𐙚 Vanella 𐙚

She/Her | Aries | EU

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𝐹alling 𝐹or 𝒯he 𝒲rong 𝒫erson

˚ ༘♡ ·˚꒰ᥕᥱᥣᥴ᥆꧑ᥱ t᥆ ꧑ᥡ bᥣ᥆g꒱ ₊˚ˑ༄

𝚋𝗅𝗈𝗀 𝚝𝗒𝗉𝖾 : dating advice

14.11.2O25

•Why We Fall For The Wrong Person•

We’ve all been there falling for someone who couldn’t meet us, love us or stay. Maybe they were emotionally unavailable. Maybe they gave you small crumbs and called it connection. Maybe they loved you in their own way but it was never the way you needed.

And still you stayed. You hoped. You tried harder. But why? Seriously like why do we fall for the wrong people even when we know they’re not right?

This isn’t just about bad taste or some cosmic joke. It’s about patterns, untreated wounds and the unconscious stories we carry about love. And within that story? A map, a lesson.

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𝐹𝒶𝓂𝒾𝓁𝒾𝒶𝓇 𝐼𝓈𝓃’𝓉 𝒜𝓁𝓌𝒶𝓎𝓈 𝐻𝑒𝒶𝓁𝓉𝒽𝓎

Sometimes we mistake familiarity for chemistry. We’re drawn to people who recreate emotional dynamics we’ve known before perhaps ones we experienced in childhood or past relationships.

If love used to feel like walking on eggshells, we may associate anxiety with affection. If affection was inconsistent, we may find ourselves chasing the emotional highs and lows, calling it passion when it’s actually chaos.

But here’s the truth, what feels familiar isn’t always what’s good for you. And what’s good for you might not feel familiar…at first.

Healing means teaching your nervous system that calm isn’t boring, that kindness isn’t suspicious and that love doesn’t need to hurt to be real.

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𝒯𝒽𝑒 𝐹𝒶𝓃𝓉𝒶𝓈𝓎 𝐼𝓈 𝐿𝑜𝓊𝒹𝑒𝓇 𝒯𝒽𝒶𝓃 𝑅𝑒𝒶𝓁𝒾𝓉𝓎

We don’t just fall for people, we fall for potential. The version of them we see in glimpses. The dream of who they could be, if only they tried, if only they healed, if only they saw what we see.

But loving someone’s potential often means abandoning your reality.

• You silence your needs.

• You make excuses for the distance, the confusing signals, the disappearing acts.

• You stay longer than you should because you believe one day, it might become what you imagined.

You deserve someone who already is what you need, not someone you have to build from blueprints and hope.

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𝐻𝑒𝒶𝓁𝒾𝓃𝑔 & 𝐿𝑒𝓈𝓈𝑜𝓃𝓈

Every connection, even the painful ones, holds a mirror.

• Did you lose yourself trying to be chosen?

• Did you shrink your needs to stay likable?

• Did you confuse intensity for intimacy?

That person may not have been right but their presence surfaced something in you. Pay attention to it. Not to blame yourself but to liberate yourself.

The wrong person is often a lesson wrapped in longing. A chance to reclaim your standards, to walk away with grace, to remember your worth.

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𝐿𝑜𝓋𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝒮𝑜𝓂𝑒𝑜𝓃𝑒 𝐼𝓈𝓃’𝓉 𝐸𝓃𝑜𝓊𝑔𝒽

You can love someone deeply and still not be compatible. You can love someone who doesn’t show up. You can love someone who doesn’t know how to love you back.

But love real love requires mutuality. It’s not just what you feel. It’s what you build together.

Do they meet you halfway?

Do they make space for your emotions?

Do they speak the same language of effort?

It’s brave to love. But it’s wiser to love someone who loves you back in action not just words.

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𝐿𝑒𝓉 𝒢𝑜 𝒶𝓃𝒹 𝐿𝑜𝓋𝑒 𝓉𝒽𝑒 𝑀𝑒𝓂𝑜𝓇𝓎

You don’t have to hate them to move on. You don’t have to burn the bridge or erase the past.

“I loved you. I learned from you. But I am no longer waiting for you.”

There’s power in soft endings. In walking away without bitterness. In choosing yourself. You stop falling for the people who don’t choose you. Because you’ve finally chosen yourself.

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𝒯𝒽𝑒 𝑅𝒾𝑔𝒽𝓉 𝒪𝓃𝑒 𝐹𝑒𝑒𝓁𝓈 𝒟𝒾𝒻𝒻𝑒𝓇𝑒𝓃𝓉

Not perfect, not drama free but safe.

The right person will communicate clearly.

