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came back wrong, but they weren't dead or anything. They went to whole foods like half an hour ago and came back a twsited something wearing your loved one's body as a suit.

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that's not a subversion. whole foods is just like that

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can I just say, I hate how society's anti-suicide messaging always boils down to either exploitative guilt-tripping by saying "your loved ones will be sad" like your bodily autonomy ends the minute it conveniences other people, or saying "it gets better" to people who have been chronically depressed for 10+ years with no instigating life stressor and who have shown no response to medication or therapy

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Likewise, I hate, Hate, HATE, that if I so much as speak a word of it to my therapist, I'll have by freedom be taken away and be institutionalized against my will with regard for what it will do for my mental state, becuase me losing my all human rights is preferable to other people being unhappy that I'm not suffering anymore

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hey, here's an idea. You think life is so sacred? Practice what you preach. Take my depression and experience my agony for the rest of your miserable fucking existence you useless selfish cunt. experience what it's like to be incapable of enjoyment or pleasure for 10+ years of your life, and maybe youll understand that I should have a right to off myself whenever I fucking want

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can I just say, I hate how society's anti-suicide messaging always boils down to either exploitative guilt-tripping by saying "your loved ones will be sad" like your bodily autonomy ends the minute it conveniences other people, or saying "it gets better" to people who have been chronically depressed for 10+ years with no instigating life stressor and who have shown no response to medication or therapy

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Likewise, I hate, Hate, HATE, that if I so much as speak a word of it to my therapist, I'll have by freedom be taken away and be institutionalized against my will with regard for what it will do for my mental state, becuase me losing my all human rights is preferable to other people being unhappy that I'm not suffering anymore

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can I just say, I hate how society's anti-suicide messaging always boils down to either exploitative guilt-tripping by saying "your loved ones will be sad" like your bodily autonomy ends the minute it conveniences other people, or saying "it gets better" to people who have been chronically depressed for 10+ years with no instigating life stressor and who have shown no response to medication or therapy

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I swear to god the minute I find an antidepressant that works for me it's going to be like rock lee taking off his leg weights

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I pray to the heart of the cards and place my visa face down in attack position

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I tap my amex and exile visa to the shadow realm to regain 5 credit score and special-summon my mortgage

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Me when I whoop your ass.

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Listen, when it comes to smug europeans being smug, I have zero hesitation about being the first one up to bat in defense of american cusine, but that being said

why is american food like that?

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like what?

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Me: mom, can we keith baker's and pick up the new eberron book?

Wizards of the Coast™: we got eberron at home

The eberron at home:

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For context, this is what they took from us

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you could have used literally any other picture op. I don't think I needed to look at a warforged pimpalicious with my own goddamn eyes

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throws a dodgeball at you at the 12% the speed of light, but i miss and it escapes earth's atmosphere, slingshots around enceladus and strikes you in the back of the knee, obliterating you instantly

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call that the apollo mission

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While tumblr is more aware than most that the assertion that "anyone can do anything if they work hard enough" is bullshit, y'all need to realize that this isnt a disability-exclusive issue.

Like, this isnt to dismiss the struggles ppl with disabilities face, but its not the existence of disabilities that invalidates the concept. Its something everyone has in one form or another, its just more pertinant to some than to others.

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There are people out there who will work their entire lives to be artists or athletes or writers and never achieve a level of master that other artists achieve by 16. Thats not laziness, thats talent. its a fact of life that sucks sewage through a paper straw, but its nobody's fault. Telling someone who's hit a wall that they need to keep trying isnt helpful, its pinning the responsibility for their bad luck on them through a facade of toxic positivity

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"But wont that just make them give up?"

yes. it will. thats the point. giving up isnt a bad thing. If something a person struggles with is tormenting them and ruining their self-esteem, then giving up allows them to heal and move on, but our culture is so obsessed with subjecting people to torture porn for the sake of a feelgood hallmark story that most creatives will die blaming themselves for shit that was never in their control.

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While tumblr is more aware than most that the assertion that "anyone can do anything if they work hard enough" is bullshit, y'all need to realize that this isnt a disability-exclusive issue.

Like, this isnt to dismiss the struggles ppl with disabilities face, but its not the existence of disabilities that invalidates the concept. Its something everyone has in one form or another, its just more pertinant to some than to others.

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There are people out there who will work their entire lives to be artists or athletes or writers and never achieve a level of master that other artists achieve by 16. Thats not laziness, thats talent. its a fact of life that sucks sewage through a paper straw, but its nobody's fault. Telling someone who's hit a wall that they need to keep trying isnt helpful, its pinning the responsibility for their bad luck on them through a facade of toxic positivity

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While tumblr is more aware than most that the assertion that "anyone can do anything if they work hard enough" is bullshit, y'all need to realize that this isnt a disability-exclusive issue.

Like, this isnt to dismiss the struggles ppl with disabilities face, but its not the existence of disabilities that invalidates the concept. Its something everyone has in one form or another, its just more pertinant to some than to others.

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You know that thing where people out of the loop on social issues will say something ignorant and then rather than using it as a teaching moment, leftist spaces will attack them and drive them further right as a result?

Well, I think people need to be aware that antidoomerism follows the same principles.

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Doomerism is destructive to society, but a doomer isn't some category of "bad person". It's a established belief that presents itself as rational, and is reinforced by societal factors.

