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She plucks out all her feathers, one by one.

“The Crane Wife” is a story from Japanese folklore… And there are so many versions of this story, but in the one I found, there is a crane who tricks a man into thinking she is a woman so she can marry him. She loves him, but knows that he will not love her if she is a crane so she spends every night plucking out all of her feathers with her beak. She hopes that he will not see what she really is: a bird who must be cared for, a bird capable of flight, a creature, with creature needs. Every morning, the crane wife is exhausted, but she is a woman again. To keep becoming a woman is so much self-erasing work. She never sleeps. She plucks out all her feathers, one by one.

― CJ Hauser, The Crane Wife: A Memoir in Essays (Doubleday, July 12, 2022)

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But when a woman needs, she is needy.

I need you to know: I hated that I needed more than this from him. There is nothing more humiliating to me than my own desires. Nothing that makes me hate myself more than being burdensome and less than self-sufficient. I did not want to feel like the kind of nagging woman who might exist in a sit-com. These were small things, and I told myself it was stupid to feel disappointed by them. I had arrived in my thirties believing that to need things from others made you weak. I think this is true for lots of people but I think it is especially true for women. When men desire things, they are “passionate.” When they feel they have not received something they need, they are “deprived,” or even “emasculated,” and given permission for all sorts of behavior. But when a woman needs, she is needy. She is meant to contain within her own self everything necessary to be happy.

― CJ Hauser, The Crane Wife: A Memoir in Essays (Doubleday, July 12, 2022)

I really did love to write—the irreplaceable thrill of transforming a blank page, the search for the right word, like pieces of a puzzle, the surgery of stitching together odd paragraphs. I loved how it belonged to me, a private act of creation...

Ta-Nehisi Coates, “I’m Not Black, I’m Kanye” (please read and re-read this masterful essay from which I plucked an incidental, beautiful quote)

#Ta-Nehisi Coates #writing

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New York is a beauty ✨ #nyc#citylife (at New York, New York)

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Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways.

Glennon Doyle Melton

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Altoona Tribune, Pennsylvania, January 7, 1939

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#mood

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#places #san francisco #lombard st

Don't mistake luck with privilege. We're all incredibly privileged to be standing here (or sitting). And here's one thing about privilege: You must acknowledge it, and use it. Whenever someone gives you a hand and pulls you forward, make sure you have the other hand extended behind you to pull someone else along.

Andrés Aguinaco Gómez Mont, Columbia Law School Graduation

#quote #andres aguinaco gomez mont #columbia law school #graduation