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Daddy and Mommy make you recite affirmations every morning before they change you:

I belong in diapers.

I need to be in diapers.

I love to be in diapers.

I want to be in diapers.

I am never getting out of diapers.

They say it helps with good behavior.

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This post has resonated so well with many partners of ABDL’s that I wanted to provide some extra information and guidance based on the questions we’ve been receiving.

Based on the people who have been in touch alone, 7 couples have embarked on this journey so far. 4 found this article as part of trying to help their ABDL partner and 3 were sent it by their partner as something they felt may be good for them.

As of this weekend, all are now underway and so far all reporting positively 🙌🙌

Some additional guidance focused on the first few days and weeks:

The timelines provided are just a rough guide

Several partners decided to start almost immediately (1-3 days) as they knew their partner already had enough of a diaper supply for the first week or two (around 30-50 diapers).

Equally others have encouraged diaper training from the start and made sure to not stop doing their normal activities getting them quickly used to wearing in public, etc. Months 1-6 could in theory be condensed to weeks 1-6.

There is very positive feedback around creating a dedicated changing area

This comes from both the ABDL and their partner, with the main benefit being a feeling of accepting this is part of them and not trying to hide it.

The most important parts are having a range of their diapers visible (at least 20), changing supplies like wipes and powder next to the changing area and having at least a wipe clean changing mat on a bed. 2 couples have built a dedicated changing table with the biggest benefit being the height making changes easier.

Expect some resistance

The novelty factor wears off after a few days and this often leads to requests for exceptions, to stop or to change the rules. Everyone has got through this period but it can be testing, make sure to hold firm and say you want to at least give it a go for a few months.

Males post orgasm also enter a period of low where they may hate being diapered. This is born out of insecurity about their interest and you shouldn’t pander to it. If it becomes a big problem I’d seriously recommend trying chastity.

Changes aren’t a pain

A common worry for the partners was the time overhead of having to check and change them. Doing both is definitely best but if you’re time limited I’d highly recommend you opt for doing all their changes.

You will quickly find you become a pro at doing it in a few minutes with the dedicated changing area helping massively.

Any initial awkwardness fades quickly and these become great bonding times. It also helps prevent cheating.

The strictness can vary within reason

4/7 opted for pull ups at work and with family/friends

2/7 opted to start straight with diapers at all times but using thin, cloth backed for work / friends.

1/7 allows childish / abdl underwear in these scenarios

2 tried initially allowing 💩 in the toilet but over the first two weeks backtracked as it caused issues with cheating and diapers breaking while going to the toilet.

The disposal of all of their normal adult underwear was a critical step for all couples.

The “fashion show” and subsequent shopping is a key stage of acceptance

I’d now recommend you do this on day 2 when your partner is in a half used diaper. Make them try on all their bottoms making two piles of diaper friendly and diaper unfriendly. You can choose to keep a few diaper unfriendly bottoms for exceptions but this should be 2-3 items at a maximum.

Remember this should include clothes for vacations as well. Normal adult nightwear should be all discarded as abdl clothing should be worn exclusively at night.

Diaper friendly doesn’t need to mean it completely makes the diaper invisible but it shouldn’t be obvious to someone looking quickly that they are diapered.

Tops generally don’t need to change as much but longer ones are preferable. For women dresses and skirts should be checked that they cover the diaper even if it was sagging slightly.

Ideally straight after this while they’re still in the same diaper take them clothes shopping to replace any items as required. This trip is also the ideal time to buy a dedicated diaper changing bag for them (can just be a backpack).

Do a diaper inventory and increase their diaper stockpile

They’ll likely be using around 100 diapers a month so I’d recommend aiming to have 2 months worth in stock.

Create piles of their current diapers and do a stock check. Using an app like DiapStash makes this easy.

Then order them enough diapers to take it up to around 200. At home it’s generally best to keep them in thick diapers like MegaMax. It’s also worth having a good stock of ABDL diapers to be used when their diaper will be exposed. For public wear initially I’d recommend something like Tena Slip Ultima’s or Northshore Supreme’s.

This is an important step in showing them that this isn’t a short-term change.

Dealing with cheating

It’s very likely that they’ll try cheat in the first few weeks and having a strict response to this is CRITICAL.

A punishment should be used like spanking, the use of laxatives or the loss of a privilege. Also if the cheat happened around one of the exceptions threaten to take it away and have them diapered at those times instead.

If this happens more than once I’d recommend switching to using a locking diaper cover or other locking clothing to prevent them taking off their diaper.

Make them feel accepted

The best cure for cheating which often is trigger by feelings of shame is making them feel accepted. The above steps will all help but most important is to make them feel comfortable being diapered around you.

