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Ok so this post is extremely long and I put it all together for my blogs Feeling sad page but as I don’t have a huge amount of followers I realize so many people are not seeing this information so I’m posting it here too!

alternatives without harming yourself:

holding/squeezing ice.

splashing your face with water.

getting a rubber band and snapping it against your skin (this could hurt, though it’s better than other ways that people usually choose to self-harm).

take a hot shower or bath.

eat something sour. it will take your mind of the urge. (lemon, sour lollies)

massage where you want to self-harm.

get a red pen or red paint and draw/paint over where you usually self-harm.

remind yourself as to why you shouldn’t do it. (scars, harms organs, leave memories etc…)

describe what you are feeling. (is the urge/pain in your chest, fists, legs, arms, head).

killing yourself will not help. it is not a solution.

you have your whole life ahead of you. you have so many more years that you can accomplish things in. for example;

having a family.

getting married.

to watch the sun rise.

to watch the sun set.

to save someone else’s life.

finish school.

get your dream job.

to laugh.

to smile.

to go camping.

travel to new places.

to wake up every morning to the person you love.

friends.

family.

to keep that promise you made.

to accomplish a goal.

to meet your idol.

to listen to new music.

theme parks.

video games.

chocolate.

to be able to look back and say “i made it”.

what you’re going through is temporary.

in case you need to hear this:

you are loved.

you are wanted.

you are needed.

you are beautiful.

you are handsome.

you are important.

you are not alone.

you are okay.

you are strong.

you are worth it.

you are smart.

you are not a failure.

you are useful.

you are going to be okay.

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Nice ways to cope in a healthy way, for those who need it <3

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i had a dream once

i was a little girl, wearing a white dress

hair tied into two, forming wavy curls

i was sitting in front of a vanity table

in a well lit room, filled with soft hues

i lived in a house among the fields

filled with dandelions i would pick

i never believed in reincarnation but after that dream, a part of me did

i actually felt like i was her and that i lived that life before

but also,

it may just be the life i want to live if reincarnation truly does not exist

up until now, i still carry that dream

gentle and carefree

right now, life is dull

i've become an adult

in a work that drains the color in me

if growing up meant black and white

wait, no

growing up should not be black and white

it must be filled with color, with childlike wonder

i've envisioned how it must be for me, atleast

i'd be living in a bungalow

with colorful windows, some wide and some just right to give a beautiful and natural light

then there would be a touch of minimalism with the colors of the wall yet maximalist with the choice of appliances

a dream catcher and a wind chime is a must by the entrance of every door

why can't i easily have this life? it gives me so much peace when i think about it

the peace of freedom and creativity

i have always always always and always dreamt of this, it's a longing i definitely want to embrace and experience

before it's too late, before i run out of time...of privilege

right now, the only choice i must fight is to get out of the job that drains me

and if i do, i might ride a bus

not leading me home but a ride somewhere i have always longed for

a beach, a mountain, or anywhere peaceful

and just like i said, if i do get lost, im just by the countryside

it'll only be a couple hours, i'll go back and live life again

but this time in a job that values my peace

i'll work hard but not to the brink of me resulting to my extinction

i'll work hard tired but fulfilled and one day live in the peace of my dreams

i want to and i'll try to

but today, i must wake up and go to my work

fight for my resignation and live my life

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How to Fix Underwriting

1. Slow down at emotionally important moments.

Big emotions need space to land. If a scene feels rushed, pause the plot briefly to show how the moment affects the character.

2. Add reactions, not explanations.

Instead of explaining what a character feels, show it through physical responses, hesitation, or small actions that reveal emotion naturally.

3. Ground every scene in the senses.

If a scene feels thin, add one or two sensory details—sound, texture, smell, or temperature—to make the moment feel lived-in.

4. Let thoughts interrupt action.

A line of internal thought can deepen a scene without slowing it too much. Thoughts show stakes, fear, longing, or conflict beneath the action.

5. Expand consequences, not events.

You don’t need more things to happen—you need to show what matters. Focus on how events change relationships, decisions, or self-perception.

6. Strengthen setting where emotion peaks.

The environment should echo or contrast the emotion of the scene. Setting is not decoration—it’s emotional reinforcement.

7. Add specific details instead of general ones.

Underwriting often relies on vague language. Swap “they argued” for one sharp line of dialogue or a specific breaking point.

8. Let dialogue breathe.

Short dialogue exchanges without pauses can feel flat. Add beats—silence, gestures, interruptions—to give the conversation weight.

