Victress:

A female victor; one who is victorious

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I've got a very inquisitive daughter at home! She's always asking questions and wanting to know "Why!" Today she asked me "Mum how do you raise someone’s self-worth?” and here's what I told her: I don’t! I raise their perception of their self-worth. Every single human is born to this world 100% worthy. Worthy of love, friendship, happiness, career, money, the whole shebang! And that level of worth never changes. What does change is the way that we see our self-worth levels. Our value. It gets shifted by environment, culture, and beliefs. The key to seeing your self- worth as the 10/10 that it actually is, is to practise self-love, and that is what I help each client achieve. Once self-love is there, our perception of our self-worth will rise, allowing the world and all of its possibilities to open up to us! On a scale of 1 -10, where do you see your self-worth as at? What do you do on a daily basis, to practise self-love? #love #coaching #selflove (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CLEgd_Rh_Zp/?igshid=x9gl5ci0cavo

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Everything that you are doing right now, is building resilience. Everything that you are going through during this time, is building strength. Every obstacle that you face, is showing you how to move through fear. You are moving forward. Staying positive, doesn't mean not feeling the pain. It means knowing that tomorrow is a new day where there will be less pain. Staying focused, doesn't mean being continually on the move. It means having an INTENTION, and holding ATTENTION towards it. Staying strong, doesn't mean not allowing yourself to feel vulnerable. It means knowing that your vulnerability doesn't make you weak. Today, you are stronger than you realise. Keep going. Tomorrow you will be closer to where you want to be. #motivation #coaching #mentalhealth #2021theyearofyou (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKytPNeB9qv/?igshid=12droeam9r1gf

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In one word tell me how you feel about your sense of self-worth? There was a time when I would have said, non-existent. My word is now always 💯#mentalhealth #relationships #personaldevelopment (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKn6Q21Bjm_/?igshid=17lxa46dq0v8m

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Do you love shortcuts? Do you want to get from A to Z without taking the necessary steps of B through Y? I understand. I get the impatience and frustration, but here’s what I’ve learned through coaching and being coached. A and Z are just the beginning and the end. Maybe Z is the goal and A is where you are starting from. But B through Y is where the energy is. The transformation takes place within this realm and jumping straight to Z teaches you nothing, gives you nothing. The journey is where the fire is found! #journey #shortcuts #motivation #coaching (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKlz_NNBB0u/?igshid=1k99saus9vjx0

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A gift for you! I posted last week on how to STOP overwhelm in its tracks. I have 25 STOP flyers that you can pin to a notice board, fridge, mirror or carry with you to give away to the 1st 25 people who request them. No catch. Existing clients. New clients. New followers or existing followers. Simply a gift from me to you. #help # #mentalhealth #relationships #copingwithstress (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKiqSmyB3ya/?igshid=7eh4hu2dhmdj

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Do you know who you are? When I was growing up, I knew exactly who I was and what I wanted. I was a warrior. I looked after, I cared for and I fought for those who needed it. I think I was always supposed to help people (and I’ve certainly been coaching for a lot longer than I’ve been a coach). I gravitated to people who needed help. People who needed a bit of a light in their life. Unfortunately, I mistook my calling for who I was supposed to partner up with and love, and for a long period of time, my choice in men (and even friends) was based on who I thought I could help the most. This is not an ideal vetting system for prospective boyfriends or friends. When I look back on who I was as a child, I know she had it exactly right. The adolescent and young (and then not so young) versions of me had to relearn the lessons that I was born into the world already understanding. However, having come full circle, and now with utter conviction of who I am and what my purpose is, I’m able to help women (and men) find their purpose, and their loves. Together we raise their self-worth, we remove the anxiety and free them from their limiting beliefs, creating space for them to believe that anything is possible. #Love #storytelling #mentalhealth #2021theyearofyou (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKeCx92hfgC/?igshid=1wvn1ajzrn8el

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Let's talk 2020/21 isolation achievements. What did you do? Were you able to use the time to learn a new skill or launch something new, or was a mindset shift your achievement and area to be proud of? Were you happy for the downtime or itching to get back to normal? Where are you now? How are you doing? Comment below and if I can respond with any form of help, I will. #achievement #motivation #help #business (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKWTZDPhdlo/?igshid=1oim3u7prs28r

