oh no! i accidentally misgendered someone! what should i do?
DO:
apologize
thats it.
realize you fucked up.
realize you probably hurt the other person.
apologize.
IN THE FUTURE:
try to make sure it won’t happen again
get in the habit of asking someone what their pronouns are
when in doubt, use gender-neutral pronouns until you figure out what they use
dont assume gender from someone’s name/clothing/appearance
FOR THE LOVE OF SOMEONE PLEASE DONT:
try to make excuses for yourself
go on the defensive
try to justify it by recounting your own experiences with misgendering
brush it off as ‘not that big a deal’
refuse to try and correct your behavior
No.














