No one has done this to me in a while so I feel comfortable talking about this without anyone feeling guilty. But just to reiterate that this is not about anyone in particular especially people that I am currently talking to.
But you know what absolutely drives me nuts? When subs or littles don't appreciate the effort that dominance takes. There have been cases where I have seen people be like "I just want someone to decide things for me, that isn't that much to ask for". I have even had a conversation where someone was upset because someone promised them that they would tell them what to do for a day and I heard language like "it's not that hard just tell me to put on a diaper and play with toys." And I feel like I want to avoid these people almost immediately.
Being an adult sucks sometimes, you make choices all day, do I eat out or cook dinner? Do I go see my friends or rot all day in bed? Do I go pee now or finish what I'm working on? So to add on top of that a whole other person's decisions may not seem like a whole lot but it's literally just adding to the load. I don't care if you will do anything or if you are "easy" to take care of, it's not nothing. Please don't take it for granted and especially don't feel you're entitled to it.
The thing that blows my mind about these people is that if you asked them why they want that they say "oh it's just so hard to constantly have to worry about decisions, I just want to escape for a bit and not be in control" and I'm like... You really don't see why putting that on someone else is hard?
I want to finish this post by saying it's not meant in anyway to make you feel guilty. You are not a bad person for wanting these things. Just be appreciative, in fact ask your dominant how you can show your appreciation! Communication is amazing, use it. Thank them for choosing your diaper, thank them for picking and cooking dinner for you, thank them for putting on a TV show for you. I very recently told someone "I have decided everything we're doing for the next two days, it's not your choice, you're a baby" and let me tell you the appreciation I received made me incredibly happy. It's amazing to do these things for someone you care about, it's just never easy.



