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What are your challenges today? Mine are balancing my time coaching with being invested enough in my daughter’s home schooling to help, whist giving her the space to make mistakes and build resilience, as well as trying to fit in some form of exercise, and keep my accounts up to date. For my clients, overwhelm (working from home, online schooling, building a career, making the right choice etc) crops up a lot. Here's one step you can take towards jumping over that hurdle. When overwhelm starts to set in, STOP. S…Separate yourself from the problem. It is not you, you are not it. It is how you are seeing the problem that is causing you difficulty, not the content of the problem itself. T…Take the time to breath. Purposefully and slowly. Inhaling cool fresh calm oxygen and exhaling fraught tense hot CO2. O…Open your mind and allow yourself to see the end result, rather than the problem at hand. What will it look like once you’ve finished the task. Who will it effect? See it in sparkling Disneyesque colour. See the rewards and the benefits. See the celebration (YES, even if its just cleaning the fridge). P…Purposefully take action. Do just 1 thing towards creating the result. And once you’ve taken that step, take the next. Slowly and with intent. #challenge #help #coaching (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKTa3hwhFH6/?igshid=11nvg2rw95iwh

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“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.” – Leo F. Buscaglia. I used to worry about not getting things right, until I realised that aiming for perfection (unattainable and unachievable) was holding me back from getting things done! Is there something you need to let go of? (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKOzneahqTz/?igshid=14s60l2mogi4e

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Pop a 💜 emoji (you choose the colour) below if you’d like to know more about self worth and how to love yourself to create the relationship of your dreams. #relationships #Love #coaching (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKL-2EvBRUX/?igshid=bbjbffshd4xw

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What’s been the highlight of your week? This week has been a good one. I walked 10,000 steps (most) days, I served clients strongly and I finally found my reading groove. Celebrate your highlights below. #motivation #fridayfun #2021theyearofyou (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKEIYLCBz5B/?igshid=ulle1kmr12dd

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What labels have you allowed to stick over the course of your life? In my personal life, I’ve been called… Too impulsive. I over analyse. I’m always happy. I’m never satisfied. I’m a robot who shows no emotion. I’m overly emotional. I don’t think outside the box. My thinking is way too unstructured. I’m gorgeous. I’m ugly. I’m overly sensitive. I’m tough. I’m too big. I’m too small. To all of this, I say a resounding HELL YES, because what it boils down to, is that I’m human and I’m not afraid to be me. I’m a fighter. I own my character. And when a label is given, that is more to do with the person that it came from than me, I reject it. Because I know who I am. I am me. My relationship with me is the most important one that I have. I cannot be a good mother, a good fiancé, a good coach, if I do not know who I am. So today, feeling proud (a little bit loud) and undeterred, This is me, make up free, being authentic, genuine and honest. Do you let the labels that other people give you attach? Are you interested to find out who you are, underneath the labels? Your relationship with yourself is key to understanding your relationship with others. That’s the place to start! #relationships #love #labels #mentalhealth (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKB6aVOhpaM/?igshid=1gwbvy980x5cd

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Changing your beliefs and forming new habits. It feels unachievable and unrealistic at first, doesn’t it. Here's how I helped a client of mine completely transform and overcome this hurdle. 1 We discussed the beliefs that she had vs the beliefs that she wanted. 2 We looked at the beliefs that she wanted in further detail and discussed, amongst other things over a period of just a few short weeks, what would be going on around her, and within her, to facilitate those beliefs. 3 Using NLP I helped her to see that her current beliefs were simply that. Beliefs, not facts. Once she truly understood this, her mindset shifted, creating space for the new beliefs to gently filter in. 4 Bravely, she began to practise her new beliefs, using specific language that I had taught her. Gradually she began to see evidence of these new beliefs in the world around her. 5 EVERYTHING is systemic. Once her beliefs shifted in one area of her life, they also shifted in other areas, giving her even more proof that her new beliefs were her new reality. 6 Hey presto, her belief system had authentically changed. She was getting the results that she wanted and her beliefs were serving her, and no longer hurting her. #coaching #storytelling #personaldevelopment (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CJ_KWrvBtOb/?igshid=q8xjpmeng4v