People rarely break out of a harmful belief that they believe is obvious without education and justification. In a way doomerism is all the harder to break, because it's not just an ideology, it's despair. When people take a dismissive or mocking attitude to those struggling to find hope in dire circumstances, or worse, lash out with that "it's not my job to educate you on things you should already know" attitude that's become all too common these last 15 years or so, it doesn't set them right, it just reinforces the idea that such beliefs are irrational, and gives them an emotional reason to dig their heels in

I'm not omniscient, and I haven't seen statistics on this specific phenomenon, but I have a feeling this attitude is part of why the alt right got as much traction building up as it did

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When I was a kid in the early 2000s, the gay rights movement was just starting to gain steam. I had next to no exposure to gay issues, and, the two points of exposure I DID have were... unpleasant to put it mildly. This is a time where calling someone a "f*g" or "cocksucker" was as normal as calling them "dickhead." And yet despite this, it took all of five words to convince me to get onboard. Five words: "being gay isn't a choice". That's it. That's all it took.

Flash forward to 2011. I'm in college. I have spent the past 5 years on 4chan and am a complete incel. I still believed adamantly in gay marriage because it was a part of my core values. It was at this time that I had my first real experience speaking trans people, and my first moments of education did not go well. Backlash, ostracization, and bans from online communities. I had never even heard of trans rights before, and I definitely did not learn any reason to accept it then.

Now, I'll admit: I was not a pleasant person at the time. I didn't have an issue with making fun of people, but I still had principles I held to, even with my "If you can't take a joke, fuck you" attitude. Over the next year, I didn't stop being ignorant, and was still sinking deeper toxic cesspool of hatred. How did I get out of it? Education. The same thing I should have gotten at the start.

To this day, I still remember the two comments it took for me to learn better. One was a link to an article claiming that a trans woman's brain had more in common with a cis woman's than a cis man's (note: I don't think I even read it), and the other was a brief explanation of the difference between sex and gender, and why the word "gender" was suddenly being used differently.

these facts didn't undo the "me being an asshole problem", but it it was all it took for me to be on board with the movement, even if it took a while for me to learn basic manners. Still, when I think back on what was going on at the time (this was just before the gamergate movement started, when nazism and inceldom became synonymous) I think about how much people used to use the term "feminazi" to describe feminists in broad strokes, and wonder how differently history would have gone if some of those people's experiences with those issues had been just a little bit different.

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You know that thing where people out of the loop on social issues will say something ignorant and then rather than using it as a teaching moment, leftist spaces will attack them and drive them further right as a result?

Well, I think people need to be aware that antidoomerism follows the same principles.

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Doomerism is destructive to society, but a doomer isn't some category of "bad person". It's a established belief that presents itself as rational, and is reinforced by societal factors.

People rarely break out of a harmful belief that they believe is obvious without education and justification. In a way doomerism is all the harder to break, because it's not just an ideology, it's despair. When people take a dismissive or mocking attitude to those struggling to find hope in dire circumstances, or worse, lash out with that "it's not my job to educate you on things you should already know" attitude that's become all too common these last 15 years or so, it doesn't set them right, it just reinforces the idea that such beliefs are irrational, and gives them an emotional reason to dig their heels in

I'm not omniscient, and I haven't seen statistics on this specific phenomenon, but I have a feeling this attitude is part of why the alt right got as much traction building up as it did

[ventinginprogress]

When I was a kid in the early 2000s, the gay rights movement was just starting to gain steam. I had next to no exposure to gay issues, and, the two points of exposure I DID have were... unpleasant to put it mildly. This is a time where calling someone a "f*g" or "cocksucker" was as normal as calling them "dickhead." And yet despite this, it took all of five words to convince me to get onboard. Five words: "being gay isn't a choice". That's it. That's all it took.

Flash forward to 2011. I'm in college. I have spent the past 5 years on 4chan and am a complete incel. I still believed adamantly in gay marriage because it was a part of my core values. It was at this time that I had my first real experience speaking trans people, and my first moments of education did not go well. Backlash, ostracization, and bans from online communities. I had never even heard of trans rights before, and I definitely did not learn any reason to accept it then.

Now, I'll admit: I was not a pleasant person at the time. I didn't have an issue with making fun of people, but I still had principles I held to, even with my "If you can't take a joke, fuck you" attitude. Over the next year, I didn't stop being ignorant, and was still sinking deeper toxic cesspool of hatred. How did I get out of it? Education. The same thing I should have gotten at the start.

To this day, I still remember the two comments it took for me to learn better. One was a link to an article claiming that a trans woman's brain had more in common with a cis woman's than a cis man's (note: I don't think I even read it), and the other was a brief explanation of the difference between sex and gender, and why the word "gender" was suddenly being used differently.

these facts didn't undo the "me being an asshole problem", but it it was all it took for me to be on board with the movement, even if it took a while for me to learn basic manners. Still, when I think back on what was going on at the time (this was just before the gamergate movement started, when nazism and inceldom became synonymous) I think about how much people used to use the term "feminazi" to describe feminists in broad strokes, and wonder how differently history would have gone if some of those people's experiences with those issues had been just a little bit different.

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ngl, it's kind of crazy that we have more than one mind occupying our brain at one time. Like yeah, I'm me, but there's also they guy who would make my left hand strangle me or jerk me off if my corpus collosum was ever damaged. Then there's the third fucker at uncle fester's who who tells my heart to beat and my stomach to digest and it seems his primary way of entertaining himself is withholding my dopamine, giving me performance anxiety, and generally making my life a living shit.

Sometimes I wonder if I removed only the part of my brain that was me and put it into a robot, would my body still keep going without me, and would the robot have enough of me inside it to function. I think that if I found myself in that situation it would be the 50/50 that I kill those sons of bitches or hatesnog and rawdog them like 20 times in they alley behind dunkin'.

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Pronouns of the day:

Who/You

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I love the phrase "what the actual fuck" because it implies there is some second, faker fuck running around.

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his name is Jerma you swine