They’ll show up consistently.

They’ll see your heart and hold it with care.

You won’t have to guess.

You won’t have to beg.

You won’t have to lose yourself to feel loved.

When you stop chasing the wrong ones, the right ones find room to enter. Not to complete you but to walk beside you in a love that feels steady, honest and kind.

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You deserve that.

Because you are worthy, how corny that may sound, it’s the truth.

from someone who’s learned the hard way

but loves a little wiser now 💌

♡ 𝐎𝐔𝐓𝐑𝐎 ♡

I hope you all enjoyed this little piece of

advice. I wish you all lots of luck in love!

@vanella

#advice | #love

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𝓢earching 𝓕or 𝓐 𝓟artner

𓏲࣪ 🦢 𝚆𝙴𝙻𝙲𝙾𝙼𝙴 𝚃𝙾 𓍯 ⊹. 𝙼𝚈 𝙱𝙻𝙾𝙶 .⊹

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𝚋𝗅𝗈𝗀 𝚝𝗒𝗉𝖾 : dating advice

𝚍𝖺𝗍𝖾 : 14.11.2O25

•Searching for a Partner•

We live in a world that teaches us to search endlessly for jobs, homes, success and yes even love. It tells us to swipe left, make lists, set timelines. It tells us that if we try hard enough, we’ll find someone. But love is not a checklist. A partner is not a prize.

Searching for a partner is not about looking harder, it’s about softening into who you are and letting that authenticity draw in what’s real 🌷

This blog isn’t about finding someone perfect. It’s about finding someone true.

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𝒴𝑜𝓊𝓇𝓈𝑒𝓁𝒻 𝐹𝒾𝓇𝓈𝓉

Before we start looking what’s on the market, we must look inside of ourselves. You are not half of a whole. You are not missing a piece. You are already a complete radiant being. The best relationships are not two broken people trying to fix each other but 2 whole souls who choose to grow together.

Ask yourself:

• Do I like the person I’m becoming?

• Can I offer love without needing it to fill a void?

This doesn’t mean perfection, it means selfhonesty. Fall in love with your o̲w̲n̲ life. Then invite someone in not to rescue you but to love and walk beside you.

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𝒮𝓉𝒶𝓃𝒹𝒶𝓇𝒹𝓈

Have standards. Know what lights you up, what kind of communication feels safe, what values are non-negotiable. But don’t confuse clarity with rigidity. The person you fall for might come in a form you never expected. They might challenge your patterns, your assumptions, your ideal “type”.

Let love surprise you in the best way~

Look for energy more than labels. Look for consistency over chemistry. Look for someone whose presence feels like you can be yourself.

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𝒲𝒽𝒶𝓉 𝒟𝑜 𝒴𝑜𝓊 𝒲𝒶𝓃𝓉 𝓉𝑜 𝒜𝓉𝓉𝓇𝒶𝒸𝓉

If you long for a kind, emotionally avaible, open hearted partner, ask yourself am I showing up that way? Love mirrors who we are becoming. This doesn’t mean you have to be fully healed (none of us are btw) but be intentional.

Do the work you hope your future partner is doing too.

• Practice honest communication

• Heal your attachment wounds

• Set boundaries with love, not fear

• Learn how to handle discomfort without shutting down

You don’t need to chase love. You need to become the kind of person who welcomes it in.

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𝒟𝑜𝓃’𝓉 𝒮𝑒𝓉𝓉𝓁𝑒 𝒻𝑜𝓇 𝒜𝓁𝓂𝑜𝓈𝓉𝓈

Almost available. Almost ready. Almost in love.

You deserve a love that chooses you fully, especially on the days when you’re not shining. You deserve someone who leans in, not away. Someone who matches your effort. Someone who brings peace, not confusion.

Sometimes we hold on to “almosts” out of fear that something better won’t come anyway. But real love requires you to let go of what isn’t fully yours so that what is can finally arrive.

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𝒯𝓇𝓊𝓈𝓉 𝓉𝒽𝑒 𝒯𝒾𝓂𝒾𝓃𝑔

Love doesn’t always show up on schedule. It doesn’t follow the deadlines we place on ourselves or the ones culture whispers in our ear. Let go of the urgency. Love is not late. It is simply preparing you.

While you wait, live your life to the fullest. Learn. Laugh until your ribs ache. Become someone who fascinates themselves. Your life does not begin when someone else enters it. It deepens it.

Trust the pauses. They might feel empty and lonely but they are not.

