E.nigma

22. Chicago. Kik: jiggaj95 Supporting Black Queer Men in all my endeavors.

[overpricedvodka]

Taraji P. Henson is a bad actress and y'all don’t wanna admit it because she’s such a cool person.

[waysbyjay]

This is blasphemous.

[gayvoice]

The AIDS crisis literally happened one generation before us….like my mom graduated from college around when it started. Let’s please stop pretending this is ancient history and that living members of our community are still affected by it.

[veryboreeeed]

[itschinyere-deactivated20200201]

There’s something amazing about not only being conscious, but also being comfortable in your blackness, your sexuality, & your body. There’s a fearlessness that comes with full awareness & acceptance.

[ahomohobosafro]

If you're Black and Awake and you support all genders, nongenders, sexualities and non sexualities reblog this..

Let’s see who really down..

[firstoffletmesayi]

Safe blog right here ☝🏿️

[dariastark221]

All day every day ✊🏾

[lachaayah]

we a rare breed outchea

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Errors in Thinking that Create Anxiety

1. All-or-nothing thinking: Looking at things in black-or-white categories, with no middle ground (“If I fall short of perfection, I’m a total failure.”)

2. Overgeneralization: Generalizing from a single negative experience, expecting it to hold true forever (“I didn’t get hired for the job. I’ll never get any job.”)

3. The mental filter: Focusing on the negatives while filtering out all the positives. Noticing the one thing that went wrong, rather than all the things that went right.

4. Diminishing the positive: Coming up with reasons why positive events don’t count (“I did well on the presentation, but that was just dumb luck.”)

5. Jumping to conclusions: Making negative interpretations without actual evidence. You act like a mind reader (“I can tell she secretly hates me.”) or a fortune teller (“I just know something terrible is going to happen.”)

6. Catastrophizing: Expecting the worst-case scenario to happen (“The pilot said we’re in for some turbulence. The plane’s going to crash!”)

7. Emotional reasoning: Believing that the way you feel reflects reality (“I feel frightened right now. That must mean I’m in real physical danger.”)

8. ‘Shoulds’ and ‘should-nots’: Holding yourself to a strict list of what you should and shouldn’t do and beating yourself up if you break any of the rule

9. Labeling: Labeling yourself based on mistakes and perceived shortcomings (“I’m a failure; an idiot; a loser.”)

10. Personalization: Assuming responsibility for things that are outside your control (“It’s my fault my son got in an accident. I should have warned him to drive carefully in the rain.”)

Source: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/anxiety_self_help.htm

[hazelhalohaysus]

Understanding the enemy.

[jays-enigma]

I disagree with the notion that there is an agenda to effeminize black men.

[nogrindrfail]

“Being gay isn’t a choice, being racist is.”

Some people will reblog this with their protests that, “It’s just a preference.” This happens every time I post something about how racial preferences are racist. Before you even try it just know that: racial preferences are rooted in and inextricable from racism. If you don’t believe this, spend about five seconds doing the most cursory of internet searches for the many pieces written on why this is the case. Take your own experiences of discrimination and try and figure out how you might be contributing to the discrimination of others. Be an empathetic person and recognize the ways in which these systems that denigrate one group denigrate so many groups. Decolonize your own mind and recognize and confront your own prejudices.

[thepowerofblackwomen]

Jay-Z brings back ‘Friends’ with an all-black cast for his Moonlight video starring Jerrod Carmichael, Issa Rae, Lakeith Stanfield, Tiffany Haddish, Tessa Thompson and Lil Rel

[waysbyjay]

Ok but this could be a real show. I'm here.

[blackmenconfessions]

C: Something I keep running into as a bi man is gay men who were raped or sexually molested as children. No one believes them, protects or defends them. And the main response they get when we realize we are different is the religion bandaid, which is irritating as fuck. It’s not even a fix because it doesn’t deal with the mental, emotional or spiritual damage. No one is finding these perverts and trying to give us, the children, any comfort or counseling. You can’t protect the perpetrators and then blame these boys and say they chose to be gay or bi. Like, what the fuck is wrong with you? I get tired of trying to pray the gay away, tired of feeling like I let my uncle and aunt molest me so I have to figure it out on my own. Fuck you. Protect your boys too.

