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So I've eaten some food recently and was told pics or it didn't happen so, behold!! Food! #amidoingitright #London #wolverhampton #dessert #yummy (at The Breakfast Club, Borough Market)
Nat. Wonderful as always. Kate’s moved in your room because, and I quote, ‘you and Clint suck at everything, including houses’ so I think it has to do with the decor?
Age Of Ultron AU with Daniel Craig as Barney Barton.
Easily one of my most anticipated library hauls 😍 I was checking on these so obsessively I'm sure the librarians somehow knew and kept me waiting! Now where to begin.... #comics #libraryhaul #bookstagram
For the first time in years, I find myself feeling ugly. What changed was that I started dating men.
“Creepy” is a word that comes up a lot when I’m having an honest discussion with men about their feelings on their sexualities. In fact, it is so ubiquitous, I think you should just go ahead and assume most men feel like they are creepy for getting turned on, or probably felt that way at some point in their lives. I also think this is why men don’t write about their sex lives. Damon Young tackles the issue of why men don’t write about sex in this piece here. For me, I think this was the most telling quote:
[I]t just doesn’t feel…right. Writing about sex makes me feel like I’m either humble-bragging or pandering. There’s no inbetween.
I think because men are too ashamed to claim ownership of their sexual feelings, they push responsibility for their desire onto the bodies of the (usually) women that they’re with. It’s telling that gay men have body image issues more than lesbians. If the whole “warping female minds with super hot models” theory were true, you’d expect all women (straight and lesbian) to have body image issues, and all men to feel super fab. But, instead what we see, is that people who sleep with men tend to feel worse about how they look than people who sleep with women. Those of us who sleep with men are absorbing the shame they hold about their own sexuality. That’s where all these bad feelings are coming from.
What is the mechanism through which this happens?
Well. Usually instead of saying “I am turned on by that woman,” a man will say “that woman is hot.” The first phrasing places the locus of control within his own body (aka, in a way, making it “his fault” if he gets turned on), the second phrasing places the locus of control within the woman’s body (making it “her fault” if he gets turned on.) And, he will be inclined to do the second because it absolves him of responsibility for his sexual feelings. The narrative that is most comfortable for straight men is that some super beautiful woman appeared out of the blue and basically made him get horny, and zomg she was SO HOT it totally wasn’t his fault. This relieves him of the shame, and to some degree, his feelings of creepiness. How can he be blamed for simply being an object that is being acted upon?”
“This leads to a rather paradoxical thing; we assume women feel shame about their appearance because men don’t desire them, but I’ve started to realize I feel shame when men do desire me. When I wasn’t dating anyone for 2 years, looked like a total lezzie, and men never hit on me, I felt great about myself. As I get “prettier” to men, and as men do express desire, I begin to feel worse. Even when they compliment me, I often feel worse, and I think it’s because any compliment that cuts their emotionality out of the loop leads me feeling — bad, objectified, ashamed. Something like that.
“You are so hot,” feels worse than “I am so turned on by you right now.” If I’m hot, there is no connection, no caring. Certainly no love, and not even real lust. Just, the meat of my body which is adequate to trigger an un-personified desire. And that, I suppose, is kind of part of the point. It’s just those kinds of “emotional complications” we condition men to run from. Women are a lot better about expressing their emotions, and are usually willing to tell me how they feel about me. Men won’t tell me how they feel because they are taught to be ashamed of their feelings (and, by the way, lust is a feeling.)”
HELLO ALL!!! FALL IS JUST AROUND THE CORNER AND YOU’LL GET TO WEAR JEANS AND LONG SLEEVE SHIRTS AND SWEATERS!!! YOU WONT GET ALL HOT JUST WALKING OUTSIDE FOR 3 minUTES!! THE LEAVES WILL BE CHANGING AND COFFEE WILL BE APPROPRIATE AT 10AM AND 10PM!! THERE WILL BE BETTER DAYS AHEAD. I’m exited for us!
So this is supposed to be an intense moment on the Road to Civil War but I just can't...it's SO funny! 😂 #comics #sundayreading #civilwar #reedrichards #namor
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