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𝒯𝓇𝓎 𝒜𝑔𝒶𝒾𝓃

If you’ve been hurt, let down, disappointed…it’s okay. Take your time. Heal slowly. But when you’re ready, let your heart reopen. Love is always a risk but so is not loving. Don’t let fear be the reason you miss what’s possible.

When you search for a partner, you’re really searching for resonance, for someone who sees you and still stays. For someone who reminds you that love doesn’t have to hurt to be real. That softness is not weakness. That intimacy can feel like safety.

⋆. 𐙚 ˚

You don’t need a perfect person. You need a real one. Someone whose presence feels like fresh air. Someone who makes love feel like a return, not a performance.

When that person comes and they will, it won’t be fireworks and grand declarations (though it might be that too) It will be something quieter. Deeper. Like coming home to a place you didn’t know you missed.

Until then, enjoy life in all its glory. Love gently. Hope bravely. Because love is not just out there. It’s already within you ❤︎

♡ 𝐎𝐔𝐓𝐑𝐎 ♡

I hope you all will enjoy this little piece of

advice. I wish you all lots of luck in love!

@vanella

#advice | #love

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Feature ideas for Tumblr ⋆.𐙚 ̊

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໒꒰ྀིᵔ ᵕ ᵔ ꒱ྀི ~ hi cuties !

I decided to make another blog about ideas for features that could be interesting for Tumblr especially the app version. I’ve had tumblr for some time and come to see what Tumblr misses and what it needs to flourish even more 🌷

@vanella~vanillack。°˖ ✧

i. blog creation features

ii. add your own badge + free badges

iii. friends bubble

iiii. profile frames and customizable

honorable mentions

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blog creation features

After having written many blogs here, I always wished there was a “undo” button feature. Too many times that I could have really used that button 😅

What should be added is the abbility to choose wheter your text should be underlined or centered (I really miss those whenever I wanna write a blog like right now) And also colour/image backgrounds for posts would be very nice and arstehtically more pleasing c;

🌸 Blog Templates Library!

Tumblr could feature user made theme templates (both free and premium) where you can choose from, aesthetic to grunge ones and even make a template for others to use c;

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add your own badge + free badges

I know Tumblr already has their own set of badges but these you can only get by buying them. There aren’t any options to get them for free but there are some you can get by achieving challenges, allas not enough or at least not enough of aesthetic ones available.

Therefore I propose a feature where you could add your own badge (for free limited in numbers) and for Tumblr to have a few free 🌸 aesthetically pleasing ones 🌸

Tumblr could release a rotating collection of free themed badges anyone can add such as:

~ Seasonal badges (Halloween bat, winter candle, pride month icons)

~ Event badges (Tumblr’s Birthday 2025, Fest Participant)

~ Fandom/community badges (#Cottagecore, #Grunge, #Art)

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friends bubble

you’ll be able to add 2 of your friends on your profile page above your actual profile picture. If you click on them it will automatically lead to their profile. Isn’t that a neat feature idea?

I made an edit to visualize on how that would look like on your profile 🎀

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frames + costumize your own frame

It’s shocking to see that Tumblr doesn’t offer frames to engance your profile. So I believe this feature is a MUST! Especially if you want to have a more aestehtically pleasing profile.

✦ How It Works:

Profile frames are optional decorative borders that wrap around your icon, visible on your posts, asks and notifications.

✦ Types of Frames:

𑣲 Free Frames:

~ Monthly sets (spooky frames for October, winter frames for December and so on!)

~ Event based (Tumblr Birthday, Fandom Fest, Pride Month, Holidays,…)

~ Aesthetic sets (Cottagecore vibes, Cyberpunk neon, Pixel hearts and much much more!

𑣲 Custom Frames:

~ Users can upload their own frame art, with moderation filters (transparent PNG, specific dimensions)

~ Option to animate, glowing or sparkling effects.

𑣲 Earnable Frames:

Tumblr could give frames for milestones or events, such as:

~ “1000th Reblog” Frame

~ “OG Blogger” (for accounts 5/10+ years old)

~ “Community Helper” (flagged helpful replies)

𑣲 Fandom Frames:

~ Optional themed frames based on tags or shows like Supernatural Flame Halo, Ghibli frame,…