9. Show transitions between scenes.

If scenes jump too quickly, readers feel disoriented. A brief transition helps establish time, mood, and emotional continuity.

10. Clarify stakes early in the scene.

If readers don’t know what can be lost, scenes feel empty. Make sure the character wants something specific and fears losing it.

11. Use the “what are they feeling right now?” check.

After each major beat, ask what emotion is dominant in that moment. If it’s missing on the page, the scene is likely underwritten.

12. Expand scenes that feel “too clean.”

If a scene resolves too neatly or quickly, it probably needs more tension. Messy emotions and unresolved feelings add depth.

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Dear Future Me,

I hope youre doing great! Are you still looking for a work or are you struggling to fit in your workplace? Dont worry you'll get through that. You've been through so much more than that before and you were able to look at the positive side of the negative and heartbreaking events in your life. I want you to stay strong. Be motivated. Remember your dreams. God has better plans for you. Be faithful. Be faithful. Be faithful.

But

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AI did this poetic version based on my own narration

First Heartbreak, Maybe

I leave this here, nameless, weightless, not to stir the still water— only to remember the way it once rippled.

An innocent crush, the kind that blooms quietly in the corners of college hallways, and dies just as quietly— but not without leaving a mark.

It started in silence. A quiet boy at the back of the room, merged with my class by a twist of chance— or fate, maybe. He didn’t speak much. Didn’t need to. He just sat there, existing like a secret waiting to be remembered.

And I did remember. His name echoed in a dusty corner of my mind, a former president of the org I never showed up for. I didn’t know him then— we were both just pixels on a screen during the lockdown years. But here he was, suddenly real. What are the odds?

That was when the kilig began. And the delulu followed closely behind.

He was my type— dark eyes that saw too much, a face that looked like it belonged in a history book, or a revolution.

He played the hero in our student film. Of course, he did. And I was always there, on time, every shoot, pretending I had to be. I let little moments mean more than they should, and in doing so, I wrote stories he was never reading.

But I knew how this ended. He was a senior. The clock was ticking.

Until it wasn’t. Until he returned— not as a classmate, but as a professor.

Fate? Or a cruel joke?

There I sat, learning from the one person I couldn’t un-feel. And yes, I knew. That summer before, I had written it down: If I see him again, and he’s alone, I’ll tell him. But I didn’t. Because how do you confess to your professor that he’s been living rent-free in your mind since sophomore year?

So I stayed silent. Kept my feelings folded neatly like notes never passed in class. I watched him teach, and I listened, and I loved him quietly— again.

The year ended. He left. Again.

And still, I wasn’t done.

Fourth year came, and with it, a girl I grew to love like a sister. Smart. Kind. Beautiful in all the ways I am not. She made me laugh. She made me feel seen.

And she liked him, too.

Of all the girls, why her? Of all the boys, why him?

She wasn’t competition. She was the inevitable winner in every version of the story. She dared. I didn’t.

And I broke— not because she did something wrong, but because I stayed in the shadows while she stepped into the light.

And as if knowing wasn’t enough, fate decided to slap the truth in my face on graduation day.

She passed by, radiant. And he followed, smiling. I froze. I swallowed the ache. I pretended to breathe.

We locked eyes—briefly. He looked away. I didn’t.

I stepped out. And that step was more than just leaving a room— it was leaving a version of myself behind.

The girl who waited. Who hoped. Who loved quietly.

I buried her that day.

And yet, I am not bitter.

There is freedom in letting go. In choosing yourself. In walking away from a love that never had your name in its pages.

Now, I still walk the same halls. I still see shadows of that past life. But they no longer haunt me.

He was a chapter. Not the story.

And this— this is me turning the page.

[weirdbabe]

First heartbreak, maybe?

I am leaving this here. This story that I once lived. Blissful. Painful. Strange. Ever-lasting.

For sure nobody knows who I am. If you do, think again. There may be a lot of us who can be that person.

Just allow me to bleed. To breathe. Remember, a gentle reminder, that I am not writing this to stir drama but to express the big emotions I felt from an innocent crush I once experienced which unfortunately broke my heart, like a canon event in every girl's life.

Back when I was in college, I had this unrequited crush on a guy for more than two years. I really thought destiny placed us in the same places for a reason and I am saying this because I kept on meeting him in the most unexpected ways, like a red string theory.

