29 alternate ways a sub who can't/can't always communicate verbally might display sexual/kink desire
1. awkward, dubiously efficient but earnest, or vague attempts at being direct/initiating scenes or sometimes even initiating social interaction at all
2. talking about kink stuff with the intention of escalating (often will have a different tone than them explaining their kinks because they know they need to explain what they like at some point to be able to play which would probably sound more anxious/stressed, whereas if they start talking about kink offhandedly, maybe they can even be flirtatious sometimes. but the vibe is closer to 'bringing up a topic for funsies' not 'conveying information about this topic because information must be conveyed')
3. vague, repetitive statements, usually trying to communicate an overarching idea (telling you 'you're cool' 'i like you' 'you're nice' 'you're fun' or things like that but not being able to really express further but the overall message is 'i have positive feelings towards you of some kind' they just have a hard time speaking)
4. nonverbal communication like growling, biting, scratching, head butting, licking, nuzzling, obviously this was written by a dogboy but there are probably non furry examples too
5. relevant posting online in a place they could reasonably think you might see it (especially if they then tell you about the post, indirectly lead you to it, or send it directly/tag you)
6. sending really obvious anons
7. reblogging things that are relevant to things you've talked about, inside jokes, things that they think you would notice and understand
8. flirting via other social media/tumblr methods
9. researching things and telling you about what they found/implementing that knowledge
10. drawing/painting/writing/ any art or expressive outlet depicting what they want, or a metaphor for what they want, or how they feel about you, or anything in service of adding to the dynamic lore
11. taking nudes/making porn/fetish art of any kind/asking if you want to see the content, ***especially*** if they're trying to appeal to your interests
12. metaphors and euphemisms, verbal/written/visual/etc. this can often also sound overly complicated or overly simplistic. the point is to listen to the psychological feeling.
13. dressing in specific ways (esp if it's in a style/aesthetically they know you are particularly into, but could also include just trying to dress 'nicer' to display effort, or things like wearing dirty clothes if you're into salirophilia )
14. grooming themself, sometimes in ways that might not be what they would normally do, but in the ways they know you prefer/need (can look different; like if you have a musk kink they might intentionally not shower before seeing you, or making sure to shower and clean their space if you're averse to mess. could also include cutting/styling their hair with your preferences in mind, same for body hair/facial hair, nails, whatever)
15. using scents you like, colors you like, themes, IPs, characters, words, references, aesthetics, generally displaying interest in learning about you as a person and then displaying that they have remembered that knowledge, or are trying to
16. prioritizing your wants over theirs (sometimes, and in a strong/loving way not like a manipulative way)
17. playing specific movies/videos/shows/songs/etc around them, sending them relevant posts/memes/articles
18. doing things to themself around you that are on theme for your dynamic (if you have a heavily ABDL focused dynamic maybe they dip up unprompted and dress super baby and just so happen to be adorable in your sightline. if you have a dynamic with a lot of sadomasochism maybe they do autosadistic shit around you. it's like a mating display.)
19. talking/writing/etc about a ship that they relate your dynamic to
20. writing about their desires and sharing that information with you, including out of scene/character
21. practicing/learning things they know would be interesting/useful to you
22. acts of service but in a bit more focused way (like, acts of service that are specifically a demonstration that they know/are trying to know and anticipate your needs
23. acts of service with the intention of reducing your stress so that kink would actually be like a fun thing and not a hassle
24. finding out what things they do that turn you on and then doing those things a lot and trying to do those things in ways that are even hotter to you
25. researching conditions/allergies/idiosyncrasies/anything new to them on their own you have so that they can be responsive in the most effective way for you
26. making a point to learn new skills, emotional/sexual/practical/whimsical/whatever, to make you feel as good as they can and be most helpful to you
27. jokes!!! haha jkjk......unless? but no...
28. environmental storytelling (you get home and they happen to be drunk and dressed all cute and oh weird their toy bag and duct tape is all laid out?? how convenient :0 )
29. maybe sometimes they actually do just express desire verbally, but in a way that is comfortable to them. maybe they can't, or can't always, say really explicit things out loud, not out of bratiness or defiance. but they can use gentler language, and *you* understand what they mean because you know them. so it is effective communication
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