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honorable mentions

- customize your own chat bubble

- more different fonts when writing a blog, for everyone to read

- aesthetic openings, for when you click on a blog it opens in an aesthetic way

- stories but like instagram

- screen reader (ai voiced)

if you have some ideas, type it in the comments below

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𝐀 𝐔 𝐓 𝐇 𝐎 𝐑 𝐒 𝐍 𝐎 𝐓 𝐄

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Death Of A Fairy 🧚🏻

𝐃𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐡 𝐎𝐟 𝐀 𝐅𝐚𝐢𝐫𝐲

~ her story never ends ~

🧚🏻‍♀️

In twilight’s fading glow, a fairy’s delicate sigh

Softly whispered of a final, bittersweet goodbye

Her delicate wings, once vibrant with magical light

Now lay still, shrouded by the veil of the night

The realm of enchantment wept in silent sorrow

As stars above shed tears for their lost tomorrow

In the echo of her departure, a melancholic tune

Yet within the sadness, hope began to bloom

Glimmering petals, once kissed by morning dew

Now rested solemnly, draped in twilight’s hue

In the garden of memories, where whispers lingered

A fairy’s essence danced like a fleeting shadow

But amidst the shadows cast by grief’s embrace

A gentle promise emerged, a beacon of grace

For in the tapestry of life, woven with threads of light

The fairy’s spirit lingered, radiant and bright

Her laughter echoed in the rustling leaves

Her touch felt in the gentle sway of trees

Though her time on earth had come to an end

Her magic endured, an eternal, celestial blend

So let the tears fall like rain upon the earth

Watering the roots of memories, celebrating her worth

For in the quietude of loss, a profound truth did gleam

That even in death, life is but a splendid dream

In the hush of twilight, where shadows softly play

The fairy’s legacy blossomed in a unique display

Her absence was felt, yet her presence remained

In every whispered breeze, in each petal stained

For she taught us the beauty of embracing the unknown

Of finding solace in the seeds of hope she had sown

Though her wings no longer flutter in the evening air

Her spirit soars in our hearts, forever tender and fair

In the tapestry of existence, woven with joys and tears

The memory of the fairy transcends mortal fears

Her journey may have ended, but her story never will

For she lives on in the magic we carry still

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─────🧚🏻‍♀️𝐀 𝐔 𝐓 𝐇 𝐎 𝐑 𝐒 𝐍 𝐎 𝐓 𝐄🧚🏻‍♀️─────

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𝓐 𝓕antasia 𝓤nveiled

In a realm where moonbeams dance with shadows

A tapestry of magic, where whispers flow like meadows

Ancient trees, guardians of tales untold

Their branches reaching, stories unfold

Silver streams weave through enchanted glades

A symphony of nature in secret serenades

Fairies waltz in a moonlit ballet

Their laughter echoes through the starry display

Mountains rise, majestic and grand

Their peaks kissed by clouds, a celestial band

Dragons soar with wings of flame

Guarding treasures in the mystic game

Elven cities in the heart of the wood

Where time stands still, as the wise elves stood

Crystal spires, ethereal light

Guiding seekers through the mystical night

Heroes, clad in armor, swords in hand

Embark on quests across the enchanted land

Facing demons and dark sorcery

Their courage forged in the fires of victory

In this fantasy realm, where dreams take flight

Imagination’s canvas painted with pure delight

A world of wonder, where reality and magic entwine

In the tapestry of fantasy, an eternal design

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─────🧚🏻‍♀️𝐀 𝐔 𝐓 𝐇 𝐎 𝐑 𝐒 𝐍 𝐎 𝐓 𝐄🧚🏻‍♀️─────

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🌱ᰍ How To Focus On Yourself •☕️ ᥫ᭡

𝓝𝓾𝓻𝓽𝓾𝓻𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓨𝓸𝓾𝓻 𝓘𝓷𝓷𝓮𝓻 𝓖𝓪𝓻𝓭𝓮𝓷:

A Guide on How to Focus on Yourself

In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it’s easy to lose sight of the most important person: yourself. Self-focus is not selfish; it’s an act of self-care and self-love. This blog will explore the art of focusing on yourself and nurturing your well-being, much like tending to a beautiful garden.

𝙐𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙄𝙢𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙁𝙤𝙘𝙪𝙨

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Before embarking on this journey, it’s crucial to understand that focusing on yourself is not a self-indulgent act but a necessary one for your overall well-being. By prioritizing yourself, you become better equipped to navigate life’s challenges and be there for others.

𝙎𝙚𝙩 𝘾𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧 𝘽𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙨

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Establishing boundaries is the first step in focusing on yourself. Just as a garden needs a fence to protect its delicate blooms, you need personal boundaries to safeguard your time, energy, and emotional well-being.

𝙋𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝘾𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙨 𝙖 𝙍𝙞𝙩𝙪𝙖𝙡

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Self-care is the foundation of self-focus. Create a routine that encompasses physical health, emotional well-being, and mental clarity. Like watering and nurturing your garden, self-care keeps you vibrant and in full bloom.

