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[cuddlepractice]

Just wanted to specify something because apparently we can't have a single safe space!

Pride month is not for radqueers or xenosatanists

it never has been and it never will be. Go ahead and continue crying saying you're being "attacked" for people telling you that minors and animals can't consent and you will never have the illness you weren't born with. You all disgust me on multiple levels as an ill queer minor. In fact, it's disappointing that a minor has more common sense than multiple of you adults have.

[whatevenisexisting]

Well, I’m officially done with wasting my time in that community considering it totally f’ed up my feed. 😎 Not that I go on here that much, it is literally like once every couple of months. But still - done with them. So don’t worry y’all, this idiot is gone for now and will probably never bother again!

[soberscientistlife]

[tomcruisingthroughlife]

I believe in you.

[whatevenisexisting]

Run 3 miles, do 15 push-ups, eat the whole cake, and burn your ex’s house down. It’s called balance. (Of course…if all you want to do is eat the cake that’s valid too because cake is delicious.)

[tomcruisingthroughlife]

[soberscientistlife]

Vote Blue. Democrats are for free lunches in school, workers getting a living wage and ending tax subsidies.

🌊🌊🌊🌊🌊

[soberscientistlife]

Republicans blame the poor for everything

[island-76]

Here's your reminder that AFAB doesn't mean that person has breasts and a vagina. That AMAB doesn't mean that person has a flat chest and a dick.

AFAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE DICKS.

AFAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE FLAT CHESTS.

AFAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE BEARDS.

AFAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE DEEP VOICES

AMAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE TITS

AMAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE PUSSIES

AMAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE CURVES

AMAB PEOPLE CAN HAVE HIGH-PITCHED VOICES

Don't let AMAB and AFAB become the progressive binary

[hiiragi7]

I want to add more:

AFAB people can have testes.

AFAB people can have XY chromosomes.

AFAB people can have a prostate.

AMAB people can have ovaries.

AMAB people can have a uterus.

AMAB people can get periods.

AMAB people can have XX chromosomes.

AFAB people can be socialized as male, and AMAB people can be socialized as female.

AFAB people can go through "male" puberties, and AMAB people can go through "female" puberties.

And regardless of AGAB, you can have a mix of sex characteristics which don't fit into "male" or "female" at all.

[soberscientistlife]

[liberalsarecool]

32-hour work week is the result of increased worker productivity. Workers earned it.

Compare to Republicans who want you to work until you're 70 while they attack your earned benefits.

[soberscientistlife]

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[rotnik]

👏👏👏👏👏👏

[akindplace]

Crazyheadcomics

[heartnosekid]

monkeycatluna on ig

[only-cat-memes]

Comic by Sarah Andersen

[catchymemes]

[whatevenisexisting]

I need to change up my feed lol

[whatevenisexisting]

Here is your reminder not to bother engaging with the “transx” community that makes a joke out of the trans and larger LGBT community by spreading misinformation, romanticizing disabilities (notice how nobody identifies with the conditions that are stigmatized in a different way like IBS), perpetuating racism (if you’re white and identify as a person of color, I have some news for you hun), encouraging adults to go in the space of minors, further fueling ped0s who have no shame in acting on their disorder, and overall just causing harm to those of us who live with these actual identities!

It’s not worth it, babes. Exit out of Tumblr for a bit, take a deep breath, eat a snack or hydrate or step outside - give yourself that care. They aren’t going to listen because they’re too far in this echo chamber.

The only thing we can do is hope that this “community” will eventually realize what they’re doing is harmful and apologize, even delete their blog to eliminate the harm they caused - in my opinion, it’s better to delete than leave it up, unless they make it very clear they were wrong and caused harm.

And maybe, if someone seems genuine in asking more about these identities, and the energy is there, messaging them privately and providing them with the education they are seeking and deserve. Because responding publicly at this point will only cause further harm to ourselves and will lead them to be convinced by others what we want so badly for them to NOT believe.

Conserve your energy, babes. Use it elsewhere, whether it’s as an advocate for your or other communities, engaging in your hobbies and self-care, seeking out your support system, know that each of these alternatives is valid. It’s valid if you do engage, but it’s JUST as valid as if you do not.

Put yourself first.

[spektaculouzanti-rattenmauz-dea]

scrolling through your blog it looks like you're acephobic so erm

[whatevenisexisting]

Going to focus on the theme of two recent posts:

How is it acephobic to want my partner to be sexually attracted to me? To want them to be attracted to me in that one way in addition to other ways? How is that acephobic? (And I’m talking about people who aren’t and won’t be sexually attracted to me ever.)

One of those posts mentioned refusing to date someone because of their sexuality is an act of bigotry and hatred. I hope you apply it all the way around, not just to asexuals.

You can also have preferences for a sexuality because they inherently understand your experience. I would 100% date a bi person, but JUST LIKE there are unique experiences bi people have, there are unique experiences lesbians have. It’s okay if you want someone who shares that unique experience. A lesbian would get compulsory heterosexuality and existing as the only sexuality not attracted to people who identify as men. A bi person would understand the unique impacts of biphobia and bi erasure. Both preferences are okay.