Diaper pats and checks are great for this. Also at home try and have their diapers as indiscreet as possible, exposed or under an abdl onesie is best.

Poopy diapers will cause the most anxiety so being positive when you detect those is key.

Tell them how much you think this is good for them, to help them know you’re supportive and not having second thoughts.

Don’t allow exceptions to be abused

Exceptions of not wearing diapers are often required to make it work initially but it’s important you don’t allow them to bleed over.

For example if they come home from work they should be diapered within 5 minutes of coming in. If driving more than an hour to visit friends or family then they should be diapered for the drive, changing just before arriving or just after leaving. Again at night even when staying with friends or family they should be diapered.

Most importantly even if them messing their diaper will be inconvenient don’t make exceptions and be serious when you say diapers are their new toilet.

Picking diapers

Often partners struggle with selecting the correct diaper. If you’re changing them this should be your choice but don’t be afraid in the first week to ask them if they think this diaper is the right one.

The main choice is between discretion and absorbency. At home discretion shouldn’t be a concern so normally pick a thicker diaper. The only exception to this is if you know your baby often goes 💩 in the mornings a thick diaper might be a bit of a waste. Go with a thinner option to last until around lunch where they can then be changed into a thick diaper to get them to bedtime. Nighttimes should always be a thick overnight diaper and often an ABDL one which will be exposed.

At weekends at home I also use more ABDL diapers with them being exposed or visible under ABDL clothing.

For public generally a thinner more discrete diaper is best. However if you’re doing a longer activity which is less active like watching a movie then thicker might be better. Equally long journeys suit thicker diapers. If leaving the house for more than a few hours then taking a stocked diaper bag is essential.

After the first week your decision should be final so if you put them in a thick diaper to go out to a restaurant then they can’t complain.

The biggest mental health issue we see when speaking with ABDL’s and littles is the shame/desire cycle with regard to wearing & using diaper

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Amazing advice here

onemoreoutburst

the best thing about keeping her in diapers is that there are so many ways to casually embarrass her: “Honey, do you need to be changed, or are you still good? Just want to make sure you’re comfy, okay?” "You’re waddling a bit, sweetie. Let me check if you’re wet. No need to act shy, it’s just us.”

"Oh, let’s not worry about finding a bathroom today, okay? Just relax, and we’ll take care of you later.”

“It’s a long car ride, so I think it’s best we make sure you’re extra protected today.”

“Nobody’s gonna notice. I mean... Daddy can hear you crinkle when you walk, but I’m *sure* nobody else can tell." "It's not obvious. They'll just think your butt looks cute. They're not gonna guess that you're still in diapers at your age."

“Let’s get ready to go. Can you bring your daytime bag in the car for Daddy?”

“Yes, honey, we do need to pack your changing pad this time. There probably isn’t gonna be a family restroom with a changing table big enough for you...”

"Make sure to tell me if you feel wet down there, sweetheart. Otherwise, I’m gonna have to pull you aside in front of your friends, and you’re not gonna like that.”

“She’s been having a lot of issues lately… yes, all the time now. We’re just trying to make sure she’s comfortable.”

“Honey, come here… you’re looking a little squirmy. Is there something you need to tell me?"

“Do you have a quiet room somewhere where I could take care of her? We’ll just be a minute.”

“Oh - do you think I could borrow some wet wipes? We just ran out.”

"Sweetheart, could you come with me to your friend Katie's bedroom for a minute? I just need your help with something real quick."

"She'll be right back."

“Oh baby... you’re soaked! Why didn’t you tell me? Did you know you had an accident?”

“Do you want to be a big girl for Daddy? You do? Good girl. You need to stop fussing and hold still so we can get you changed.”

“Yes, I know you don’t want to smell like baby powder in front of your friends. But we don’t want you to get a rash...”

"It’s so much easier now that you don’t have to worry about the bathroom, isn’t it?"

"I had to explain to the hotel staff why we needed the mattress protector. They were super understanding, though…”

“It’s okay... No one expects you to stay dry at night, sweetie. You haven’t had a dry morning in months.”

“Let’s put a towel down under you for the movie… just in case."

“Can I borrow her for a minute?”

“Let’s get your shirt tucked in back there. You were sticking out of your pants a little bit.”

"Maybe we should try a onesie for you when we get back home, huh? We could button you up, so you don't keep accidentally... showing off. Would you like that?"

"Hold still please. I need to check your diaper. It’s gonna be a lot quicker if you stop squirming.”

“Now. Come here. We need to get you ready for nighttime. I don't want any arguments.”

"Aww, you want to try to use the potty tomorrow? How about we try that another day? We’re not ready for potty training with you right now."

