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“Being happy is a very personal thing and it really has nothing to do with anyone else.”

— Abraham-Hicks

[kakashi-bby]

"It isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it hurts, it even breaks your heart. But that’s okay. The journey changes you; it should change you. It leaves marks on your memory, on your consciousness, on your heart, and on your body. You take something with you. Hopefully, you leave something good behind."

—Anthony Bourdain, No Reservations

[thelatinlibrarian-deactivated20]

"What is stronger than the human heart Which shatters over and over and still lives."

[happyheidi]

[antisisyphus]

the kiss - klimt / the kiss - munch / poem number two on bell’s theorem - june jordan / dance me to the end of love - vettriano / LiTer II - muholi / in bed. the kiss - toulouse-lautrec / el beso - delfín / to won’s father / noonday heat - tuke / leyendecker / the mill on the floss - eliot / the siesta (after millet) - van gogh / cafe kiss - lorusso / the kiss - rodin / sensuous whisper - bakari / i like my body when it is with your - cummings / cupid kisses psyche - canova / CNG kissing his wife good-bye / the end of the affair / castle - kafka

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[ahududurecelim]

[simply-moodboards]

make me your villain ⁞  @francisaberanthy

[dysautonomiadventures]

Meltdown vs Shutdown

In autistic people, meltdowns and shutdowns may occur. Here’s what they are, how to identify them, and what to do if someone you know is experiencing one.

MELTDOWN: A meltdown is a period of explosive anger/sadness/rage/fear which may manifest itself through screaming, crying, yelling, and can occasionally include violent outbursts. In younger children, meltdowns are often confused with tantrums. A tantrum is a tactic used by children to achieve a goal, such as getting a toy they want from the store. A meltdown is not a power play, it is an intense emotional point at which the person can no longer cope with what is happening around them. Meltdowns can occur at ANY AGE. This is an important distinction from tantrums, which tend to subside around ages 5-6. For me, meltdowns are triggered when I feel misunderstood, or feel that something in the environment is unfair or illogical. Signs that an autistic person is having a meltdown include: - arguing - screaming/yelling - crying - retreating to a space they feel safer in - if the person is angry during a meltdown, they may insult the people around them - curling up into a ball/ fetal position - going under blankets/ a dark quiet place - sometimes the person may hit/ kick/ scratch anyone who tries to go near them - if the person had a goal in mind which was impeded by others, they might perseverate and continue attempting to achieve that goal

What you should and shouldn’t do during a meltdown: - Allow the person go where they want to/ stay where they want to, unless the place they’re going/ staying presents an immediate safety threat - do not try to rationalize with them or continue any previous argument - bring them a blanket and a water bottle with water in it - if the person has a comfort object bring it to them and let them have it - do not physically restrain or interact with the person unless they CLEARLY indicate a desire for physical touch - only touch or restrain the person if they are in immediate danger and you need to get them away from the situation - stay with the person until the meltdown is over (this may be 15 minutes to 3+ hours so you might want something to occupy yourself while you wait for them to calm down) - however if the person tells you to go away, respect them and leave the room. However you should stay in the general area in case they become self destructive or violent - tell the person that you love and care for them and that you will be with them/ there for them until the meltdown passes

SHUTDOWN: A period of intense emotional/ sensory distress which manifests itself through a period of mental paralyzation. Someone experiencing a shutdown may become partially or entirely unresponsive to outside stimuli or interaction. Internally, the person may be experiencing extreme turmoil and anxiety, so it is important not to ask the person questions, which will make them more anxious and overwhelmed. Signs that an autistic person is having a shutdown: - staring blankly into space/ at one specific thing with fixed, unmoving eyes - a stiff, rigid, unmoving posture - lack of verbal communication

- breathing may be shallow and rapid or suppressed and slow, could be abnormally loud or abnormally quiet - lack of response to outside stimuli ex. waving hands in front of their face (please don’t do that), speaking to them, asking them what’s wrong - sensitivity to loud noise and bright lights (person may cover their eyes or ears)

During a shutdown, here is what you can do to help: - you can quietly and calmly ask the person if they are having a shutdown. The person might not be able to respond, but if they don’t then it’s safe to assume that they are indeed having a shutdown. - if the person normally likes physical affection and touch, you can hold them/ hug them/ stroke them/ physically comfort them - if the person normally dislikes physical affection and touch, don’t touch them - if the person has a comfort object and you have access to it, bring it to them (if the comfort object is more than 10- 15 minutes away from you then it’s probably not worth getting because it might not arrive in time to help) - bring the person a water bottle with water in it - stop talking about/ discussing any emotionally stressful topics - if the situation is immediately dangerous, seeing as the person may be unable to move, remove them from the situation as soon as physically possible. You can do this by carrying the person or any other safe method. - try to remove any sources of sensory information. If the room is bright, turn off the majority of the lights. If the room is loud, make it quiet. If the room is too cold or too hot, make it comfortable. In the case of cold, you can do this by covering the person in a non-itchy, soft blanket. - reassure the person that you are there for them. Walk them through what you’re doing as you do it. For example, if you’re going to get the person water, tell them. If you’re going to get them out of the situation, tell them. If you’re going to turn off bright lights, tell them. Remember, even if we can’t communicate, we can still hear. It’s comforting to know what’s going on around us.