My friend previously dated straight men and now she’s dating a bi man - we’ve talked before about the differences in inherent understanding of being attracted to all genders. I’m sure she’d feel similarly with a bi woman/sapphic/non-binary person. She has even said she prefers to date bi people over lesbians and I understand why. I don’t take offense to it and she doesn’t take offense to me having a slight preference for lesbians. (Granted…the lesbian community is so small that I kind of have to widen my dating pool, which is another reason I don’t have a preference.)

Anyway, there are more important factors I am looking for in a partner than their sexuality - such as them not being a smoker. That’s a deal-breaker for me. But at least I know they are sexually attracted to me, even if it takes time to develop (which is quite common…many, many people aren’t immediately sexually attracted to someone).

If asexuals can prefer to date other aces, then I can prefer the same. I’ve seen an asexual person on here state they refuse to date “mono-attracted people”, which indicates ignorance of these sexualities on a wide scale, given lesbians can be nonbinary and therefore attracted to non-binary people, but I digress. Hopefully you disagree with that take? Again, at least be consistent.

What about when a straight woman rejects a sapphic who asks her out? Is that not rejection because of her sexuality? Since sexuality is about who you’re attracted to?

No one is owed sex or a relationship. But much like a “requirement” of my partner is to be a non-smoker (and being an ex-smoker is fine too), I want them to be sexually attracted to me - which frankly, could be someone who is asexual seeing as some folks are grayace. It just so happens that I think that’s the common experience, people just don’t label themselves that way because it’s…well, common. So to repeat, when I say this, I’m talking about someone who is not sexually attracted to me at ALL and won’t ever be. I won’t “expect them to change” because that’s not how sexuality works. But I’m not obligated to stay with them either. Hell, they aren’t obligated to stay with me!!

It’s totally valid if you haven’t read all of this. I didn’t mean to turn it into an essay but here we are. I do think not reading all of it can lead to you making assumptions about what I said but I can’t force you to do anything so shrug.

[whatevenisexisting]

Here is your reminder not to bother engaging with the “transx” community that makes a joke out of the trans and larger LGBT community by spreading misinformation, romanticizing disabilities (notice how nobody identifies with the conditions that are stigmatized in a different way like IBS), perpetuating racism (if you’re white and identify as a person of color, I have some news for you hun), encouraging adults to go in the space of minors, further fueling ped0s who have no shame in acting on their disorder, and overall just causing harm to those of us who live with these actual identities!

It’s not worth it, babes. Exit out of Tumblr for a bit, take a deep breath, eat a snack or hydrate or step outside - give yourself that care. They aren’t going to listen because they’re too far in this echo chamber.

The only thing we can do is hope that this “community” will eventually realize what they’re doing is harmful and apologize, even delete their blog to eliminate the harm they caused - in my opinion, it’s better to delete than leave it up, unless they make it very clear they were wrong and caused harm.

And maybe, if someone seems genuine in asking more about these identities, and the energy is there, messaging them privately and providing them with the education they are seeking and deserve. Because responding publicly at this point will only cause further harm to ourselves and will lead them to be convinced by others what we want so badly for them to NOT believe.

Conserve your energy, babes. Use it elsewhere, whether it’s as an advocate for your or other communities, engaging in your hobbies and self-care, seeking out your support system, know that each of these alternatives is valid. It’s valid if you do engage, but it’s JUST as valid as if you do not.

Put yourself first.

[stolasqueer]

I missed being able to rant about idiots like you

1 you are seen as much of a joke as us, don't kid yourself.

2 haven't seen a single piece of misinformation, this is actually one of the biggest places of correct information I've seen shared besides specific disorder / disability related pages and sites

3 people can romanticize their or problems and I guarantee you'd rather want that then what normies do anyways

4 people do identify as TransIBS, you're just too lazy to find them or to ask anyone

5 you didn't explain how a CisWhite person IDing as TransBlack is racist, you do need to actually explain things, and it isn't just racist "just because"

6 adults and minors will always together in spaces, stop acting like this is unique to us

7 me when I'm not being ableist/sar. But genuinely people shouldn't be shamed for having a disorder, you also ignore that it isn't always a disorder in the first place

8 the way you talk about this community sounds more like you being in an echo chamber finding people outside of it than anything else. We also have lives outside of Tumblr, we talk to people, we go outside, we have jobs and school n shit man

9 "to eliminate the harm they caused" wow... The most normal way to talk about multiple marginalized groups of people

10 you've still not explained how anything we do causes harm and I'm starting to think you can't

11 you say "provide education" but you made a burner account to tell your buddy's (and apparently us too?) how you shouldn't interact with us because it'll drain their energy and "isn't worth it" ( which totally isn't how you make an echo chamber/sar ), and in all of that, YOU haven't provided any evidence

12 I am putting myself first, and I always will, thanks.

And lastly, your friends should be able to questions these ideas, everything you just laid out makes questioning anything basically impossible

"don't interact with them if you see them" "don't do things publicly" "only DM them if they don't understand something"

Let people question things

And also explain things, as you've said multiple things that have no explanation as to why they are "harmful"

[whatevenisexisting]

1) I’m seen as an idiot because I don’t think it’s okay to pretend to have a disability? Okay then.

