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6 Ways to Build a Strong Relationship

1. Relationships aren’t about having another person satisfy or fulfil you. They’re about building each other up, and appreciating each other’s uniqueness - whilst also enjoying togetherness, and a degree of interdependency.

2. Although the first flush of love can blind you to their flaws, you need to see your partner for who they really are. That is, we all have our shortcoming, our weaknesses.

3. Be willing to learn and grow with your partner. Instead of being defensive, or demanding your own way, take the time to understand your partner’s perspective – and, hopefully, your partner will learn from you, as well.

4. Learn to appreciate solitude. We need to be comfortable being alone, and to accept and be at peace with the unique person we are, in order to be healthy in relationships.

5. When it comes to arguments, look for the real reasons why you fight and disagree. Often there’s a pattern to when and why we fight – which points to buried issues, to hurt and unmet needs.

6. Embrace the ordinary in your relationships. In time, the fairy-dust will settle and things will feel humdrum. But the day-to-day has meaning when it’s shared with those you love.

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If you’re lucky enough to find a way of life you love, you have to find the courage to live it.

John Irving (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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How to Avoid Over-Thinking

1. When you feel bogged down and you can’t clear your mind, do something physical or get some exercise.

2. Set a time limit for your “thinking time” then make yourself move on to doing something else.

3. Interrupt the thinking process or distract yourself by diverting your attention onto something very different.

4. Stop discussing what concerns you with everyone you meet as you’ll just end up confused, and you won’t know what to do.

5. Accept that uncertainty is part of this life, and we don’t have all the facts, or know what’s further down the road.

6. Throw yourself into a project, a hobby or some work. That will force you to refocus on something else instead.

7. Let your mind go blank and just relax for a while. It will help you see more clearly when you start to think, next time.

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Everybody has this guilt complex that they’re no good, that they’re not talented, that they’re useless, that there’s something wrong with them. It’s not true. There’s nothing wrong with any of you out there, there’s nothing wrong with you. You shouldn’t feel guilty about wanting. People will repress themselves from even allowing themselves to want…. At least allow yourselves to want.

John Lennon (via illneverloseaffection)

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SOMETHING IN THE NIGHT Official 1977 archive release coming Friday, August 4

In a surprise announcement on E Street Radio, fans learned that music from the 1977 tour would comprise the next download from the Bruce Springsteen live archive. Combining music from two New York concerts, Albany (February 7) and Rochester (February 8), the upcoming installment presents unheard music: no Albany recording has ever surfaced, and no 1977 performance has ever circulated from a soundboard source.

Speaking with host Jim Rotolo, Nugs.net’s Brad Serling said that the 1977 tapes were part of a larger cache of tapes made by Chas Gerber, Springsteen’s sound engineer from the middle of 1975 through the spring of 1977. These recordings, made for reference on the fly, are typically in mono and often incomplete: that’s the case with Albany (of which about 45 minutes will appear). Rochester, also in mono, runs about two hours and is complete save for a couple of tape flips (post-production magic should make these less noticeable).

Without question, Gerber’s tapes are of enormous historical significance, representing an era that fans consider one of Springsteen’s most deserving of greater attention. And Friday’s release calls on two of the five from 1977 that Serling said he had auditioned, so another release from ’77 isn’t out of the question.

Serling talked at length about the archive program, stating that the release schedule will now target the first Friday of each month for a new concert. Right now, 25 shows have been identified and approved, covering most eras of Springsteen’s career. Not every era exists in the archive; the Gerber tapes, however, greatly expand what’s available.

Before today, even the existence of an official 1977 recording was an uncertainty. But this release makes more than good on Serling’s hint last month that the archive program would soon take a “deep dive.” For many fans, ‘77 is just that.

- by Jonathan Pont, with Flynn McLean reporting http://www.backstreets.com/news.html

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The tension running through the music’s core was the thin line between stability and that moment when the things that connect you to your world, your job, your family, your friends, the love and grace in your heart, fail you.

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like the absence that more and more crowds into my mind

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“Janey Don’t You Lose Heart” (recorded June 16, 1983 at the Hit Factory, New York, NY; available on Tracks)

by Scott Peterson

Few rock major rock stars have been as prolific as Bruce Springsteen; Steven Van Zandt has said Springsteen always has at least a half an album of unreleased songs ready to go. And during the recording of Born in the U.S.A. Springsteen was prolific even by his standards, with stories of him coming in every day with two or three new songs they’d cut and then never play again; at least 70 songs were recorded for the 12-track LP and maybe more. And that’s just one damn album. The fact that there were apparently 300 songs under consideration for the Tracks boxset, the vast majority of them unreleased, lends credence to these tales even as it boggles the mind.

Springsteen has said that these songs provide a sort of alternate map, a road-not-taken, what-might-have-been view towards his catalog. Many of the songs were omitted from albums not because they were in any way lacking in quality, but simply because they didn’t fit the larger theme in some way, lyrically or sonically or atmospherically.

Which brings us to “Janey, Don’t You Lose Heart.” The b-side to “I’m Goin’ Down,” the sixth single released off Born in the U.S.A., “Janey” is perhaps the most unabashedly direct love song Springsteen had yet released.

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Love After Love

Love After Love by Derek Walcott

The time will come when, with elation you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror and each will smile at the other's welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat. You will love again the stranger who was your self. Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored for another, who knows you by heart. Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes, peel your own image from the mirror. Sit. Feast on your life.

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