"Why can't I find a good domme? Why are there so many findoms?"
Good dommes? We're here, but we're regularly treated like kink dispensers by strangers looking for someone to get them off (usually without bothering to get to know us above and beyond reading our blogs, which tbh is just a small part of us) or without giving us time to get to know them well enough to want to form a relationship.
I run a small blog and I get several guys in my DMs daily (it easily triples on holidays and long weekends when people are extra lonely and horny) with unrealistic expectations of attention (who tf do they think they are?!?) and it gets very tiresome dealing with it every single day, especially those of us who already have a sub who's earned our attention and all the privileges that go along with it.
Some of us, like me, hide in plain sight and simply ignore the majority of those DMs and use the block button liberally when we feel the energy is leaning towards unwanted behaviour. FAFO.
"Why are there so many findoms?"
Hard truth, you (collectively, not individually) did it to yourselves, AND the ratio is not in your favor.
Many dommes will see the skewed ratio as an opportunity to capitalize on, and choose to ask for payment for the high volume of requests literally thrown our way on a regular basis.
If the energy that mass volumes of subs are constantly putting out into the world is based solely on their own needs, they absolutely should expect interactions with dommes to be transactional.
We're literally being asked for a customized service. If it's not earned in a trusting, established relationship, then why should it not come at a cost?
Let me spell it out for those not getting it yet:
You either pay with loyalty and decency and put in the time to earn the benefits (IF she chooses you), OR you skip the line and pay for your demands of instant gratification from those who offer that service.
In summary, if you want a good domme and not a findom, then be patient. Don't roll in hot with all your wants and needs, that's your problem so don't make it ours. Yes we like you needy, but we also get to choose who we share our time and attention with, and I promise it's NEVER based on your level of neediness.
Be genuine, be honest, be your best self, and in time the right one for you will recognize and appreciate you for it.
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