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need more attention

[yeahlls]

An avoidant man believes that living under the same roof and breathing the same air counts as spending time with you.

[yeahlls]

Accountability is so important to me. Nobody's perfect, but don't try to flip the script and make my reaction the issue when your actions lit the match.

[yeahlls]

if he asked me to be his wife i would say yes in a heartbeat. But if i had the chance to never have even met him I would also say yes.

[emoparamore]

hayley williams, los angeles night 2

[emoparamore]

Hayley Williams @ Kilby Block Party for Flood Magazine

[letsmakepoppunkgreatagain]

Bring Me The Horizon - Teardrops

[jawshuahstar]

edaabp pt II

[letsmakepoppunkgreatagain]

Hayley Williams - Parachute

[userparamore]

paramore 'renegade' live @ pinkpop festival 2013

[siinonn]

[eternal-learner]

oh he knows they've cooked

[taurzza]

[yeahlls]

I don't feel shattered anymore.

I feel empty

like something bled out slowly and no one noticed.

I stayed long enough, for my voice to stop asking, for my heart to stop expecting.

Even pain got tired of screaming and learned to sit quietly inside me.

This connection didn't end loudly.

It faded into silence, into unread feelings, into me staring at the ceiling wondering when I disappeared.

I didn't leave because I was strong.

I left because there was nothing left of me to give.

I carry no anger now.

Just a hollow space where love used to hurt, and the quiet knowledge that some endings don't break you they erase you.

[yeahlls]

Someone once told me:

laziness can kill a relationship. no you're not cheating, but there's also no flowers, no surprises, no appreciation posts, no sweet messages, no dates (unless your ș/o practically begs you for them). so yes, the truth is laziness CAN slowly kill love, sometimes simply being loyal just isn't enough.

[yeahlls]

i feel like

g in right

h in hour

b in thumb

w in answer

k in knock

I feel… nvm…

[yeahlls]

I was never the priority. I was just the quiet place they returned to when the world grew loud a temporary shelter, never a home. I kept offering warmth

to hands that were already halfway cold, kept giving pieces of myself to people who treated me like something they could pause and return to whenever it suited them.

[yeahlls]

The Avoidant Man Who Wants Love As Long As It Doesn't Ask Anything of Him.

This kind of man really does want love.

He likes the idea of closeness, partnership, and being cared for. But only when it feels safe and easy for him. He wants to be loved without having to open up. He wants connection without having to change or try harder. He wants the good parts of love, without the work that real love needs.

This is very hard for the anxious partner.

Because she feels bad for needing closeness, and guilty for asking for love. She stays, hoping he'll change, while slowly feeling smaller and more invisible.

What He Actually Wants

• To be loved without pressure

• To be admired without changing

• To feel close without feeling exposed

• To be understood without having to understand you

He wants the benefits of a relationship without doing the emotional work that comes with it.

What He Tells Himself

• "She's too emotional."

• "She wants to control me."

• "I just need space."

• "I'm not ready for something heavy."

He doesn't think he's the problem, because to him, doing less is his best. That's the limit of his emotional capacity.