You won’t notice any improvements when you criticize everything you do. Self-hate puts you in a place of constant unhappiness since you are bullying yourself all the time, and you won’t ever be satisfied with what you do. Regretting the past might make it hard to let go of what happened, but it still something worth working on, just as you can work on seeing yourself with some neutrality. At first, it may seem impossible, especially if you’re so used to thinking self-deprecating things about yourself. Please remember that what you say to yourself matters, that you do start believing your thoughts, and affirmations might seem silly at first, but changing the way you speak to yourself helps. If positive affirmations sound absurd to you, try neutral ones.
Maybe it’s harder for you to say you are special but you can try saying that you don’t have to special to be treated with the same kindness as anyone else because you’re a human just like everyone else. Try noticing the language you use with yourself and change it, but that change doesn’t come fast, so be patient, but please don’t criticize every little thing you do, it won’t make you suddenly become a better person. If it helped, it wouldn’t make you so miserable.
At the end of the day, try thinking about what you managed to do, not what you should have done, and what you could have done better, it will save you from some self-criticism and from more regret. Don’t over-analyze everything you do: most people don’t notice these things. And if your self-hate was learned from someone who demanded perfection from you and criticized the smallest things you did, please remember that not everyone will do that to you. I’m sorry someone taught you that hatred, but it simply is not true, they were wrong for doing that and they were wrong about what they thought of you. None of the things they analyzed so harshly were big moral flaws, and their hatred disguised as constructive criticism was never valid, none of those things were true. It is possible to walk away from that and change how you see yourself, however slowly it seems at first. I believe your worth so much more than this hatred, and I hope soon you believe it too.
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