I think that’s just about it, if anyone has anything to add please let me know. I hope that everyone finds this helpful!

[piscesxdesi]

Bruh.

Idk if this is a quarter life crisis or what but im literally having a panic attack because everything that I thought I wanted I DONT WANT AT ALL????!!!! 

My career choice, my life plan, everything.  I’m literally so far in debt and so far into a relationship but I’m literally ready to just move get a studio and work in a coffee shop in the mountains. Like im so over everything that I worked for and im freaking tf out. Is this normal? 

Like help…. ? 

[whitestmexicanyouwillknow-deact]

It’s my 22nd birthday!!!

Time for my quarter life crisis to start.

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literally there are two distinct personas living inside me

art vs ui

literature vs coding

history vs smart community design

chelsea boots vs white air maxes

black cashmere turtlenecks and white cotton sweatshirts

old dusty books vs ebooks

substances vs being clean and neat

baroque architecture vs minimalist interiors

chanel no 5 vs calvin klein’s eternity

staying home to search strange things in the internet vs going out and dancing on a bar in some club

succulents vs tulips and carnations

pearl necklaces vs gold hoops

60’s music and lo fi hip hop

there is no in between. i do not even choose these things, i just wake up and my mindset and preferences are totally different that 8 hours ago

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[zodiacmind]

How To Romance Any Sign

ARIES: Up the excitement and the adrenaline to the max. Surprise Aries with a spontaneous trip or a secret party. Do something exhilarating together, especially anything Aries has never done before.

Ideal Date: Skydiving, wing walking or a sudden road trip.

Worst Date: The same place you went last time. Boring!

TAURUS: It’s all about the senses for Taurus. Think sensuality, luxury and indulgence. Highlight romance by creating a special place you return to again and again on special occasions.

Ideal Date: A high class restaurant, a spa retreat or a couples’ massage appointment.

Worst Date: Anything your Taurus doesn’t know about ahead of time. No surprises!

GEMINI: Communicate, educate or play – three golden rules for romancing a Gemini. Geminis love a party atmosphere and will be happy surrounded by people. Give Gemini lots to talk about.

Ideal Date: A busy bookstore, a party or a playground.

Worst Date: A stuffy restaurant or anything with an overly formal atmosphere.

CANCER: Home to meet Mom is top on the priority date list for Cancer if he or she is taking you seriously. Old fashioned romance is a priority too, so think glamor or tenderness. Or preferably both.

Ideal Date: Meet the parents. Failing which, a hand in hand stroll through the moonlight.

Worst Date: A rushed coffee – make more of an effort.

LEO: Think drama and impact when romancing a Leo. It helps to think luxury too, if you can afford it. If you can’t, pretend you can. Leo doesn’t do budget anything and won’t thank you for saving the pennies.

Ideal Date: A theater night, a fashion show or an exclusive, invite-only ball.

Worst Date: A night in. Leo needs to be seen.

VIRGO: Sophisticated but not showy is Virgo’s style in all things, including romance. Avoid tons of people, but do something where Virgo can show off his or her intelligence or knowledge. Preferably something clean.

Ideal Date: A library, a health spa or a lecture.

Worst Date: Anything which involves getting dirty. Ugh.

LIBRA: Sociable, charming Libra is easy to romance and will be delighted with any efforts you make to be romantic. He or she is easy going on a date and will try anything at least once.

Ideal Date: Whatever you wish, so long as it’s done with love and affection.

Worst Date: A family dinner – too much potential for rows and discord.

SCORPIO: Romancing a Scorpio means getting very moody, very intense and very private. Get it wrong and you’ll know about it. Something deep and meaningful always goes down well, but not too many people please.

Ideal Date: An obscure art installation or poetry recital, or a midnight beach walk.

Worst Date: A party, or any kind of enforced jollity.

SAGITTARIUS: Outdoors. Outdoors. As much as possible, outdoors. Romance a Sagittarius out in the open air, no matter what the weather. Sporting activities are a good bet, as is anything involving animals.

Ideal Date: A wildlife park, a clifftop walk, a ball game.

Worst Date: Dinner in an uptight restaurant. Sag needs freedom.

CAPRICORN: When Capricorn fits romance into their busy schedule, it had better be good. High quality outings fit the bill, but so does some pampering at home after an exhausting day. Help Capricorn relax.

Ideal Date: Home-cooked dinner and candles, or a cosy fireside chat.

Worst Date: Sports or anything too adrenaline packed – Capricorn is tired!

AQUARIUS: Romancing an Aquarius is an intellectual adventure; they don’t care about the surroundings, so long as the company is good. Try to give Aquarius a new perspective to feed their imagination.

Ideal Date: Hot air ballooning, caving or an obscure museum.

Worst Date: Meet the parents – commitment turns Aquarius right off.

PISCES: Romancing the ultimate romantic can be a challenge. Keep Pisces’ dreams alive by spending time near water, or in secluded but beautiful places which whisper romance and speak to the Piscean soul.

Ideal Date: A lakeside picnic or a romantic tryst in a tiny rustic church.

Worst Date: A busy city café – too much noise, too many people, just too much.

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