forgiveness is overrated

vilette, over 18, any pronouns. i didn't relate to most of the recoverycore out there so i'm making my own.

[traumatizeddfox]

Seeing all those posts that say "despite it all I remain kind" are so inspiring and I'm so proud of those people but I can't be them. At least not now. I just hope that one day I can be.

[violentrecoverycore]

ventcore and traumacore are NOT antithetical to healing, and are in fact incredibly useful tools on the path to recovery. you MUST work through your experiences and emotions in whatever way works for you, it is INTEGRAL to getting better. do NOT suppress your ugly feelings, do not feel ashamed of working through your emotions with art or edits or writing, do not feel bad for expressing thoughts that are violent or unpleasant so long as it helps you to work through and understand your behaviors better.

get the feelings out in a safe environment, and go on with your life. you will be okay. one day you might not need it anymore but it is a tool that is here for you.

[ojibwa]

[kinzkid]

recovery isn’t linear. some days are easy, and some days are hard as fuck. but one thing stays the same — it’s always worth it. you are worth every ounce of courage, kindness, and energy that goes into recovering. you will never not be worthy.

[crownquill]

posted by @bernard-jackson/from x post/made of air, paul clipson/ The War Works Hard; “America” by Elizabeth Winslow/posted by @soapstore/posted by @jovialtorchlight

[lucidlymelanated]

Your 30s aren't too late. Don't let nobody tell you that stupid shit.

[aetherograph]

Your 40s aren't too late. Don't let nobody tell you that stupid shit.

[loisfreakinglane]

#as long as you're alive it's literally never too late

[etteraths]

[yeahawvampire]

I want to live!!! I WANT TO LIVE!!!! I WANT TO MAKE GOOD FOOD!!!! I WANT TO WAKE UP ON A WARM BED!!!! I WANT KISSES!!!! I WANT HUGS!!!! I WANT PEOPLE TO LOVE!!!!! I WANT TO BE A GOOD FRIEND!!!! I WANT TO HAVE A FAMILY NOT TIED BY BLOOD OR HIRARCHY!!!! BUT BY COMMUNITY!!!!! I WANT TO BE GOOD!!!! I WANT TO MAKE GOOD ART!!!! I WANT TO GO TO THE MOVIES!!!! I WANT WARM FOOD AND SUN ON MY FACE!!!! I DON'T WANT TO WORRY ABOUT TOMORROW!!!! I WANT TO BE FREE!!!! TO BE FREEE!!!! TO BE HAPPY!!!! I WANT COMFORT!!!! I WANT TO LIVE!!! I WANT TO LIVE!!!! I WANT TO BE KIND!!!!!!

[bloodiedbloodhound]

If anything, I can scream.

[etteraths]

[snaffirmations]

[Id: an image of a pale brown snail sitting one a miniature blue sofa. Above and below the snail is text that reads "You are doing what you can." "It is enough." "Self-hatred helps no one." The sofa is patterned with darker blue flowers and the image background is a gradient of yellow. End Id]

[violentrecoverycore]

IT IS TIME TO BITE BACK. IT IS TIME TO CRAWL OUT OF THE GROUND AND CLAW YOUR LIFE BACK INTO YOUR HANDS. DO NOT GIVE UP NOW. YOU'VE ALREADY MADE IT THIS FAR. YOU DO NOT KNOW THE VERSION OF YOURSELF YOU WILL BECOME ONE DAY.

GET UP. GO FORWARD. FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT BUT DO NOT REJECT HELP. THE PERSON YOU WILL BECOME ONE DAY IS HIDING INSIDE OF YOU AND YOU HAVE TO FIND THEM.

LIVE. I AM NOT ASKING.

[traumasurvivors]

Anger is one of the most invalidated emotions in trauma recovery. People often say things like, “Being angry just lets them win,” or “You’re only hurting yourself.” But that isn’t true. Anger is a normal, valid part of healing.

Anger isn’t automatically bad. There’s destructive anger, which lashes out or harms yourself and others, and constructive anger, which helps you understand your pain, your needs, and what boundaries you want to set. Ignoring anger or bottling it up often leads to blow-ups or misdirected frustration later.

For me, learning to feel anger was a turning point. For years I blamed myself for my trauma. Feeling angry at those who hurt me was the first step toward realizing I didn’t deserve what happened. My anger was grief, betrayal, and the part of me that wanted to be safe.

Constructive anger can be a powerful tool. It can:

Motivate you to set boundaries or leave unsafe situations

Help you advocate for change or take action in your own life

Push you toward healing and growth

Anger becomes a problem when it consumes you or causes harm but the feeling itself isn’t bad. Listening to it, understanding where it comes from, and channeling it in safe ways (like journaling, exercise, or creative outlets) can make it part of your healing.

Your anger doesn’t mean they’re “winning.” Sometimes, it means you are because you’re finally putting the blame where it belongs and giving yourself the chance to heal. 

I wrote a longer post about this here. 

[healing-is-cool]

Anger is recognizing you deserved better

[ink-the-artist]

[ink-the-artist]

the long awaited sequel

[forget-the-feeling]

I don’t want them to become better. I know they never will

[moss-eyes]

forgiveness is no longer an option start taking bones as trophies

[feral-ballad]

Clementine Von Radics, from In A Dream You Saw A Way To Survive; “You are on the floor crying”

[Text ID: “And you have been / on the floor crying / for days. / And that is you / being brave. / That is you getting through it / as best you know how. / No one else can decide / What your tough looks like.”]