𝙈𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙛𝙪𝙡𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙈𝙚𝙙𝙞𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣

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Incorporate mindfulness and meditation into your daily routine. These practices allow you to be present in the moment, tuning in to your thoughts and feelings. Just as a gardener pays close attention to every leaf and petal, you’ll become attuned to your inner landscape.

𝙍𝙚𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙘𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙋𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨

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Reconnect with your interests and hobbies. What activities bring you joy and fulfillment? Just as a garden flourishes when tended to, your well-being thrives when you indulge in activities that nourish your soul.

𝘾𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙖 𝙋𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙎𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙩𝙪𝙖𝙧𝙮

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Your living space is a reflection of your inner world. Transform it into a sanctuary that mirrors your aesthetics and provides comfort. Like an exquisite garden, your home should be a place of tranquility and beauty.

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝘼𝙧𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙀𝙭𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣

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Rediscover your personal style and embrace self-expression through fashion, art, or any creative outlet. Just as a garden showcases its beauty with diverse blooms, your unique style reveals your individuality.

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝘾𝙤𝙢𝙥𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙤𝙛 𝙇𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙙 𝙊𝙣𝙚𝙨

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Nurture your relationships with loved ones who add positivity to your life. Just as a gardener relies on friends to celebrate and appreciate the beauty of the garden, your loved ones provide essential support and companionship.

𝙎𝙚𝙩 𝙂𝙤𝙖𝙡𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙋𝙧𝙞𝙤𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙯𝙚 𝙂𝙧𝙤𝙬𝙩𝙝

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Setting personal and professional goals is an essential part of focusing on yourself. Like a gardener striving to cultivate the most vibrant plants, you can set and achieve aspirations that promote personal growth.

𝙍𝙚𝙛𝙡𝙚𝙘𝙩 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙅𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙣𝙖𝙡

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Embrace self-reflection by keeping a journal. Write about your experiences, emotions, and aspirations. Journaling allows you to see the growth and transformation of your inner garden over time.

𝙀𝙭𝙥𝙡𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙉𝙚𝙬 𝘼𝙙𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙚𝙨

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Travel and explore new places and cultures. Just as a garden changes with the seasons, these adventures can offer fresh perspectives and opportunities for self-discovery.

Focusing on yourself is an art, much like tending to a beautiful garden. It’s about nurturing your well-being, promoting personal growth, and embracing your individuality. Remember that, just as a garden flourishes with attention and care, your inner landscape can thrive when you prioritize yourself. Like a magnificent garden in full bloom, you, too, can flourish and shine when you put your well-being first.

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───── 𝐀 𝐔 𝐓 𝐇 𝐎 𝐑 𝐒 𝐍 𝐎 𝐓 𝐄 ─────

🪞🎀☕🍪🛍️🥐💞🌷🫶🏻📚🕯️🧸☁️✨

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✨ ᰍ Glow Up After Breakup •☕️ ᥫ᭡

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𝓢𝓱𝓲𝓷𝓮 𝓑𝓻𝓲𝓰𝓱𝓽:

How to Have a Glow Up After a Breakup

Breakups can be painful, but they can also be opportunities for personal transformation. A glow-up, in essence, is the process of becoming the best version of yourself, both inside and out. Here’s a guide to help you embark on a journey of self-discovery and personal growth after a breakup.

𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝘾𝙖𝙧𝙚: 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙤𝙛 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙂𝙡𝙤𝙬 𝙐𝙥

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Begin with self-care. Prioritize your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Create a routine that includes exercise, a balanced diet, quality sleep, and stress management. Caring for your body is the first step in feeling and looking better.

𝙍𝙚𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙘𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙋𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨

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Reconnect with the things that ignite your soul. What hobbies or interests have you set aside during the relationship? Whether it’s art, music, sports, or any other passion, rekindling these activities can be deeply fulfilling and help you rediscover your identity.

𝙎𝙚𝙩 𝙂𝙤𝙖𝙡𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙋𝙧𝙞𝙤𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙯𝙚 𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙄𝙢𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩

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Use this time to set personal and professional goals. Focus on your career, education, or any area you’d like to improve. Achieving these goals can boost your confidence and provide a sense of accomplishment.

𝙍𝙚𝙛𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙝 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙒𝙖𝙧𝙙𝙧𝙤𝙗𝙚

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A fresh wardrobe can symbolize a fresh start. Invest in clothing that makes you feel confident and reflects your personal style. Consider donating or selling items from your past relationship that no longer serve you.

𝙀𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙎𝙩𝙮𝙡𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙀𝙭𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣

✦ . 　⁺ 　 . ✦ . 　⁺ 　 . ✦

After a breakup, many people find joy in experimenting with their appearance. Change your hairstyle, try new makeup techniques, or update your overall style to reflect your personal growth. This can be an empowering way to redefine your self-image.

