Black Men Confessions

This blog was created to be a safe space for Black Men to speak. Confessions can be about black culture, celebrities, music, shows, movies, stereotypes or people in general.

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I don’t like small talk, we gon get deep or not?

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Thats what i be sayin.

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Wish more women was like this.

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C: I had to cut off my own older sister because she is extremely toxic and doesn’t care. The majority of my childhood trauma and emotional abuse comes from her but she hides behind the whole strong black woman trope. She doesn’t just have that issue with me either. The majority of her friends have distanced themselves from her and the one that does stick around keeps her at arms length. She also seems to run into the same issue in every relationship she’s had yet she continues to think everyone around her is just weak for not dealing with her bullshit. Her own son loses his patience as he continues to grow and be surrounded by her toxicity 24/7. She refuses to acknowledge that she may be the issue and my patience has run out. Im done.

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Confession: I love children. Spending time with my nieces and nephews is one of the best feelings in the world. They look at me and even with all my flaws they see someone they want to be like. Lately, however, I’ve been thinking more and more about getting a vasectomy. I even wake up praying that I’m sterile. That my second most used prayer, after not wanting waking up at all.

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C: As a dude that’s been sexually assaulted, none of y’all say shit about Terry Crews. Seriously, shut the fuck up about this “he should have fought back” nonsense. If he fought back, him being arrested and blacklisted (ie, never being able to provide for his family ever again) would be the BEST case scenario, worst case scenario, he gets shot by a cop. Unless you’ve been in that situation before, don’t say a word. cuz you’ve got no clue what we’ve been through.

And also, can more of the brothas start talking about this??? ESPECIALLY when the assailant is a woman? I feel like we don’t talk about this nearly enough. Like, watching dudes I know talk about Terry just lets me know who’d make fun of me for being sexually harassed DAILY by a girl I knew in school. And don’t even get me started on how I see sistas joking about this and calling the man weak. Like, if big ass Terry Crews doesn’t fight back, shouldn’t that tell you something about sexual assault and how it works on a psychological level? He’s TERRY CREWS! he could have flattened that dude. but he didn’t. cuz he knew what would happen to him if he did. and don’t even fix your mouth to say he’s weak, cuz he went public later, even though he KNEW y’all would call him weak for this. He stronger than most of us here.

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C: I see now how my relationship with my family encourages (and possibly led to) my misogynistic attitudes. My dad wasn’t really around growing up since he and my mom divorced before I was born, making me the only male in the house. And even though I’m the youngest (with two older sisters) just because I’m a male I’ve always been expected to be the strongest and be on top of it all the time. I’m expected to be able to do and be everything regardless of the situation, basically be a paragon of masculinity, even though I’ve never been that masculine of a guy.

My mom has always been a lot more understanding being my mom and all, but with my sisters they’ve always had a kind of “what’s the point of you being a man and existing if you can’t do anything and everything” attitude and that might be part of why I’m so insecure and angry towards women. Even though I’ve been told I was dateable I feel like no one could possibly want me because I’m not uber masculine physically (short, chubby, small dick) or with my interests. It doesn’t help that I see this same sentiment echoed by women I follow on instagram, mostly strippers and bartenders.

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C: One thing I will never understand is how my fellow black men can hear black women speak on the grievous wrongs that we’ve done to them and the only words they can think of is “Not all black men”.

I mean, do we not hear ourselves? Do we not hear who we sound like? We sound like every white liberal when someone speaks on police brutality. We sound like every white person in general who gets in their feelings when one of us speaks about racism. When someone comes to us, making a point to defend a member of the oppressing group while we are speaking about the things they have collectively done to harm us, we get angry and rightfully so. But let us Black men be on the receiving end of it from Black women and suddenly its about hurt feelings

No, its not everyone of the group. Yes, there are Black men out there who are genuine kind and thoughtful. But its enough of us that it’s a problem and the problem will never get solved if it is not talked about. If we’re going to expect that nonblack people get out of their feelings and listen when we confront them with their racism, shouldn’t we do the same?

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C: I broke up with my girlfriend of 5yrs because she forgot my birthday 3yrs in a row. Am I petty? Or justified?

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C: I hate how being in AmeriKKKa instantly means that you're going to suffer from things out of your control every single day. And, if you have African heritage and know of your heritage, your merely swept under the rug by society. I hate being seen as the enemy. I had been racially profiled this week. And, I now know how that feels. I still can't wait to escape and experience the world at large. I also hate the stereotype that black men aren't able to show their emotions in society.

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C: I am one few gay dark-skinned afro-latinx men at my predominantly white college and I am feeling hella lonely/inadequate.  I just turned 19 this weekend. I’m pretty bad at talking to men that I find cute/being direct with them. I’ve hooked up with a lot of guys here and they end up  curving me/rejecting me/tossing me to the side like a piece of meat. The queer white men here are crusty and the queer black/men of color are pretty wack and don’t really acknowledge my existence. Most of my close personal friends have left/will be leaving the school so I don’t have a complete support system. And I am super jealous of my best friend. He’s a super hot queer black man who goes to another PWI but has hella black people at his school and gets way more attention from men because he’s way cuter and more charismatic. I always compare myself to him and it’s really bad but it’s hard not to when he gets so much love from everyone. I’ve been suicidal in middle school, and have had some self-hating thoughts return to my life. It’s been a struggle and a half to keep loving myself in this place and remind myself that I’m worthy of love when I feel like I’ve been kinda pushed aside ya know. Any advice? Tips for loving yourself? i need help.

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C: I’ve come to realize that I don’t want to be a burden like my grandma was to me and sister to whatever children I have. If I were to become lazy and stubborn like her I would want my kids to take me out.

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C: It’s hard when you’re Black and pagan. Like, most of the Black people I know are devout Christians. They legit don’t understand what I go through. And I don’t tell them, because why should I? They think Yoruba traditions like Voodoo and Santeria are “devil worship.” Rhey think afrocentric spiritualism is “dumb faux woke hippie shit” even though it’s literally something that’s so complex it can and should be formally studied, and they seriously think that Black Christians are going extinct. Like, I literally can’t tell anyone that my entire family sees spirits because I will lose the respect of all my classmates and professors, but sure, go on and tell me all about how “hard” it is to be Christian on a historically Presbyterian campus where most students and faculty are either Christian or ex-Christian agnostics 😒.

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C: I’m scared of black women. There, I said it. I want to love a black woman, but I feel I’ll never be accepted.

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C: I hate how the youth of today and tomorrow will have to be exposed to the atrocity that is systematic oppression and institutional racism on a daily basis while living in this country. It’s a shame that I had to be racially profiled this week due to my own ignorance and carelessness, but, I loathe the constant struggle that we as a minority group have to deal with on a daily basis. I’ve only been around for 18 years and feel as though I’ve seen enough of this island to know that it’s always going to be the way it is long after I’m far away from it. It’s a shame that I’m seen as a constant threat or something to be feared when in all realistic truths I’m a young man still growing into myself. Society does force us to grow up early due to fear based media churning out constant filth of my people being the ones that destroyed this country when in all reality we want to live in peace amongst everyone else. It hurts to see racism in the streets after the first black president was running this place in the best possible way with and without constant supervision by the ever watchful eyes of Jim Crow and Racists all across the island. When the nuclear bombs reach where I live, I can only imagine where I’ll be residing whence they do reach me. I’ll be somewhere safe enjoying my life watching this crazy place destroy itself and it’s citizens. I hate this year politically and want true change to occur much like the change in Le Canada.