"You looked so cute today when you tried to act like a big girl.”

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May this kind of love and acceptance find me again 😭

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Part time Diaper Discipline

As regular readers will know we’re big advocates for 24/7 Diaper Discipline but this isn’t always possible for your situation so this short guide are some options to explore.

Firstly these are still about diaper discipline not random diaper punishments so there has to be a level of consistency and regularity to it. 24/7 is most effective by being constant but the suggestions below can be ways to get started more easily.

Most of these can be combined and you should try layering them up until you can make the leap to 24/7.

Diaper Discipline Weekends

From after work on Friday until Monday morning they’ll be in diaper discipline. This should be without exceptions for any weekend activities so they’ll quickly get used to being diapered and using in public.

This should happen every weekend so another neat trick is to reduce them to 5 pairs of underwear to be used in the week which are then put aside to be washed over the weekend.

If you not combining this with other diapering in the week you should make this more intense to ensure it isn’t all fun for them. Incorporating a baby day, forced messing and/or bondage can be a good way to achieve this.

Diaper Discipline Evenings

Every evening after work they’re promptly diapered which will be their toilet until the next morning. Use exposed diapers or abdl clothing at home to add to humiliation elements of this.

One night a week make them sleep restrained in a spare bedroom after taking laxatives for a punishment element.

Diaper Discipline Vacations

Keep them in diapers for the whole of your next vacation. From leaving your house to returning they should be diapered.

For the best results inform your hotel/resort they’re incontinent so a medical trash can is included in your room which they’ll find highly embarrassing.

As your away from people you know experiment with being more open about their diapers, keeping them in thick medical ones at all times, leaving them visible in the room, dressing them in less discreet clothing and openly asking them how their diaper is or if they’ll need a change soon.

Swim diapers are also recommended and you can insist on this by saying the hotel would be concerned if they weren’t wearing one.

Baby Staycation

Take a few days off work and potentially combine with a weekend to give them a stay at home vacation as a baby. This should be 3-5 days where they spend the whole time at a baby age of your choice.

This will be hard work for you but can be fun and can be a great stress reliever for your partner too. At a minimum this means 24/7 diapers with no toilet usage, you taking care of all their checks and changes, and baby clothes / exposed diapers at all times.

The rest should depend on the age you pick:

Newborn:

Immobile (locking mittens, booties and other restraints)

All food puréed and drinks fed to them in bottles

No talking / pacifier at all times

Oral laxatives each day to simulate regular loose bowel movements

18 hours sleep each day, wake them up twice in the night for new bottles

Age 1:

Locking mittens and booties to force crawling

Food fed to them and drinks in bottles

Baby talk only, pacifier at most times

Mix of suppositories and oral laxatives used to give them lose and firm messes

Baby tv allowed

15 hours sleep each day

Age 2:

Locking mittens at night

Food eaten using their hands, drinks in sippy cups

Limited single word talking allowed, pacifier used regularly

Suppositories used randomly

Baby tv allowed

13 hours sleep each day

You could even start at newborn and progress them up a year every day or every other day.

Random Diaper Discipline days

Each week pick a 3 day period where they’ll be in diaper discipline. The timer starts for 72 hours when you say and diapers become their toilet, best used when diaper wearing is possible at work.

Week on, week off

Simple, follow 24/7 dd rules every other week.

50:50 DD

Your partner must be in diaper discipline 50% of the days in a month. They earn a day off with every day in DD and can spend these when they like up to half of the days in a month.

This % can be slowly increased so it’s 70:30 and 7 days of DD are required to unlock 3 days off.

Combine with other rules to reward higher DD elements, maybe they only earn a day if they mess that day, or they get a bonus day for a day trip out wearing & using thick diapers. Get creative!

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Please change me Daddy.

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Post tanning pull up 😝

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When I asked to wear something over the onsie I didn’t mean my white short shorts!!!! They are too small to wear over the bulky diaper!!! Especially when...when my diaper is swelled up... ###>.<### I could barely get button my shorts and it’s so obvious what I’m wearing underneath!!! I wanna wear some other shorts or pants!!! ###>.<###

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Actually, I think these shorts are exactly what you should be wearing. After all, if somebody could keep their panties dry, you wouldn't be wearing such bulky diapers in the first place. You asked if you could wear something over your cute little flower onesie, and yes, even though your diaper bulge is fairly obvious, with diapers as thick as those I'm pretty sure a bigger size wouldn't help too much anyways. Maybe you'll think next time before buying such short shorts? Once upon a time you probably just loved buying shorts that would get everyone to stare at your ass. Now, you get your wish! Except when they look, instead of a sexy ass, all they'll see is what a pathetic diaper wearer you are.