𝙎𝙪𝙧𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙋𝙤𝙨𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙄𝙣𝙛𝙡𝙪𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚𝙨

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Your support system plays a significant role in your glow-up. Spend time with friends and family who uplift you and engage in activities that promote positivity. Seek out mentors or role models who inspire you to be your best self.

𝙈𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙛𝙪𝙡𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙍𝙚𝙛𝙡𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣

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Take time for introspection. Reflect on your past relationship and what you’ve learned from it. Mindfulness practices, such as meditation or journaling, can help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your emotions.

𝘾𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙉𝙚𝙬 𝙍𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥𝙨

✦ . 　⁺ 　 . ✦ . 　⁺ 　 . ✦

As you heal and grow, you’ll naturally attract new people into your life. Be open to making new friends and connections, whether they’re platonic or romantic. Each relationship offers an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

𝙏𝙧𝙖𝙫𝙚𝙡 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙀𝙭𝙥𝙡𝙤𝙧𝙚

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Traveling or exploring new places, even if they’re just local destinations, can be invigorating. It broadens your horizons, introduces you to new cultures, and provides a fresh perspective on life.

𝘽𝙚 𝙋𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙆𝙞𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛

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A glow-up is a process, not an overnight transformation. Be patient with yourself, and remember that healing takes time. There may be setbacks, but they are part of your journey to becoming the best version of yourself.

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝘼𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙢𝙖𝙩𝙝 𝙊𝙛 𝙖 𝘽𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙠𝙪𝙥

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If you’re struggling to cope with the emotional aftermath of a breakup, consider seeking the guidance of a therapist or counselor. Professional support can be instrumental in helping you navigate the healing process.

A glow-up after a breakup is a powerful journey of self-discovery, self-improvement, and personal transformation. It’s about emerging from a challenging experience with a newfound sense of confidence, self-worth, and resilience. Remember that your glow-up is unique to you, and it’s an opportunity to shine even brighter than before. Embrace the process, and watch as you become the best version of yourself.

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welcome to vanella’s blog !

𝐼 𝓈𝓂𝑒𝓁𝓁 𝓁𝒾𝓀𝑒 𝓌𝒽𝒾𝓉𝑒 𝓇𝑜𝓈𝑒𝓈 𝒶𝓃𝒹 𝒻𝑒𝑒𝓁 𝒻𝓇𝒶𝑔𝒾𝓁𝑒 𝒶𝓈 𝓂𝓎 𝓈𝒶𝓉𝒾𝓃 𝒹𝓇𝑒𝓈𝓈

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hey lovely petals 🌷 welcome back to my newest post, hope you all drank enough water today and ate something, told someone that they look good because we all need some love

I have a question for you guys:

“what would you improve in your life?”

my answer: I would like to improve my drawing skills, my appreciation for the ones I love and cherish, improving to love myself more 🎀🧸

I’d love to read your answers!

𝒖𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒍 𝒏𝒆𝒙𝒕 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆‧₊˚

☁️ I hope you liked it c:

☁️ lots or love x vanella

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ᵕ̈ welcome to my blog

hey my sweet cupcakes 🧁 how are you all doing? Hope you’re doing all well c: as i am! I have lots of things on my mind, in a creative way but also work that come into play. My most recent ideas that came to mind is making a recipe book for new foods & making a travel guide with my personal travel tips that I can sell on etsy 🤍

And yes I’m still continuing writing my novel, it will be awesome when i’m finished! If some people want to proofread it , dm me 🌷

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࣪˖ how to cope with rejection ˖ ࣪

𓏲࣪ 𝚆𝙴𝙻𝙲𝙾𝙼𝙴 𝚃𝙾 𓍯 ⊹. 𝙼𝚈 𝙱𝙻𝙾𝙶 .⊹

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𝚋𝗅𝗈𝗀 𝚝𝗒𝗉𝖾 : dating advice

𝚍𝖺𝗍𝖾 : O9.11.2O25

hello there lovely members of Tumblr! I wanted to make a little blog about how to handle rejection. If you are going through a hard time, please lete remind you that you are more important than you realize! Let your dreams not be crushed by someone or something ✨

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Hardly anything is more painful than being rejected by someone you dated or had an interest in. No matter what kind of relationship you had, no one likes to find out that the person they’re interested in doesn’t have the same feelings for them. How do you accept that in a good way?

Dealing with the negative feelings that a rejection brings is not easy. But it is possible. First and foremost, you have to let go of the idea that you can change his or her mind. Don’t go against the feelings of the person you rejected. Don’t argue, but try to accept that it’s over. Otherwise you will only make it more painful for yourself.

