it I’ve held it in my mind and it really has helped me to be kinder to others and to myself.

[thesweetiepienovels]

Oh my god YOU’RE SUPPOSED TO BE ALOT YOU’RE A HUMAN BEING, WE’RE SUPPOSED TO TAKE UP SPACE AND NEED THINGS AND OH MY, EVEN WANT THINGS AND WOW, WE DESERVE THOSE THINGS AND I REALLY HOPE YOU STOP MAKING YOURSELF TEENY TINY AS POSSIBLE FOR WHATEVER REASON BECAUSE YOU DESERVE TO BE AS MUCH IN THIS WORLD AS EVERYONE AND ANYONE ELSE IS. I love you, go drink some water and have a snack.

[akindplace]

maybe you need to ignore the urge to disappear and just exist a little louder instead

[akindplace]

Spending all your time focusing on everything you did wrong, every moment you felt awkward, every detail of your conversations, will leave you stuck in the past. It doesn’t leave time for growth, change, or working on letting go of things that make you anxious. Forgive your past self so you can live in the present and build a better future.

[akindplace]

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[akindplace]

In case no one told you or you don’t remind yourself of this often: your panic attacks do not make you weak. They don’t mean you are losing your mind, they don’t. Your fears were real to you and they are valid, even if others weren’t afraid or anxious. You are should give yourself permission to rest after a panic attack, because the physical and mental processes of going through one are very draining. Take a warm shower, drink some tea or water, meditate, take your medicine, or sleep.

Don’t force yourself to go through your day without resting for a while, you will most likely feel burned out or too numb to focus on tasks and that might set you up for another panic attack. It is perfectly normal and even expected for your body will be tired or numb after going through so much. Give yourself a break: your body and mind are signalling you to do so.

[akindplace]

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