observational yet oblivious

ma.

[neonelven]

[tomb-mold]

the problem is i really do love staying up until one billion o'clock. it just cant be helped

[dailyclassicart]

Robert Spear Dunning - "Cherries" (1871)

[scramratz]

Webbed site dont work on mobile oh cool so cool

[only-cat-memes]

[oreganoid]

[freeze frame] You aren't wondering anything [unfreezes frame]

[junglejim4322]

Unironically I think the early to mid 20s age group in America has unbelievably bad consent boundaries on all levels and so much language to defend it but this makes me sound like elon musk if I say it however the commonality of someone who will be like “I had 47 panic attacks and it’s your fault” if you tell them no is insane

[junglejim4322]

I rejected someone and got called “the scariest person I’ve ever met” with so much therapy speak interspersed like alright okay alright okay alright okay

[junglejim4322]

“You just say whatever you’re thinking and I don’t know how to handle it” was verbatim part of this conversation. Also everyone hates to see an autistic bitch

[transhumanisticpanspermia]

When I was in this age bracket, there was a huge emphasis on improving consent culture via graceful rejection, and it's gone by the wayside. Which sucks.

Twice in my youth (once in high school and once in college) I was in situations where I was asking someone out and I could tell they were calculating in their heads the risks of rejecting me, and both times I said, out loud, "you can say no, I wouldn't have asked if I wasn't prepared for either answer." And then they said no. This wasn't some spark of special wisdom I had - I knew to do it because feminist conversations among my age group brought it up regularly. This isn't happening nearly enough anymore.

More recently, I was really glad when we got to "rejection sensitive dysphoria" in my IOP program and it was one of those symptoms where the therapists really emphasized how it affects others. Because it does.

Being someone who cannot handle rejection makes you much more likely to violate boundaries, and yes, that includes sexual ones. Yes, you, reader who has never hurt a fly. If you don't want to stumble backwards into sexually assaulting someone, fix your RSD meltdowns. If you keep them up it's only a matter of time. Because if you're nice enough to interact with, but are known to have RSD meltdowns, guess what happens when your friends and acquaintances need to reject you?

[lovesickbrat]

[my-dailydreams]

[mgs5]

[warmfuzzyphoto]

[lattequinn]

[inthedarktrees]

Jacques-Henri Lartigue, Florette, Paris, 1944

[fromhersoul]

[frostedmagnolias]

Evening Bag

c. 1920-1930

McCord Stewart Museum Montreal

[shepherd-roommate]

The problem with being a loyal knight butch to a princess fem, is that you have sworn to be a good knight for the good of the kingdom; but, if your fem becomes evil, you are evil now too. Like I'll put up a good fight. I'll ask her, "Are you sure" and if she says yes, then we are evil now. I'm her minion, her servant, her sword. I tried to stop her, but she wanted to be evil; so now I'm evil too. That's just how this works. I don't make the rules, I'm just madly in love with the one who does.

[rienafoutre]