It is important that you understand that a relationship that only you fight for is of no use. Ask yourself, ‘Why do I want to be with this person if they don’t want to be with me?’ it could help to see that you deserve someone who really wants to make an effort for you

It’s painful but not always easy to admit that it bothers you. It also hurts our ego. But laughing your feelings off isn’t going to help either. Denying you’re sad isn’t going to help you move forward. Suppressing your pain is only going to prolong the heartbreak. Face the pain, it’s okay to mourn the loss of a partner.

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How do you get out of the broken heart?

Rebuild your own circle of friends and if you dropped hobbies, restart them. Be sure to look at photos of yourself before the relationship, so you can see that there was also an ‘I’ before that time and that it was actually quite nice then. It’s okay to cry, it releases emotions and helps you deal with it. But don’t get hung up on. Try to plan fun trips in the coming time and mark them on a calendar so that you have good prospects.

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#aesthetic ; #advice

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〔 ⚘ 〕 ៸៸ vanella ' s ↶ՙ  blog ╮ 𖧧

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hello there kind people 🌷

how have you guys been doing ?

been having some time off work

to plan my days with my besties

if anyone has been stressed about something know this:

things can be confusing right now, but remember you have plenty of time to realize things, please don’t rush yourself.

the right time will come for you to do anything you want, but at the moment it’s important that you take care of your mental & physical health.

stay safe, make your peace of mind a priority and you woll achieve many things, you can rest now, you all deserve kindness 🤍

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˗ˏˋ 𝐹𝑒𝑒𝓁𝒾𝓃𝑔𝓈 ˎˊ˗

𝑀𝓎 𝑒𝓎𝑒𝓈 𝒶𝓇𝑒 𝓌𝒾𝒹𝑒 𝓁𝒾𝓀𝑒 𝒸𝒽𝑒𝓇𝓇𝓎 𝓅𝒾𝑒𝓈

They say love makes you do strange things. Why can’t I just admit my feelings? It’s so obvious. But I can’t.

How can I admit that I think about him all the time or that I care about him more than anyone. How can I admit that I don’t know what I’ll do when any harm comes to him.

Because nothing can ever happen between us. To admit my feelings knowing that.. hurts too much </3

#sadgirlera | #lanadelrey

#feelings

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ʚɞ 𝓁𝑜𝓋𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝓎𝑜𝓊𝓇𝓈𝑒𝓁𝒻 ʚɞ

٠ ⠀⠀ ⠀ 𝐬 𝐭 𝐚 𝐫 𝐭 𝐥 𝐨 𝐯 𝐢 𝐧 𝐠 𝐲 𝐨 𝐮 𝐫 𝐬 𝐞 𝐥 𝐟 ⠀⠀ ⠀ ٠

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ㆍ. ✧ .

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀. ☀︎︎ .ㆍ

𝐻𝑜𝓌 𝓎𝑜𝓊 𝓁𝒾𝓋𝑒 𝓎𝑜𝓊𝓇𝓈𝑒𝓁𝒻 𝒾𝓈 𝒽𝑜𝓌 𝓎𝑜𝓊

𝓉𝑒𝒶𝒸𝒽 𝑜𝓉𝒽𝑒𝓇𝓈 𝓉𝑜 𝓁𝑜𝓋𝑒 𝓎𝑜𝓊

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ㆍ. ☀︎ .

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:stop all criticism:

Criticism never changes a thing. Accept yourself as you are. Everybody changes, and when you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

:don’t scare yourself:

Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure and immediately switch your scary thoughts to a pleasure thought.

:be gentle, kind and patient:

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to youiself. Re patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking.

:be kind to your mind:

Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. But gently change your thoughts

:praise yourself:

Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Tell yourself how well you’re doing with every little thing.

:support yourself:

Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It shows strength to ask for help.

:be loving to your negatives:

Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. As you find new, positive ways to fulfill those needs, you can release the old negative patterns.

