Wisdom, to Accept the Things I Cannot Change

Life has been full of shit and coming of age meant being disillusioned. I am many years on my path to look at my traumas, heal stronger with them, and help others to do the same. Our society, meaning globalized, and for myself, America-centric, is full of this trauma and forced servitude. We are spiritual beings having a Physical experience. Why does my 40 hours of work only get me minimum wage while a typical white male gets millions for less? Puritanical-roots society is like Rome, unsustainable. Let's grow up, and work towards a higher manifestation as human beings. We went to the moon simply by thinking about it and working towards it together. Spirituality is my truth, and so it has been for countless others. I am undogmatic, unjudging, looking to validate and heal your/our/my pain through love and wisdom.

[m-steraquasgf-restinpeace]

idk if this has been posted yet but i read this thread by @teamarimo and found it SUPER interesting and thorough and thought it’d be good to share it

[blaruto]

I still think Moana deserved an Oscar for this part

[i-want-cheese]

To me, the moral of Moana is that only women can help other women heal from male violence. 

The movie starts with the idea that the male god who wronged Te Fiti must be the one to heal her. This seems to make a certain sort of intuitive sense in that I think we all believe that if you do something wrong you should try to make it right. But how does he try to right it? Through more violence. Of course that failed. 

It was only when another woman, Moana, saw past the “demon of earth and fire” that the traumatized Te Fiti had become (what a good metaphor for trauma, right?) and met her with love instead of violence that she was able to heal. Note that they do the forehead press before Moana restores the heart, while Te Fiti is still Te Kā. Moana doesn’t wait for her beautiful island goddess to appear in all her green splendor before greeting and treating her as someone deserving of love.

Moana is only able to restore the heart because Te Kā reveals her vulnerability and allows Moana to touch her there. Maui and his male violence could only ever have resulted in more ruin.

[smalltall]

…this is exactly what I was trying to say and you put it beautifully. @i-want-cheese This is why the scene makes me tear up every damn time. Women’s honest, ugly reaction to trauma is almost never even depicted in films, let alone honored the way it is in Moana. Te Fiti doesn’t have to “rise above” being violated before she’s allowed to heal. Moana sees her and says

I know your name They have stolen the heart from inside you But this does not define you

She utterly accepts Te Fiti’s rage, her fear, her lashing out at anyone who comes near the remains of her ravaged body island. Female ugliness isn’t punished, it’s mourned and loved. What an indescribably comforting moment.

[blazenite]

I didn’t realize why I felt so connected to this scene until I read this.

[a-sage-of-time]

10 Ways You’re Making Your Life Harder Than It Has To Be

(Need a pick me up? Looking for happiness?)

[purplebuddhaquotes]

[takealookatyourlife]

Stopping girl hate doesn’t mean you have to like or get along with every other woman. It just means you don’t tear women down for being women. It means you let go of your internalised misogyny, envy, and jealousy of other women. It means not using gender based insults to undermine other women. It means you don’t push other women under the bus for men. It means you stop holding other women to the arbitrary and restrictive gender roles you’ve been socialised into. 

[purplebuddhaproject]

[purplebuddhaquotes]

[invaderxan]

Women who are beyond done with all of this shit.

(via)

[thehappyhooker-deactivated20190]

When I look at this I feel like it should be something from 100 years ago but this is really going on right now

[purplebuddhaquotes]

[markitup]

Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl. Men actually think this girl exists. Maybe they’re fooled because so many women are willing to pretend to be this girl. For a long time Cool Girl offended me. I used to see men – friends, coworkers, strangers – giddy over these awful pretender women, and I’d want to sit these men down and calmly say: You are not dating a woman, you are dating a woman who has watched too many movies written by socially awkward men who’d like to believe that this kind of woman exists and might kiss them. I’d want to grab the poor guy by his lapels or messenger bag and say: The bitch doesn’t really love chili dogs that much – no one loves chili dogs that much! And the Cool Girls are even more pathetic: They’re not even pretending to be the woman they want to be, they’re pretending to be the woman a man wants them to be. Oh, and if you’re not a Cool Girl, I beg you not to believe that your man doesn’t want the Cool Girl. It may be a slightly different version – maybe he’s a vegetarian, so Cool Girl loves seitan and is great with dogs; or maybe he’s a hipster artist, so Cool Girl is a tattooed, bespectacled nerd who loves comics. There are variations to the window dressing, but believe me, he wants Cool Girl, who is basically the girl who likes every fucking thing he likes and doesn’t ever complain. (How do you know you’re not Cool Girl? Because he says things like: “I like strong women.” If he says that to you, he will at some point fuck someone else. Because “I like strong women” is code for “I hate strong women.”)