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I used to believe that I wasn’t enough. That my value was somehow less than everyone else’s. My belief's stopped me from going after my true passions. From going after the career I wanted, to meeting and speaking with the people who could have enriched my life. Occasionally, I was able to put on my self-assured personality (mask), and fake how good I felt about myself, but I didn’t really believe any of it was true. For years it stopped me from dating good men, focusing instead on the men who made me feel less than, thus proving my point that I was unworthy. I realised that I'd never be truly happy, or fulfilled, or reach my potential if I didn't flip this belief and create a new one. And so I started listening to how new prospects spoke to me. The men who spoke disrespectfully and made me feel bad, or less than I wanted to, were discarded. The ones who were interested in what I had to say, my opinions and passions I embraced. In the process, I became an expert on relationships, and found that the relationship that we have with ourselves is by far the most important. Soon after, my beliefs changed. Evidence created new belief, which became proof of how worthy I was. It's amazing what we can achieve when we change our perspective. #storytelling #coaching #2021theyearofyou (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CJ8tg_gBTI5/?igshid=na6x8obpuqfa

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Fed up wit the usual January limited time offers, I’ve decided to make an offer that is unlimited (to those in the area), with benefits for mind, body and soul. “A Walk and a Talk” with me, Emily. I’m a coach and expert Mojo builder, specialising in removing anxiety (completely), raising self worth to 10/10 and helping you create goals that propel you forward to create the life that you desire. A Walk and a Talk outside in the fresh air, bringing together physical & mental fitness. The 1st session for all new clients will be free and without obligation. Whether you decide to commit to more sessions or not, you will get amazing value. For more info or to arrange your Walk and a Talk, DM or contact me. Details in bio. #radlett #radlettmums #aldenham (at Radlett) https://www.instagram.com/p/CJyaqyZh_Sn/?igshid=m0dvgtusuuju

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Do you ever experience moments of intense clarity? Lightbulb moments. More than a gut feeling, there is urgency and complete understanding. You know what the problem is, and crucially, you know what you need to do to rectify it. Because I have. I consider myself down to earth with very real and regular thoughts, fears and concerns. The first time it happened I was 17. I was with someone who treated me badly. He was manipulative, controlling. Cruel even. He hurt me on a daily basis. You would think that that would be enough for me to leave…but I didn’t. It wasn’t until one morning when he made, what was for him, a passing comment. For me, time stood still. Every cell in my body was awake, alive, conscious. I knew what he was. I knew who I was and I knew that I had to get out. But in my uneducated mind, I listened and felt, and then I allowed every day-ness to dull the learning. I’ve come to understand that the moments that create a personal revolution within, are important. They need to be heard. Action needs to be taken. Imagine what you could do if you learned how to hear. If you believed that you could achieve anything. If all the blocks and negativity were removed and you simply created your best life. 2021...the year of you. #storytelling #coaching #innovation (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CJqr7VAh14a/?igshid=1vmc0ypdkur4f

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Did you know that Mistletoe is a parasite? It’s a plant that has come to symbolize Christmas, winter wonderlands and kissing, but it grows by attaching itself first to, and then within its host. The host tree adapts and continues to flourish and thrive. The longer the parasite plant is allowed to co-exist, the more it grows and so 1 tree becomes 2. It strikes me that we could learn both from the mistletoe and host plant. When we feel niggles of self doubt and insecurity, rather than trying to force the feelings out and deny them, often making us feel worse, perhaps we could acknowledge their presence and calmly ask what they need, to allow and ensure harmony and balance. When faced with an unpredictable future, with uncertain outcomes, perhaps we could adapt to our surroundings, slowly growing day by day and continuing to thrive. 2021...the year of you! #mentalhealth #naturewalk #storytelling #coaching (at London, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CJlkPsJBTY7/?igshid=1fnfzoi75y312