The first time was when I met him on my second year of college. I had this professor in a minor subject who decided to merge the class I belong to with another degree program. It was his program and I was still a sophomore and he was my senior at the time. It took me a while to notice his presence because he was always sitting at the back together with his bloc and, well, he was the quiet guy. Eventually, when I learned his name, I just knew that I knew him. But I didn't know why and how. Days after, I figured out who he was. My college organization's former president. The catch? I was also part of the officers of that organization in my first year of college while he was the president. I know you might be wondering why I didn't recognize him, but, with online classes I just didn't know who was who. Also, we were not (ok, I was not an active member). Long story short, I met him again. What were the odds? A sophomore and a senior from different programs ending up in the same class? Rare.

Just like that, it began. The kilig. The delulu. He was my type of guy. Dark. Smart. Very Filipino-looking and this features landed him a lead role in our film because he resembled our national hero quiet a lot. Guess what? I was always present in our filming sessions (because I had to be, meh). My feelings developed and I would put romantic meaning into the interactions I shared with him. It made me happy. The silent admiration was enough to make my day bearable even if I knew I was digging my own grave because I knew I was in for a painful ending. Why, you'd ask? Well, he was my senior and that would mean I would never see him again after the school year ends.

Yet, again, what are the odds of meeting him one more time? Low. Unless he had a reason to be back and for some reason he did. He returned—as a part-time professor. My professor. I could still vividly remember that day when I was about to leave the campus. "Meet me on the second floor, we will meet our new physics professor. He's *redacted*", our class president announced.

It was supposed to be an inside joke between my friend and I when we overheard during our organizations' acquaintance party that he was already working in the university, "What if siya atuang professor?", and then we'd laugh because we thought it was impossible. That. That was the second time I thought fate brought us together. And the wildest part? I somehow knew he’d come back because in the summer before junior year, I wholeheartedly wrote a journal entry that if I ever saw him again, and he wasn’t with someone, I’d confess. I just felt at that moment I would really see him.

And yes, we really did meet again. He was not with someone, yes. But why would I tell my professor I've been crushing hard on him even way back when we were still in the same class? I thought I was doing the right thing because "I didn't want to break the code of ethics" but maybe I was just too scared to try.

Everyday, I was digging my own grave. I couldn't stop liking him as days passed. I thought "When the school year ends, I would not see him again. Maybe I'll get over this." But I was very wrong. It grew stronger until I realized it should stop. Just like that, I faded into the background and distanced myself.

Third year ended. But I left with a happy heart.

Came fourth year in college. It was internship year. The summer before fourth year, I thought I moved on from him. But then again, he appeared in my life once more or maybe thrice, enough to awaken the buried feelings that didn't decay. That year, I also grew closer to this girl. I genuinely liked her. She is smart, pretty, and kind. She's also fun to be with. Honestly, I'd date her if I was a guy. However, one day, I just found out that she also liked the same guy I liked. Again, what are the odds this will happen? Of all of the girls, why her? Of all the guys, why him? To me, she was not a competition at all. She was already a victor in so many ways.

I'd lie if I would say that I was fine. A part of me died that time. Nobody was to be blamed. I was only liking him silently while she was brave enough to risk it all. And as if knowing about it was not painful enough, destiny decided to slap the truth right in front of my face on my graduation day. I was about to congratulate her when she passed infront of me but my tongue betrayed me when I saw a familiar face following her. Him. Smiling. I clearly remember being shaken. I pretended to be ok. I wanted to cry in the bathroom. I didn't though. Instead, I tried to be brave that day. Looked at his way. Our eyes met but he did not hold onto it while I did.

Then I walked out of that room—and that step wasn’t just an exit. It was a choice. I was also letting go and leaving behind the unrequited feelings I've been carrying for years. It was very painful but I felt free. I have finally decided for myself that I had to move on, really move on this time because I had no reason to hold on. I maybe aching but I was happy for them.

Now, I am happy.

Today, I’m still here at the university, working as an assistant. Sometimes I catch glimpses of the past: places, faces, memories—but they no longer have the power to pull me under. There are still remnants of the past but not strong enough to pull me back again to him.

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The Phoenician Scheme (2025)

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[weirdbabe]

“You loved him so much but it wasn’t allowed, so those bottled up feelings devoured you inside out”

— V.I.P.P. (via vacantinkandprettypink)

You loved her enough

But it wasn’t allowed,

So those bottled up feelings

Tore you apart.

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