>>Number one - if youâre not a woman, please kindly shut the hell up.Â
1. Let me see if Iâve got this straight. Iâm part of the group being accused, so I donât get to speak? Howâs that work?
2. Who in Godâs name came up with the rule that you canât speak on an issue unless youâre part of the affected group? What the hell kind of broken-logic strawman is that? The truth is the truth, even when spoken by a liar. Logic is logic, is when spoken by a madman. Wisdom is wisdom, even when spoken by a fool. To invalidate my words because of what sex I am? Congratulations, youâre far more sexist than anything youâre likely to encounter at your average con.
We have a right to feel insecure;
Everyone has a right to feel insecure. The problem is not insecurity. The problem is pointing the finger of blame at other people for it without valid reason.
>>For years, Hollywood and the media have defined what beauty is; for years, women have labored to suck off flesh and fat, carve away their noses and cheeks, and starved themselves to near-skeletal states - simply to earn whatâs been deemed their only virtue: beauty. Women werenât born hating themselves; we simply were forced to grow into that mold.
1. Fun fact: every independent study done on the subject, without exception has reported the same thing: womenâs idea of the ideal size of a female body is noticeably smaller than menâs. In other words, we would prefer you larger than you would prefer yourselves. Thatâs on you. And I have been told repeatedly, by more women than I can count, that no one spend more time making bitchy, shaming comments about a womanâs body than other women.
2. Comic book fans have hardly âdefined what beauty isâ for anyone except for themselves. And yet theyâre the oneâs being scolded here. But hey, theyâve got penises, so theyâre guilty by default, right?
3. Speaking of defining what is beauty for an individual, there are two types of people in this word: those who care what others think about your appearance, and those who donât. So, in regards to what people consider to be ideal beauty? In regards to whatâs portrayed as ideal? You either care or your donât. If you donât, youâve no reason to complain. If you do; if you place value in the attraction and approval of other people? Then you can put in the work to earn that approval.
Iâm sorry if this conflicts with your sense of entitlement; but no one owes it to you to find you attractive.
>>And what gives you, or others for that matter, the right to criticize us?
I could ask you the same question. Iâm critical of anyone who furthers victim culture by whining about things that donât make any sense.
>>If someone wishes to cosplay or dress a certain way, itâs their choice and no one elseâs.
Cool story. Now point out where I said anything contrary. No? Didnât think so.
>>You may not like looking at it but guess what? Theyâre dressing to please themselves - to enjoy themselves.
No theyâre not. I hear that a lot, but Iâm sorry, itâs crap. Consider this: if the only person theyâre dressing up for, they only person theyâre seeking approval from, is themselves? Then why do they only dress that way when theyâre around other people? If the only person theyâre dressing to please is themselves, they can wear it around the house and look at themselves in a mirror. Problem solved.Â
No. Theyâre putting on costumes to be seen in said costumes. To show off what theyâve put together (or in some cases bought). And anytime you submit your work and yourself to the approval of others, you donât get to demand said approval. No one owes it to you.
>>You donât owe others your approval and they donât owe you theirs; so stop expecting them to dress or change based off your preferences.
Wha? That doesnât even make sense...when did I - or anyone critical of the quality of someoneâs costume - seek that personâs approval? Theyâre certainly under no obligation to change or dress based on anyone elseâs preferences; but if they donât, they shouldnât expect anyoneâs approval, either. As weâve both now said, no one owes it to them.
>>As for judging? Youâre being ridiculous. Sheâs not calling the other woman a bitch for being skinny; she realized that no matter what body type, they were going to be harassed.
Yes, people have pointed that out to me. I misunderstood what was being portrayed in that part of the illustration illustration. My bad. That being said; this makes this whole comic even MORE absurd. Iâve been to a lot of comic conventions in my time. Theyâre full of people who have dealt with bullies and feelings of awkwardness. Anyone shouting âwhoreâ at a woman in a WW costume would, BEST CASE scenario, be run out of the building immediately, and more than likely would get their ass kicked either before or immediately after.
>>Demanded to âproveâ themselves, as if they were unworthy to enjoy a hobby or fandom for some reason.
Oh good lord, this again? Copy pasta:
   Allow me to let you in on a little secret: if you think that challenging someoneâs geek-cred is something we save for girls? Then you have no understanding of the culture. Male geeks are like elk: even among friends, we constantly crash antlers for dominance. Sure, the alpha-male syndrome may not display itself the same way it does for certain other sub-cultures; but itâs absolutely there. And make no mistake, thatâs what this comes down to â the âalpha maleâ mindset. Now you can say that you donât like it if you want, but donât delude yourself into thinking that it has anything to do with your sex.  We challenge each otherâs cred all the time.   Â
   You know the difference between people like you and people like us? When we are challenged? We donât respond by crying all over the internet about ânot being let into the boys club.â We say âchallenge accepted!â And then we insult the person who challenged us â in Klingon. Or we recite the ridiculously convoluted and seemingly self-contradictory history of Hawk Man. Or we fire up Street Fighter and battle until our thumbs bleed. We donât see these challenges as insults, we see them as the opportunity to show off our passion.  Â
  In short, âchallenging your geek-credâ has nothing to do with you being a girl. Stop demanding acceptance in the culture while simultaneously wringing your hands and claiming that something thatâs always been part of the culture only came along because girls started getting into it. This is the culture. By saying it shouldnât apply to you, youâre not asking for acceptance, youâre asking for special privilege by implying youâre not strong enough to handle it. I donât know what the female equivalent of âman upâ is, but you desperately need to do it.
>>Girls can like whatever they want. In fact, anyone can like whatever they want. We donât need your approval or anyone elseâs, no matter how much you think we do.
Then stop bitching when you donât get it. You spend an awful lot of time complaining about being denied something you donât need.
>>And ladies? Letâs prove guys like this one wrong. Get involved in the fandoms, anyway you possibly can. Cosplay, draw, write, take photos, play games! Anything!
How in Godâs name would that âprove me wrong?â What kind of hallucination are you experiencing where I said anything that would be âproven wrongâ by ladies participating in geek culture? That makes ZERO sense. Youâre letting your victim complex get the best of you.
>>Because being quiet wonât work here.Â
No oneâs asking you to be quiet. Just to say things that make sense.
Yes, Don Quixote. Show those windmills whoâs boss!
>>We have to make them see that despite the BS we got heaped with, weâre not the damsels in distress or helpless.
uh-huh. You know what would go a long way to convincing people youâre not helpless damsels in distress? NOT CONSTANTLY WHINING ABOUT HOW MUCH DISTRESS YOUâRE IN. Ceaselessly crying about the bad men who didnât think you were pretty when you were playing dress-up does not exactly scream tough.
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