2) I’m not sure what you’re referring to

3) idgaf if someone is romanticizing THEIR disability. What I care about is when someone who KNOWS they don’t have a disability, for example epilepsy, PRETENDS to fucking have it. I’ve seen people give TIPS on how to induce seizures. Do you realize how fucking stupid THAT is?

4) I’m not lazy bubs, I just haven’t seen it LMAO. Also I try not to waste too much time looking because it makes me angry as someone who has a disability people want to have. And on that note, people would ID as transneurofibromatosis? They would WANT brain tumors and scoliosis and all the co-morbidities that come with a rare condition most people don’t even the know EXISTS? I have to get a brain and full body MRI every year but okay, sure, spend that money to find literally nothing 😂

5) LOL I didn’t think I HAD to explain how a white person IDing as “cisblack” is harmful 🤣🤣🤣 anyone who knows ANYTHING about anti-racism would know this without me having to explain to it. But here, let me give it a try: not only are you potentially appropriating culture (for example, dreads) but you’re also minimizing the fucking SYSTEMIC RACISM Black people go through? Like literally read up on that and tell me why a white person would WANT. Are they what, going to fucking transition by trying to die via police brutality? Are they going to transition by somehow getting people to be racist towards them?

6) aside from an actual trauma response (and I think the individual will know the difference based on this bullshit community, y’all literally use terms like “cisadult” sooo), an adult pretending to be a minor in adult/minor spaces? Are they smart enough to stay out of minor-only spaces? Do they then date minors? What’s the line? How does it not fuel pedophiles/ephebophilias?

7) I’m not sure what you’re referring to given I never wrote out my post in list form, but how is recognizing the seriousness of a disorder and not wanting people to pretend having it shaming said disorder? I have a seizure disorder and I ACTUALLY know the seriousness of it. I’m not shaming myself or my community for being pissed at someone who gives “tips” on how to induce one (which isn’t even how epilepsy WORKS, some people like myself don’t know our triggers aside from MAYBE going off medication). You can be an advocate for the disability community, you can be an ally, AND you can recognize that something is harmful.

8) uh, this community is really big. Y’all have whole blogs dedicated to these identities and validate ALL the conditions people want to be. I just occasionally waste my time looking through the tags and angering myself, but I don’t even go on tumblr every week. I’ve thought about it, I just don’t post about it on tumblr.

9) actually, that’s how people talk to oppressors of their communities. So if someone ran a TERF blog and realized their harm, they would have the choice to leave it up or delete it. (I’m not saying the two are equivalent, it’s just the first example that popped into my head.)

10) it causes harm to the people with the disability because it romanticizes our experience and even makes a joke of our experience. I have seizures and I can’t drive…why would someone WANT that? Why would someone WANT to have tonic clonic seizures where you can fall and seriously injure yourself? It screams “I haven’t done any education”. You’re romanticizing the good parts, whatever those are because I can’t tell you, and ignoring the bad parts. You can take it off whenever it’s inconvenient for you - even if you wouldn’t. I can’t. I will live with this for the rest of my life. Of course it pisses me off when I see the “tips” then because it’s not seeing the whole picture.

You want to have a seizure disorder? Then get into a fight and have your head slammed down, or get into a car accident and hope you get a traumatic brain injury. There’s not even a way to just GIVE yourself some disabilities because you’re born with them. I was born with Neurofibromatosis - you can’t just give that to yourself. I was born autistic - you can’t just become autistic. (Which…I’m okay with my autism far more than my epilepsy because it’s given me far more positives than epilepsy, but it’s not just stimming and sensory items. It’s also bullying and frustration and getting into an argument with your therapist and sister about ABA therapy. It’s a lot of frustrations.)

I mean I’ve seen people go as far as identifying as “trans cancer”. Maybe those are the troll blogs, I don’t know…but do I really have to waste my time and explain why? Why don’t you go through these tags and read posts by the folks who agree with me and admittedly might explain it better?

The only good parts to my disorder are the memes I found. I would choose to live without it if I could and I’m sure thousands of other people would too. So it causes individual harm - is that not enough? What’s going to happen if you “stay in the closet” and don’t transition? Trans people are at a higher risk of suicide if they stay in the closet…and if they come out they risk their safety. Plus they ARE the gender they say they are - transitioning is not required, nor is it accessible for everyone. A trans woman has always been a woman and knows she’s a woman. Even if the trans person years before they come out, they actively realize and know they’re trans. Someone who is “trans disability” knows they don’t have that disability.

11) I didn’t even make this account to argue with the community. I’ve seen similar posts for the transx community actually, and those didn’t provide education. Why do I have to provide education? Why can’t I just be annoyed and tell those who agree with me to save their energy?

It also looks like I accidentally tagged #transabled in my tags. I did not mean to do that so I didn’t even intend for y’all to see it. So that’s on me and in fact I’m going to remove the tag right now.

12) okay good for you lol

Peace out