To all my girlies and guys out there with emotionally difficult, often manipulative, parents. I see you. They are tough, they make your life miserable with their constant grappling at control over your life and that is UNACCEPTABLE.
Do not let their power plays and meaningless threats (with marriage in my case, been listening to it since I was fucking 17) and cheap attacks (for eg, at your career and education) shake you. What they do is dominate, not love. What they want out of you is obedience without respecting you or your opinions one bit. And again, that is UNACCEPTABLE.
Do not let their hurtful actions affect you. Use that rage and anger as YOUR POWER.
Study for your future, for your own self, for your financial freedom, so that one day you may look back and finally be able to tell them what they did to you without fearing any consequences. Do it directly or let your success and independence speak for yourself. Have it your way.
Channel your anger and rage into input and output. Inhale knowledge, skills, talents, and exhale results, confidence and discipline.
DO IT FOR YOUR OWN DAMN SELF. WORK SO HARD THAT NO ONE WILL EVER HAVE ANY CONTROL OVER YOUR OWN LIFE.
I see you, I feel you. And we got this.