Gillian Flynn, Gone Girl (via markitup)

[black-to-the-bones-deactivated2]

The war on drugs is rooted in racist policies . The failure of the war and drugs is obvious. We need to find a better solution, because people of color should never be the victims of racist policies. White Americans are more likely than black Americans to have used most kinds of illegal drugs, including cocaine and LSD. Yet blacks are far more likely to go to prison for marijuana, which is not a hard drug. Moreover , even when white people get caught , they get less time in prison. 

[dealanexmachina]

…is that Rachael Leigh Cook, the same actress who did the original anti-drug ad when she was a teenager?

[ruffboi-mags]

It is indeed.

[fanboyingoverdemigods]

this is honestly just so pure

[invertprivileges]

this guy’s reviews are all unbelievably sweet

[blackness-by-your-side]

this

[lovibond]

Zahra LARI (UAE) Asian Winter Games 2017 SP | read her story here

[melanin-khaleesi]

I WANTED TO BE AN ICE SKATER WHEN I WAS LITTLE BUT DIDNT THINK I COULD BC OF THE OUTFITS BUT !!!!!!!’

[snarlfurillo]

^^^^^^ why I always reblog Muslim ladies doing sports

[fjolltroll-deactivated20130616]

[animenigga-deactivated20131029]

CHILDHOOD BACK

AND CALVIN IS WITH THE GIRL THAT HATED HIM ASFHAGS

[raconteuze]

im crying a lil bit

[pokemoncards]

I need this in my tumblr forever.

[girlfriender]

is anyone gonna talk about how his kids name is bacon???

[helllosweetie-deactivated201511]

HE’S WITH SUZIE THAT WAS MY CHILDHOOD OTP

[pei-zhu1210-deactivated20170524]

who names their kid bacon

[ameliacgormley]

Calvin and Hobbes were Reformation-era philosophers, as was Frances Bacon. I’m better his daughter’s name is actually Frances, but he calls her by the appropriate last name of the philosopher, just as Calvin and Hobbes are last names.

[thahalfrican]

[irlbastard-remade-deactivated20]

is no one gonna talk about how the girls afraid of Donald Trump in her closet

[new-age-conservative-deactivate]

I think Trump being the boogeyman makes perfect sense…

[chocolatedeathwarrior-deactivat]

There is literally nothing about this post that I don’t love.

[gogomrbrown]

favorite sign

[doublehoeee7]

Aye that’s at my school

[illness-deactivated20180325]

my entire life changed when my dentist told me that the only time my teeth should be touching is when i’m chewing. every single time my teeth are touching i have to separate them. and i noticed that i clench my teeth a LOT.

[illness-deactivated20180325]

when your mouth is closed and your teeth are touching or held tightly together, you are unnecessarily straining muscles out of stress. the healthiest way to hold your jaw is slightly apart, where it is relaxed. THIS HELPS WITH HEADACHES

[bookshop]

so randomly the ONLY thing that helps me fall asleep sometimes is this one guided meditation video on YouTube, and i’ve been listening to it pretty regularly for about 2 years, right. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kY2Vs44-TQg About 10 minutes into it she says gently, “unclench your jaw, as this is a central area for trapped tension,” and I swear, when i first started to do this meditation, every time I got to this line I would be BLOWN AWAY by how tightly my jaw was clenched. I’ve gotten to the point where I find myself repeating, “Unclench your jaw, as this is a central area for trapped tension,” two or three times a day, because I carry so much tension there, and every time I do, like, a random spot-check, my jaw is ALWAYS clenched tightly shut. And now that I know this, I basically am constantly trying to be aware and unclench my jaw, and holy shit, it makes such a difference in my overall stress level. I cannot co-sign this post enough. UNCLENCH YOUR JAW, TUMBLR.