I start stim meds on Sunday and I was sent my final contract on Thursday
During my last donation cycle, the legal contracts were already negotiated and signed right around the time I started taking birth control.
This cycle, I didnāt receive my egg donor agreement until last week. I took my final birth control pill on the 30th.
I knew I was meant to start meds soon, so I emailed the egg donor coordinator at my agency, the women who was supposed to be representing me, and I brought my concerns up with my egg donor nurse. After some pushing, I was emailed a contract.
I knew I should not have started birth control without a contract in place, and itās not a mistake I will be making again during any potential future donations. I would urge any new donors to demand a contract be in place before starting active birth control or signing any other agreements.
After reviewing the first draft of the contract with my attorney (separate from the intended parentsā attorney), it took her a week to finally send it back to me with their finalized changes.
Additionally, the intended parents send me a letter thanking me for theĀ āgiftā I was about to give them, telling me how excited they were to be parents, and praising me for my selflessness.
In any other context, the letter would make me happy. But coming on the heels of an incredibly delayed legal contract, I canāt help but assume it was meant to pacify me and my mounting impatience. I told everyone I was in contact with that I, under no circumstances, would be starting the injectable medication until a contract was in place.
Sending a contract this close to the medication start date makes me suspicious about any legal language they may be trying to sneak into the agreement. I read it over twice and nothing raised any red flags, but considering the circumstances, it would be all too easy for a donor to be taken advantage of on this timetable.
After finally receiving and thoroughly reading the contract yesterday, the attorney emailed me this morning and asked why I hadnāt send it yet. I told her I still needed to get it notarized and I would not be able to leave my office until after 5 today. She told me if I sent it after 5 she would not receive it until Monday, and the IPās attorney needed it by the end of the day.
Well :) they should have send it earlier, then :) they should have sent it months ago when I was matched :) they should have send it after the initial blood work :) they should have sent it at least a week earlier and not finalized it a whopping 20 hours before their attorney needed it signed, notarized, and sent back :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)