:take care of your body:

Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish the person you are

:mirror love:

Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day say “i love you”

:start today:

Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get a new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, do the best you can 🤍

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[C] ✿ : thank you for reading my blog

[C] hope it was a good read ꪔ̤̮

[c] much love x vanella

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🦢 𝒮𝒽𝓎 𝒮𝓌𝑒𝑒𝓉𝓈 🦢

𝐰 𝐞 𝐥 𝐜 𝐨 𝐦 𝐞 𝐭 𝐨 𝐦 𝐲 𝐛 𝐥 𝐨 𝐠

You are important. In such a huge, busy world, it can be easy to feel insignificant and unimportant, like your existence doesn't matter. But that's very far from the truth. Think of all the years you've been alive, all the people you've met and passed, all the animals you've pet, every tiny act of good you've committed. Holding a door for someone, picking up a piece of trash off the side of a road, complimenting someone on their hair or outfit. You can’t even begin to imagine how much of an impact you’ve made, no matter how small each step in that may be. You could have made someone’s day, boosted their low confidence, made someone less anxious. Every little thing you’ve done for people had had some sort of effect. And if you weren’t here, it wouldn’t have happened. So never say you’re unimportant because you affect others every day of your life and I guarantee you, many people are grateful for your existence 🤍🦢

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all of my other blogs

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𖦹 𝓈𝓉𝒶𝓇𝓉𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝒷𝓊𝓈𝒾𝓃𝑒𝓈𝓈 𖦹

.ﾟ‪˖࣪ starting business ᜊ! 🦢 ⋆ ᳝ ֺ

Vanella♡› blog❁

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hey doves,

i’m here again with a new blog that could be interesting for you c:

I’ve always wanted to start my own business but I’m still thinking of some ideas on what to sell. If you guys have some awesome ideas don’t hesitate to tell me, would love to hear them 🤗

It would be an online business, the only ideas I’ve come up with were:

- selling aesthetic postcards

- costum wallpapers for phone/desktop

- making printable planners

- printable designs for t-shirts

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𝐵𝒶𝓉𝒽𝓉𝒾𝓂𝑒 𝓌𝒾𝓉𝒽 𝒱𝒶𝓃𝑒𝓁𝓁𝒶 🛁

. ◠ . ◠ . ◠ . ◠ . ————— ꕤ ╮

ℋ𝑒𝑙𝑙𝑜 𝓂𝓎 𝒸𝓊𝓉𝒾𝑒𝓈! ୭̥≈

——— my routine🫧

𝒹𝑒𝑒𝓅 𝒸𝓁𝑒𝒶𝓃𝓈𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝑜𝒾𝓁

i start with a deep cleansing oil to remove my make up. This oil focuses on healthy ingredients to find your skin’s natural strength. Massaging onto dry skin and then rinse with water.

𝒹𝑒𝑒𝓅 𝒸𝓁𝑒𝒶𝓃𝓈𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝒻𝑜𝒶𝓂

follow up with a low ph pore deep cleansing foam. This helps remove dirt and makeup with microfoam, wich is smaller than a pore size. Helps to keep your skin balanced and soft.

𝓁𝒾𝓅 𝒷𝒶𝓁𝓂

always tend to use lip balm because it’s healthy and it makes your lips really soft and kissable.

𝓂𝒶𝓈𝓀

a gentle exfoliationg mask. It helps to brighten the skin while also restoring the natural oils in the skin. It’s kind of like an oily/ exfoliation mask. I let it sit on my skin while I sit in the bath.

——— relaxing bath🕯️

I take a relaxing bath to get my mind off of things and to kind of treat myself. I’m using a bath bomb from lush and lit a nice candle from rituals. Sometimes I even use some rose petals for the aesthetics. I grab a book or warm tea to help relax.

——— bath products I use🧴

• Dove

• Rituals candles

• BTY X NAKD

• Victoria’s secret fragrance

• Yankee candles

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𝓟oetry 𝓑ox 𝜗𝜚

♡ 𝐈𝐍𝐓𝐑𝐎𝐃𝐔𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍 ♡

welcome to the poetry box! This box contains all sorts of poetry, from a fairy to a haiku, everything that your heart desires is right inside this beautiful mystery box!

᱖ 𝓌𝒽𝒶𝓉 𝒶𝓃𝒹 𝒽𝑜𝓌 !

a one-of-a-kind experience where words come alive just for you. Whether you're celebrating a special moment, looking for inspiration or simply want something magical. 𝒯𝒽𝑒 𝒫𝑜𝑒𝓉𝓇𝓎 𝐵𝑜𝓍 offers enchanting poems that are made especially for you. Every piece could be a reflection of your emotions, memories or dreams crafted into poetic beauty!

It's simple, just drop a n͟u͟m͟b͟e͟r in the comments below and you'll receive a randomly poem in your dms. Each poem is unique by the number you choose. Whether you’re seeking inspiration or just a fun surprise, let 𝒯𝒽𝑒 𝒫𝑜𝑒𝓉𝓇𝓎 𝐵𝑜𝓍 turn your number into a poetic dream!

♡ 𝐎𝐔𝐓𝐑𝐎 ♡

It’s totaly free and will be available for some time! I hope you all will enjoy this little piece of my project and love the poems that it’ll make. Comment a number and be amazed!

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