[ithelpstodream]

[thebrownqueerproject]

Hey y’all. I’m glad to be back and posting again. Here are some films that i’ve wanted to post about for the longest time, plus a new one that I just recently watched. I love watching films that highlight LGBTQ+ identities and especially love when films highlight the intersections of various identities. Check these out if they are of any interest, and feel free to recommend any others! :)

Naz & Maalik (2015):

One of my personal favorites, I was surprised that I never noticed this film online. Naz and Maalik is a film that follows the close relationship between two black muslim boys. They spend their summer day selling Lotto Tickets on the streets of Brooklyn while wrapping their minds around their possible romantic relationship. All of this happening as they unfortunately cross paths with the FBI and are essentially harassed due to their muslim identities. The film is a beautiful story highlighting the intersections of Blackness, Queerness, and being Muslim. *Can be found on Netflix.

Pariah (2011):

This film hit me straight in the feels. I watched this my senior year of college in a Queer Media and Literature class and it became a personal favorite since that day. Pariah focuses on a young Black girl set in New York City. Alike, is slowly coming to terms with her lesbian Identity and wear she seems to place herself on the spectrum of masculine and feminine. As Alike seems to be more comfortable with herself, her identity seems to cause more trouble at home with her traditional mother who just won’t budge, and police officer father. Alike highlights the predicament a lot of queer people face in negotiating aspects of her environments for the safety of being able to express her identity. As she puts it though, she is not running, she is choosing. *Can be found on Netflix *A personal fave please watch!!!

The Business of Fancydancing (2002):

The Business of Fancydancing follows the journey of a gay Native American man as he comes back to his reservation home in Spokane, Washington for the funeral of a friend. Seymour became distant from the reservation after college and had not been present much since. Becoming a successful Poet known for his stories pertaining to his native culture, we watch as conflict grows between his education and white partner vs. his home on the reservation.  The film highlights the almost tug of war Seymour is at between his native culture and his big city literary success. The film follows a back and forth flashback method and is almost non linear which creates an interesting environment to watch Seymour’s journey of self growth and identity.

LOEV (2015) :

LOEV is a film that follows the relationship between two old childhood friends who meet up for a weekend adventure. One a Mumbai based musician, and the other a NYC businessman. We see the tension build throughout the trip as they both express the feelings of not being satisfied with romantic partners or certain life circumstances. These confessions coincide with the growing romantic tension that builds throughout the film. This film highlights Indian queer identities that aren’t always found in mainstream media. *TRIGGER WARNING: This film does have a rape scene *Can be found on Netflix

[waysbyjay]

Yo this is a must!

[waysbyjay]

Message to Pro Black Heterosexuals

Don’t get under the assumption that just because a Black person is apart of the LGBTQ+ community that they put their sexuality/gender before race. THIS not true for most Black LGBTQ+ folks. It affects us as much as it affects y'all and sometimes even worse. The White/majority LGBTQ+ community is just as racist as their heterosexual counterparts. They don’t like our Black asses when it really comes down to the real shit. And most Pro Black people are not supportive of Black LGBTQ+ folks. This is why we create our own spaces. If you support the Black Community then support ALL Black folks.

[hoodpalace]

Nobody likes us except us

[blackmenconfessions]

Bi person of color

I’m bi person of color! Who is out and proud! I’m tired of getting bash by dl men and women in public when they with friends and family. Then one on one who to hookup and get me to hook them up. One incident someone told me they been watching me for and started to show up to my job. I had to alert security. They assume because I am bi I have sex all time or secretly I want them. I admit I lean towards men more than women but I am attracted to both. I should still feel respect as human being.

[lacqueblacker]

Sometimes I just be feelin myself, even when I’m looking rough. Happy Blackout! ✊🏿✊🏾✊🏽🏳️‍🌈